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crazy__diamond
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Girl Advice....
#7145866 - 07/08/07 10:34 AM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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so, i went off to college, having had a few girlfriends but nothing serious, never much of a serious connection...
then, BOOM. i meet this girl and just completely fall for her. I mean, it was like finding the lost long other half of myself. we had everything in common, felt extremely comfortable sharing just about anything with each other, and we both felt like we finally met someone on our level...
not to mention i was very attracted to her; it seemed as though i'd found THE girl for me..
we never dated officially, but we just noticed we were starting to spend lots of time together, and going out of our way to do things togehter. after a bit of this, i made some sort of mention that we should become official.
she was pretty resistant to this though. she didnt have other guys in her life, but maybe just afraid of getting locked away? i dunno, she's a hard one to figure out..
anyways, after we left for the summer, she broke up with me... with reasons such as "i'm too good for her", she's not ready for this kind of seriousness, etc..
and now she's got this new guy who she "isn't serious" about, whatever...
she even mentioned when we go back to college in august she knows she's going to want me....AND she still calls me all the time and talks about how much she misses me
should i even bother with this shit? i dont want to just get more and more hurt by this nonsense, but at the same time i cant help but feel girls like this dont come around too often...i could definitely grow old with this girl...
-------------------- well, you know, we all want to change the world... ...but there's only so much time left in this crazy world, i'm just crumblin' erb.
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ClammyJoe
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fuck that ho
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RandalFlagg
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Re: Girl Advice.... [Re: dr_gonz]
#7145895 - 07/08/07 10:40 AM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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dr_gonz said: WHERE IS MY SUBFORUM?
hahaha yeah really.
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RandalFlagg
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She's young and she wants to play. She doesn't feel like committing (as can be evidenced by the fact that she fooled around with another dude). You should have the same mentality. Don't mistake the "I miss you" stuff for love.
Don't fall for this girl. Hang out with her and hit it. There is nothing more emasculating than when the guy feels like committing and the woman doesn't.
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jonom
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Re: Girl Advice.... [Re: dr_gonz]
#7145910 - 07/08/07 10:44 AM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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dr_gonz said: she isn't ready for that level of commitment. take her for what she's worth... fuck her silly, but leave all feelings/attachment at the door
-------------------- jonom. Yesterday upon the stair, I met a man who wasn't there. He wasn't there again today. I wish, I wish he'd go away. ghetto magnetic stirrer
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vade
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Re: Girl Advice.... [Re: ClammyJoe]
#7145931 - 07/08/07 10:49 AM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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ClammyJoe said: fuck that ho
-------------------- I've got this feeling that there's something that I missed...
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dirtworshipper
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If she's going to say she isn't ready for that commitment but has a different commitment to someone else, I say she's not worth it. You deserve better than that.
Gonz's advice is pretty good too
-------------------- “You've got as many lives as you like, and more, even ones you don't want.” - George Harrison
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crazy__diamond
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Re: Girl Advice.... [Re: jonom]
#7145950 - 07/08/07 10:52 AM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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hmmm, i just dont know if leaving all feelings at the door is a possibility
its weird because i'm normally a pretty stoic guy...i'm not real emotional..
but this girl, i'm tellin ya, she's different
so i'll just try approach her in that way though...just not get attached, make it just a sexual thing...
shit, that might even get a good reaction from her. i think she'll all of a sudden notice the change in how i approach her and want me to "care" about her...
-------------------- well, you know, we all want to change the world... ...but there's only so much time left in this crazy world, i'm just crumblin' erb.
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RandalFlagg
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crazy__diamond said: but this girl, i'm tellin ya, she's different
No, she probably isn't.
Lemme guess...she's a real character, really fun to hang out with, easy to talk to, hot, and great in bed? All of these characteristics combined are enough to make most guys go ga-ga and not think rationally.
Now, I'm not saying she's a whore. I'm just saying that she is obviously out playing the field (nothing wrong with that) and thus you should not get attached.
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Re: Girl Advice.... [Re: dr_gonz]
#7145988 - 07/08/07 11:03 AM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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I dunno man...I have cultivated some friendships with Shroomerite girls that I think would be ruined if I spout stuff about women all day long.
As an aside...look at all of the related pop-up threads that are about relationships. They're everywhere!
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MyInnerChild
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Lemme guess...she's a real character, really fun to hang out with, easy to talk to, hot, and great in bed? All of these characteristics combined are enough to make most guys go ga-ga and not think rationally. Now, I'm just saying that she is obviously out playing the field (nothing wrong with that) and thus you should not get attached.
I must agree with this except nothing wrong with playing the field if it means trying out every guy in bed first. My opinion is that if both parties have all the correct physical parts....and some fun exploration will reveal that...lol...then actual sex..and go ahead and laugh...can wait...if you can manage to do that!
Realtionships b/c MUCH more complicated/potentially heartbreaking when sex is added into the equation imo.
It's SO hard when you find "the right one" but at the "wrong time". You may feel that you'll never find anyone like her again but I can say with almost full certainty that you will. It hurts to let go of a relationship that seems so right but will you be happy if you let yourself be the second best, "don't worry I'll get back to you"?
There's a quality woman out there...not a woman who has been a woman for all of 2-3 years...who your going to find and she'll be 'it" for you! Maybe it'll be this young woman who'll come back to you a year down the line and you'll both be ready then. You found the right one but it seems that it's not the right time for both of you. Bummer....of a summer! Keep your hopes up and your sights keen!
There's a Mum's advice for you...for what it's worth. Mummy hugs and kisses to you ...xxxooo MIC
-------------------- My inner child runs with scissors but plays nicely with others! Sometimes the light's all shine'in on me, Other times I can barely see. Lately it occurs to me, What a looong strange trip it's been! ~ Truck'in
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crazy__diamond
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thanks everyone, much appreciated
-------------------- well, you know, we all want to change the world... ...but there's only so much time left in this crazy world, i'm just crumblin' erb.
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