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2jew4u said:
Um is she/he is going through your phone and giving you the third degree over nothing, they prolly cheated

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pwnasaurus said:
Doesn't mean she cheated man, maybe she just doesn't love you any more.  It's tough to break up with someone when you still love each other, but aren't IN love.

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pwnasaurus said:
Doesn't mean she cheated man, maybe she just doesn't love you any more.  It's tough to break up with someone when you still love each other, but aren't IN love.

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2jew4u said:
Um is she/he is going through your phone and giving you the third degree over nothing, they prolly cheated

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Third degree for no reason. She never goes through my phone or cares if I go through hers. But shes cold distand and doesnt like my touch. She feels guilty when I do good things for her.

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Um is she/he is going through your phone and giving you the third degree over nothing, they prolly cheated

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Third degree for no reason. She never goes through my phone or cares if I go through hers. But shes cold distand and doesnt like my touch. She feels guilty when I do good things for her.

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classic symptoms... someone elses dick has cummed inside her, sorry

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Or she wants to get married- when they get that thought they get protective

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Cheating on people you love is disgusting.

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withoutawire said:
Cheating on people you love is disgusting.

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withoutawire said:
Cheating on people you love is disgusting.

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Not if you dont think "cheating" on someone is "bad" and they dont find out. Love does not equal sex.

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withoutawire said:
Cheating on people you love is disgusting.

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Not if you dont think "cheating" on someone is "bad" and they dont find out. Love does not equal sex.

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Cheating on people you love is disgusting.

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im a dude. I never had feelings for the other girls. I just wanted to fuck.

I put myself in a certain situation then got hard.


Anon 1... Talk it out, but prepare for the worst. Chances are your going to need to walk away from this one.

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withoutawire said:
Cheating on people you love is disgusting.

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withoutawire said:
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If you go on a witch hunt you'll find a witch. If you want to know, you'll have to talk to her directly.

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I personally couldn't or wouldn't ever cheat on someone I love.

The WORST is when someone uses being intoxicated as a reason they had sex. I find it's a pitiful excuse, just like being intoxicated and killing someone while driving.

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These two posts say it all.

Just like OP, lately I have been doubting the fidelity of my girlfriend. Late nights at sausage fest parties while your BF is 1100 miles away isn't a very reassuring scenario.

You should ask her outright, but be very careful about how you word it. Accusing her of cheating, when she's actually innocent, could cause her to get resentful.

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These two posts say it all.

Just like OP, lately I have been doubting the fidelity of my girlfriend. Late nights at sausage fest parties while your BF is 1100 miles away isn't a very reassuring scenario.

You should ask her outright, but be very careful about how you word it. Accusing her of cheating, when she's actually innocent, could cause her to get resentful.

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Don't expect to get much info if you ask them.  Chances are that they will just lie to your face about it.  If you want to find out if your significant other is cheating, most likely you will have to do some old fashioned detective work to find out the truth.

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No it doesn't. It just means you don't know how to treat the person you love with the respect and love they truly deserve.


If I was married, and it the right conditions I would give someone a second chance. If we were enganged or dating then there are no second chances.

People fuck up. It's not definite that I'd forgive, but if everything was done correctly I'd try at the very least.


I personally couldn't or wouldn't ever cheat on someone I love.

The WORST is when someone uses being intoxicated as a reason they had sex. I find it's a pitiful excuse, just like being intoxicated and killing someone while driving.

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Agreed. Being cheated on by someone you are madly in love with is absolutely devastating, and it is so hard to imagine how you could possibly put somebody who you love through such torment.

If you truly have respect for the one you love, you KNOW, without a single doubt in your mind, that you can not put them through that anguish - no matter what the situation or how intoxicated you may be! Cheating boils down to low values and selfishness.

Having your trust and goodwill completely violated is one of the biggest slaps in the face you can possibly give to another person. I can't comprehend how someone can do that to someone they claim to love or respect. Absolutely disgusting.

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If you truly have respect for the one you love, you KNOW, without a single doubt in your mind, that you can not put them through that anguish - no matter what the situation or how intoxicated you may be! Cheating boils down to low values and selfishness.

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If you truly have respect for the one you love, you KNOW, without a single doubt in your mind, that you can not put them through that anguish - no matter what the situation or how intoxicated you may be! Cheating boils down to low values and selfishness.

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In my opinion, there's two kinds of people: the kind that stick to the cerebral notion of 'love' and that will suppress their primal urges for abstract concepts such as 'respect', and the kind that can't help but play the game of conquest and that give in to physical attraction. Both kinds are perfectly capable of 'true love' and of understanding and respecting their partners; the only difference is that the first group has better control over their urges than the second. While I have never cheated on a loved one, the moral supremacy of the 'type 1' people consistently bugs me - it's not that their immoral bastards, they are just different from the obstinately loyal ones. Deal with it.

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it's not that their immoral bastards, they are just different from the obstinately loyal ones. Deal with it.

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If you truly have respect for the one you love, you KNOW, without a single doubt in your mind, that you can not put them through that anguish - no matter what the situation or how intoxicated you may be! Cheating boils down to low values and selfishness.

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In my opinion, there's two kinds of people: the kind that stick to the cerebral notion of 'love' and that will suppress their primal urges for abstract concepts such as 'respect', and the kind that can't help but play the game of conquest and that give in to physical attraction. Both kinds are perfectly capable of 'true love' and of understanding and respecting their partners; the only difference is that the first group has better control over their urges than the second. While I have never cheated on a loved one, the moral supremacy of the 'type 1' people consistently bugs me - it's not that their immoral bastards, they are just different from the obstinately loyal ones. Deal with it.

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Thank you.

Also, it could simply be that love changes. If a loved one cheated on you, did you deserve it? Be honest. Did they try to get with you but you turned them down time after time?

I've never cheated on a loved one, just a little high school thing one time years ago, but there is always two sides to a story. I felt justified cheating at the time because my girlfriend straight up sucked. She gave me sex lots and lots and then tried to just take it all away. I grabbed my balls and went and pounded other chicks. I was in high school, and I'm not gonna be played a fool by some little whore playing games.

Most of the time people don't cheat for physical attraction alone, they cheat because their relationship isn't going well. Communication is off, sex is lacking, whatever. I just always try to remember that there's two sides to a story.

If you don't want your lover to cheat, make sure you take away anything they would go to another person for. Don't be annoying and obsessive, but fuck 'em dry and give them meaningful conversation and show them that they are LOVED and WANTED. I almost fucking GUARANTEE ladies that if you blow your man once a day he won't bounce to find another girl to do it. He's already got his fix for the day. Same for you men.

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When someone gives signs or feedback that you are not fulfilling their needs (sexual, emotional), and you are not willing to change - thats one thing.  Cheating when you don't have the courtesy to mention anything is wrong or the spine to end the relationship, is completely unacceptable. Part of maturity is being able to be open and honest about your needs and emotions, and changing your situation if those needs aren't being met. My girlfriend slept with another man, a week before our one year mark, and she STILL can't tell me why - drives me crazy.

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