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 pachoo
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 Re: Kissed my good friends girlfriend... again  [Re: filthydee]
#15150991 - 09/29/11 03:59 AM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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dude, i am so confused. this is a really bad situation. it looks like you are her second choice, like some posters already said.... and then in the original post. she's only noticed the spark for six months. you for four years. get away from her homes. she's acting on her loneliness in her relationship.
but you probably won't. you've already let it go too far. sucks man.
now you have to wait for the fires to burn out. there's only two scenarios.....
a) she will eventually tell her bf, your friend, about the whole shebang. big fight between them. tension with you, probably a fight. all friends in that tight circle thinking you're both assholes and shun you. maybe they'll forgive you. who knows..
b) they break up and then everyone still gets mad because now you're picking up your friends scraps. not really saying she's a scrap. but you got second picks. it doesn't matter how much attraction you have for each other. then, probably some shunning. maybe forgiveness.
my advice, cool it the fuck down. it's gonna make everyone feel uncomfortable. and she's not in her right mind. and you're pining. too much man... makes my stomach queasy. you sound like a really sweet guy. don't hurt yourself over this. get out in the world and stop partying. you need to think.
and what the hell. how the hell do you have so many friends but be alone on your bday?!
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Re: Kissed my good friends girlfriend... again [Re: pachoo]
#15151012 - 09/29/11 04:10 AM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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what you say is true, i dont understand the female mind so idk how it happened, i had an atraction for her when i first saw her but i kept it quiet and never said anything about it.. my ex used to get shitty when i said i had a thing for her
i dont knwo where her feelings came from, i dont mean to actually blow my own horn here but it has happened a few times where i just completely dont pick up on signals from girls that they are interested until its too late or something bad happens and by that time im too smitten or w/e to stop it. im a complete emotional pushover in these instances.. there has been afew times girls have come onto me saying things like "theres just something about you" because I NEVER actively seek out girls, dont pick up.. ever... i suffer droughts consistently all the time unless i'm actually seeing someone, which is never.
i hate to think of me as a second choice but it is a harsh reality, before i had a massive crush on her but i could deal with it, now i have the same feelings but am suffering a loss and a kind of rejection or something
idk im going to see her tonight and try and talk about it but i get the feling its going to be realy hard to talk about.. and awkward.. idk i really want to sort this out, i keep having visions of me and her hooking up and being together and every time i know she's going to be somewhere same as me i look forward to it because i just want to talk to her and hang out with her because i really enjoy her company its ridiculous, and i know she enjoys mine we've always gotten along like ahouse on fire, maybe she's subconsciously picked up on my feelings for her through eye contact or w/e fuck knows
meh im just rambling
thanks for support, this is a very easy scenario to be just be flamed and called a criminal.. emotions can get so messed up in these kinds of situations
she said she would never tell him because she knows just how much damage it would do to everything, and i trust her on that, i make her out to seem like a real bad guy or something i guess, she isn't.. it's a combination of the both of us and a situation, i dont put any blame on her, i feel bad for letting it get to this point
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Re: Kissed my good friends girlfriend... again [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#15151073 - 09/29/11 04:43 AM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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no way is anyone a bad guy. well maybe.... because you two are already going behind his back with all the emotions. i consider that a cheating flag. eep. but hey, feelings ARE feelings. no one can change them.
but she needs to buck up and stop worrying about how hurt her bf is going to feel. she's being a fucking pussy. tell her i said that. heh. seriously. she needs to choose. and if she doesn't it's going to hurt everyone around. bc what if you two keep at it? you are definately going to get caught. no doubt about that. bc you're going to want more and she's not going to give it to you. bc of the fear of being put in the relationship doghouse? that's total bullshit and i know i'd be pissed if i were you. and then bf is going to be pissed. then she'll feel shitty. and EVERYONE is going to get mad.... real mad.
tell her to choose. or stop. she needs to do it and you need to keep off her. put that dick away!! and stop being a pushover! and i say this in the nicest way possible.
good luck hombre.
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Re: Kissed my good friends girlfriend... again [Re: pachoo] 1
#15151077 - 09/29/11 04:45 AM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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i mean, its going to already hurt.... but if it continues... it's going to hurt like..... on an *other word not being epic* proportions.
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Re: Kissed my good friends girlfriend... again [Re: pachoo]
#15151173 - 09/29/11 05:49 AM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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Damn this seems so familiar. I can relate to like every part, even the girls like me cause i dont like anyone thing. Ive been in a relationships for the last 11 months tho. But anyways the first half i disagreeded with you being an asshole because i had to hook up with a girl while i was dating someone it just like had to happen u could feel the sparks. And now weve been together for 11 months lol.
And omg our group of friends is like the show friends and that 70's show also. Ohh and the girl i was dating i dont see anymore but one of the kids in our crew likes her, and my girlfriend became part of the crew. Its totally cool with the kid btw.
Anyways about halfway through this thread it started to seem like you were a second option. During this past week where you guys havent really talked do u still look like u like her? I dont what advice to give right now im curious about more details.
Do you know if they have been having sex this whole time you two have been getting all cuddly?
That seems pretty important.
I feel like i gave a shitty response but i do wanna help out i feel like i can relate
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Re: Kissed my good friends girlfriend... again [Re: remember_me]
#15151821 - 09/29/11 11:13 AM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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pachoo you gave some good scenarios lol.
But she has chosen. The other guy. She is still with the other guy. Anon is just an ego booster at this point. I feel sorry for the guy.
Anon your going to talk to her about it? about what? tell her how you feel? she knows all this, she chooses her bf over you. She was just testing the land to see if the grass was greener on the other side. Apparently it is not and she will remain with him. Even if they break up and she gets with you. It wont be because of you. It will be because they just did not work and you are a tree to lean on. Remember your #2 not #1. Its such a sad story man. I feel like im just repeating and everyone is repeating these words by now, but its worth it. You must accept this and put her in the back burners. She is not worth it because you are not her first choice.
Run away. You can really end up hurting from this for a long time, it can get to you and screw with your mind. Save yourself. Do not let yourself get hurt anymore
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Re: Kissed my good friends girlfriend... again [Re: dshow]
#15152285 - 09/29/11 01:00 PM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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Just find another bitch. your buddy sounds like a baller you could have future prospect with.
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Re: Kissed my good friends girlfriend... again [Re: foodsgoodtoo]
#15152287 - 09/29/11 01:01 PM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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Or just fuck the lady and see how that goes.
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pachoo
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Re: Kissed my good friends girlfriend... again [Re: foodsgoodtoo]
#15156690 - 09/30/11 07:41 AM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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dshow, yeah it seems that way pretty much the more i think about it. i kind of want to smack him in the head. in a nice way. then i want to smack her. then i want to smack the bf.
this story is giving me a tummy ache. why are people so afraid of telling the truth and acting on it?
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Re: Kissed my good friends girlfriend... again [Re: pachoo]
#15189117 - 10/06/11 11:38 PM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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Hey so whats new
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Re: Kissed my good friends girlfriend... again [Re: remember_me]
#15207775 - 10/11/11 12:55 AM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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well she broke up with her bf... and we've spent a lot of time together.. and we're going on a holiday soon together which will be interesting, it's getting weird but i cannot keep my mind off her
will talk later
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foodsgoodtoo
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Re: Kissed my good friends girlfriend... again [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15207844 - 10/11/11 01:42 AM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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Oh looks like you got the green light.
Even my friends ex gf wants to hang out with me
I'm like fuck dat.
I'm close to my friend. kinda. I think he thinks I will fuck her tho. prolly not. He's been stressing. Gotta expand your network just like that pussy mang.
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Re: Kissed my good friends girlfriend... again [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15207859 - 10/11/11 01:52 AM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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Its good to hear, im curious how this ends up. How is it getting weird, weirder than before?
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Re: Kissed my good friends girlfriend... again [Re: Anonymous #6]
#15207891 - 10/11/11 02:06 AM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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it's not weird, it's just a strange scenario. i said to her a few days ago i was frustrated because i want her so bad but cant have her and she said "you do"
she kept saying she can't stop thinking about me and is always sneaking off so she can be in my company, she has done a lot of other things for me lately which have been awesome... i don't know if i want to say it but i am falling in love with her pretty heavily...
the worst thing is she dumped her bf, my friend, for an oppurtunity for us to be together which could probably never eventuate because of the situation, we will always be sneaking around to be together..
i really really like her, and she feels the same, we have spent and are planning on spending a lot of time together in the future.. it will be interesting to see if it pans out or her feelings die for me as she soon realised i'm really not all that great lol
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Re: Kissed my good friends girlfriend... again [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15207948 - 10/11/11 02:26 AM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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Don't think that man................... you got her. Go from there.
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Re: Kissed my good friends girlfriend... again [Re: foodsgoodtoo]
#15210625 - 10/11/11 06:35 PM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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Think of all the wonderful things you could have done in the past 4 months other than fawn over this silly cow.
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Re: Kissed my good friends girlfriend... again [Re: Anonymous #7]
#15210864 - 10/11/11 10:15 PM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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I am seeing her tonight
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So OP, assuming you do get together with her
What exactly makes you think she's not going to do THE EXACT SAME THING to you that she did to her BF when the next best thing comes around?
All "chemistry" bullshit aside....
If she'll cheat on him to be with you and sneak around behind his back
She will MOST CERTAINLY do the exact same thing to you.
If she wanted to be with you and was even a halfway decent person, she should have broke it off with her boyfriend from the get-go.
But she didn't. Therefore...
You are a terrible friend for doing what you did and she is an opportunistic grass-is-always-greener skank from the sounds of it.
These situations never work out well like you think they will.
I've seen this exact same scenario play out with real life friends many times.
It always ends in disaster.
Just keeping it real.
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you are absolutely right... i await my heart to be smashed, and yet another reason donated to the fund of reasons to kill myself
if this fucks up, i think i actually will
i dont think i will ever find true happiness in love
literally, i am  guy
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Anonymous #8
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Not necessarily. I'd say she is way more at fault then you are.
Still that's a dick move.
Rocky relationship or not..... If I was said BF, I would probably smash your face in before kicking her to curb.
Just find a different chick. One without a BF that isn't almost definitely going to cheat on you at some point in the future.
I'm just trying to help you. 99% chance if you follow through with this it ends up in heartbreak for you.
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