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 can u forgive a cheater? 
#14700500 - 07/01/11 08:10 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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does that cheater even deserve it?
should the cheater saY HE cheated or just not tell her n try n stop cheatin?
whys it even called cheatin?
Its not like a shortcut or anythin and it definately doesnt get you ahead and unlike cheating in school it can make u feel bad
feeling bad sucks
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Re: can u forgive a cheater? [Re: Hologram]
#14700506 - 07/01/11 08:14 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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Personally, I could forgive a cheater, but I would never forget it. Also, I would value it if she told me instead of keeping it a secret; I'm bound to find out sooner or later anyway. But your mileage may vary.
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Re: can u forgive a cheater? [Re: Hologram]
#14700509 - 07/01/11 08:14 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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Quote:
Hologram said:
does that cheater even deserve it?
should the cheater saY HE cheated or just not tell her n try n stop cheatin?
whys it even called cheatin?
Its not like a shortcut or anythin and it definately doesnt get you ahead and unlike cheating in school it can make u feel bad
feeling bad sucks
if you dont forgive the cheater they dont care if you do forgive the cheater they dont care. they are cheaters forever. its a way of life. my current "love interest" (im fucking obsessed) is a cheater big time. worse she gets super jealous if the man even LOOKS at another women with any kind of romantic interest.
its a disease there is no cure.
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well that makes cheater feel better bout cheatin if thats true
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Re: can u forgive a cheater? [Re: Hologram]
#14700526 - 07/01/11 08:26 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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Quote:
Hologram said:
well that makes cheater feel better bout cheatin if thats true
they have no feelings thats why they cheat
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Re: can u forgive a cheater? [Re: Hologram]
#14700536 - 07/01/11 08:32 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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Quote:
Hologram said:
does that cheater even deserve it?
should the cheater saY HE cheated or just not tell her n try n stop cheatin?
whys it even called cheatin?
Its not like a shortcut or anythin and it definately doesnt get you ahead and unlike cheating in school it can make u feel bad
feeling bad sucks
ok its all about being sneaky and behind the back like a spy. power and control of someone else. what better way if they dont even know its happening? until later when everyone finds out and feelings get hurt.
i personally prefer the double cross cheat. very complex move but quite effective...not recommended for the faint of heart.
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Re: can u forgive a cheater? [Re: Hologram]
#14700984 - 07/01/11 11:51 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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I would say yes, I would forgive, but the relationship would be over (I divorced my exwife over something like this, so I'm not all talk on this one. Also, I have full custody of the kids.) A relationship is built on trust. Once the trust is gone, it's gone. I did forgive her, though. To not forgive her would be me doing damage against myself, not her.
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Re: can u forgive a cheater? [Re: Hologram]
#14700992 - 07/01/11 11:53 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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you are more than a cheater....you are a pathological sex addicted cheater
clean your act up son
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Re: can u forgive a cheater? [Re: cherokee]
#14702903 - 07/01/11 07:13 PM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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I could forgive a cheater (as in continue the relationship), under the right circumstances. 95% of the time it would probably be the wrong circumstances though
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Re: can u forgive a cheater? [Re: mick]
#14704135 - 07/01/11 11:40 PM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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forgive yes, forget no.
if a chick cheated on me and i was in a relationship with her cool, all bets are off, but can we be friends after, sure.
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Re: can u forgive a cheater? [Re: rackem]
#14704376 - 07/02/11 12:19 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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I could forgive a person but I would want nothing to do with them afterwards. I don't think it's worth it to stay in a relationship after a situation like this because you'll likely have some major trust issues and insecurities which will slowly eat at you.
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i forgave the girl im still with
its defintaley very circumstantial
its not like i wasnt askin fo it
we been good since tho, even me, believe it or not
Besides like a kiss or a blowjob here n there
watever i try
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Re: can u forgive a cheater? [Re: Hologram]
#14704901 - 07/02/11 02:31 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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i couldn't/wouldn't.
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rackem said:
forgive yes, forget no.
if a chick cheated on me and i was in a relationship with her cool, all bets are off, but can we be friends after, sure.
this is how i feel.
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Re: can u forgive a cheater? [Re: dummy] 1
#14707049 - 07/02/11 05:03 PM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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Forgive yes. Continue relationship no.
They don't respect you if they cheat. Never date someone who doesn't respect you.
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Women who cheat are worse. They usually have major psychological problems and attention-seeking issues.
Guys are more promiscuous by nature, so it's not quite as abnormal when a guy is a cheater. They just want to fuck something different.
Go ahead and get mad about what I said. I know someone's going to. I'm still right. 
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Quote:
mick said:
I could forgive a cheater (as in continue the relationship), under the right circumstances. 95% of the time it would probably be the wrong circumstances though
95%99%
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Anonymous said:
Women who cheat are worse. They usually have major psychological problems and attention-seeking issues.
Guys are more promiscuous by nature, so it's not quite as abnormal when a guy is a cheater. They just want to fuck something different.
Go ahead and get mad about what I said. I know someone's going to. I'm still right.
Personally, I don't think so. BUT, if we were in a very long term.... No, actually I don't think i could. Ever. But maybe cause I'm saving myself for my wife?(if I can keep the self control up, LOL)
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Re: can u forgive a cheater? [Re: Hologram]
#14729439 - 07/07/11 02:42 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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Quote:
Hologram said:
i forgave the girl im still with
its defintaley very circumstantial
its not like i wasnt askin fo it
we been good since tho, even me, believe it or not
Besides like a kiss or a blowjob here n there
watever i try
Cheating is kissing and certainly blowjobs. Intimate, sexual contact is cheating. Intimate contact is the road to cheating and is not okay.
If I was with someone many years and we were going to marry (real plans), or it was my wife then I would try to give them a second chance. That doesn't mean it'd work, but I'd be open to it. If they cheated a second time then they can get all their shit I left on the front lawn and fuck off.
If it was a girl I had been dating for one day or two years and we were not engaged or married then I would not consider the sexual chance (just a chance, depends on my personal ability to deal with it like I said before), then I would break up with them and that'd be that.
If you can't respect me, or love me enough to not cheat then we aren't meant to be together. I don't doubt that mistakes happen, but a mistake does not justify anything. Cheating is cheating for me, and it's too bad that she made a mistake, but she fucked up so too bad for us. I won't get back you.
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Re: can u forgive a cheater? [Re: Hologram]
#14729809 - 07/07/11 06:33 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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I'm a strong believer in forgiveness. However, I'm also a strong believer in learning from one's mistakes. So yes, I'd forgive a cheater, but I'd dump their ass and never trust them again.
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Re: can u forgive a cheater? [Re: Hologram] 1
#14730291 - 07/07/11 11:10 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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Quote:
Hologram said:
i forgave the girl im still with
its defintaley very circumstantial
its not like i wasnt askin fo it
we been good since tho, even me, believe it or not
Besides like a kiss or a blowjob here n there
watever i try
Disgusting.
I wish I knew your girl so I could tell her how much of an asshole you are.
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Re: can u forgive a cheater? [Re: pwnasaurus]
#14730315 - 07/07/11 11:17 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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she'd laugh and say i know
god bless her
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Re: can u forgive a cheater? [Re: Silversoul]
#14730369 - 07/07/11 11:31 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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Silversoul said:
I'm a strong believer in forgiveness. However, I'm also a strong believer in learning from one's mistakes. So yes, I'd forgive a cheater, but I'd dump their ass and never trust them again.
I dumped mine but she came crying back and wouldnt give up. This led me to believe she hadmade a genuine mistake so i took her back into my arms.
I think its easier to get over your partner cheating when u can get actually ass, lol.
Now i wont stand for that shit because we are older and have grown alot together.
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IMO when love is young, there will be mistakes.
Most guys get hurt n cry n shit n become a recluse for a lil(its ok i've done it)
when i got or get hurt..
I go into maniacal drug and sex binges so she knows if she dont wanna hear bout me being a total crack slut she better not fuck around.
Im all fucked up i know, and thats why i love that this chick actually likes me.
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LunarEclipse said:
Quote:
Hologram said:
does that cheater even deserve it?
should the cheater saY HE cheated or just not tell her n try n stop cheatin?
whys it even called cheatin?
Its not like a shortcut or anythin and it definately doesnt get you ahead and unlike cheating in school it can make u feel bad
feeling bad sucks
if you dont forgive the cheater they dont care if you do forgive the cheater they dont care. they are cheaters forever. its a way of life. my current "love interest" (im fucking obsessed) is a cheater big time. worse she gets super jealous if the man even LOOKS at another women with any kind of romantic interest.
its a disease there is no cure.
Wow, you're so dumb.
With that said, I would forgive. It would take a while to build my trust but I understand people make mistakes. I am not better than anyone else, so why should I damn them for acting impulsively if its not usually in their character.
If they were a serial cheater, they wouldn't get to be with me in the first place unless I didn't know of their past...which is why I only date long term friends.
If I really cared about someone and knew they were sincerely sorry, I would continue the relationship. You can't expect no mistakes when trying to maintain a relationship for a life time.
For the same reason, if they were a short term partner, I would dump them because it would compromise my sexual health.
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Re: can u forgive a cheater? [Re: Hologram]
#14762615 - 07/13/11 03:33 PM (1 year, 9 months ago) |
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Deserve it? no.
Not tell the person? no.
Why's it called that? Idk.
Imma live in Lebanon, or some shit like that... If a husband cheats you can cut off his left leg. XD lol 
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my dads from lebanon  but you cant do that. the wife actually has much more to worry about, even though its one of the most liberal middle eastern countries.
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evilgothicjenn
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I never said I was sure on where XD Lol, a messed up friend told me about it... It was something similar with an L I do believe... Wherever it is, Imma go there. ^_^
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sazzelb
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once a cheat always a cheat... why cheat if your with someone. just break up with them if your not happy..
not fair to hurt someone like that...
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Re: can u forgive a cheater? [Re: sazzelb]
#14778134 - 07/16/11 06:25 PM (1 year, 9 months ago) |
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sazzelb said:
once a cheat always a cheat... why cheat if your with someone. just break up with them if your not happy..
not fair to hurt someone like that...
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Re: can u forgive a cheater? [Re: Humility]
#14780612 - 07/17/11 09:32 AM (1 year, 9 months ago) |
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ho's dont act right
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