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SBTlauien
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tak_old
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Re: My 3 Main Problems In Life [Re: SBTlauien]
#1570958 - 05/22/03 11:52 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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Man, Some people you click with, others you dont. I know I've had a couple people ive known for a long time, but no matter how much i 'know' them, i really dont honestly know them. If they arnt your type of people, dont hang out with them. Thats my theory anyways, I dont think you gotta be friends with anyone, just remember to treat them in a respectful way.
As far as wanting to be home, i think thats pretty natural. Home is a place where no one can enter without permission from you, everything there you know, and love...otherwise it wouldnt be there. Things there are natural to you, and you have things exactly as you want them. When you are out with friends, things seem unnatural, and awkward.. Some places more than others, but I know sometimes things can be really uncomfortable, and I would give anything to be home. The only thing about home is, I dont really want too many people over, its cool, but its my place, so I keep it cool to an extent.
Then when im at home alone, I imagine that someone is somewhere doing something, and im not part of it. It is just an overwhelming feeling of not living, wasting time doing nothing. Chances are, there are lots of people more bored than you, and alot of the people out doing something wanna be at home doing thier thing.
*shrug* There is nothing wrong with your head, i think these things are pretty natural to most people.
The whole girlfriend thing...Are you interested in her? If you left her to be with someone else, then thats not nice :P Good relationships are based off good friendships... I dunno, but I would try to do some shit with her, things between you two are pretty uncomfortable, and doing something fun, reminding eachother of your true colors might fix things a little.
Have fun, and dont think too much :P
tak
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SBTlauien
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BlowMiNose
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Re: My 3 Main Problems In Life [Re: tak_old]
#1574326 - 05/24/03 09:57 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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Then when im at home alone, I imagine that someone is somewhere doing something, and im not part of it. It is just an overwhelming feeling of not living, wasting time doing nothing. Chances are, there are lots of people more bored than you, and alot of the people out doing something wanna be at home doing thier thing.
I always feel this!!! Man, i hate sitting at home and feeling worthless. Even though i love being home, i feel like im missing out on life. Like i should be out doing something. But then i'll go out, and it will be boring as hell...and i come back home. Its such a silly struggle, but it still sucks.
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Re: My 3 Main Problems In Life [Re: BlowMiNose]
#1574538 - 05/24/03 12:50 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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i too always get this dilema. i think i can safelty say that within the last like 2 months or so, on the days that i've gone out, ive wished that i could be home due to boredom. then when home, i feel stupid because i worry that i look like some kind of hermit and have to go out again, only to be bored.
i advize you to contact this girl. i don't know you at all, but if i were u, and didn't really feel comfortable around my friends for whatever reason, id seek someone else, and in your case thats gotta be your girlfriend. i think everyone needs someone they can always be comfortable around.
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SBTlauien
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Trippy Hippy
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Re: My 3 Main Problems In Life [Re: SBTlauien]
#1575006 - 05/24/03 06:14 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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I can relate to your situation of wanting to be home more then out and about. Alot of times when i'm out i just want to go home and sit in my bed and watch my tv and go to my fridge. alot of times shit gets boring or you just aren't having a good time with who you're with so you want to go home. totally normal
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Gog
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Re: My 3 Main Problems In Life [Re: Trippy Hippy]
#1576420 - 05/25/03 01:56 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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I get that EVERY SINGLE fucking weekend. I feel like a loser staying at home, so I invite some people or go out. Then we smoke weed... and I feel ultra self-conscious, and become a nervous wreck, then they just leave or find a way to ditch me. It's utter madness I tell ya. being a hermit wouldn't be so bad
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SBTlauien
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Gog
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Re: My 3 Main Problems In Life [Re: SBTlauien]
#1577959 - 05/26/03 08:42 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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The worst thing is I used to be normal. Last year I had a fun time meeting and hanging out with people.
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Scarfmeister
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Re: My 3 Main Problems In Life [Re: Gog]
#1578000 - 05/26/03 09:19 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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Lots of people feel this way. I have had conversations like this with almost all my friends and they to feel like they are missing out on life. i spend most my free time at home on week days surfing watching movies etc. I like it that way. Weekdays are my chill days and fridays and saturdays are my social days.
Funny thing is that most people doesn't do anything. They sit at home and do whatever mundane shit they are usually doing. And its nothing wrong with that.
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Gog
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Re: My 3 Main Problems In Life [Re: Scarfmeister]
#1578330 - 05/26/03 12:24 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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even when i go out on fridays and saturdays i can't "forget myself" and have fun. when i smoke weed i get super self-conscious and wary of others...and all my "friends" do is smoke, so...
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SBTlauien
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Gog
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Re: My 3 Main Problems In Life [Re: SBTlauien]
#1578957 - 05/26/03 04:36 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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for me, i was cool and normal until grade 11, then my 2 best friends ditched me and started hanging out with another group. this new group wont invite me anywhere cuz im not "cool", so I'm left friendless.
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Scarfmeister
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Re: My 3 Main Problems In Life [Re: Gog]
#1579363 - 05/26/03 07:20 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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i get very self concious when i smoke weed to. There are only a few people that im comfortable smoking with so i dont smoke very often. Sucks about your friends Gog. Its certainely not easy to feel relaxed and have a good time without close friends.
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Re: My 3 Main Problems In Life [Re: Scarfmeister]
#1579878 - 05/26/03 10:13 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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if it's any consolation most of my friends are self-serving fuckhead mooches who only care about themselves...
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SBTlauien
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dizzim
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Re: My 3 Main Problems In Life [Re: SBTlauien]
#1584526 - 05/28/03 10:24 AM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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I felt the same way when i was 19 and even do sometimes now (i'm 32). I smoked a lot of weed back then and i think it aggrevated the problem for me. My advice is go out even if you fully expect not to enjoy yourself - how much fun are you having sitting at home anyhow? You dumped your girl so that you'll have more time to do things right? What have you been doing since you dumped her? No reason you cant get out with other friends while dating her. Dont avoid uncomfortable situations just because you feel out of place.....fake it till you make it.....sooner or later you'll find some people you feel comfortable hanging out with or you'll become more comfortable with the people you hang with now.
Just my 3 cents
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Gog
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Re: My 3 Main Problems In Life [Re: SBTlauien]
#1585388 - 05/28/03 03:11 PM (20 years, 9 months ago) |
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it's especially hard faking you're having fun when you're with "stupid" stoners. Like today I smoked a joint with 2 of my friends, and one of them is SUCH a burn-out. He's smoked his brain out I tells ya. All he talks about are useless little things that happened to him, like "hahaha once I went golfing and the stick went flying and the ball bounced next to it! hahaha!". He's a jock turned stoner... that's probably why he's like this. I find it hard to fake joy at his excited re-countings, thanks to me half-arsed social skills. this undoubtedly makes me seem rude to a lot of people who are y**ng l*** m*. The coolest kids are the ones who used to be outcast weird kids .I was like this when I was younger, before I turned 16, although I started being really antisocial after I lost my good friends early this year (like in september). andd continued smoking alone until like 2 months ago. It feels like my personalitys just been born again after a lapse of nothing... Its dented my social skills horribly and self confidence horribly. Hopefully it'll change once I'm "out in the real world" (i'm in **** sch**l). Especially when you live in the country like me, nothing going on for young folk. *n*v**r*s*t*y* (or whatever comes later) will hopefully be funner.
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p.p.s I have NOT gone mad...
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