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 Okcupid frustration 
#15335098 - 11/07/11 11:14 AM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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I've signed up for the okcupid website in hopes of meeting some woman and potentially establishing a relationship. However, every time I actually get a reply it's usually short (one-two sentences). Currently, I've been talking to this one chick but all her replies are short and only answering my questions (i.e how are you? what's up..)
That is, she doesn't add absolutely any depth to the conversation. Doesn't ask any questions but responds to mine. Why do girls do this? Is it because I'm a stranger still? Why am I supposed to keep the conversation going? Every time I do manage to get a convo going girls will stop replying all together. Also, should I ask if she has a instant messenger in order to make conversation less sporadic?
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Sounds like she may be just replying to be polite and hoping that you get the hint. I'd move on personally.
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Anonymous #1
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Anonymous said:
Sounds like she may be just replying to be polite and hoping that you get the hint. I'd move on personally.
I guess so. It sucks though, I never have any luck with these fucking online dating sites.
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In my experience, you should only get 3-4 separate replies from someone before purusing an actual meet up. Between the profile itself and the message content, there is a limit to how much you can learn about each other "online".
As far as your responses are concerned, its hard to tell without seeing your actual message content. Your messages shouldn't be interrogations or bulleted list. The goal is to keep it light-hearted and informal, but still gain some useful knowledge.
The message back-and-forth should only be a generalized "asshole check" to see if its worth your time to meet up IRL.
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Anonymous said:
I've signed up for the okcupid website in hopes of meeting some woman and potentially establishing a relationship. However, every time I actually get a reply it's usually short (one-two sentences). Currently, I've been talking to this one chick but all her replies are short and only answering my questions (i.e how are you? what's up..)
That is, she doesn't add absolutely any depth to the conversation. Doesn't ask any questions but responds to mine. Why do girls do this? Is it because I'm a stranger still? Why am I supposed to keep the conversation going? Every time I do manage to get a convo going girls will stop replying all together. Also, should I ask if she has a instant messenger in order to make conversation less sporadic?
Sounds like you're looking for something serious. Most people on the free sites aren't. They're either on there because their friends are or they're just looking for more people to add to their facebook friends list.
My advice, if you're serious about internet dating, is to try one of the pay sites. People get more serious when money is involved. 
Not saying there aren't people looking for relationships on there. In my experience though, those people are few.
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Her:
hey man its all good its all chill. intros are intros you know. lol
Me:
Nov 5, 2011 – 5:27pm
yeah, i feel you. Just didn't want to say something so generic like : "hey, what's up....". lol. Speaking of which, what's up?
Her:
Nov 5, 2011 – 6:14pm
lmao way to not sound generic nm just chillin watching some movie.
Report this
Me:
My intention was to be sarcastic, lol. I'm sure you are aware of that. Which movie were you watching (since i'm replying a 20 hours later).
Her:
Nov 6, 2011 – 5:14pm
lmao it was called a little help
Me:
Ah, I haven't seen that. So, what's your cultural background? Where you born here or in another country? How many pets do you have?
Nov 6, 2011 – 7:40pm
its an independent film lol yeah I was born and raised here my parents are from Nicaragua. and I have just 1 dog he's a mixed he's a cocker spaniel with a dachshund
Maybe I'm over-thinking this.
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 Lynnch
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Not sure what to tell ya bud, that fact that you're getting replies at all is a good sign. Online dating always seemed like a numbers game, accuracy by volume, just keep messaging til you get one that actually talks.
I've gone on two dates that I found with plenty of fish, they didn't lead to anything. The last chick I actually got a response from ended up writing page long detailed messages only to suddenly never reply again.
If online dating taught me anything its that you just have to have to confidence to say hi to a girl, thats it. Either she responds and the conversation flows from there, or she doesn't and you move on.
I've had faaaar more success with girls in real life. Sure they're not all lined up for you to click at will, you have to have a little patience; but if you get out into the world enough, more often than not there will be a cutie right in front of you just waiting to get asked out. And surprise surprise, there is a deeper connection to be felt as you look into each others eyes for the first time.
PS Keep asking questions, keep her talking, you're trying to get to know her right? Right.
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: Lynnch]
#15335240 - 11/07/11 11:51 AM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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One time I used the free site.. plentyoffish.com or something like that. I found this girl who wanted to meet up.
She looked really fine in her pictures on the website but then I made her send me pictures on the phone before we met. She didnt look attractive to me at all and I was like... F that. Ill never go back to online meeting unless its facebook.
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: XUL]
#15335245 - 11/07/11 11:52 AM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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XUL said:
One time I used the free site.. plentyoffish.com or something like that. I found this girl who wanted to meet up.
She looked really fine in her pictures on the website but then I made her send me pictures on the phone before we met. She didnt look attractive to me at all and I was like... F that. Ill never go back to online meeting unless its facebook.
Was she obese or just ugly in the face?
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What has made them conceive that man must want a rationally advantageous choice?
I've become desensitized to these types of occurrences thus far. Yet, there lies a sensation of bitter disappointment embedded within.
FINE YOU IMBECILE; SUFFER!! IT IS YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE HURTING. NOTHING IS DETERRING YOU FROM ATTAINING THAT OF WHICH YOU INHERENTLY CRAVE. YOU HAVE LET THEM TAKE OVER YOUR MIND, YOU ARE NO LONGER IN CONTROL, YOU NEVER WERE.
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Lynnch
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I had the same thing happen,
I showed up to the coffee shop and thought I recognized the girl -was a little heavier than her pics indicated but not bad- turns out it wasn't her. Nope, when she did show up she was A LOT heavier than indicated. Chill girl, we talked for a while but there was zero attraction.
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pastyface69
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: Lynnch]
#15335337 - 11/07/11 12:21 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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I think a majority of the replies you get are from bots, but good luck anyways!
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pescadorabioso
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I think a majority of the replies you get are from bots, but good luck anyways!
Not necessarily, I mean on certain sites yeah. But it's not that hard to differentiate between a bot and an actual human. A bot's response almost always begins with a compliment and always implies for you to join some other site.
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What has made them conceive that man must want a rationally advantageous choice?
I've become desensitized to these types of occurrences thus far. Yet, there lies a sensation of bitter disappointment embedded within.
FINE YOU IMBECILE; SUFFER!! IT IS YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE HURTING. NOTHING IS DETERRING YOU FROM ATTAINING THAT OF WHICH YOU INHERENTLY CRAVE. YOU HAVE LET THEM TAKE OVER YOUR MIND, YOU ARE NO LONGER IN CONTROL, YOU NEVER WERE.
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XUL
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pescadorabioso said:
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XUL said:
One time I used the free site.. plentyoffish.com or something like that. I found this girl who wanted to meet up.
She looked really fine in her pictures on the website but then I made her send me pictures on the phone before we met. She didnt look attractive to me at all and I was like... F that. Ill never go back to online meeting unless its facebook.
Was she obese or just ugly in the face?
ugly in the face
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pescadorabioso
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: XUL]
#15335401 - 11/07/11 12:43 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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XUL said:
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XUL said:
One time I used the free site.. plentyoffish.com or something like that. I found this girl who wanted to meet up.
She looked really fine in her pictures on the website but then I made her send me pictures on the phone before we met. She didnt look attractive to me at all and I was like... F that. Ill never go back to online meeting unless its facebook.
Was she obese or just ugly in the face?
ugly in the face
That's a deal breaker 
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What has made them conceive that man must want a rationally advantageous choice?
I've become desensitized to these types of occurrences thus far. Yet, there lies a sensation of bitter disappointment embedded within.
FINE YOU IMBECILE; SUFFER!! IT IS YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE HURTING. NOTHING IS DETERRING YOU FROM ATTAINING THAT OF WHICH YOU INHERENTLY CRAVE. YOU HAVE LET THEM TAKE OVER YOUR MIND, YOU ARE NO LONGER IN CONTROL, YOU NEVER WERE.
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Me:
Ah, I haven't seen that. So, what's your cultural background? Where you born here or in another country? How many pets do you have?
Nov 6, 2011 – 7:40pm
its an independent film lol yeah I was born and raised here my parents are from Nicaragua. and I have just 1 dog he's a mixed he's a cocker spaniel with a dachshund
Maybe I'm over-thinking this.
IMO, the problem is you're asking one-liner questions without room for expansion. It's not a chat. Write the person a letter.
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Smith, P. Bull. Menninger Clinic (1959) 23:20-27; p. 27.
...most subjects find the experience valuable, some find it frightening, and many say that is it uniquely lovely.
Osmond, H. Annals, NY Acad Science (1957) 66:418-434; p.436
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: badchad]
#15335538 - 11/07/11 01:13 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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Me:
Ah, I haven't seen that. So, what's your cultural background? Where you born here or in another country? How many pets do you have?
Nov 6, 2011 – 7:40pm
its an independent film lol yeah I was born and raised here my parents are from Nicaragua. and I have just 1 dog he's a mixed he's a cocker spaniel with a dachshund
Maybe I'm over-thinking this.
IMO, the problem is you're asking one-liner questions without room for expansion. It's not a chat. Write the person a letter.
That's a good point. I just don't wanna come off as too nosy or desperate. I will do that instead, thanks for the advice 
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Online dating is okay - long as you put info in your profile to weed out the idiots and the people who are just in it for friends or sex (if you're looking for a girlfriend). Women on these sites are harassed non-stop usually, and have to sift through tons of junk things (exactly like what you said - how are you doing? you're hot, etc etc). When people don't bother to write a paragraph introducing themselves or talking about your profile in particular, it usually will just get deleted by anyone seriously looking.
If they have responded to you and haven't really said much about your profile or asked you questions, then move on (again, if you're seriously looking). There *are* lots of things you can learn about someone online before you meet. Not being able to communicate through a messenger service or emails beforehand is a bad sign.
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not meaning to put you down but your communication with the woman was weak...
my wife and i have two friends, 1 male and 1 female... they both were interested in meaningful relationships but every time they hooked with someone it ended pretty quickly... most times they did the ending... against our better judgment we tried to hook them up together, it lasted 3 months... both of them turned to free online dating services like you did... the female was bombarded with interest notifications... she selected a few and made contact... through communication all but one turned out to be quite the scumbags... she agreed to meet the one that seemed interesting and he was not only nothing like his picture but he tipped his hand on several occasions on the type of person he really was... she gave up... my male friend was alot like yourself only he tried his best to keep the communication upbeat and interesting... he never hooked up with anyone... ironically they both subscribed to eHarmony, i think it's like sixty dollars a month, i could be wrong though... both of them connected with the very first people eHarmony hooked them up with and both of them are in solid relationships right now... their partners are very cool people...
if you decided to go the eHarmony route you have to be brutally honest when filling out the fairly long questionnaire... if you're not honest your match may not work out... if you're slightly introverted, you have to say you're slightly introverted and so forth... one other tip... my male friends partner suggested they create a private room in stikcam to chat before they met... they spent four hours chatting with one another before they hooked up... it gave them a chance to see one another as well as chat... both of them had good feelings about each other after the stikcam meeting... it's just a thought... like someone else already posted, free websites attract all kinds of people, you never know what you're going to get, if you get anything at all... people on paid sites are motivated and honest... on eHamony you can look for any type of relationship from friends all the way up to long term commitment... to me it sounds like going to the free sites is like taking a piss into a fan set on high... just sayin'
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: cateyes]
#15337002 - 11/07/11 06:37 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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cateyes said:
not meaning to put you down but your communication with the woman was weak...
my wife and i have two friends, 1 male and 1 female... they both were interested in meaningful relationships but every time they hooked with someone it ended pretty quickly... most times they did the ending... against our better judgment we tried to hook them up together, it lasted 3 months... both of them turned to free online dating services like you did... the female was bombarded with interest notifications... she selected a few and made contact... through communication all but one turned out to be quite the scumbags... she agreed to meet the one that seemed interesting and he was not only nothing like his picture but he tipped his hand on several occasions on the type of person he really was... she gave up... my male friend was alot like yourself only he tried his best to keep the communication upbeat and interesting... he never hooked up with anyone... ironically they both subscribed to eHarmony, i think it's like sixty dollars a month, i could be wrong though... both of them connected with the very first people eHarmony hooked them up with and both of them are in solid relationships right now... their partners are very cool people...
if you decided to go the eHarmony route you have to be brutally honest when filling out the fairly long questionnaire... if you're not honest your match may not work out... if you're slightly introverted, you have to say you're slightly introverted and so forth... one other tip... my male friends partner suggested they create a private room in stikcam to chat before they met... they spent four hours chatting with one another before they hooked up... it gave them a chance to see one another as well as chat... both of them had good feelings about each other after the stikcam meeting... it's just a thought... like someone else already posted, free websites attract all kinds of people, you never know what you're going to get, if you get anything at all... people on paid sites are motivated and honest... on eHamony you can look for any type of relationship from friends all the way up to long term commitment... to me it sounds like going to the free sites is like taking a piss into a fan set on high... just sayin'
Kensho
Too late lol. But yeah, I dig what you're saying. I'm not a ladies' man But I appreciate your feedback/insight.
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i have a feeling women on dating sites get swamped by men like irl. what i do is just introduce myself and if they want to chit chat back and forth, i go on, and eventually i just bring up that i'm on yahoo im and ask if they'd care to talk more on there before i decide if i'd like to meet them or vice versa.
i just started going back a few weeks ago. i've been talking to a few people but eh, i hate the dating game. i don't want to settle and it's going to be hard to find someone who lines up with me. just gotta keep at it i suppose.
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: millzy]
#15337538 - 11/07/11 08:39 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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If I am just trying to find a girl to have sex with(no fatties), is OKcupid good?
I don't want anything long term.
I am decent looking(I take care of myself) and in good shape, so I'm pretty sure I am at least somewhat sexually attractive to the opposite sex.
I suck at women people in general 
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: Solemente]
#15337666 - 11/07/11 09:09 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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i can talk and meet just fine, i just have a hard time finding someone as weird as i am.
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: millzy]
#15337761 - 11/07/11 09:40 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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Well here's what worked for me in a sense .
My story
I made an Okcupid Account
Browsing the women on there I found slim pickings , not even solely on the grounds of common interest . Basically the few I could find were the ones I was physically attracted to .
I met a few doormats and slightly chubby girls
Sometime later I received an email about being attractive enough to get bumped up a bracket or something .
Then I got nothing but one night stands for like a year
As of June I met this bad ass girl whos drivin me crazy with her personal issues and a few of my own .
We've since worked it all out and shes madly in love with me .
I exchanged emails for awhile with people but I found I was to lazy or uninterested to take the time to keep up with those . So I did searches for people who had their I/M available for instant chat and most of my hook ups started here . I also answered 500 ( no joke ) of those questions to improve my matches . Eventually if your lucky you'll find a hottie online (more so now that its a popular mobile app) and just have a conversation with her , before you know it you'll be texting calling and fucking .
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: HeroMike]
#15338031 - 11/07/11 10:31 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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This "love" intrigues me. Teach me to fake it.
I have hope for me yet
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: Solemente]
#15338998 - 11/08/11 02:33 AM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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Skipped all the replies.
I haven't used any of these websites but from what I hear, you find someone, chat a little, then meet up asap (like make a date within 3 days of meeting)
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In my experience, you should only get 3-4 separate replies from someone before purusing an actual meet up. Between the profile itself and the message content, there is a limit to how much you can learn about each other "online".
As far as your responses are concerned, its hard to tell without seeing your actual message content. Your messages shouldn't be interrogations or bulleted list. The goal is to keep it light-hearted and informal, but still gain some useful knowledge.
The message back-and-forth should only be a generalized "asshole check" to see if its worth your time to meet up IRL.
Listen to this man, don't waste your time endlessly chatting. Im two years into a plenty offish relationship
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Simms
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I don't even get answers...
Country, where I am from, is quite small, and not many people in OKCupid. So the girls there have probably been messaged to death already.
How do you actually start a conversation in such places? Ask a question or what?
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: Simms]
#15339618 - 11/08/11 09:37 AM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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I don't even get answers...
Country, where I am from, is quite small, and not many people in OKCupid. So the girls there have probably been messaged to death already.
How do you actually start a conversation in such places? Ask a question or what?
I usually just tell them I think they're attractive (i.e beautiful)
then tell them I would like to get to know them. That's pretty much the only thing you can tell someone at first 
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TTT
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Yeah those are the messages I ignore.
I only respond to someone who asks me a question about my interests, challenges me, tries to relate to my interests (ie, I said I like Jehst on my profile, someone asked me if I had heard his new album, I responded), or anything else that indicates they took the time to read my profile and related to or liked similar things. If you say I'm pretty then its a good 80% chance I will not respond. I don't give a fuck if you think I'm pretty, I have better attributes than my physical appearance. I don't need to be told what I already know.
I also only respond to guys who are 70% or higher but usually I get as picky as to only respond to mid 80s or higher. I have noticed that guys that have a higher match rating are more likely to message me in a format I'll agree with and respond to as opposed to those with ratings lower than that. Generally they just say "Oh hey your cute we should chat" if its below 80%. 
Generally I don't judge people by their looks, but if someone is overweight I'll likely ignore them. In real life I wouldn't be as bitchy but the internet makes me more shallow as far as the physical appearance of those I respond to.
So all in all, if you want a girl to respond to you start talking about what she says she likes if you find something in common with her. Quality girls require quality messages. I know I'm awesome and I know what I deserve, you need to show me you realize this and challenge my position by asserting your awesomeness, attention to detail and ability to converse about topics that I explicitly state on my profile as being things I like. The answers are all there. Any possible message I would ever respond to is ALL on my profile. If you can't see it you deserve for me to dismantle you as a human being in a bitchy one-liner response.
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: TTT]
#15339798 - 11/08/11 10:41 AM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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So all in all, if you want a girl to respond to you start talking about what she says she likes if you find something in common with her. Quality girls require quality messages. I know I'm awesome and I know what I deserve, you need to show me you realize this and challenge my position by asserting your awesomeness, attention to detail and ability to converse about topics that I explicitly state on my profile as being things I like. The answers are all there. Any possible message I would ever respond to is ALL on my profile. If you can't see it you deserve for me to dismantle you as a human being in a bitchy one-liner response.
Damn TTT, you grew some balls since we last talked!  Must be all the sunshine getting to ya. 
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: Adamist]
#15339837 - 11/08/11 10:52 AM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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No its how I've always been, I've just grown more disappointed with the quality, priorities and intellect of most human beings and no longer give a fuck if they think I'm a bitch for having the standards I do.
People who care wouldn't be able to handle me anyways.
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: TTT]
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I've just grown more disappointed with the quality, priorities and intellect of most human beings
Me too... my faith in the world has been seriously shaken lately, especially towards women. Fuck it. I think I need to be more like this guy-
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TTT
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: Adamist]
#15339883 - 11/08/11 11:05 AM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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Naw, the acquiring of currency is just as empty as the pursuit of women for comfort/sex. Both are based out of false "needs". Misplaced sense of importance
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cherokee
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a lot of girls are on okcupid just to waste time and tease and argue with you but I found my girlfriend on there who I am madly in love with
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Simms
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: TTT]
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Naw, the acquiring of currency is just as empty as the pursuit of women for comfort/sex. Both are based out of false "needs". Misplaced sense of importance
I kind of disagree.
Pursuit of women often involves play, and it might not be true feeling when you finally have it, like you constantly have to be upgrading it.
For currency, you may have to do a lot of game playing also, but when you have it, you have it and yopu can do whatever you want with it -- Its true thing, there is no faking of buying stuff.
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: Simms]
#15339975 - 11/08/11 11:37 AM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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Actually I am equally cynical towards both females and currency- I just think that meme is amusing is all. 
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: Adamist]
#15340107 - 11/08/11 12:33 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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Ok, I made a profile thing. Let's see if I can get laid and/or meet a friend.
There actually looks like there are some pretty cool women in my area.
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: Solemente]
#15340599 - 11/08/11 02:49 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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Most girls who are on those sites just like the attention of being emailed for the most part. They almost never intend to meet someone.
Myself and many friends have tried it, the girls like all the emails and stuff from desparate guys, sad but true.
Stay away from the sites, its a waste of time and money.
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: qman]
#15343718 - 11/09/11 10:22 AM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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Its not the attention that I'm after as a female. Its curiosity. Unfortunately for most men, very few messages or people are worth the risk of meeting in person.
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: qman]
#15344460 - 11/09/11 01:59 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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qman said:
Most girls who are on those sites just like the attention of being emailed for the most part. They almost never intend to meet someone.
Myself and many friends have tried it, the girls like all the emails and stuff from desparate guys, sad but true.
Stay away from the sites, its a waste of time and money.
I don't think this is entirely true. You just have to read the profiles carefully. If they have a well-written one that details what they are looking for then you can pretty much tell if they are looking seriously or not. It's not fun to sort through hundreds of idiotic "I like u can we chat" emails. That's why if you bother writing something interesting or something that shows you're serious you will get better luck than single lines or questions that are more in depth that require longer answers. The problem is, try finding a profile that actually seems like they are trying to find someone for a long term relationship - they're few and far between on men's profiles, and women's seem just as rare.
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: qman] 1
#15344516 - 11/09/11 02:12 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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qman said:
Most girls who are on those sites just like the attention of being emailed for the most part. They almost never intend to meet someone.
That doesn't match well with my personal experience. I'm tempted to say: "you're doing it wrong".
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: sandi]
#15344541 - 11/09/11 02:19 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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Idk TTT, i read every profile carefully before i respond and i keep things short so the balls in their court if theyd like to talk more. Id rather not waste the energy trying to write a super cool response if theyre just going to pass on me. Nothing wrong with brevity. You may be missing out on a great guy.
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: millzy]
#15344593 - 11/09/11 02:31 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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I got approached, but its just "hi, how are you?"
Profile seems interesting with some setbacks, but what the hell should I write back to such message?
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: millzy]
#15345084 - 11/09/11 04:31 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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millzy said:
Idk TTT, i read every profile carefully before i respond and i keep things short so the balls in their court if theyd like to talk more. Id rather not waste the energy trying to write a super cool response if theyre just going to pass on me. Nothing wrong with brevity. You may be missing out on a great guy.
Unlikely. I am highly detail oriented and wordy. Most who aren't like that to the same extreme annoy me. I have been pleased with the people who I decided to carry on talking to but most don't live near me while the ones who fell between the cracks weren't intricate enough to maintain my interest, anyway. Layers, man, layers
Those kinds of what-ifs don't phase me either. I'm not honestly expecting to meet someone I could date, but I am open to the possibility of meeting someone who may be worthy. Until someone even closely meets my standards in some way, I most likely will not initiate a meet up.
I have met a couple of people off of Okcupid, for the record, but pursued friendships more than anything else.
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: Simms]
#15345094 - 11/09/11 04:34 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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Simms said:
what the hell should I write back to such message?
A picture of your penis?
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: Adamist]
#15345097 - 11/09/11 04:34 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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I concur
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Simms
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: Adamist]
#15345183 - 11/09/11 04:59 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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Adamist said:
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Simms said:
what the hell should I write back to such message?
A picture of your penis?
Idk, in her profile, some of the match questions are answered with "I am still a virgin". Which of course, could be a sign of interest in my huge dong.
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: Simms]
#15345308 - 11/09/11 05:28 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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Exactly. Now you're thinking. 
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 Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: Simms]
#15345398 - 11/09/11 05:48 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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Idk, in her profile, some of the match questions are answered with "I am still a virgin". Which of course, could be a sign of interest in my huge dong.
naaahhh... it's pretty simple... she's letting everyone know she's not in it for the sex... she'll probably weed out alot of potential hookups though but it's pretty clear she mentioned it for a reason... if she was looking for your huge dong, she would have said something like " i love to party" or "i love huge dong"... just sayin'...
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: cateyes]
#15345408 - 11/09/11 05:51 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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 Maybe she play hard to get?!?
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: Adamist]
#15345428 - 11/09/11 05:54 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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Adamist said:
Maybe she play hard to get?!?
 good point!
Kensho
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: TTT]
#15345491 - 11/09/11 06:06 PM (1 year, 7 months ago) |
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TTT said:
Unlikely. I am highly detail oriented and wordy. Most who aren't like that to the same extreme annoy me. I have been pleased with the people who I decided to carry on talking to but most don't live near me while the ones who fell between the cracks weren't intricate enough to maintain my interest, anyway. Layers, man, layers
Those kinds of what-ifs don't phase me either. I'm not honestly expecting to meet someone I could date, but I am open to the possibility of meeting someone who may be worthy. Until someone even closely meets my standards in some way, I most likely will not initiate a meet up.
I have met a couple of people off of Okcupid, for the record, but pursued friendships more than anything else.
cool.
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Re: Okcupid frustration [Re: TTT]
#15383205 - 11/17/11 11:10 AM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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I'm with you there at 81%. 
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