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 Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. 
#16030052 - 04/01/12 06:36 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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I know that a lot of things depend on the individual person in question, but I was wondering about how girl's feel about grand gestures? I am in a situation where I feel I need to do something kinda extreme to express how I feel. Movies/TV have brainwashed me into believe that this sorta thing works.
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 Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16030701 - 04/01/12 08:58 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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I'm a huge romantic and I think grand gestures are a fantastic idea as long as you aren't stalking this girl.
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: keyohnah]
#16030735 - 04/01/12 09:08 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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define stalking.
The community I live in seems to have a real culture of fear and if I ask some random person on the street what stalking is they might say something completely different than how I would define it.
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16030819 - 04/01/12 09:26 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Well, what's your situation?
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: keyohnah]
#16031112 - 04/01/12 10:44 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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well... I'd rather not say.
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16031367 - 04/01/12 11:56 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Haha, fair enough.
It's hard to say what crosses into the creep zone because, as you said, people all have different limits. Showing up at the doorstep of someone you don't know or has told you to leave them alone... kind of stalkerish. Showing up at the doorstep of someone you've been seeing... possibly really romantic.
If you can look at your situation and not think there is a possibility of ending up peppersprayed or getting arrested then you should go for it. If it's worth putting everything on the line for then you should see what happens.
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"Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story."
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: keyohnah]
#16031448 - 04/02/12 12:27 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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I sorta like how this chick sums it up.
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16032110 - 04/02/12 04:53 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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It's more about the way you do it, no matter what.
You could appear at her doorstep with a box of dolphin-shaped chocolates because you know that that's what she got just before her parents divorced, but if you're not comfortable enough, it will just look weird.
It's even weirder if you don't really know her.
Just go step by step, and make it sure it is clear that you're very interested in her before you show up at her hous with two horses.
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16032340 - 04/02/12 07:29 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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If it's your personality to make grand gestures to impress, go for it! If not, save it for the marriage proposal. How well do you know this person?
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16032388 - 04/02/12 07:57 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
keyohnah said: as long as you aren't stalking this girl.
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Anonymous said:
define stalking.
The community I live in seems to have a real culture of fear and if I ask some random person on the street what stalking is they might say something completely different than how I would define it.
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keyohnah said:
Well, what's your situation?
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Anonymous said:
well... I'd rather not say.
 That answers the question then.
OP do you two talk at all, or is it an "attraction from afar" type of deal? If it's the latter you're going to want to get to know her first....and more importantly, let her get to know you.
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#16032630 - 04/02/12 09:56 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#16032672 - 04/02/12 10:15 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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It does work, which is why its so popular on TV. On my girls birthday I got her a private open cab fire truck ride from my fire company, bought her diamond earings, cooked her a 5 course steak dinner to candle light, and gave her amazing birthday sex. She was so absolutely amazed and shocked that I cared enough to do all that.
Just dont do it too often because eventually you can turn into a catering bitch, which is the last thing you want. Been there, done that. Not fun.
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: XUL]
#16032681 - 04/02/12 10:19 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Hmmm, mustve felt pretty good after you pulled that off huh? I woulda loved to have that feeling.
You still with her?
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#16032687 - 04/02/12 10:21 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Hmmm, mustve felt pretty good after you pulled that off huh? I woulda loved to have that feeling.
You still with her?
No because I was a sniveling little bitch back then. I was overly romantic, insecure, and needy.
Although it was good while it lasted. Good memories.
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#16032695 - 04/02/12 10:24 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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I just straight up stopped going too far out of my way to do something too 'grand'. It ended up hurting me more than it pleased her. Doubled edged swored kind of thing. Kinda messed up, sure. I really do wanna do stuff that'll make her smile and want to brag about it, but she's just not that kind of girl I guess, idk.
Anyhow, op, go for it and good luck to ya
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: Anonymous #2]
#16033029 - 04/02/12 12:24 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Grand gestures definitely work. I'm a sucker for anything romantic myself but I can think of a few people who would just seriously creep me out if they did something extreme so it reaally depends on your situation. Like dark_star said, if it's an afar thing.. get to know her more. Otherwise, fuck it. Life is too short to not go for what you want and see what happens.
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: keyohnah]
#16033225 - 04/02/12 01:20 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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hmm.. since you won't explain the situation at all, I'll just say this.
If I was on the fence about whether or not I wanted to date someone, and they did something totally awesome to impress me, it would probably work and I would probably give them a chance. I like romance though.
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: vegansoup]
#16033245 - 04/02/12 01:26 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Women love anything that makes them feel wanted. Or that you spent time, money, and, effort on. Or whatever else further ties you to her whipping post.
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: GuruBushHippie]
#16034299 - 04/02/12 05:19 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Grand gestures definitely work. I'm a sucker for anything romantic myself but I can think of a few people who would just seriously creep me out if they did something extreme so it reaally depends on your situation.
Either wayQuote:
GuruBushHippie said:
Women love anything that makes them feel wanted. Or that you spent time, money, and, effort on. Or whatever else further ties you to her whipping post.
Haha! Happy in love, huh?
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: keyohnah]
#16034332 - 04/02/12 05:27 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
keyohnah said:
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GuruBushHippie said:
Women love anything that makes them feel wanted. Or that you spent time, money, and, effort on. Or whatever else further ties you to her whipping post.
Haha! Happy in love, huh?
haha no I'm not currently involved, but I was with the same chick for 4-5 years and another girl for 2 years. Even more poignant than those experiences is what I hear from female acquaintances about their boyfriends/significant others This is just what I have personally learned about women from my own experiences.
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: GuruBushHippie]
#16034613 - 04/02/12 06:37 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Haha, it just made me laugh.
Luckily not all women have whipping posts but I hear what you're saying. Sometimes I'm taken aback by the things that I hear.
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: keyohnah]
#16034651 - 04/02/12 06:46 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Haha, it just made me laugh.
Luckily not all women have whipping posts but I hear what you're saying. Sometimes I'm taken aback by the things that I hear.
The ones who don't are the ones who already have a really good relationship I guess. It makes sense, but it makes finding an awesome long term partner a nightmare. There's just not enough cool, sensible women to go around. Then again I would imagine good men are hard to come by as well  I suppose genuine people are hard to come by in general.
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: GuruBushHippie]
#16034698 - 04/02/12 06:58 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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They are most definitely hard to find. C'est la vieee.
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"Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant, they too have their story."
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Re: Grand Gestures. female opinions wanted. [Re: keyohnah]
#16034741 - 04/02/12 07:13 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Unfortunate, but true.
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