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 girl "crying" after sex 
#13827864 - 01/21/11 09:09 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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is this normal?
at the end of sex she lies there and looks as she's high and sometimes tears stream out of her eyes, she's unable to speak so i just leave her alone, i dont wanna give her the 3rd degree.
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 puff4200
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I've never had a chick cry after sex sounds strange
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Once I cried after I had an orgasm. I couldn't help it, tears came running down as I was laughing. It felt amazing! My whole body was twitching and my toes went completely numb.
That was one time though, so I don't know if crying every time is normal.
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This could mean lots of things.
Her own disappointment with having sex (morality issues)
Past trauma (rape/child molestation victim)
Reminiscing on dicks gone by that were more athletic than yours
and my personal favorite: You rocked her box such that she cried tears of joy.
I've had a girl cry during/after sex. If it ever happens again with anyone, barring an explanation and a damn good one, I'm done.
It's certainly not as cheerful as her making hyena-like noises before she creams all over herself and then tells you really quietly that she "needs a minute".
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Re: girl "crying" after sex [Re: Humility]
#13828001 - 01/21/11 09:37 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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damaged goods? (ugly way to put it, sorry...) sounds bad. tears of joy and twiching are one thing. weirdness and unresponsiveness is not so pleasant sounding.
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why don't you just ask her what the problem is?
if she doesn't want to talk about it, then don't because the problem is probably secondary anyways, not pertaining to you two. so the culprit, im guessing, is something along the lines of what humility mentioned. but, no, that is not conventionally "normal," though i'm sure there might be some fetishes out there. 
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IMO if a girl cry's after sex... YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG!
Seriously though (as others have said) it's probably related to some psychological thing on her end unless you are doing something realty weird during sex, that you haven't told us about. Have you asked her if she is or was religious or even more awkward to bring up if she was ever raped? It's probable she has some guilt or shame related to sex that stems from one of these common problems.
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Anonymous #1
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she looked blissful, i asked if she was alright she just smiled and nodded like she was far away
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don't sound to be bad necessarily then... Well, so long as you both have fun... whatever right?
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"Have you ever seen what happens when a grenade goes off in a school? Do you really know what you’re doing when you order shock and awe? Are you prepared to kneel beside a dying soldier and tell him why he went to Iraq, or why he went to any war?"
"The things that are done in the name of the shareholder are, to me, as terrifying as the things that are done—dare I say it—in the name of God. Montesquieu said, "There have never been so many civil wars as in the Kingdom of God." And I begin to feel that’s true. The shareholder is the excuse for everything."
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Did you execute a Cleveland Steamroller, a Blumpkin, Blumpkin Backfire, or the infamous Alabama Hotpocket?
that might explain why she was crying.
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OP: is this a girlfriend that you've been with for a while? Sounds like a rough history -- probably a very touchy subject she doesn't ever want to talk about.
A good way around speaking about it directly would be to look her in the eyes and ask her very directly if there is anything that she would like you to avoid doing or saying during intimate scenarios.
I know a few things never ever ever to do. every now and then i slip up and say the wrong word or do the wrong thing - and it makes me feel terrible inside. but it doesnt hold a candle to how that act makes her feel, so i just do my best and pray I keep trakc of what i'm doing/saying.
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Re: girl "crying" after sex [Re: meams]
#13829262 - 01/22/11 01:36 AM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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Ive had only one GF, and this was when we were 18 i dont know if that has to do with anything. But i would have hardcore sex with her, then she would start tearing up, sometimes crying full blown. I dont understand.
Maybe it is something subconcious. Maybe your GF family conditioned her to think sex is this big deal, and it should be done very carefully.
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Re: girl "crying" after sex [Re: p4kSouL]
#13829375 - 01/22/11 02:02 AM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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Or maybe she's been the victim of some abuse in the past. A lot more women than you think have had to deal with this shit. it boils my blood.
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Re: girl "crying" after sex [Re: meams] 2
#13830191 - 01/22/11 05:55 AM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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just beat her up next time
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Wow! I am so surprised no one has heard of this before!!!!
Now first of all, before anyone "goes there", I can not obviously vouch for 100% of the instances that females will cry after sex. 
However if she seems "blissful" she probably is.
This happens to me frequently, the more intense the orgasms, the more intensely I will cry. It is just some huge release.
It is no big deal, a bit of water from the eyes, then back to normal.
I think my partner now gets a little upset when I don't bawl, because it tends to mean I haven't come as hard.
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If she seems happy don't worry. Congrats, you just gave her an awesome orgasm, and she probably cares about you a lot.
I was weirded out the first time my gf cried right as she finished her orgasm, however after talking to her about it and looking it up online, the next two times it happened I felt like a champ.
If it happens again, give her a hug, cuddle with her, scratch her back, etc... she is probably still having an awesome afterglow.
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if she looked blissful, it could be that intense feeling/connection you get with the other person plus how awesome it was.. I did that once on acid cuz i just felt the most intense connection to the guy, the world, plus sex was awesome n very intense feelings while we were doing it. i had to force back the tears while he was still in me... it was wierd. but yes it happens.
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A good slammin' can cause a girl to cry during sex if you have a larger penis. I was not being careful enough and was slamming in in all the way and I was really getting into it. pumping harder and harder and she started tapping out. and then started crying. I never felt so bad after laughing before in my life...
maybe this is your problem?  Larger Penis Syndrome? If so search for a larger vagina... This can be fun as well... I call it search and destroy.
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shes fucking someone else
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Re: girl "crying" after sex [Re: DomNoon]
#13833566 - 01/22/11 10:04 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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was it consentual?
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Quote:
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was it consentual?
Yes or No.
That is consenting.
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Did u rape her?? maybe your the crazy one OP....I give you a fork, rope, and some ducktape. What would you do with these items??
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Re: girl "crying" after sex [Re: dshow]
#13850622 - 01/25/11 10:58 PM (2 years, 3 months ago) |
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make a whip so I can forkwhip tha bitch... oh right OP.
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"The things that are done in the name of the shareholder are, to me, as terrifying as the things that are done—dare I say it—in the name of God. Montesquieu said, "There have never been so many civil wars as in the Kingdom of God." And I begin to feel that’s true. The shareholder is the excuse for everything."
- Author and former M6/M5 agent John le Carré on Democracy Now.
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every now and then my girlfriend will cry during sex. but its always proceeded by cries of "ohhhhhh fuck YES" and then afterwards she dries her faces and wraps herself around me and kisses me all over. so its definitely happy crying. blissful crying definitely occurs. I wouldnt worry about it unless she seems resentful of you or upset after sex.
I'm kinda jealous of women because while cumming feels GREAT its never made me cry haha. although sometimes i drool on her when i cum during anal sex haha. sometimes it feels so good you cant help yourself but drool all over her back
i swear that hole is magical
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1- For some girls it's related to past trauma (rare)
2- For some girls, it's a super-huge release because you just rocked their world. (more common) (now give yourself five, because this is your answer)
3- For some girls, it is a mixture of release, coupled with psycho-emotional baggage, and an extraordinary unbalance of regular hormones and brain chemistry that is a regular part of their makeup. (super rare and possibly dangerous) This kind is ESPECIALLY dangerous because they think they're super-in-tune with their sexuality, that they just have these epic-crying-orgasms, when really, they barely know who they are at the most basic level, and could turn into a totally different person in a heartbeat.
I've had it all three ways. Trust me, if you think you're dealing with anything but number 2, run.
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Maybe she is like on another plane. She is super advanced spiritually and she cries as she retreats into her brain or leaves her body. Or more than likely she has issues which she is trying to get over and doesn't want to tell you about her past traumas because most people will and have judged her for them and she is trying to avoid that.
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Ive had a girl cry before sex, she got completely naked then got in the fetal position and started crying. Then after she was done she was like ok do what ever you want. I was speechless so I got dressed and walked back down to the party. Then she went around telling everyone my dick wouldnt get hard. Bitch was psycho. 
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Stains Blue said:
A good slammin' can cause a girl to cry during sex if you have a larger penis. I was not being careful enough and was slamming in in all the way and I was really getting into it. pumping harder and harder and she started tapping out. and then started crying. I never felt so bad after laughing before in my life...
maybe this is your problem? Larger Penis Syndrome? If so search for a larger vagina... This can be fun as well... I call it search and destroy.
you know it doesn't even have to be that big. my last GF only had sex a couple times before she was with me. and i by no-means have a big dick, yet every time we would have sex, when i would first go to put it in she would say: "go slow", you could tell it hurt a little, she was super tight. missionary was to painful for her. man i miss her.
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Stains Blue
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 Is true too... If you got a normal one ( that is) Put her legs up and start slamming it... she will feel that smash her uterus and it wont feel good for her at all... and may start crying... she dont even have to be tight and she may feel it... unless she just got a large vagina...
(Large vagina's can be fun also... makes for some sloppy sex)
or maybe like others said it was a good orgasm
or maybe she was raped and you look like a creeper...
or maybe she is psycho...
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A good slammin' can cause a girl to cry during sex if you have a larger penis. I was not being careful enough and was slamming in in all the way and I was really getting into it. pumping harder and harder and she started tapping out. and then started crying. I never felt so bad after laughing before in my life...
maybe this is your problem? Larger Penis Syndrome? If so search for a larger vagina... This can be fun as well... I call it search and destroy.
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Is true too... If you got a normal one ( that is) Put her legs up and start slamming it... she will feel that smash her uterus and it wont feel good for her at all... and may start crying... she dont even have to be tight and she may feel it... unless she just got a large vagina...
(Large vagina's can be fun also... makes for some sloppy sex)
or maybe like others said it was a good orgasm
or maybe she was raped and you look like a creeper...
or maybe she is psycho...
  
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Yeah, I have to say, bro... if you stick it in, start slamming it, and it "don't feel good for her at all" you are REALLY doing something major wrong.
Either that, or you are by no means "normal" in terms of size. If that's what you claim, pics or it didn't happen.
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2 - For some girls, it's a super-huge release because you just rocked their world. (more common) (now give yourself five, because this is your answer)
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Quote:
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Yeah, I have to say, bro... if you stick it in, start slamming it, and it "don't feel good for her at all" you are REALLY doing something major wrong.
Either that, or you are by no means "normal" in terms of size. If that's what you claim, pics or it didn't happen.
There is a difference between rough sex and mean sex... alot has to do with her legs... put her ankels by her ears and pound that out... she is not going to like that one bit... but wrap her legs around your waist and she is gonna like that... (make sure you add a little clit stimulation in there... and you may get her crying for joy...)
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2 - For some girls, it's a super-huge release because you just rocked their world. (more common) (now give yourself five, because this is your answer)
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I dunno man try it... you need to try it... the rape f_ck... ankles behind the ears... Beat it out... she is not going to like it much when you start slamming the baby chamber... she may be tough and deal with the pain (like a pornstar) or she may tap out... she may cry if you stuck her a good one... but give it a try... dont rule it out... in the name of mythbusters ... "Plausible" I am saying it because Ive done it... and the girl tapped out and was tearing... If you got a girl friend or a wife or just a F-buddy give it a try... you may be surprised...
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Same thing happened to me once. I gave my GF a sensual massage for a while and teased her beyond all realm of possibility, and then had the most flawless sex ever. Its like i hit spiritual tension points in her body or something. After we had sex my GF just laid there crying and she could barely talk. She didn't want to do anything or say anything for a long time. I asked her why she was crying and if everything was okay. She just said she couldn't help it, and that she KNEW she loved me. She had very jaded views of love from past relationships which she hadn't moved past but with this I fixed her. She told me she loved me before, but after this there was no question to her how much she loved me. She was shaking. Needless to say I had a huge grin on my face the rest of the night.
GOOD JOB DUDE, as long as she doesn't seem emotionally distraught I think you just shook her system.
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Re: girl "crying" after sex [Re: dageo18] 1
#14011721 - 02/23/11 04:11 AM (2 years, 2 months ago) |
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Girls are emotional or something.
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Re: girl "crying" after sex [Re: p4kSouL]
#14012013 - 02/23/11 07:17 AM (2 years, 2 months ago) |
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In the BDSM community, a phenomenon like this (but often much more intense) is often referred to as subspace. Read up on it, maybe you recognize it. Symptoms include lack of coherency, a trip-like state, inability to communicate, shivering, crying, etc. I imagine it's not uniquely associated with BDSM, although I know it from that context.
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Re: girl "crying" after sex [Re: dageo18]
#14012189 - 02/23/11 09:17 AM (2 years, 2 months ago) |
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Same thing happened to me once. I gave my GF a sensual massage for a while and teased her beyond all realm of possibility, and then had the most flawless sex ever. Its like i hit spiritual tension points in her body or something. After we had sex my GF just laid there crying and she could barely talk. She didn't want to do anything or say anything for a long time. I asked her why she was crying and if everything was okay. She just said she couldn't help it, and that she KNEW she loved me. She had very jaded views of love from past relationships which she hadn't moved past but with this I fixed her. She told me she loved me before, but after this there was no question to her how much she loved me. She was shaking. Needless to say I had a huge grin on my face the rest of the night.
GOOD JOB DUDE, as long as she doesn't seem emotionally distraught I think you just shook her system.
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wow, reading about subspace makes some of my past experiences with S&M make more since. thanks koraks!
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Re: girl "crying" after sex [Re: koraks]
#14036572 - 02/27/11 05:28 PM (2 years, 2 months ago) |
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Dude, unless the girl cries ALL the time, then get rid of her if she Only cries after sex.
Girls got effed up issues.
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