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 masturbation morality? 
#13851214 - 01/26/11 12:38 AM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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when it comes to sexuality, i have some neurotic tendencies. i have a feeling that i'm over thinking things but i'd like some input if you guys would be so kind.
well, throughout my current relationship I've felt slightly guilty about jerking off to porn, but i can usually brush that guilt off as I really dont think theres anything wrong with it (and neither does my girlfriend. when we first started dating she said "don't worry, i understand the thing guys have with porn and gave me an "oh well" kinda look) but a more complex issue has come up.
I like the idea of group sex. in all shapes and forms. so a lot of times when I beat it to porn I imagine having sex with the women on screen and kind of mentally copy/paste my girlfriend into the scene. Now, my girlfriend likes to give me panties to jizz into. she leaves them at my house for about a week and then gives me a new pair (and wears the jizz drenched ones to class and around town  ). I often have the urge to cum in her panties even when I'm masturbating without thinking of her. i mean, she always has atleast some presence in my mind when i'm beating off but only about 40% of the time is she the main focus of my fantasies.
would it be wrong to cum into her panties while thinking of other girls? (porn girls, not girls i actually know) i feel like that would make her an unknowledgeable participant in a group sex "kink" that she doesnt know i have. I honestly dont know how she would feel about group sex, and i'm a little afraid to bring it up (even though we talk about and do some kind of "out there" stuff like pissing on eachother, making her puke on my dick, enemas etc) but i know a lot of girls DO NOT go for the group sex thing. its really not that i even want to have sex with other girls, its that i want to share our sexuality with other people. like...humping her next to another couple who are fucking is probably THE hottest fantasy i have.
so i guess i have two questions: is it wrong to cum into her panties while watching porn? and should i bring up my group sex kink and just see what she says? she's a pretty open person, but i dont wanna "say anything stupid"
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just talk to her. making her puke on your dick is WAY weirder than group sex imo.
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I find it a little disturbing to jack off in to her panties, and a little disrespectful if they're clean. Can't you just watch porn and use a towel?
And about bringing up group sex, don't. DON'T. If it ever happens, it better be a spur-of-the-moment kind of thing. The jealousy involved in group sex when two participants are in a relationship is unreal, and even really level-headed people can have serious issues with those emotions.
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Yea. I can tell by your question that group sex is not for you.
Also what kind of sick motherfucker are you thinking of your GF while you masturbate to porn? Here's the reality dude, you got it backwards you should feel weird if you jerk it into her panties and think of your GF while you do it. Just my opinion. Maybe what you do when jerkin it to porn and thinking of your GF isn't as weird as you made it sound but your guilt for not thinking of her is definitely odd.
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I think of my ex when I jerk all the time. Great sex is great material for the spank bank.
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I think of my ex when I jerk all the time. Great sex is great material for the spank bank.
That's fucked. I personally think you should only think of people you haven't had sex with when masterbating. To think of people you have is just wrong in so many ways!
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That's one thing Synesthetic, but would you think of your ex while watching porn? Would you cut and paste your ex in as the porn actors while your spankin it to porn? I don't think so.
Hypothetically it wouldn't be weird to spank it and think of your GF entirely, but it's the fact of doing it to porn that makes it odd and the fact that the OP feels guilty if he doesn't do it.
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well i dont feel guilty if i dont keep her in my mind. like i said, 60% of the time i just think about the girls on screen. but sometimes i have fantasies where more than one girl is involved. and when that happens, one of them is invariably my girlfriend. idk, i like my girlfriend 
so it sounds like ScavengerType and Synesthetic have opposing viewpoints on the matter. thanks for your input guys. still not sure how I feel about it yet, but I appreciate knowing that i'm not a depraved asshole for wanting to splooge in my GFs panties while thinking about other women. i guess since some of you think its okay and others find it disrespectful, whatever i decide my stance is on this, it doesnt make me a horrible person.
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I find it a little disturbing to jack off in to her panties, and a little disrespectful if they're clean. Can't you just watch porn and use a towel?
And about bringing up group sex, don't. DON'T. If it ever happens, it better be a spur-of-the-moment kind of thing. The jealousy involved in group sex when two participants are in a relationship is unreal, and even really level-headed people can have serious issues with those emotions.
i disagree with not bringing up the group sex thing... yes it may be perceived badly by your girlfriend, but complete open honesty is the fastest route to a happy relationship, especially if you are looking in the long run at possible marriage.
There is really no harm in telling her that the idea of it is something of a turn on, if you guys do love each other then you SHOULD know what exactly you are both into... Worst case she says no, is a little pissy for a while and you drop the subject... and if like i said, she loves you, then she will trust you not to push the topic because you know she is uncomfortable with it
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Re: masturbation morality? [Re: Slavaslave]
#13855462 - 01/26/11 07:34 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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Slavaslave said:
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Synesthetic said:
I find it a little disturbing to jack off in to her panties, and a little disrespectful if they're clean. Can't you just watch porn and use a towel?
And about bringing up group sex, don't. DON'T. If it ever happens, it better be a spur-of-the-moment kind of thing. The jealousy involved in group sex when two participants are in a relationship is unreal, and even really level-headed people can have serious issues with those emotions.
i disagree with not bringing up the group sex thing... yes it may be perceived badly by your girlfriend, but complete open honesty is the fastest route to a happy relationship, especially if you are looking in the long run at possible marriage.
There is really no harm in telling her that the idea of it is something of a turn on, if you guys do love each other then you SHOULD know what exactly you are both into... Worst case she says no, is a little pissy for a while and you drop the subject... and if like i said, she loves you, then she will trust you not to push the topic because you know she is uncomfortable with it
its come up in conversation before and we both agreed that it has the potential to bring a lot of jealousy problems and that at this point in our relationship (we've only been dating like 3 monthes) we're probably too insecure to get into that. but i didnt tell her i was interested. and truth be told, i really do think its a bad idea for us to venture into the swinger territory. i'm not even sure if I'd WANT to do that. I just really like the idea of having sex in the same room as another couple.
like, the other day me and her, and two of her friends (who are dating) were hanging out, had eaten some weed cookies and were really high and me and her and her two friends ended up making out with eachother at the same time. we stayed within our own partners but it just seemed really hot to me. to look over and they're making out too. i didnt even have to look at them. just knowing that we were all engaged in the sexual act of making out was boner inspiring.
shes a really open person (obviously) so if she was totally opposed to it she would just say so, and i really think that that would be the end of it.
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well the way you describe it, maybe what is turning you on is the idea of exhibitionism?
if you think that it would cause jealousy issues then definitely stay away, or if you feel the need to, in the future, satisfy this urge maybe you could do it with a good friend of hers, or lay ground rules, like you can only focus on her etc.
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Re: masturbation morality? [Re: siko887]
#13855733 - 01/26/11 08:22 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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I think of my ex when I jerk all the time. Great sex is great material for the spank bank.
That's fucked. I personally think you should only think of people you haven't had sex with when masterbating. To think of people you have is just wrong in so many ways!
 i don't follow your logic
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Re: masturbation morality? [Re: Lennyk]
#13856014 - 01/26/11 09:11 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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I think of my ex when I jerk all the time. Great sex is great material for the spank bank.
That's fucked. I personally think you should only think of people you haven't had sex with when masterbating. To think of people you have is just wrong in so many ways!
i don't follow your logic
Same. Why look at other people doing it when you have memories of your own you can relive while tuggin' the tiger?
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I don't think it's too odd, but I never totally got that either.
Anyway, OP does your GF know that you feel guilty if your jerkin it to porn and don't think of her? Sounds like the kind of emotional attachment shit that chicks love.
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Re: masturbation morality? [Re: siko887]
#13856078 - 01/26/11 09:21 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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siko887 said:
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I think of my ex when I jerk all the time. Great sex is great material for the spank bank.
That's fucked. I personally think you should only think of people you haven't had sex with when masterbating. To think of people you have is just wrong in so many ways!
And we a name like siko887 your opinion should be gold on this subject then? lol
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i don't think it's wrong. who cares? masturbation is supposed to be about you doing what makes you feel good.
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Re: masturbation morality? [Re: dmob12]
#13858612 - 01/27/11 10:33 AM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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Synesthetic said:
I think of my ex when I jerk all the time. Great sex is great material for the spank bank.
That's fucked. I personally think you should only think of people you haven't had sex with when masterbating. To think of people you have is just wrong in so many ways!
And we a name like siko887 your opinion should be gold on this subject then? lol
my name is only what it is because thats been my screenname since i was 5. Honestly if you think about your gf or you ex while your jerkin it your fucked. You've already had sex with them, it's not "hot" anymore. To even think of someone i already had sex with seldomly happens. Masterbating is about thinkin about those poeple you wish you had fucked, or wish you could fuck. Or why else do it? You mine as well just go get a handjob from your girlfriend. Thats soposed to be "you" time and you are not to be thinking about her. Im sure when she masterbates she doesn't think of you lol. Shes is thinkin about some hottie with a six pack, prolly named Dexter Saint Jock.
You guys are fucked, there is nothing fun about thinking about sex i've already had. The fun is to be had in the sex you haven't had yet. Remember that.
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Re: masturbation morality? [Re: siko887]
#13858664 - 01/27/11 10:52 AM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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while i agree that your name isn't enough to dismiss your thoughts i dont agree...
just because you dont see sex with the same person as "hot" anymore does not mean that everybody thinks the same way, in fact i'd be willing to bet a large number of people on this forum would disagree with you.
when in a good relationship i would only hope that you still enjoy the sex with your significant other, if not then thats a big red flag that maybe you shouldn't be with that person.
As for thinking about them while masturbating, i would personally not think of an ex, but then again i have moved on from all my past relationships. Thinking about your girlfriend is a good thing in my mind, because like i said it just means that you are attracted to her, and dont need other stimulation...
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Re: masturbation morality? [Re: Slavaslave]
#13859112 - 01/27/11 12:49 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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while i agree that your name isn't enough to dismiss your thoughts i dont agree...
just because you dont see sex with the same person as "hot" anymore does not mean that everybody thinks the same way, in fact i'd be willing to bet a large number of people on this forum would disagree with you.
when in a good relationship i would only hope that you still enjoy the sex with your significant other, if not then thats a big red flag that maybe you shouldn't be with that person.
As for thinking about them while masturbating, i would personally not think of an ex, but then again i have moved on from all my past relationships. Thinking about your girlfriend is a good thing in my mind, because like i said it just means that you are attracted to her, and dont need other stimulation...
Its not because i don't find her attractive, It's because i could quite possible be spending the rest of my life with her. So to have sex with only this woman and to only think about that woman, sounds like a lot of just one woman to me.
Why not take that time to think about another woman, like the one in the porn. Than your not feeling guilty because your never gonna meet her. Your just not supposed to think about your girlfriend when your beating your meat. ITS THE RULES!!!! :P lol
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Re: masturbation morality? [Re: siko887]
#13859488 - 01/27/11 01:52 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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while i agree that your name isn't enough to dismiss your thoughts i dont agree...
just because you dont see sex with the same person as "hot" anymore does not mean that everybody thinks the same way, in fact i'd be willing to bet a large number of people on this forum would disagree with you.
when in a good relationship i would only hope that you still enjoy the sex with your significant other, if not then thats a big red flag that maybe you shouldn't be with that person.
As for thinking about them while masturbating, i would personally not think of an ex, but then again i have moved on from all my past relationships. Thinking about your girlfriend is a good thing in my mind, because like i said it just means that you are attracted to her, and dont need other stimulation...
Its not because i don't find her attractive, It's because i could quite possible be spending the rest of my life with her. So to have sex with only this woman and to only think about that woman, sounds like a lot of just one woman to me.
Why not take that time to think about another woman, like the one in the porn. Than your not feeling guilty because your never gonna meet her. Your just not supposed to think about your girlfriend when your beating your meat. ITS THE RULES!!!! :P lol
what are you five? fucking retarded theory 
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