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XUL
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The Path of Life
#18494196 - 06/30/13 07:48 PM (10 years, 8 months ago) |
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Most of us are grown in the shapes that society and family preference and prejudice fasten us into, and don't find out until we are well toward middle life that we should have done a great deal better at something else. Our vocations are likely enough to be badly chosen , since few persons are fit to choose them for us , and we are at the most unreasonable stage of life when we choose them for ourselves.
Did you ever feel like you were pushed into things when you were young?
I feel as if I personally was pushed too quickly and at too young of an age into college. Things would have been different if I had waited and found out who I was first.
How do you feel about this?
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Re: The Path of Life [Re: XUL]
#18494465 - 06/30/13 08:52 PM (10 years, 8 months ago) |
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XUL said:
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Most of us are grown in the shapes that society and family preference and prejudice fasten us into, and don't find out until we are well toward middle life that we should have done a great deal better at something else. Our vocations are likely enough to be badly chosen , since few persons are fit to choose them for us , and we are at the most unreasonable stage of life when we choose them for ourselves.
Did you ever feel like you were pushed into things when you were young?
I feel as if I personally was pushed too quickly and at too young of an age into college. Things would have been different if I had waited and found out who I was first.
How do you feel about this?
How would you have found out who you were more by delaying college?
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XUL
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By working, socializing, participating in the community, and by having studied my interests.
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Re: The Path of Life [Re: XUL]
#18494517 - 06/30/13 09:05 PM (10 years, 8 months ago) |
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XUL said: By working, socializing, participating in the community, and by having studied my interests.
Sounds like college without the fun.
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Re: The Path of Life [Re: XUL]
#18494546 - 06/30/13 09:12 PM (10 years, 8 months ago) |
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All I wanted to do in high school was move to France and attend culinary school. Instead, I accepted the free ride at a state university because my family was too poor for me to seriously consider anything else. Two Master's degrees and one dissertation short of a Doctorate later, I still spend most of my free time watching Food Network or in my kitchen imagining I am the star of my own cooking show.
It's not really a regret because my psychedelic experience has helped me to accept this reality as well as to believe in all my other realities.
I am the very model of a modern major quantum experiment.
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Re: The Path of Life [Re: XUL]
#18494795 - 06/30/13 10:12 PM (10 years, 8 months ago) |
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I feel like college was the "only option" for me - that there wasn't anything else to consider, at least at that point. I'm grateful to have the degree as a foundation, though.
I think the past can be analyzed to death and make you regret/feel bad about it. No reason for that, imo. It is what it is and you take what you can from it and use it how you can.
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Penelope_Tree said: I feel like college was the "only option" for me - that there wasn't anything else to consider, at least at that point. I'm grateful to have the degree as a foundation, though.
I think the past can be analyzed to death and make you regret/feel bad about it. No reason for that, imo. It is what it is and you take what you can from it and use it how you can.
I don't regret it, and I too appreciate my degree, but I think it's something to consider since our generation is now the one which is bearing children.
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Re: The Path of Life [Re: XUL]
#18494914 - 06/30/13 10:44 PM (10 years, 8 months ago) |
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I think I agree.
Like Penelope and yourself, I thought college was my only choice. I'm content to have a degree at least.
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Penelope_Tree said: I feel like college was the "only option" for me - that there wasn't anything else to consider, at least at that point. I'm grateful to have the degree as a foundation, though.
I think the past can be analyzed to death and make you regret/feel bad about it. No reason for that, imo. It is what it is and you take what you can from it and use it how you can.
A master's degree is a great conversation topic with customers while waitressing. Just sayin'...
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People give me the raised eyebrow when I tell them my degree is in public relations. Its like I lose respect for being a spin doctor-And I don't blame them.
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Sympathy strategy for tips always works well.
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cez said: People give me the raised eyebrow when I tell them my degree is in public relations. Its like I lose respect for being a spin doctor-And I don't blame them.
I usually get the same reaction when I tell them my degree is in psychology.
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I usually get the same reaction when I tell them my degree is in psychology.
I long-suspected you were using that mind control stuff on me.
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Is it working?
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Turn that charm off, sweet-cheeks. You are not even close to my level.
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Penelope_Tree said: I feel like college was the "only option" for me - that there wasn't anything else to consider, at least at that point. I'm grateful to have the degree as a foundation, though.
I think the past can be analyzed to death and make you regret/feel bad about it. No reason for that, imo. It is what it is and you take what you can from it and use it how you can.
A master's degree is a great conversation topic with customers while waitressing. Just sayin'...
it is a much superior topic to "I auditioned for this role and it turned into a porn film "Nobody would hire me afte rthe conviction "And that's why I lost custody of my baby "I'm on the homeland security watch list.
the masters degree is not to be dissed!
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Re: The Path of Life [Re: XUL]
#18497696 - 07/01/13 03:47 PM (10 years, 8 months ago) |
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I was pushed into college too.
My parents (dad especially) were set on me continuing to apply myself in school and follow through with attending an Ivy League to study business.
It was working until I was traumatized at a young age and stopped applying myself to anything other than securing drugs to allow myself to escape the pain.
This new way that I was acting was met with severe resistance by everyone from my parents to teachers and school administrators (all working together and having meetings to convince me that my behavior was wrong). I was forced into addiction counseling, randomized drug testing, and new schools once my welcome had by worn.
All of these attempts at making me change only made me more miserable and more adamant on finding that next fix so I could stop obsessing over killing myself for a few hours.
Now I just coast through a state school to appease the parents, but I only do enough to maintain decent grades.
If I hadn't had so much push from my parents I would likely be selling drugs, in jail, or in rehab.
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Re: The Path of Life [Re: Memories]
#18497725 - 07/01/13 03:57 PM (10 years, 8 months ago) |
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Instead you are here which is like all three combined.
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Re: The Path of Life [Re: Memories]
#18497727 - 07/01/13 03:58 PM (10 years, 8 months ago) |
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Memories said: I was pushed into college too.
My parents (dad especially) were set on me continuing to apply myself in school and follow through with attending an Ivy League to study business.
It was working until I was traumatized at a young age and stopped applying myself to anything other than securing drugs to allow myself to escape the pain.
This new way that I was acting was met with severe resistance by everyone from my parents to teachers and school administrators (all working together and having meetings to convince me that my behavior was wrong). I was forced into addiction counseling, randomized drug testing, and new schools once my welcome had by worn.
All of these attempts at making me change only made me more miserable and more adamant on finding that next fix so I could stop obsessing over killing myself for a few hours.
Now I just coast through a state school to appease the parents, but I only do enough to maintain decent grades.
If I hadn't had so much push from my parents I would likely be selling drugs, in jail, or in rehab.
Must suck always having to play the victim.
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It must suck having poor reading comprehension and spending all of your free time linking youtube videos that no one watches.
I am no more a victim than anyone else in this world, and I never claimed the push from my parents was what traumatized me.
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