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DrCamacho89
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I'm starting to think a good buddy of mine is gay...
#6978176 - 05/28/07 03:07 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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I've been friends with this guy since I was 10. We really never had all too much in common, but he was a part of my crew growing up and I see him whenever I meet up with those guys now (few times a year at most).
He's a really funny guy, but always had the worst social anxiety. In high school, he would always drive because he didn't drink, and would NEVER talk to anyone outside our circle of friends. The girls we brought in, he would clam up around them, and then do nothing but criticize them and make jokes about them to us. Which we always found funny of course, but he was definitely a weird dude.
After a year of college, he came back without one friend. I actually thought he was suicidal back then. He was just a weird dude, and everytime I saw him we got along fine, I just secretly hoped he would start seeing a psychiatrist. He started getting better right after college, he got a good job, FINALLY moved out of his parents place after they had to drag him out, and started drinking. I lived in the same town with him for a year and he would get hammered and say the worst most obnoxious shit to girls. Just overly sexual stuff that usually drove whatever girl we were talking to away.
He is still a virgin today. He has this crazy disgust of vaginas. He is a germaphobe and when he talks about vaginas, it's like he thinks it's the most disgusting, disease ridden thing. The thing is, girls find him attractive. He hasn't missed a day of working out since high school, and spends a lot of his money on clothes it seems. So, chicks always come onto him, but he just blows it because he does not know how to interract with women.
I talked to an old buddy of mine on the phone the other day, and he said a couple of people are starting to think that this guy is gay. I never thought of it before. I always just thought he was a guy with severe social anxiety issues, but the more I think, the more it makes sense. I definitely don't agree with my buddies spreading it around that they think this about him. I mean, if he is, I really wouldn't care, he'd still be a friend, but I think it would be his right to come out when he decided.
It's not like he was ever a good wingman or something. He has said some things when he's drunk, not coming on to me or anything, but when he's spouting off shit at girls passing by on the street. Like "Fuck my ass, baby". Which at the time, was funny as shit to watch... but now? hmmm makes me think. Akward Virgin or Gay?
He is one unhappy man, so if being himself makes him happy... I hope he comes out soon. If he's not gay, he really needs to get laid soon. Either way.
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Re: I'm starting to think a good buddy of mine is gay... [Re: DrCamacho89]
#6978183 - 05/28/07 03:10 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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You pretty much just described me, except I drink. And I don't find vaginas disgusting. And I'm not gay.
I swear.
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Re: I'm starting to think a good buddy of mine is gay... [Re: DrCamacho89]
#6978192 - 05/28/07 03:11 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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abused as a kid? Being gay doesn't mean you have to hate vaginas. You don't hate cocks even though your straight.
He needs to visit a psichiatrist methinks...
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DrCamacho89
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Re: I'm starting to think a good buddy of mine is gay... [Re: Nibin]
#6978204 - 05/28/07 03:14 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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I think he has been to a doc. He is so much better now than when he was in college. He's actually social when he goes out and doesn't say ridiculous things to girls anymore. Medication I presume because the few times in college that I chilled with him, I wanted to break a bottle over his head by the end of the night he was so damn unbearably annoying. Moody mother fucker too.
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Re: I'm starting to think a good buddy of mine is gay... [Re: DrCamacho89]
#6978247 - 05/28/07 03:25 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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Vaginas are dirty dirty things and should never be seen or spoken about!
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Re: I'm starting to think a good buddy of mine is gay... [Re: adrug]
#6978289 - 05/28/07 03:40 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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some people just don't like drinking.
i have nothing against the act, but i don't find it very fun (especially when compared with my mary jane!).
-tastes bad (have not acquired the taste) -makes you have to piss consatntly (annoying in social situations) -feel shitty the next day
those are just the reasons i tend to avoid it. 'eh, lame but whatevere
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Re: I'm starting to think a good buddy of mine is gay... [Re: DrCamacho89]
#6978293 - 05/28/07 03:40 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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Sounds like my one friend down to the T except for the disgust of vaginas part. He's 22 and hasn't had any yet, so he's probably starving for it.
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Re: I'm starting to think a good buddy of mine is gay... [Re: DrCamacho89]
#6978323 - 05/28/07 03:51 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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if i may throw my 2 cents in... having gone to fashion industries high school, i know/have known my share of gay men. 99% of them didnt find vagina's disgusting. they just found cock delicious. the revulsion makes me think of sexual abuse. abused kids/adults usually develop a visceral reaction to a particular sext/sex act after being subjected to something they should never have been exposed to.
something to think about.
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Re: I'm starting to think a good buddy of mine is gay... [Re: Oracle Of Delphi]
#6978345 - 05/28/07 03:59 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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Quote:
Oracle Of Delphi said: if i may throw my 2 cents in... having gone to fashion industries high school, i know/have known my share of gay men. 99% of them didnt find vagina's disgusting. they just found cock delicious. the revulsion makes me think of sexual abuse. abused kids/adults usually develop a visceral reaction to a particular sext/sex act after being subjected to something they should never have been exposed to.
something to think about.
OoD
This explanation sounds best thus far.
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Re: I'm starting to think a good buddy of mine is gay... [Re: DrCamacho89]
#6978375 - 05/28/07 04:09 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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Doesn't sound gay to me... gays tend to get along well with women. He just sounds tormented. Do you know his parents?
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Re: I'm starting to think a good buddy of mine is gay... [Re: WhiskeyClone]
#6978382 - 05/28/07 04:11 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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buy him asian massage with hand release
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DrCamacho89
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Re: I'm starting to think a good buddy of mine is gay... [Re: Oracle Of Delphi]
#6978406 - 05/28/07 04:18 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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I do know his parents, very well actually. Two of the nicest and most laid back parents of any of my friends growing up. Doesn't mean anything. I did grow up in suburbia.
I always thought his brother was gay. He had the accent and was a drama major in college. He's married though. Maybe him? Okay, now I'm thinking too much into this.
He's no longer suicidal. That's all that matters. If he's gay, he's gay, if he's not, he's not. Just got me guessing now... there are factors beyond the vagina repulsion that would suggest it. He has one friend whose a girl, and she's his best friend. But she's this obese sex addicted cartoon character. Maybe, she's corrupted his thinking of the opposite sex. Maybe she is molesting him. That makes the most sense. She used to wait until guys got drunk at parties and attack. She got more ass than anyone I ever met.
Like I said... I grew up in Suburbia.
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Re: I'm starting to think a good buddy of mine is gay... [Re: DrCamacho89]
#6978463 - 05/28/07 04:37 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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Thats me to the T. I'm 25 and have never been kissed by a girl.I couldn't get a date,when I was in high school to save my life.But, when I started collage or when I'm out of town, I usually get four to five phone numbers.I'm really just not ready for a girlfriend.I like to party and have to fun.I know family and friends that have two kids now and no life.
What the big deal about sex ? other then the love for the other person So, man can say I've fuck this many women.I aways get pick on it, by my asshole bother.
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Re: I'm starting to think a good buddy of mine is gay... [Re: Brainiac]
#6978513 - 05/28/07 04:57 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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I agree that he doesn't necassarily sound gay, but theres definately something up with him and the opposite sex. Possibly abuse, not necassarily physical either. Could have been some sort of mental trauma.
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Re: I'm starting to think a good buddy of mine is gay... [Re: TheEnd]
#6978532 - 05/28/07 05:06 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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Maybe, hes just really shy. Theres a pot, for every lid.
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Re: I'm starting to think a good buddy of mine is gay... [Re: Brainiac]
#6978568 - 05/28/07 05:22 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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im 20 and have occasional flings, and have had my heart broken once from a girlfriend of 3 years.
right now i almost hate women, they can drag a man down and keep him from accomplishing what he wants too.
i just wanna have fun and get through school, ill play but i dont want a girlfriend right now.
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Re: I'm starting to think a good buddy of mine is gay... [Re: Brainiac]
#6978599 - 05/28/07 05:33 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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Quote:
Brainiac said: I aways get pick on it, by my asshole bother.
This is a fantastic sentence
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Re: I'm starting to think a good buddy of mine is gay... [Re: mr_kite]
#6979027 - 05/28/07 07:23 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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Mr.K...Perhaps take Brainiac's final line that says he's dyslexic seriously and don't bug him about his grammar. Spell check misses stuff like that.
Dr.C...IMHO if your friend is improving in his interpersonal relationships and his general outlook meaning, no longer suicidal, then hopefully he'll continue to improve.
He needs to meet a nice *clean smelling female who'll let him explore with his hands and/or eyes and that'll help even if he's gay, like they said...he doesn't have to have an aversion to women to like boys better/exclusively.
*We really must shower often. It's just a nice thing to do for our guys. Toothpaste is nice to use if one's guy will be tasting...
Never been kissed can be cured without a commitment...just a suggestion to y'all...AFOAF was a virgin when she got married but there's ALL sorts of enjoyable activities to engage in, and she says she did. That's o'course if one's careful about STD's and yeah, especially the one that starts w/K Brainiac! (kids) Good one!
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Re: I'm starting to think a good buddy of mine is gay... [Re: DrCamacho89]
#6979047 - 05/28/07 07:28 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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I'm pretty sure my best friend is gay, he's a dirty little wop that's a gal-pal. And his uncle is gay, so who knows. He does bang chicks, but maybe he's bi or something. Not my business, so it pretty much goes untalked about.
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Re: I'm starting to think a good buddy of mine is gay... [Re: Brainiac]
#6979048 - 05/28/07 07:29 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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A friend that is closer to him than I am is a good friend of mine. He said he's talked to him and that he just doesn't like partying and all his friends did. He can't find a girl he can relate to that is like him, maybe? and he doesn't want to have sex with a person he disgusts. Makes sense. I don't fault him for it. I told the buddy who really thinks he's gay that it's not cool to say that to people, regardless if it's true or not. Just not a cool thing to do to a "friend". Maybe that's his problem. Not enough real friends. My hometown seems like a different universe sometimes.
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