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Parents are getting divorced.
#6922282 - 05/15/07 10:32 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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first off, let me start off by saying im 20, so dont comment on the juvenileness of this thread, cause i dont want to hear it.
ok. so sataurday i drove home four and a half hours from college to spend the summer with my family. about 2 hours before im home my dad calls me and to ask where i am and say he "cant wait to see me". about 15 minuets before i pull into the driveway he calls me and asks where i am and tells me to call him when i get home.
so i pull into my driveway and give him a ring, assuming he and my mother were out to dinner or something. first thing he says is "youll still be my son no matter what i say right?" so immediatley i knew something was up. he then proceeds to tell me OVER THE PHONE that he and my mother are split up and theyre getting divorced. i said "fuck you man" and hung up the phone. i proceeded to spend the next 15 minuets crying in my driveway (Fuck you if you think men dont cry, youve never had something terrible happen to you)
after that i go into my house where my mom and sister were, and just flipped out. my parents had been split up for over a month, and i had talked to both of them daily (im VERY close with my family, there the most important thing to me) and neither one of them even hinted that anything was wrong in the home. my sister new all along and she didnt tell me either. (shes 23)
i havent spoken to my father since, besides sending belligerent text messages and emails telling him how much of a failure and dissapointment hes is to me etc. etc. (immature i know, but i need him to know how bad hes made me feel)
my father was one of the most important and influential people in my life. he was the number one role model in my life.
and to find out he was CHEATING on my mother with some 23 year engaged slut (hes 56) from his office just broke my heart. ive been in a major depression since. i ate some strong L on sunday to take a hike up my favorite peak and think things over(i always do this to think things over, even when its depressing, i find it to help me find the real truth in things). it left me thinking that maybe im better off without someone like that in my life. but it hurts to think, that im better off without the man that brought me into this world.
sorry for the long meandering post, i just needed to speak some truth.
thanks, max
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Re: Parents are getting divorced. [Re: clorox]
#6922315 - 05/15/07 10:40 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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Hey brotha I hear ya. My dad died unexpectedly when I was 8. All throughout my teen years I've only had my crack head older brother to look up to as he was the only male role model in my life. In cases like this, you just have to take it for what it is.
It can make you stronger. I look back on how shitty my parents were and think about how my brother has spent 90% of the last 10 years of his 25 year old life in jails and now prison, and say "I'm a better man than that." Things like this make me strive everyday to be the best damn dad and husband I can be. If you learn to accept things for what they are, you can harness it and turn it into inspiration.
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Re: Parents are getting divorced. [Re: clorox]
#6922328 - 05/15/07 10:41 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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It's they're not there
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Re: Parents are getting divorced. [Re: clorox]
#6922338 - 05/15/07 10:45 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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(Fuck you if you think men dont cry, youve never had something terrible happen to you)
Wrong.
If your dad was your number one role model I don't know why you got so mad at him. It's not like it's a damn cakewalk for him or something.
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Re: Parents are getting divorced. [Re: Snypa187]
#6922344 - 05/15/07 10:45 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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to this day my parents apologize (independantly) to me for getting divorced, and beat themselves up over what they perceived to be a selfish act. A few years ago I wrote a letter to them explaining how the perfect parent is one who fucks up from time to time. It has made me more independant and a better person all around I think. If I could go back and make the decision for them, I would still want them to get divorced, because they are happier for it, which in turn gave them more time to be happy, and focus on me, instead of expending so much energy fighting and creating hostility.
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Re: Parents are getting divorced. [Re: jewunit]
#6922354 - 05/15/07 10:48 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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jewunit said:
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(Fuck you if you think men dont cry, youve never had something terrible happen to you)
Wrong.
If your dad was your number one role model I don't know why you got so mad at him. It's not like it's a damn cakewalk for him or something.
im sure it was easy to unzip his pants. he walked out on my family and i.
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Re: Parents are getting divorced. [Re: clorox]
#6922359 - 05/15/07 10:49 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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I must admit I missed the part about him cheating. I don't know if he "walked out on you" though. But I suppose I would understand not being too pumped with him after that.
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Re: Parents are getting divorced. [Re: jewunit]
#6922376 - 05/15/07 10:52 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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MY parents have been divorced since i was 4, think what that doest to a kid, If you dad was so important then forgive him. People change, things change, its all apart of life, put you're self in his place. What if you're life sucked because of a bad marriage? would you stay in it? Maby this has been going on for a long time and you're parents kept it from you till they thought you were old enough( mature as well, obviously not) maby their lives have been 'secretly a living hell for some time? You are being rely selfish, i think cutting your self off from you dad is something you will regret....Give it time, HE isn't a different man just because you mom and him divorced...I know what i say doesn't matter, but maby i gave you some insight, I hope things get beter between you and you're dad.
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Re: Parents are getting divorced. [Re: clorox]
#6922384 - 05/15/07 10:55 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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get over it. if theyre getting divorced it's for a reason. their reason(s). my parents are getting divorced too. so what? they're still your parents. respect their decision and realize that they're likely better off doing that. don't be too hard on your dad, sure it's fucked up, but it happens. life is generally about the hot young poon.
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Re: Parents are getting divorced. [Re: tjones381]
#6922393 - 05/15/07 10:58 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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My parents got divorced when I was 9. Now I am 20 and everything is good. Like tjones said, people change and move on.
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Re: Parents are getting divorced. [Re: clorox]
#6922396 - 05/15/07 10:58 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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By the way, there are far worse things that can happen. I have many good friends who have been through it (most of my good friends have, actually, kinda weird not too many of us have both parents still together/alive) and at first it might be kinda hard, but they're still both there. You'll live, you should ask your dad for some tips
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Re: Parents are getting divorced. [Re: papixx]
#6922401 - 05/15/07 11:00 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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I'm sorry that's sad to hear. hope all goes well!
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Re: Parents are getting divorced. [Re: jewunit]
#6922409 - 05/15/07 11:02 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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i know that it seems selfish, and i will admit that it is. its just that he had made all these plans to do this shit this summer, and he knew none of it was gonna happen, and just led me on. im just really dissapointed that someone i looked up to so much, would let me down me down so bad......
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Re: Parents are getting divorced. [Re: clorox]
#6922411 - 05/15/07 11:02 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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I like how you think this problems about you and not about them. You dont even live with them so who fucking cares. And believe it or not divorce is usually for the better. My parents got divorced when i was 10 and it was the best decision they ever made. Quit being childish.
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Re: Parents are getting divorced. [Re: DeathCompany]
#6922441 - 05/15/07 11:10 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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DeathCompany said: I like how you think this problems about you and not about them. You dont even live with them so who fucking cares. And believe it or not divorce is usually for the better. My parents got divorced when i was 10 and it was the best decision they ever made. Quit being childish.
im just venting dude, bring your e-thuggery somewhere else
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Re: Parents are getting divorced. [Re: clorox]
#6922447 - 05/15/07 11:11 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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Bring your problems somewhere else (Sucks when things work both ways, doesn't it?)
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Re: Parents are getting divorced. [Re: clorox]
#6922462 - 05/15/07 11:14 PM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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the truth hurts doesn't it.
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Re: Parents are getting divorced. [Re: clorox]
#6922792 - 05/16/07 12:27 AM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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one day, your number one role model, your father, will be dead.
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Re: Parents are getting divorced. [Re: clorox]
#6922925 - 05/16/07 12:56 AM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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I think there was a good reason your sister didn't want to tell you...
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Re: Parents are getting divorced. [Re: clorox]
#6923400 - 05/16/07 04:48 AM (16 years, 10 months ago) |
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I'm never fucking having children!
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