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 Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart 
#14535393 - 05/30/11 01:29 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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But the odd thing is she is VERY good at university.
However she doesn't seem to think ever, like use her brain in real life.
I don't get it.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14535404 - 05/30/11 01:32 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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There are different types of intelligence.
I mean theres book smart, street smart and other types of smart.
There are intelligent people who totally lack common sense.
Also theres a huge difference between wisdom and intelligence.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: MeowMix96]
#14535417 - 05/30/11 01:34 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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Quote:
MeowMix96 said:
There are different types of intelligence.
I mean theres book smart, street smart and other types of smart.
There are intelligent people who totally lack common sense.
Also theres a huge difference between wisdom and intelligence.
I get that.
I mean I really like her, she is really awesome and an amazing person.
But sometimes I wonder if a relationship with someone like that is a good idea.
I don't like feeling like I am dealing with a child sometimes.
I feel that it is kind of a petty reason to break up with someone though.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14535440 - 05/30/11 01:40 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
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MeowMix96 said:
There are different types of intelligence.
I mean theres book smart, street smart and other types of smart.
There are intelligent people who totally lack common sense.
Also theres a huge difference between wisdom and intelligence.
I get that.
I mean I really like her, she is really awesome and an amazing person.
But sometimes I wonder if a relationship with someone like that is a good idea.
I don't like feeling like I am dealing with a child sometimes.
I feel that it is kind of a petty reason to break up with someone though.
I mean if you do feel like you are dealing with a child sometimes is it in a dependent way? Like she is dependent on you to get things done?
Or is it just in a lack of understanding whats going on sort of way?
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Edited by MeowMix96 (05/30/11 01:46 PM)
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: MeowMix96] 1
#14535453 - 05/30/11 01:44 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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"Not suitable as a life partner" is a perfectly legit reason to move on.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: Doc_T]
#14535539 - 05/30/11 02:01 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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MeowMix96 said:
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Anonymous said:
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MeowMix96 said:
There are different types of intelligence.
I mean theres book smart, street smart and other types of smart.
There are intelligent people who totally lack common sense.
Also theres a huge difference between wisdom and intelligence.
I get that.
I mean I really like her, she is really awesome and an amazing person.
But sometimes I wonder if a relationship with someone like that is a good idea.
I don't like feeling like I am dealing with a child sometimes.
I feel that it is kind of a petty reason to break up with someone though.
I mean if you do feel like you are dealing with a child sometimes is it in a dependent way? Like she is dependent on you to get things done?
Or is it just in a lack of understanding whats going on sort of way?
I don't know. Like sometimes I have to explain multiple times when she asks me what to do for a certain thing. I feel like saying "your an adult now, you have to figure these things out yourself".
But she isn't dependent really. I don't really know.
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Doc_T said:
"Not suitable as a life partner" is a perfectly legit reason to move on.
But she is perfect in every other way and adores the ground I walk on.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14535616 - 05/30/11 02:14 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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I would say try to think of a way to make it work.
Maybe try to see if she could get involved in something that would build her independce and problem solving.
I think that it would only be a problem if you start having a lot of disconnect in your communications.
Only you know how much of a connection you need for your idea of a great relationship also. Is that connection there?
Like if it isn't there intellectually... is it there physically? Humor?
There are a ton of ways to connect with a person.
It's all about what your seeking.
I used to want a partner who was smarter then me.
I got one and I found out that I like being in the leadership role in a relationship.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14536041 - 05/30/11 03:28 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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But she is perfect in every other way
= not perfect.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: Doc_T]
#14544956 - 06/01/11 11:21 AM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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Doc_T said:
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But she is perfect in every other way
= not perfect.
Word
While I agree she may not be perfect, it might still be a positive relationship. My current gf is a bit silly at times, she took a trip to argentina and called me in a panic because she couldn't figure out money conversions. Wtf. It was a 20 minute conversation that I could tell sh was still confused about as I hung up in frustration. I adore her, but she acts like a child at times, making me explain things 4 different ways and trying to argue with me about things she doesn't understand. With that said, it's clear she won't be my lifelong partner, but I adore her and cheRish her for now.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: Anonymous #2]
#14544993 - 06/01/11 11:35 AM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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Haha, I see what you mean. Reminds me of a friend I have; she's a very capable psychologist. But rarely have I met anyone who's at the same time so naive. Actually, it's kinda cute.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14545125 - 06/01/11 12:33 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
But the odd thing is she is VERY good at university.
However she doesn't seem to think ever, like use her brain in real life.
I don't get it.
:S
What I don't get is why you want to be with her if she's not smart.
Very few humans possess much in the way of common sense. This is not unusual.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: Icelander] 1
#14545385 - 06/01/11 01:48 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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Does she color inside the lines?
I'm halfway with Doc here, although, you'll never find anybody who is 'perfect' for you...
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: shLong]
#14545412 - 06/01/11 01:57 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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although, you'll never find anybody who is 'perfect' for you...
Agreed. All relationships require compromise. I'm not in your actual situation, so I can't really tell you what to do, one way or the other.
But there's a difference between compromise, and living in constant frustration. Only you can know if you can live with it. Only you know if her other qualities make up for it. Only you know if you're capable of finding someone better.
Good luck.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: BothHands]
#14545812 - 06/01/11 03:43 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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Sounds like my exwife. I remember the very moment I realized I was smarter than she. I made a decision to just accept it. I never really thought about it again. The problem being that she was smart enough to realize that she couldn't compete with me mentally. She bases her self worth in her intellect and ultimately couldn't rectify the two. See the last word of my first sentence.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: automan]
#14545864 - 06/01/11 03:54 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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haha she left because she was a dummy? lol... dummies
personally, i have a hard time dealing with people that i think are less 'smart' than me. this could be because my peers, the people i spend the most time with, are all on my level. when i meet someone who isn't there i'm a little uncomfortable. like i have to adjust myself to cater to them, but i don't really have the skills to do so.
i could never be with a woman i thought i was smarter than. though i've been with a woman who thought i thought i was smarter than her. and to me, that in and of itself, is indicative of shit for brains. ironic.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: dummy] 1
#14545960 - 06/01/11 04:16 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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I've had a intellectually smart girlfriend but she was borderline retarded when it came to wisdom/morals.
As long as they have acceptable wisdom and morals I usually end up liking them. IQ really isn't worth shit if you can't apply it in a loving productive way.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: i like cow poo]
#14546077 - 06/01/11 04:41 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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book smarts, emotional intelligence, social intelligence, physical intelligence, sexual intelligence...
arguably there are many types. i took a sexuality class and the proff told us that we're naturally attracted to those that are pretty close to us.. intelligence wise. whatever that means.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: dummy]
#14546103 - 06/01/11 04:44 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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Survival of the smartest
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: dummy]
#14546238 - 06/01/11 05:07 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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personally, i have a hard time dealing with people that i think are less 'smart' than me. this could be because my peers, the people i spend the most time with, are all on my level. when i meet someone who isn't there i'm a little uncomfortable. like i have to adjust myself to cater to them, but i don't really have the skills to do so.
This described me for a long time... probably until close to my 30s. Most my friends, which are basically the same core group since high school, are at least close to each other mentally. I now have the skill set to deal with others, but I usually am relatively quiet, just enjoying the show.
We do have one friend that is obviously less intelligent, but there is no more loyal friend in the world. Out of everyone I know, if I had to take someone into battle with me, it would be him. He doesn't get a lot of our jokes, but he has impeccable taste in music, too.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14546492 - 06/01/11 05:50 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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sometimes i get the idea that most people in general arent that smart.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: JesusGoneRogue]
#14547854 - 06/01/11 10:40 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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I get the idea that most people aren't wise. They know how to do calculus, but they don't realize that life is not about how much money or math problems you can do. Ahhhh life, what a strange joke.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: JesusGoneRogue]
#14547857 - 06/01/11 10:42 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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sometimes i get the idea that most people in general arent that smart.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: i like cow poo]
#14548340 - 06/02/11 12:12 AM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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i like cow poo said:
I get the idea that most people aren't wise. They know how to do calculus, but they don't realize that life is not about how much money or math problems you can do. Ahhhh life, what a strange joke.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: koraks]
#14549709 - 06/02/11 09:08 AM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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Haha, I see what you mean. Reminds me of a friend I have; she's a very capable psychologist. But rarely have I met anyone who's at the same time so naive. Actually, it's kinda cute.
More like frightening. People like her are the drones produced by the educational system.
I LOL my ass off at the number of "trained professionals" who don't know SHIT.
There is a lot of compartmentalization going on in the world and especially America today. Everyone knows ONE thing and doesn't want to deal with *anything* else and instead hands that responsibility to others.
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: Humility] 1
#14554190 - 06/03/11 05:36 AM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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I'm aware how it may come across with others when I speak of a 'capable psychologist' who also happens to be naive. But I must stress the point that she really IS capable. I mean, let's be honest, psychologists (and psychiatrists, medical doctors, judges, statesmen, etc. etc.) are only human after all. I know this girl (woman? we're all getting older, which means that in my perception, the number of girls on the planet is increasing exponentially at the cost of the number of women  ) privately, and not so much professionally, which is also very true for my ex, who also happens to be a psychologist. And while you can be very aware of someone's shortcomings (lack of general knowledge, naiveté, bad temper, take your pick) in a private setting, they may act very effectively in a professional setting. It would be dishonest to expect some sort of super-human mental strength from any sort of trained professional. Fact is that some (many) people actually function better and feel better after having been treated by people like my innocently naive friend. Given that fact, I really cannot put someone like that down as unqualified or insufficient.
After all, in the end, none of us know shit. There's just some people who are slightly more aware of some sorts of excrement than others. And if that allows them to help others in whatever setting, then that is valid enough for me.
As to the original subject, I notice that an interesting question as come up: would you be able to live with someone who is smarter than yourself? Or the other way around? Tantalizing question, and also one that tends to confront me with some of the less desirable traits in my own character. Because I'd have to say, no, I can't imagine having a steady, long-term relationship with someone who is more knowledgeable all-round than myself. And while it's a fact, it's also a fact that makes me aware of another fact, which is that somewhere deep down, I'm apparently a pretty arrogant, nasty and creepy little bastard 
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Re: Sometimes I get the idea my girl friend is not that smart [Re: Anonymous #1]
#14557477 - 06/03/11 10:40 PM (1 year, 11 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
But the odd thing is she is VERY good at university.
However she doesn't seem to think ever, like use her brain in real life.
I don't get it.
:S
Being dumb but good at uni isn't odd. I bet shes anything but math/science major, something like psychology, business, or social work. I'd be more surprised if she were smart. I was in the same situation recently and I just couldn't get over the feeling that I was on a different level than her and had to leave. Makes me seem like a dick prolly but fuck it my life I'm living it for myself.
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