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Anonymous #8
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 Re: How to beat the 'Just Friends' Syndrome?  [Re: TTT]
#15321799 - 11/04/11 02:15 PM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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Poke!
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 Joolz
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Re: How to beat the 'Just Friends' Syndrome? [Re: Anonymous #8]
#15322006 - 11/04/11 03:02 PM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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Your secret admirer says hi, TTT.
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Prohibition didn't work for God; Eve ate the fruit.
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fbi365
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Re: How to beat the 'Just Friends' Syndrome? [Re: TTT]
#15322163 - 11/04/11 03:42 PM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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Quote:
TTT said:
You clearly have many other things to work on.
Fortunately, I am a multi-tasker 
Thanks TTT and everyone else for helping me become a better person. I'm a work in progress. I know.
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the way out is through
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shimishimiman
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Re: How to beat the 'Just Friends' Syndrome? [Re: fbi365]
#15323339 - 11/04/11 07:38 PM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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fbi365 said:
I'm a work in progress. I know.
Join the club dood.
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Anonymous #9
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Re: How to beat the 'Just Friends' Syndrome? [Re: Anonymous #8]
#15323474 - 11/04/11 08:07 PM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
Poke!
Stop being creepy, Tri Hard. 
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fbi365
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Re: How to beat the 'Just Friends' Syndrome? [Re: shimishimiman]
#15324717 - 11/05/11 12:56 AM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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shimishimiman said:
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fbi365 said:
I'm a work in progress. I know.
Join the club dood.
I forgot to say thanks to you too Shimishimiman. Your insight is great.
And I just want to say that this is where I come to vent what's on my mind. I don't have anywhere else to do it. From what you all read it may sound like I'm a fucked up mess. And that may be true, but to all my friends I am normal and have it together. Many of them look up to me. Its just what's inside of me that's broken.
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the way out is through
Pwnasaurus said 'Most contradictory post of the year goes to you!'
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Anonymous #10
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Re: How to beat the 'Just Friends' Syndrome? [Re: fbi365]
#15336074 - 11/07/11 03:02 PM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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posting so this shows up in my threads section.
much has been learned, read the entire thread and can sympathize with those who have been locked in the cage which is the friend zone
you breaking out of the friend zone to fuck your friend OP was inspiring.
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foliocb
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Re: How to beat the 'Just Friends' Syndrome? [Re: Anonymous #10] 1
#15337576 - 11/07/11 08:46 PM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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I am learning the hard way on how to get out of the friends zone. Plain and simple, if you're hanging with a girl pretty often and the spark isn't obvious, you need to make it obvious that atleast you are into her. Now, the tricky part is to do this without invading her own space and/or putting any pressure on her. If she's plain not into you at all, then maybe it's not even worth telling her at all and just take a step back and move on, or you can tell her that you have feelings for her, and can't just keep hanging out as friends- but this could lead to things being a bit awkward and will probably result in the two of you not hanging out much at all for awhile, but again will work better in the long run because people change and after some distance apart from each other you will both appear as two completely different people if enough time and change is given.
If there is a spark but you're still a bit confused, then you either have to go big or go home. Make a move, i'm not saying to commit to a full on french the next time you're with her, but test out her body language and rest a knee on hers or get close somehow and watch how their body language responds. Does she retract? Probably not a good idea to pursue the matter if so, or rather- take it a bit slower, she obviously isn't in to you as much as you are into her.
Does her body language invite the action? If so, then keep seeing what you can get away with, try a back massage etc... all you're doing is testing the waters and treading lightly and creating an action and waiting for the reaction, either in body language or verbal expression.
In the end, it's best to let them know you're into them as soon as you are... and it should be done by a combination of body language and verbal expression- compliment on what she wears and tease her a bit... keep her on her toes. If you play the nice guy card and show her that you'll bend over backwards for her at a moments notice- don't expect much... I learned this the hard way. It's like fishing literally... when you tug the hook and tease the fish they become more and more curious before finally taking a bite... it's a game. Learn the rules and figure out how to use them in your favor to analyze the situation. Friend zone sucks. get out of it one way or the other if you truly have feelings for this person.
Ive told a few girls and for the most part it resulted in us not really hanging out much at all anymore, but I trust that it will be for the best in the end. Gives me more time to focus on my own personal growth, and people really do see when you are doing better for yourself, believe me. Personal meaning and happiness comes from within(in fact everything comes from within) and if you are looking for this things in the external world, then you should really re-evaluate your situation and look within for the answers you seek.
"Those who look to the outside, dreams. Those who look within, awakens."
-Carl G. Jung
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fbi365
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Re: How to beat the 'Just Friends' Syndrome? [Re: foliocb]
#15338266 - 11/07/11 11:11 PM (1 year, 6 months ago) |
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Well written. thanks
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