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ToiletDuk said:
It's a numbers game, really. Get out there and meet more girls, and soon you'll meet the right one. Plus, you'll gain experience and begin to have more confidence in yourself. You'll never find one with a defeatist attitude. Chicks seem to sense this very well....

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ToiletDuk said:
It's a numbers game, really. Get out there and meet more girls, and soon you'll meet the right one. Plus, you'll gain experience and begin to have more confidence in yourself. You'll never find one with a defeatist attitude. Chicks seem to sense this very well....

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I'm a chick myself, but confidence does seem to draw us in like a moth to a flame. 

p4kSoul: It sounds like your communication skills could use a boost.  I don't know if this is possible for you, but when I took a speech class in college it helped me quite a great deal socially. 

Here is something I just found:

Ten Ways to Improve Your Communication Skills

We all have people with whom we have to work to get things done.  Our ability to communicate with clients, customers, subordinates, peers, and superiors can enhance our effectiveness or sabotage us.  Many times, our verbal skills make the difference.  Here are 10 ways to increase your verbal efficacy at work:


Develop your voice ? A high whiney voice is not perceived to be one of authority.  In fact, a high soft voice can make you sound like prey to an aggressive co-worker who is out to make his/her career at the expense of anyone else.  Begin doing exercises to lower the pitch of your voice.  Here is one to start:  Sing ? but do it an octave lower on all your favorite songs.  Practice this and, after a period of time, your voice will begin to lower.

Slow down ? People will perceive you as nervous and unsure of yourself if you talk fast.  However, be careful not to slow down to the point where people begin to finish your sentences just to help you finish.

Animate your voice ? Avoid a monotone.  Use dynamics.  Your pitch should raise and lower.  Your volume should be soft and loud.  Listen to your local TV news anchor; take notes.

Enunciate your words ? Speak clearly.  Don?t mumble.  If people are always saying, ?huh,? to you, you are mumbling.

Use appropriate volume ? Use a volume that is appropriate for the setting.  Speak more softly when you are alone and close.  Speak louder when you are speaking to larger groups or across larger spaces.

Pronounce your words correctly ? People will judge your competency through your vocabulary.  If you aren?t sure how to say a word, don?t use it.

Use the right words ? If you?re not sure of the meaning of a word, don?t use it.  Start a program of learning a new word a day.  Use it sometime in your conversations during the day.

Make eye contact ? I know a person who is very competent in her job.  However, when she speaks to individuals or groups, she does so with her eyes shut.  When she opens them periodically, she stares off in a direction away from the listener.  She is perceived as incompetent by those with whom she consults.  One technique to help with this is to consciously look into one of the listener?s eyes and then move to the other.  Going back and forth between the two (and I hope they only have two) makes your eyes appear to sparkle.  Another trick is to imagine a letter ?T? on the listener?s face with the cross bar being an imaginary line across the eye brows and the vertical line coming down the center of the nose.  Keep your eyes scanning that ?T? zone.
Use gestures ? Make your whole body talk.  Use smaller gestures for individuals and small groups.  The gestures should get larger as the group that one is addressing increases in size.

Don?t send mixed messages ? Make your words, gestures, facial expressions, tone, and message match.  Disciplining an employee while smiling sends a mixed message and, therefore, is ineffective.  If you have to deliver a negative message, make your words, facial expressions, and tone match the message.


Good luck...hope these tips can help you. 

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paying for your compagny*.

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question_for_joo said:
ok well what is it about then?

i mean, women say men are shallow, that they just want some big tits and a nice ass. so women's desire for confident partner must be something equally evil then, right.

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EllemyshShade said:
I believe it has something to do with our animal nature. People don't give it enough credit. In the wild all sorts of reproduction dramas play out as many creatures strive to attain the best possible mate. For instance, many male birds are brightly colored to attract female interest. The more bright and healthy the feathers, the more interest garnered for mating.

The women liking confidence thing is similar. You are putting on a show (your bright feathers) to attract her interest as a potential mate.

Men like attractive women because attractive often means healthy, and the healthier the female speciman the more likely the males progeny will thrive. In the wild, this is very, very important.

In our modern world, survival of progeny isn't really an issue, but the drive to mate with a certain type of individual seems to have remained.

What I'm saying is that there are primal forces at work with human mating that we scarcely acknowledge or understand.

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RandalFlagg said:
Chicks can smell lack of confidence like dogs can smell fear.

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ToiletDuk said:
It's a numbers game, really. Get out there and meet more girls, and soon you'll meet the right one. Plus, you'll gain experience and begin to have more confidence in yourself. You'll never find one with a defeatist attitude. Chicks seem to sense this very well....

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