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Gillette
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Why guys don't "get" girls
#4663985 - 09/15/05 08:17 AM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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I think I know the secret of why guys don't understand girls.....
I think its because, everytime we try to explain ourselves, or let you in on something probably really vital to whatever type of relationship we have...you guys are not listening. Your doing something stupid, like watching tv, or staring at the wall or looking at other chicks. I've given up on pointing things out before or after sex, because I know guys are too preoccupied with their dicks at that point, I'm curious if thats what the constatnt preoccupation is Sooo many times, I've explained to my boyfriend exactly what is going on, in "boy" terms and I think he gets it, and a day later he's confused...today he shocked me with "I never knew you were like that, whats gotten into you?" and here I am thinking, like we've been together over a year, how could you not know!
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Re: Why guys don't "get" girls [Re: Gillette]
#4663989 - 09/15/05 08:19 AM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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Mmmmmm....my girlfriend's boobies.
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Re: Why guys don't "get" girls [Re: Gillette]
#4663995 - 09/15/05 08:21 AM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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some guys get it Gillette
its not something you can teach someone if they arent receptive
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Re: Why guys don't "get" girls [Re: Gillette]
#4663998 - 09/15/05 08:23 AM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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Werd
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Re: Why guys don't "get" girls [Re: goobler]
#4664008 - 09/15/05 08:28 AM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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Yeah, it's not that "guys don't get it", some guys are just stupid, where as other ones are just pussies. You have to look for receptive guys who aren't pussies, Gilette.
They DO exist, god dammit.
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Re: Why guys don't "get" girls [Re: Gillette]
#4664011 - 09/15/05 08:29 AM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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personally i think the after-sex talk and cuddle to be the one that brings the most insights... but well, there are some things i still don't get... especially the jerk-niceboy dilemma... every girl claimes she wants a nice guy but when you treat her too nice she leaves...
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Re: Why guys don't "get" girls [Re: mantis]
#4664012 - 09/15/05 08:29 AM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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Ok so what you guys are saying is I've just been surrounded by idiots
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Re: Why guys don't "get" girls [Re: Gillette]
#4664015 - 09/15/05 08:30 AM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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More or less
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Re: Why guys don't "get" girls [Re: Gillette]
#4664019 - 09/15/05 08:31 AM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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if a guy doesn't pay attention after sex, when all his needs and worries have been wiped from his mind then there is nothing you can do for him...
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Re: Why guys don't "get" girls [Re: In(di)go]
#4664031 - 09/15/05 08:34 AM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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In(di)go said: personally i think the after-sex talk and cuddle to be the one that brings the most insights... but well, there are some things i still don't get... especially the jerk-niceboy dilemma... every girl claimes she wants a nice guy but when you treat her too nice she leaves...
Aww but you're like one in a million
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Re: Why guys don't "get" girls [Re: Gillette]
#4664034 - 09/15/05 08:35 AM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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My girlfriend is my best friend before she's my girlfriend, that's why I "get" her.
We hung out for months before our hands even touched in a way that suggested romance. I pined for her the whole time, but we just hung out almost every single day for 4 or 5 months getting to know one another. Friendship = k3y.
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Re: Why guys don't "get" girls [Re: Gillette]
#4664070 - 09/15/05 08:48 AM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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Some guys will also feign stupidity because they just don't care about you. Enough to put what you say into long term memory storage anyhow...
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Re: Why guys don't "get" girls [Re: Gillette]
#4664074 - 09/15/05 08:50 AM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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Quote:
Gillette said:
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In(di)go said: personally i think the after-sex talk and cuddle to be the one that brings the most insights... but well, there are some things i still don't get... especially the jerk-niceboy dilemma... every girl claimes she wants a nice guy but when you treat her too nice she leaves...
Aww but you're like one in a million
Not true. I like after play more than foreplay. I can talk for hours in the dark after sex or not.
It's not important to treat a girl too nice. It's important to be real and not too needy. If you treat them how you want and not how some ideal says you should, you will quickly find out if this is the one you want to be with.
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Re: Why guys don't "get" girls [Re: Gillette]
#4664082 - 09/15/05 08:52 AM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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Gillette said: Ok so what you guys are saying is I've just been surrounded by idiots
Thats what it sounds like.
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Re: Why guys don't "get" girls [Re: Gillette]
#4664096 - 09/15/05 08:58 AM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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Let's put an end to this black-n-white thinking, and use some rationality. There are some guys who get girls, and there are some guys who don't get girls. Plain and simple.
In your case, if you truly have had nothing but guys who are "not listening, doing something stupid, looking at other chicks, etc", then it's pretty clear that you're choosing the wrong personalities for your romantic endeavor.
Ask yourself: Based on what criteria are you choosing your men? Are you in a stage where you feel more comfortable with certain types of guys for reasons that may be related to youthfulness, internal unsteadiness, fear of your own greatness [this is more common than you may think, and is called the Jonah Complex in psych.], etc.? Are you looking in the right places for the kind of man you'd really like to have?
Your attitude will determine your altitude.
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Re: Why guys don't "get" girls [Re: Gillette]
#4664103 - 09/15/05 09:01 AM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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I'd have to say the reason a lot of guys don't understand girls is because they don't really care. Like Robot said, if a guy didn't get to know you well before you humped, then it's probably useless.
An insight into the male mind...
"Damn that girl looks fine. Let me go lay down my pimpin and get some panty drop action." Humping takes place. Then afterwards the mind enters into a land of lala. It's kind of like going through the relationship motions. Most guys don't fully understand the difference between love and lust so after fucking a couple times they think they're in something meaningful. But if a guy is your friend beforehand, then the relationship just sort of develops. It's not based on one party or the other wanting physical pleasure.
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EDIT: response to Gillete
Girls are sweet girls are neet wiggling toes giggling feet what they think nobody knows I'm listening but damn I need a drink
I think that sometimes we just get caught up in whatever is goin on in our own heads to really take time out for our lil ladies. Bein aware of that is usually enough to give her the attention she deserves. But give her too much and you're no longer a challenge and she's gone. It's the little things that make it fun...
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Re: Why guys don't "get" girls [Re: daimyo]
#4664113 - 09/15/05 09:08 AM (18 years, 6 months ago) |
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And sadly, I know some girls who have an extremely difficult time forming genuine friendships with most guys, simply because they're very hot. They have all these guys who act friendly and all, but with ulterior motives. So unfortunately, some of these girls don't really get that chance to have a genuine, deep friendship with an honest man for years before they become romantic. And you know how that usually goes... That's pretty sad.
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I honestly (any more) could not be in a relationship with anyone but my best and truest friend. Which I have done. She is very little like all the girls I had "fallen in love" with before. We became friends first.
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SkorpivoMusterion said: And sadly, I know some girls who have an extremely difficult time forming genuine friendships with most guys, simply because they're very hot. They have all these guys who act friendly and all, but with ulterior motives. So unfortunately, some of these girls don't really get that chance to have a genuine, deep friendship with an honest man for years before they become romantic. And you know how that usually goes... That's pretty sad.
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