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Look dude, have some sense of perspective. This just a chick you talked to a few times, but never hung out with. It is not in any way a big deal. A bummer sure, I get that, but seriously, get over it, now. Sometimes chicks just aren't interested and there is nothing you can do. This is why you shouldn't get so romantic and caught up in your fantasy that this is the perfect chick. You hardly knew her. You'll meet lots of people, go meet lots of people!
Never send texts like "It's ok if you say 'no'...I'll understand...I just wanna know..." If she doesn't want to talk, she doesn't want to talk. You sound desperate as hell. What is she saying by not answering back? She is saying, she doesn't feel like answering back.
When you run into her again you could confront her "why didn't you answer my text?!?" and get blown off again, or you can give her a smile, keep walking, and grin to yourself as you think about all of the other chicks you've been talking to.
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Re: A little help/advice needed... [Re: Lynnch] #15977018 - 03/21/12 05:27 PM (1 year, 2 months ago)
I know it was desperate but like I said, what did I have to lose anyways? I at least wanted something definitive. A 'no' says just what it means and that's that. But silence means A MILLION things. Literally. Who knows? Maybe her phone got snatched and when she realized it, she deleted her facebook because she had installed Facebook Messenger for iOS with all her login info. That's a perfect explanation for the lack of responses and the deleted facebook profile. I mean, if it ain't definitive, how then do you know when to draw the line on someone who could potentially be the right person for you? However, I digress. None of us know the future and in the end, it's my call to make and my ass on the line.
You're right. I could either make the choice of wasting my time and energy on something that MAY or MAY NOT work out. Or I could better my chances and look elsewhere. Problem with that is that there are plenty of fish but most don't really catch my eye. I guess that's why I'm so caught up on this one person. Whatever though. I guess, what will be is what will be....
Sounds like you've finally put this to bed, but in the future:
Never try to move a relationship forward by texting. Call. If she likes you, you'll know.
Never demand a response from someone who doesn't respond, it comes off as really insecure. Just move on.
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You have nothing to gain from that kind of text, if she wanted to say no, she would have said no. You were simply assuming that her silence meant no, and you put those words into her mouth. A simple 'ok I guess you dont feel like talking, peace' would suffice, and leave her open to say she missed the previous one. Silence can mean a million things, thats why you don't read into it.
You have standards. Good. But don't get hung up on someone you hardly know. As for when to draw the line on someone who could potentially be the right person for you- There is attractive, and there is the right person for you. You don't find out if a person is right for you until, like, the 5th date. If the person you're attracted to does not reply to your advances, it is time to draw the line.
Its fine to waste energy on something that may or may not work out, just dont waste all of your energy on it.
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Re: A little help/advice needed... [Re: WhiskeyClone] #15978572 - 03/21/12 11:48 PM (1 year, 2 months ago)
Quote: WhiskeyClone said: Sounds like you've finally put this to bed, but in the future:
Never try to move a relationship forward by texting. Call. If she likes you, you'll know.
Never demand a response from someone who doesn't respond, it comes off as really insecure. Just move on.
Texting is a tool, however, I will call a lot more next time. I can't say I've put this to bed for good but I can say that I've gotten over it for the most part. I'm still pretty disappointed about it all, of course.
I guess if/when I do run into her, I'll just nod or smile if our eyes cross or something. Hell if we end up on the same elevator together or sitting at the same table in the library, I'll just say 'hi' and go about my business. To be honest, this whole thing has put her down in my eyes. Even if she has a change of heart - for whatever reason - and acts all interested and shit, I don't think I'll react the same as before. This whole "situation" just showed me what she's like when things get serious. In times of hardship people show their true colors. I wouldn't exactly call 'this' a time of hardship but you get the idea...
Again thank you all for helping me through this. Just pray for me that I don't remain this way forever...hehe
Quote: qman said: Men put on displays and show their feathers, women are dazzled by it, men get confidence from dazzling women, women get turned on by confident men, and so on until babies are made. Notice, in that scenario, the balls take the first step.
Nicely put
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