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 Brakkie
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 Re: how the hell do you make new friends?  [Re: Gomp]
#4917244 - 11/10/05 11:49 AM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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I always had my brother that just asked me to go smoke bud with his friends... Then I got to learn new people and started talking with them at school or whatever...
Just try and get at least 1 friend or a brother or whatever... Once you got that done everything will fall in it's place... ASk a friend what he's up to and asks if he wants to hang out... You should have someone you know that you can hang out with right?
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Dreamer987
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 Re: how the hell do you make new friends? [Re: BoneMan]
#4918415 - 11/10/05 04:42 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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"I look a lot younger than I am, so I dont quite feel right around these unnecessarily huge guys and the models they hang with. Seriously, girls that have been in 50-cent videos have their own websites. They're just a bit out of my league
So anyway, does anyone have advice on making new friends? I've met a few people at my school but none of them seem interested in making new friends or accepting me into their group."
Thats your problem. You'v got no confidence. You are just in a rut thats all. Make an effort to be social, and meet new people. Don't try too hard. Just meet, and talk to people. If you like someone, ask them if they wana hang out sometime. Don't try to make people be your friend. If you are compatible, shit will fall into place.
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factory81
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Re: how the hell do you make new friends? [Re: Dreamer987]
#4937080 - 11/15/05 03:06 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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Community college does uh.....have its suck factor. Its basically all the kids who couldn't make it out of town to a big university. So your left with a community college, no sports team, no school pride, not shit for organized groups really. Your best bet in community college would be......to probably take classes that encourage discussion and some teachers (my psychology teacher), is very in to putting us in to groups, the class room is very social, and the class room is like a 25 person class or something. Anyways, picking the right classes or teachers even can mean the differance between a actual class period of social interaction...
Besides college, you can get a job, and talk with people...coworkers...that will give you money too.
You can spend money on what you want, whatever contributes to your greater being. You can go to the gas station and buy gas for your car, go tanning because hell, its proven UV rays actually make you happy and release natural mood elevating things. Plus, heres a hint, tan people just look nicer, and hey you can hit on the girl at the counter now, as if she doesn't get hit on enough.
That aside, you have a job, your in school, you see lots of people daily if you set your life up right. Your a more social creature. Anxiety and social phobia might be your next issue, probably why people drink so much, or do pills or smoke pot. But yeah you can meet people at club's. They do usually suck.
Your under 21, your in my camp, your 19 or 20.
You can go on myspace.com and some websites, I say myspace, why, because there is 1650 18-20 year old females within 20 miles of me, and i live in small ass town. You live in a big city, damn you might have 20,000 people around you. Anyways, its a big online social thing, allows your to search by area code, put custom web pages up about yourself, people browse, you post whatever you want, even blog it out if you wish. You add people as "friends". Its a big online whore fest....kinda like facebook, you find madd people at colleges, and just people in your area.
These can be some filler friends...
But your looking to build a social cliche of your own...
In todays society, that means rising to the top in a sense, you have to have confidence, you have to move yourself the way you want to be moved. You need to dress the way that identifys you and makes you feel good about yourself. People love people that make them laugh, if you can make people laugh, and do it in a non-offensive way at that, you people will come to you.
In the end you sell out to buying in to trends, and next thing you know your in a frat house pledging because you want to be in the highest fucking social cliche you can get at a 40,000 student university.
In the end of this long rant, you need to get out and just...fuckin interact.How do you do interact, you need a wingman sometimes. A wingman that compliments you well. You can't bring a giant fugly friend with to wing it with at a social event.
I suggest if you want to find some cliche to throw yourself in to...
Go to the nearest university and mooch off there social grounds, go to the parties with your wingman, and find the girls, or make friends with the guys you find cool. Be approachable, don't be weird. Don't be a addict in front of them. Not everyone is cool with people popping pills, snorting things, smoking things, dropping things, or whatever you manage to find yourself doing. Oh yes, if you drink, don't be the one failing at the party. Like the one who gets so shitty drunk he can't form a sentance. I've done this, popped a ambien and went on a all night drinking smoking fest at a dorm.
If people ask where do you stay, tell them you live a city away and your like not going to their college, who cares, be like yeah they imported me this weekend, im homeless and I have 13 dollars, this 12 pack, will you adopt me. Something to make the girl laugh.
Yes, the social being we are.......
Too bad gas costs a shitload...
People have submitted idea's that can make you a center of attention....
Throwing parties with like 2 band's, getting like a field full of car's....this does take knowing people...you can get the word out though...
Selling drugs does give you a instant circle of fake friends. They really just want to use you for your drugs, and if thye can't use you they buy from you. They need you, you can force them to hang out, but they won't invite you to coffee with your friends.
Oh you said your little, work out some. It is kinda cool to look good in the mirror and at the beach.
What do you want in a girl? a pale scrawny hairy thing?
Oh I haven't covered it, but hobbies, and organized groups, this not only makes you known by people not only older than you, but maybe people that will get you jobs or other cool things. Some people fly radio planes, some people work on car's and things, some people play basketball, yeah, just things your like how about we meet up tonight and do it up.
Hey heres a funny pointless movie though to watch. "Waiting" it was just out in theaters, why watch it if its pointless?
It shows you a day in a restaurant. Its like, in the end not everyone is the same, but you can find friends who have more friends, who can all come together and be chill.
Don't forget people do get caught up in infactuations. Girlfriends, or drugs, work even. Some friends do drop off the radar. They go away to college, they spend 365 with there girlfriend, they are druggies that you don't approve of, or work 60 hours a week and just don't have a whole lot of time.
Look at where your high school friends have went...in some direction, they got a job, college or both, then they might have a girlfriend, some have addictions that take control, some friends have kid(s), some go in to the army, some die, some go to jail.
Really theres not alot of places to really "be". Your in some situation, and it most of the time sucks, if it doesn't your in the minority of humans. So you just suck it up and make the best of it.
Motivation, betta get on ya job.... "T.I - Motivation"
Edited by factory81 (11/15/05 03:23 PM)
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kotik
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Re: how the hell do you make new friends? [Re: factory81]
#4937389 - 11/15/05 04:24 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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school pride is overrated
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BoneMan
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 Re: how the hell do you make new friends? [Re: factory81]
#4937824 - 11/15/05 06:03 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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wow factory, your post wins first prize. thanks for all the suggestions.. I think i'll pass on tanning though.
a couple weeks ago I got invited to a party at the local state U. brought my guitar and jammed with a few guys. no one else even bothered taking a solo after me heh. anyway one of the dudes knew some dead songs and im a huge deadhead so we hit it off. could be the beginnings of a band.
and i do work out regularly. im not scrawny small, just short. and I am part of the music club at my college but theres only 3 or 4 other members, none of whom are interested in jam sessions.
I gotta find myself a worthy wingman. a big reason i dont go to many parties is cuz i dont wanna show up by myself
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 RandalFlagg
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Re: how the hell do you make new friends? [Re: BoneMan]
#4938260 - 11/15/05 07:31 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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Quote:
BoneMan said:
and i do work out regularly. im not scrawny small, just short.
What's up fellow munchkin? 5'7 over here.
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BoneMan
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Re: how the hell do you make new friends? [Re: RandalFlagg]
#4938346 - 11/15/05 07:49 PM (7 years, 7 months ago) |
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hey nice im 5'7 too. its not unreasonably short i guess. I dont even really notice unless im standing near some tall fucker.
Standing next to tall chicks freaks me out. females shouldnt be able to get any taller than 6'. i usually run away if i see a tall chick nearby, they're scary
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adoseofparn0z
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Re: how the hell do you make new friends? [Re: BoneMan]
#4953383 - 11/18/05 10:21 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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Eh, I didn't read the whole thread, but there are websites/online communities where you can find a whole bunch of people in that same age range. One of the most stereotypical nerds I know (Who is a good friend of mine, I'm a nerd myself) finally found a plethora of lady friends, after having never dated a girl in his life. I used to think those kind of websites were rather generic and had nothing but ignorant emos on them, but nowadays theres an abundant amount of all kinds of crazy people.
You'd be surprised at how big of a change a Google search could make for your life 
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factory81
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Re: how the hell do you make new friends? [Re: adoseofparn0z]
#4956583 - 11/19/05 06:20 PM (7 years, 6 months ago) |
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In my unprofessional mind people go a few ways after H.S.
1) Shipped away to college (kind of the "in" thing to do, have your parents take care of $30,000 in school bills). People here may just go to college, and or work but work is doubtful for the most part seems how a lot of your new found friends at Universities are given money by there parents.
2)Stay at home...
a.consider school done and work at what ever they find promising, or maybe they just have a trade down that pays okay.
b.go to trade school, or community college or business college.
3)Live shit filled lives, yes some of your classmates turned out to be strippers, prostitutes, drug pushers, thieves, car jackers, or just are in and out of jail and have totally unstable living enviroment.
Your friends from high school are all around you, some live in trailer parks or apartments, some have moved to the next city over, or even out of state. Living with a girlfriend or on there own, room mate even.
Your friends are part of your life plan, we find our social life can lack at times, and the only way to get to any of these people weather they are in any of those 3 area's is to get out. Where you get out to will some what shape your friends. Getting good friends is harder then a girlfriend in my opinion. People you can really get along with, or really trust, or be real good wingmen with, whatever.
Alot of people flat out suck, and you don't want them as friends. They lie, steal, blah blah, all the MTV drama you can think of. Or the people who exagerate to no end on subjects or talk out of there ass.
So you find your good friends, which will be hard. How gay is it to initiate chat with a guy now-a-days? Very...
Haha
I thought about this more today, just what can we fucking do for friends.
Getting out of the teenage years, and not being in a university, can be boring as hell times. You might have a job, that is so lame you wish to die. Community college as we said, is basically come and go, lets get the fuck out of here....at that alot of people use community college really as a jumping point to a big university. Not everyone has a high ACT or GPA out of High school....
I suggest working, and doing school, getting out, but just remaining on the goal of getting out of town. Do the american thing and get a student loan and pick a major in college at a big university. Go live in the dorms, and buy lots of condoms.
Guy that posted school spirit is over-rated.....hmmm, it is , if your not in the spirit....its the same as christmas spirit, thanksgiving, all over-rated. But its just what you make of the holiday or the occasion or the school. If you choose to not have some spirit....
Its not like its a big deal, but for instance, what did I do this afternoon, math homework, like 100 problems and a outline for the chapter. What do kids at universities do? Tailgate...
There is something to do almost at any given moment in college.
Whats the point of a piece of ass, if in the end its just that, or it turns into a relationship. Sure she may consume your days enough to take your mind off the fact you have only like 3 friends. But thats not what your really looking for.
Girls get, and are annoying. Almost them all. You will not put up with the shit a average chick puts you through on a 24x7 basis. Her taking like a hour and a half to get ready.
Interestingly enough, alot of girls manage to have there 4-6 main friends, maybe 10-15 distant friends they see at parties whatever, and they have a boyfriend they manage to spend every waking moment with and are happy with this...
Relationships suck, your young.
You do not want to deal with that shit, I do not promote one night stands per say, but don't make anything with any girl more then just dating a little. Your parents might get used to a new girl every week or two.
Go where your friends you want go...
Most people our age have uh, social life, party, and work or school on our mind. So thats why for me my suggestion so much has been, go to a big college. Its where all the people our age are....
Edited by factory81 (11/19/05 06:25 PM)
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