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DON'T FUCKING DO IT.
Putting aside the fact that you girlfriend sounds like a shitty girlfriend, there's the logical argument to consider:
If this girl was REALLY going to be with you the rest of your life, then why in the fuck does it matter if you get married now, or next year, or five years from now? You're going to be together forever anyway, right, so why the fucking rush?
DON'T DO IT.
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It's really up to you. I had a gril that I loved who pulled this shit. She demanded that I marry her. I flat out refused because I think religion is shit and marriage is a religious act. Plus she was doing it because her bat shit crazy religious family was pressuring her. We ended up leaving each other shortly after. Honestly, I should have done it because I loved her, and probably still do six years later. I have nothing but a miserable, depressed alcoholic, sex deprived piece of shit ever since...
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 Re: Girl friend Said  [Re: automan]
#14626236 - 06/17/11 02:41 AM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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I, personally, don't do well with ultimatums.
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Re: Girl friend Said [Re: fbi365]
#14626877 - 06/17/11 09:16 AM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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It's really up to you. I had a gril that I loved who pulled this shit. She demanded that I marry her. I flat out refused because I think religion is shit and marriage is a religious act. Plus she was doing it because her bat shit crazy religious family was pressuring her. We ended up leaving each other shortly after. Honestly, I should have done it because I loved her, and probably still do six years later. I have nothing but a miserable, depressed alcoholic, sex deprived piece of shit ever since...
OMG where you with her sister? Thats how her family is And they are Catholic- But nah wont look back- Dont really think, that I am capable of genuine love- Or just havn't found the right girl, My problem is i Don't trust a bitch and never put nothing past her. And i am miserable and depressed now.
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Re: Girl friend Said [Re: 2jew4u]
#14626913 - 06/17/11 09:34 AM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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thats crazy shit right there. Dont do anything you dont want to cuz it can backfire on your ass quickly. Me and my husband were dateing for 5 years, engaged for 1 and then got married. Dont do anything unless you are absolutely ready for it
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Word thats what i tried to tell her-
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Re: Girl friend Said [Re: 2jew4u]
#14629062 - 06/17/11 06:30 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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married. And really dont want to marry into her family, they are all a bunch of Bitches, that tell their husbands what to do etc. Or if she does something for you she holds it over your head, So what should I do ?
run like hell.
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Re: Girl friend Said [Re: greys]
#14657923 - 06/23/11 05:38 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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I don't know much about you or her, but even lacking so many details, she sounds like a bad apple brah. Don't do it. Love ain't about ultimatums if it isn't for your own wellbeing, and definitely not ultimatums that involve leaving you in the dust. The fact that she can so easily say that she's willing to terminate the relationship speaks volumes about her loyalty, or lack thereof. Don't stick it out with a chick who's more loyal to her family/religion/whatever than she is and will ever be to you. The only time relationships like that ever work is if the guy actually enjoyed being treated like a lap dog, but consider this: say you marry her and start bending to whatever other demands that she will inevitably force upon you. How do you know she won't lose respect for you as you become more and more subservient to her? Some bitches are crazy like that. They try to rule your life, then pull this "BE A MAN" shit on you when you actually get settled into the idea of them ruling your life.
She sounds to me like somebody who will thrive more and more on conflict over time.
Now, I'm curious about you. Have you been in many relationships in the past? Do you consider yourself lucky to even have a relationship at all, and have trouble talking to girls or whatever? It doesn't sound like you do, given that esteem issues like that are usually more common in people who aren't independent, but it's worth asking. If you are, know that there IS someone out there who will be a MUCH better fit for your personality and lifestyle. Even if it takes five years, ten years to find her, you will be so glad that you didn't settle and commit to the nutjob that you're dating now. If you're not, then you shouldn't have any problem kicking her to the curb and snagging a cool, laid-back girl who would respect your hesitancy with the idea, and maybe even feel the same way.
tl;dr: Don't do it. Never marry a chick who's more loyal to her family/religion/whatever than they are to you unless you're a desperate self-loathing submissive who likes that sort of thing. Better fish in the sea, etc.
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Re: Girl friend Said [Re: Gill]
#14658477 - 06/23/11 11:11 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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I don't think that i have a problem talking to girls- Hell Lots of girls talk to me, in random places- But since living in the Mid west, it has changed a bit- I am getting older, and a lot more girls have kid(S)- And i am not really into that drama, x baby daddy, BeBe kids, etc. I have has a at least 5 realtionships last over a year. That i can remember right now- One was almost 5 years- This one with this Girl is going on 2years in August. We had talk she backed off all the Bs, B/c i left for a couple days- But still the underlying things are still there-
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Re: Girl friend Said [Re: 2jew4u]
#14658993 - 06/23/11 01:32 PM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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I think its fucked up she made you quit growing shrooms.
I'd take freedom over marriage with a controlling wife any day.
50% of people get divorced. If I ever get married it better be with the most awesome girl ever
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Re: Girl friend Said [Re: 2jew4u]
#14660757 - 06/23/11 06:01 PM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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fbi365 said:
It's really up to you. I had a gril that I loved who pulled this shit. She demanded that I marry her. I flat out refused because I think religion is shit and marriage is a religious act. Plus she was doing it because her bat shit crazy religious family was pressuring her. We ended up leaving each other shortly after. Honestly, I should have done it because I loved her, and probably still do six years later. I have nothing but a miserable, depressed alcoholic, sex deprived piece of shit ever since...
OMG where you with her sister? Thats how her family is And they are Catholic- But nah wont look back- Dont really think, that I am capable of genuine love- Or just havn't found the right girl, My problem is i Don't trust a bitch and never put nothing past her. And i am miserable and depressed now.
Lol. This girl's family was jehova's witness (yuk) and they started to pressure her into going to church, which is when things got weird, not coincidentally, that was right before I peaced outa there...
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Edited by fbi365 (06/23/11 06:02 PM)
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Re: Girl friend Said [Re: fbi365]
#14673653 - 06/26/11 07:38 AM (1 year, 10 months ago) |
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I may be young but I can tell you from experience 2 years dating plus 1 year living together (optional 2 years living together), really raises your chances of knowing if they are right. If it's not 3 years together fuck it in my book.
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Ask yourself:
At best you spend the rest of your lives together; is it worth it?
Why is she giving you an ultimatum? Is she worried you may leave her or some other reason? Talk with her, ask her why.
Well the relationship improve by getting married?
Maybe she has an unrealistic view on marriage and life in general. Does she? Will this hinder your feelings for her?
Is she doing this for both of you, or just her? If just her, are you willing to compensate for her selfishness?
Personally, I think if two people can't live together without some moral/legal bond, I don't think the relationship is strong enough to last anyways. Love is what bonds people together, not metal and paper.
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why the dilemma? is she really hot or something? suck a mean dick? i mean what
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ultimatum.
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Yeah. That's really not cool. She is MUCH too childish for you to even begin considering to marry her. She is clearly not mature enough.
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