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 The Politics of Cheating 
#4514529 - 08/09/05 03:30 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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Explain. I don't get cheating. I don't understand why people do it, I don't understand how people can just go out and sleep with someone else when your supposed to be in a loving comitted relationship. If your gonna cheat, why not just get out of your relationship? I've never done it, if I even thought I may do it, I'd get out of my relationship, out of respect for that person, and obviously if I'm considering cheating, I'm not happy with them anyways. It also seems that everyone does it. I've been cheated on numerous times. Everyone I know has cheated or been cheated on. I feel so sheltered.
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Gillette]
#4514533 - 08/09/05 03:32 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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--no flaming---
Edited by gdman (08/09/05 05:35 PM)
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: spud]
#4514554 - 08/09/05 03:37 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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Quote:
spud said:
Either way, when a girl gets cheated on it's 100% her fault.
This is why you should be a pub mod: You tell it like it is. 
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the pub mods are a cancer on our society as a whole.
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Do kittens contain mescaline? Because they should.
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Gillette]
#4514568 - 08/09/05 03:43 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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No, Yes
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Gillette]
#4514574 - 08/09/05 03:44 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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I've been on both sides of that fence...I have cheated, and I've been cheated on. Contrary to what Spud said...I cheated because I was bored in the relationship at the time and needed somthing to fill that void, without having to go through all the hassle of a break-up....a temporary distraction if you will. That was 10 years ago, and I haven't cheated since...but I haven't been in a seriously commited relationship since either. I can completely accept the fact that I am a Hedonist.
Sex and emotions do not always have to go hand in hand....in fact I would venture so far as to say that for men, in many instances the guy can actually hate the woman, and still have sex with her.
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Rono]
#4514579 - 08/09/05 03:47 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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only reason ive cheated is cuz my girl was being a dumb bitch so i went out to a party and picked out a desperate lookin gal and got some puss for the night...
Edited by AliceDee (08/09/05 03:48 PM)
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Gillette]
#4514701 - 08/09/05 04:28 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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Honestly, I don't think too many people are suited for monogamy in the first place. If people were honest about that to themselves and others in the first place, maybe this wouldn't be such a problem.
Bottom line, if someone cheats, it's because they find their emotional or physical urges to be more important than another person's feelings. And rather than getting out of the relationship, they'll try and get the best of both worlds: the security of a current relationship and the fun/comfort of an affair.
Then there's the theory that men are hardwired to be more promiscuous than women. Given their respective reproductive downtimes, that would make sense. It takes one man to reproduce with quite a few women.
In which case, there are too many men on this planet. Time for another world war, I suppose.
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Gillette]
#4514710 - 08/09/05 04:30 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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what does STAL mean? 
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: SerioOria]
#4514757 - 08/09/05 04:46 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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For me, it's just one of those things that I couldn't do at all to my gf. I would have to break up with her before doing anything with anyone else.
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: SerioOria]
#4514771 - 08/09/05 04:52 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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Quote:
SerioOria said:
what does STAL mean?
n00b! 
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the pub mods are a cancer on our society as a whole.
pantsboy said:
Do kittens contain mescaline? Because they should.
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: SerioOria]
#4514778 - 08/09/05 04:55 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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SerioOria said:
what does STAL mean?
he he...STAl is an acronym for Sir Tokes A Lot...one of the old school members that has become somewhat of an urban myth around these parts... 
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Rono]
#4514796 - 08/09/05 05:00 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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We need the pic of him holding up the "Show us Your Tits" sign. That's a fucking intarweb n3rd classic. 
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the pub mods are a cancer on our society as a whole.
pantsboy said:
Do kittens contain mescaline? Because they should.
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Bobo]
#4514817 - 08/09/05 05:06 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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I cheated once... was about 8 years ago...
I was a virgin and my girlfriend wouldn't give it up, and being a virgin I would've given anything to lose the title... so I took the first oppurtunity I had then quickly broke up with her cause the guilt
Curiousity got me... hasn't happened again
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Gillette]
#4514897 - 08/09/05 05:28 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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I've never cheated and to my knowledge have not been cheated on. I have slept with a girl that had a boyfriend though. It only happened once, but I feel bad about doing it.
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: killme]
#4514931 - 08/09/05 05:34 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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--no flaming---
Edited by gdman (08/09/05 05:36 PM)
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Gillette]
#4515069 - 08/09/05 06:19 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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i assume you just were cheated on???? if so that sucks...it hurts, bad. the biggest mistake most people make is staying with a cheater afterwards. they ALWAYS do it again...ALWAYS...they are just more careful.
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Quote:
the biggest mistake most people make is staying with a cheater afterwards. they ALWAYS do it again...ALWAYS...
I don't think that's true at all...people change, grow up..etc.
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Gillette]
#4515079 - 08/09/05 06:23 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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Never cheated but have been cheated on and I caught the little devils. One of the guys I kinda knew had his hand on my gf's tits, kissing in the middle of a bar 
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Gillette]
#4515095 - 08/09/05 06:25 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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Who would cheat on Gillette ?
Dumbfuckers  .....
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: TYL3R]
#4515117 - 08/09/05 06:31 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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no shit.. shes the best a man can get...
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: AliceDee]
#4515143 - 08/09/05 06:42 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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Re: The Politics of Cheating *DELETED* [Re: killme]
#4515389 - 08/09/05 08:14 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: blink]
#4515824 - 08/09/05 10:32 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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i think cheating when ur younger isnt so bad...relationships arent nearly as serious...however its something that you should grow out of by the time your playing with really strong emotions.
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Gillette]
#4515875 - 08/09/05 10:48 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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I wouldn't cheat on a girlfriend.
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: HELLA_TIGHT]
#4515913 - 08/09/05 11:01 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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Quote:
HELLA_TIGHT said:
I wouldn't cheat on gillette.
Amen
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: TYL3R]
#4515930 - 08/09/05 11:07 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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I'd fuck a bitch til she bleeds, but I won't cheat on her.
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: HELLA_TIGHT]
#4515958 - 08/09/05 11:12 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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Quote:
HELLA_TIGHT said:
I'd fuck a bitch til she bleeds, but I won't cheat on her.
how romantic
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Gillette]
#4515963 - 08/09/05 11:13 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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It's a matter of "old" vs. "new". End of story.
Having said that, I've never cheated but I've been cheated on. It really sucks.
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Gillette]
#4515970 - 08/09/05 11:15 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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ur views on staying faithful make u about 200x hotter then u already are! 
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Learyfan]
#4515971 - 08/09/05 11:15 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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i think chicks cheat more than guys...but guys get the bad rap
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Quote:
KingOftheThing said:
Quote:
HELLA_TIGHT said:
I'd fuck a bitch til she bleeds, but I won't cheat on her.
how romantic
Fuck yeah it is.
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My husband said I have cheated but I say no because we were seperated. But I have never been cheated on to my knowledge.
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: peeper]
#4516025 - 08/09/05 11:27 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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Girls cheat much more, they're just more careful about it and can keep it secret better.
I don't cheat, I just get even for what I'm sure she's doing anyway.
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: peeper]
#4516027 - 08/09/05 11:27 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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Except when we did it! LOL111!!one!
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Gillette]
#4516162 - 08/09/05 11:49 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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I have ""cheated"" twice in my lifetime. Both within a 2 week period. I am not proud of it by any means and still regret it to this day. It was a fucked up situation though. My girlfriend at the time and I had been fighting really bad for like 3 or 4 months. Shit was really bad, when we would talk on the phone we would fight and we barely ever seen eachother. I thought the shit was dead but I was still in love and she was still in love with me...
This girl I had been talking to online and went to HS with was really coming onto me at the time I was fighting with my girl. One night me and girl were on the phone screaming at eachother like usual because I wanted to see her.
I got off the phone all upset and decided FUCK IT. I got 2 cases of Mike's hard lemonade and called up the chick from HS who I had been talking to online. She came over and we got WASTED. It was pretty bad. I was obliviated. I decided with my better judgement at the time that I shouldnt go through with it so I called up a buddy to come pick us up and give us a ride up to her house to drop her off because we were both wasted. We sat in the backseat of his car on the way up to her house and fucked around a bit kissing and touching.. When we got to her house she acted like she fell down in the grass and pulled me down with her and started kissing me (this is in her parents front yard by the way..) and whispering in my ear telling me "please take me into my backyard and fuck me". Again I decided to just leave. I told her I was too drunk which she knew was BS because I was grinding her while we were on the ground..
I talked to my girl and explained what happened she was really hurt and pissed off but within a few days she was acting really cool with me and wanted to see me. So I went to her house and we had a good night. After we took a dip her pool we were fuckin around and got right to the point where I was inside of her and she told me to stop.... I couldnt fucking believe it. I was pissed, I got up and told her I was leaving and was saying a bunch of stupid shit to her. This is where it gets fucked up. She was like ok if you want me just have me and rolled over and laid on her stomach.. So naturally I was like fuck it and I fucked her.. The whole time it just felt numb. Like no feeling at all coming from her.
After I left I was fucking hurt and felt like a fucking rapist or somthing. It wasnt a very cool feeling at all, let me tell you. About a week went by and shit got right back to being fucked up with us. Another night of the same bullshit and me feeling like a fucking fool I called up the chick from school again. Same routine, beers, fucking around, except this time we were in my car in my driveway. (too drunk to go anywhere and I didnt want to bring her into my room out of some kind of respect I still had for my girl.. I was still very in love just deeply hurt) I live with my parents and my little sister found out we were outside. She called up my girl and told her what was up. (unknown to me at the time). Well me and this chick were fucking around in the car I had my shirt off and was in the process of taking off her jeans when headlights are pulling into the driveway.
My heart sank and I knew exactly who it was. I hopped back into the drivers seat quick as fuck and threw my shirt on. My "girl" came walking up to the car screaming and telling the girl I was with to get the fuck out of the car. I got out and got a good grip on her arms and the chick took off and drove home wasted.
I'm not going to go into detail on what happened after the chick left but it was pretty bad. Needless to say my girl still loved me regardless of how very fucked up things were with us at the time.
She didn't like certain things about me and thought that if she acted the way she was acting towards me it would make me change the way I am. Totally fucking bullshit. It made me do the exact opposite and run away. If you ""love"" somebody you should love them for who they are not who you want them to be. If you ""love"" somebody keep them close don't push them away. Yes I do regret what I did but I do feel there was some justice done.
Just trying to toss out the idea there are many reasons somebody would cheat. It's not just about hedonism,selfishness, or being an """alpha male""".
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Edited by mattzdope (08/10/05 12:04 AM)
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: HELLA_TIGHT]
#4516254 - 08/10/05 12:02 AM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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Unfortunately I did cheat on my girlfriend once, but I didn't actually have sex, I just made out with her. But I felt absolutely terrible about it and sobbingly confessed a short while later. I love my girlfriend very much and didn't want to hurt her, but I had a moment of weakness and let my lust get the better of me. And I never did it again.
So I can understand how a person can have a moment of weakness, but I don't understand how a person can carry on two relationships at once. It just seems imature and cruel. My dad did that and pretty much destroyed our family.
Those people just aren't happy with themselves and don't know what they want, or want the best of both worlds.
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Gillette]
#4516281 - 08/10/05 12:08 AM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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I've never cheated and I'd like to think I never will. I don't know if I was ever cheated on. How would I ever know for sure? I'm pretty sure though that I helped a girl cheat.
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Gillette]
#4516621 - 08/10/05 01:10 AM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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I once cheated on a girlfriend - well it was multiple times with the same girl. I was young and didnt care. We broke up a few months later. Later on, I was with another girl - we were in a relationship for two years and she told me that she had been sleeping with this other guy for six months. I was devistated - totally heartbroken.
Because I learned how it feels to be fucked over like that, I would never cheat again.
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Vvellum]
#4517822 - 08/10/05 12:54 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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interesting, the replies aren't at all what I expected, in fact I expected alot more cheating and a lot less remorse....
I :: you guys
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Gillette]
#4517840 - 08/10/05 01:00 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Gillette]
#4517852 - 08/10/05 01:04 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: Gillette]
#4517946 - 08/10/05 01:35 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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I've cheated, but only in a really casual relationship with a girl who also cheated, and I didn't mind. In fact, "cheating" is a bit of a misnomer as both of us knew about it and were cool about it.
I would never cheat in a serious relationship.
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Re: The Politics of Cheating [Re: OJK]
#4518029 - 08/10/05 01:56 PM (7 years, 9 months ago) |
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I've never had a problem with maintaining actual physical fidelity, but I have a problem maintaining psychological fidelity. My mind wanders, you know what I mean? But I think most people are like that to a degree.
Generally speaking however, I'm the other guy. The guy that someone elses girlfriend is with on the side, even when I'm not aware of it at the time. It's not something I'm entirely proud of, but it just seems to work out that way a lot.
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