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Re: I don't want to be such a possesive boyfriend... [Re: dr_gonz]
#7111830 - 06/30/07 04:19 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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or better friends
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Re: I don't want to be such a possesive boyfriend... [Re: dr_gonz]
#7111837 - 06/30/07 04:21 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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it seems your never given your girls what they need
being serious though, women ARE bitches. They stab us in the back because they CAN
There are gems out there to be found who you could be happy with...it just takes lots of horrible experiences and time
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Re: I don't want to be such a possesive boyfriend... [Re: dr_gonz]
#7111841 - 06/30/07 04:21 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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I agree with you. Keep a firm hand on the relationship at all times, less you get fucked in the end.
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Re: I don't want to be such a possesive boyfriend... [Re: dr_gonz]
#7111864 - 06/30/07 04:27 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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dr_gonz said: But the minute you let your guard down a girl will stab u in the back and fuck your friend.
And that's how it should be; you have to get away from the stigma of remaining exclusive to one person.
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Re: I don't want to be such a possesive boyfriend... [Re: dr_gonz]
#7111879 - 06/30/07 04:32 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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Dude its not your friends or your personality that is the problem. It's women. They fucking suck.
Renounce them and be free.
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Re: I don't want to be such a possesive boyfriend... [Re: Innominate]
#7111894 - 06/30/07 04:39 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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well i just wrote a long fuckign response to this and it got deleted somehow so im gonna summarize...
being possisive and trying to infiltrate every aspect of your girls life will ruin your relationship... and it will ruin you in future relationships
STOP STOP STOP
have trust in her.. stop this ego bullshit that youll be so ruined if it happens, just stop it and trust in your girlfriend.. if you dont you dont haev a good relationship... bottom line... you can always fucking move on in life,. its not the end of the world.... but once again
the only way to have a decent relationship is to Trust the one you are with under all circumstances... if you are not prepared to trust her, you are not ready for a relationship and need to deal with some personal issues first.
if you really love her and want to talk with her about the way you feel towards women, and your insecurities, that can help strengthen the relationship... so long as youre not trying to send any subtle messages or play games, just be honest... let her know you have some trust issues, and hopefully you two will work through it...
trust=good notrust= BAAAADDDDDD
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Edited by mickdawg666 (06/30/07 04:40 PM)
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Re: I don't want to be such a possesive boyfriend... [Re: dr_gonz]
#7111901 - 06/30/07 04:43 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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or maybe a better girl that wants to be with you as much as you want to be with her... And better friends
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Re: I don't want to be such a possesive boyfriend... [Re: ManianFH]
#7111908 - 06/30/07 04:44 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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I know exactly what you mean. Trust me, I'm no stranger to relationships. Been in my current one for 2 years now. I have tons of trust for her, as she does me, but I'm not afraid to put my foot down when I deem something inappropriate. I hear about guys that let their girls go out drinking with other guys while they're not there, that's inappropriate to me (unless the guys are real close friends). Luckily, my girlfriend feels the same, she doesn't like me going out and drinking with girls without her either. Now that I'm thinking about it, I'm wondering whose pimp hand is stronger, hers or mine
But my point is, don't let the chick get the upper hand, and if you aren't comfortable with something, make it clear form the beginning and put your foot down. In successful relationships though, there are always compromises.
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Re: I don't want to be such a possesive boyfriend... [Re: ManianFH]
#7111943 - 06/30/07 04:51 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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The guy above me is on the right track(mickdawg). However, changing your behavior patterns towards women is much easier said than done as you probably already know.
Unfortunately my friend, it is your view that needs to change. Fortunately, thats the only thing that you can change anyway even though it is going to be difficult.
Women are not all untrustworthy and backstabbing. Things are brighter than you might think. It might take some time and a healthy relationship with a secure person, and some changes to the way you've been thinking to help you come to this mindset. It's cool though because you sound like you already are ready to learn. Read this article, it helps explain why many men and women are in the same situation as you. In fact, everyone should read this, it's a great article about attachment and love:
Attachment and Close Relationships
Goodluck man! You'll get there!
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Edited by dcstar500 (06/30/07 04:52 PM)
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Re: I don't want to be such a possesive boyfriend... [Re: dr_gonz]
#7111944 - 06/30/07 04:52 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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dr_gonz said: I'm an anti-social
well girls are more vocal sooooo.......
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Re: I don't want to be such a possesive boyfriend... [Re: dr_gonz]
#7111973 - 06/30/07 04:59 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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better get more social!
goto a music festival and meet some hippie girls or go find them around your town. If you see a window, take it.
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Re: I don't want to be such a possesive boyfriend... [Re: Cracka_X]
#7111977 - 06/30/07 05:01 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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Seriously, everyone take some time and read through the whole thing. You might learn alot about yourself in the process:
Attachment and Close Relationships
(I'm only posting this twice because of how important and valuable the information has been to me recently. I want everyone else to be able to gain as much as I did out of it. Honestly guys, it's worth reading the whole thing. This is merely an overview of the study of this emerging field of psychology, but a great read. Maybe it won't be useful to you, but it sure is interesting regardless.)
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Re: I don't want to be such a possesive boyfriend... [Re: dr_gonz]
#7111993 - 06/30/07 05:07 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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dr_gonz said: I need to meet some girls who know what the fuck they want, and my main fucking demand is that THEY DO NOT HAVE FUCKING MYSPACE.
You're anti-social but you DONT want them to have a Myspace? I don't get it.
I'm a loner myself and I've met plenty of chicks off Myspace. It's much easier IMO.
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Re: I don't want to be such a possesive boyfriend... [Re: VoidOfsPg]
#7112012 - 06/30/07 05:14 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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VoidOfsPg said:
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dr_gonz said: I need to meet some girls who know what the fuck they want, and my main fucking demand is that THEY DO NOT HAVE FUCKING MYSPACE.
You're anti-social but you DONT want them to have a Myspace? I don't get it.
I'm a loner myself and I've met plenty of chicks off Myspace. It's much easier IMO.
If you want easy hook ups try http://www.healthboards.com/herpes/
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Re: I don't want to be such a possesive boyfriend... [Re: d33p]
#7112137 - 06/30/07 05:55 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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Its probably easier to not care... I mean trust her; but also realize that irregardless of how much you 'love' each other, at the end of the day its not going to last forever.
This way when she does end up fucking someone else / getting bored of you / becoming a lesbian (happened to my friend) its a lot easier to handle.
If my girlfriend fucked someone else, I like to think I'd be able to just casually not be too bothered, get pissed, go out and party.. and fuck her friends
I care about her deeply, but we are young; so I do not expect us to last forever.. I guess I'm a realist of sorts.
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Re: I don't want to be such a possesive boyfriend... [Re: dr_gonz]
#7112184 - 06/30/07 06:11 PM (16 years, 8 months ago) |
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Don't get attached to them. It's much easier to tell them to fuck off when they betray you.
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