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Apocalypso
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Girl with nazi parents
#11013161 - 09/07/09 05:31 AM (14 years, 7 months ago) |
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Ok so I'm friends with this girl from uni, we've known each other for nearly 3 years now, and we've become pretty tight.
Anyway she pretty much hates her life at the moment.
Her parents are strict as hell. She's not allowed to do anything, they call her 10 times a day to check up on her, and they even follow her around to make sure she is where she says she is. It's messed up.
She wanted to study medicine but her dad wouldn't let her because it meant she would have to live away from home, so she had to settle for accounting, which she hates. (shes not allowed to leave home until shes married, no matter how old she is)
Shes been with this prick of a guy for about 4 years, who treats her like shit. She doesn't even have any feelings for the guy anymore, but shes too scared to leave him because her parents will control her even more. She's scared she won't be able to go anywhere or do anything. (They've loosened up a little now that shes been in a relationship for so long.)
Shes told me so many stories and her dad sounds like a freakin nut job. Reading over my post, I can tell it doesnt do these people justice, but I don't want to make this too long.
It's not like shes a kid, she's fucking 21 years old!
Anyways shes one of my best friends and I just feel so bad becuase she's absolutely miserable and I dont know if there's anything I can do about it.. She tells me she cries all the time, but she doesn't want to do anything about it because shes scared of her father and thinks that its "just the way things are".
Just wanna know peoples thoughts on this sitch.
Edit: I should probably add that her family migrated here from Bosnia when she was really young, when there was a war going on. I think thats why her parents are so fucked up.
Edited by Apocalypso (09/07/09 05:34 AM)
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Apollyphelion
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Re: Girl with nazi parents [Re: Apocalypso]
#11013169 - 09/07/09 05:35 AM (14 years, 7 months ago) |
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I'd try to give her the courage to run away, and never, ever contact these horrid people again.
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She wanted to study medicine but her dad wouldn't let her because it meant she would have to live away from home, so she had to settle for accounting, which she hates. (shes not allowed to leave home until shes married, no matter how old she is)
I think this is illegal.
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Re: Girl with nazi parents [Re: Apocalypso]
#11013177 - 09/07/09 05:39 AM (14 years, 7 months ago) |
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Tell her she needs to run, and run for a very long time. Offer for her to be able to stay at your place for a time. Do anything and everything to get her out of that situation. Also once shes out encourage her to get therapy.
She obviously has had some severe trauma throughout her childhood and teen life.
Good luck. Sounds like a fucked situation.
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Apocalypso
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Apollyphelion said: I'd try to give her the courage to run away, and never, ever contact these horrid people again.
Heh, I've told her that already, but she is convinced that they would hunt her down, (sounds extreme, but those are her words)
And yeah i've told her that some of these rules are against the law, but her dad is stubborn and doesn't give a shit about that sort of thing.
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Re: Girl with nazi parents [Re: Apocalypso]
#11013182 - 09/07/09 05:43 AM (14 years, 7 months ago) |
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i had a similar dilemma growing up, as did my missus. in fact i used to refer to my mum as the 'wicked witch of the western suburbs'.
the only way to remove boundaries is to tear them down forcefully, by allowing the situation to continue you friend is in some sense (or at the very least in her parents eyes) supporting their draconian methods.
when i was a bit younger i pushed the boundaries by not answering phone calls from them, telling them i would be home and coming home much later or not at all, being completely honest and happily sharing my drug experiences with them, never yelling, never breaking down, always just looking at them like they were the pathetic ones.
if you friend is eligible to study medicine then she's sure as hell gotta have a pretty good head on her shoulders, and if she intends to go into medicine she's gotta grow some balls, cos that's an industry you need some big swingin nuts to survive in.
i came out of an abusive home, made myself into a man at 18 and forcibly claimed responsibility over myself by not allowing them to have a say as to what happened in my life, but full knowledge of what i was doing and how obviously on top of it all i was.
my missus had a similar situation, i taught her how to take the power back for herself, and while her sitch didn't require the honesty of mine, i am glad to say that her 17 yo sister has every bit of freedom she could want thanks to us. and my missus mum is vice principal of a notorious inner northern school.. a bit of a whip bearer..
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Re: Girl with nazi parents [Re: Apocalypso]
#11013183 - 09/07/09 05:44 AM (14 years, 7 months ago) |
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She needs to escape! It is possibly the only way.
Show her this thread?
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Contact the police, once you have gotten her to leave there house. Her parents cannot force her to do anything.
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Apocalypso
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Funny thing is shes got a brother who's always been allowed to do whatever he wants. Bring girls home, stay out till whenever, you name it. They are so old fashioned it makes me cringe
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Re: Girl with nazi parents [Re: Apocalypso]
#11013197 - 09/07/09 05:53 AM (14 years, 7 months ago) |
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It's kinda hard for her to leave though because she's got nowhere to go. She doesn't want to stay with me because they'll all know where to find her. I don't think she gets abused or anything, i think shes just been brought up to accept it. To be honest I don't think I could convince her to run away, maybe becuase she loves them and hates them at the same time. I'll still try though.
@blue.mean.yen Thats some good advice about pushing the boundaries. I'll pass that on.
Edited by Apocalypso (09/07/09 06:01 AM)
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Re: Girl with nazi parents [Re: Apocalypso]
#11013214 - 09/07/09 06:02 AM (14 years, 7 months ago) |
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Get her to go to your house anyway, if the parents show up, call the cops.
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sounds to me like the parents need to dose.
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Apocalypso
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hawksapprentice said: Get her to go to your house anyway, if the parents show up, call the cops.
I don't have a problem with that, convincing her to leave is the hard part. Gonna have to have another long talk with her.
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I think this is illegal.
I think your posting in a forum primarily dedicated to illegal activity
Right. So are you or are you not fucking her SP?
I would recommend if she is old enough and wants to be an adult, to act like one. My parents wouldn't support my ambitions so i peaced out, and did my own thing. Being on your ass for a while broke and hungry makes you someone. Fuck these light weight pussies that never earned. Especially the ones that are in my way crying and pissing themselves when im trying to do some work or make something better. Also fuck people who have never tried drugs.
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Re: Girl with nazi parents [Re: rodfarva]
#11013404 - 09/07/09 07:22 AM (14 years, 7 months ago) |
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Man that makes me cringe. How the fuck does someone 21 put up with that? She wanted to be a doctor but her parents made her take accounting and she actually did???? Sounds like this girl is whipped as fuck by her parents. I agree that she should just do what she wants and get confrontational with her parents. They let their boy do everything.
If you do end up calling the cops on her I'd be afraid that when she has to see them face to face and still say she wants them to leave her alone that she'll break down and run back to mommy and daddy because they have her mentally chained.
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Re: Girl with nazi parents [Re: Glenners]
#11013435 - 09/07/09 07:35 AM (14 years, 7 months ago) |
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Ahahahah
I feel no sympathy for her
She is 21 and is afraid to leave her house on her own
She is legally an adult and her parents can't make her do shit
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Re: Girl with nazi parents [Re: dr_gonz]
#11013446 - 09/07/09 07:41 AM (14 years, 7 months ago) |
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dr_gonz said: Build her a Rube machine to help her escape
LOOK! A DISTRACTION!!
NOW RUN TO THE HILLS!
Her parents seem like total Rubes.
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Apollyphelion said: I think this is illegal.
Not unless they threaten her with physical violence, or actually hit her.
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Re: Girl with nazi parents [Re: feifen]
#11013464 - 09/07/09 07:47 AM (14 years, 7 months ago) |
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feifen said: Ahahahah
I feel no sympathy for her
She is 21 and is afraid to leave her house on her own
She is legally an adult and her parents can't make her do shit
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I'd agree with you if I hadn't met these people and heard all the bullshit. The father is a nutjob. POW apparently. Its the way she's been brought up..."family values" and all that.. I dunno some cultures are just fucked.
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Re: Girl with nazi parents [Re: Apocalypso]
#11013472 - 09/07/09 07:50 AM (14 years, 7 months ago) |
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Apocalypso said: Edit: I should probably add that her family migrated here from Bosnia
that's it right there, if you look into the wars with Bosnia/serbs and croats, you'll see why these people are fucked up
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