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 Re: The dos and donts of a relationship 3-some?  [Re: unfoldedbrain]
#15051831 - 09/09/11 07:38 AM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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itd be a few years l8r when were under one roof, likei said, a relationship outside of that.
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Re: The dos and donts of a relationship 3-some? [Re: unfoldedbrain]
#15052388 - 09/09/11 11:26 AM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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To all those who have open relationships, what ever exactly that means to your situation, how has/is it working out?
We only swing together. That doesn't mean we won't do stuff in separate rooms, but it means we pick the couple together and get to know them together. We don't go out alone on the prowl looking for someone to have sex with.
We only do it for sexual gratification. I don't have the time or interest in taking it any further than that. I love my wife and that's enough for me in that department. She feels the same as I. I feel like setting up micro-management rules beyond that (i.e. no oral, no kissing in certain areas, no saying certain things) puts a damper on the activities and sets you up for hurt feelings. It should just be about having fun and doing what feels right, but to each their own.
As for the experiences, we had a blast. I didn't realize how into it my wife was at first. She was kind of reserved, saying she didn't think that she could handle seeing me have sex with someone else. Then she gave me mixed feelings about it. Then one time with a new couple, we just did a swap. She seemed to enjoy it and told me how much she loved watching me fuck in front of her afterwards.
It's been a while since we did anything (over a year) due our recent circumstances, but it's been building lately. We've been trying to hang out with the couple we did it with last, but they've been flaking out a lot. I think one of them lost interest, so looks like we might be moving on.
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Re: The dos and donts of a relationship 3-some? [Re: pothead_bob]
#15052998 - 09/09/11 02:40 PM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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I think one of the biggest hurdles for me would be the setting of rules. The whole "you cant say this or do that", all to protect your feelings/insecurities...when in reality, giving her these rules wont change her as a person. She still want to do those things. Youre just restricting her. Holding her back. In the long run, isnt that the point of an open relationship? To be open and accepting of your partners sexuality? Seems hypocritical to me... Youre not being fully open and accepting. Youre just toying with eachothers sexual urges and molding it around your own needs.
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i think he meant ground rules about the relationship with the outside partner/couple, that is understandable, " no kissing or saying this that here" sounds just fucking dumb imo sry but i dont think thats what he meant.
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The whole "you cant say this or do that", all to protect your feelings/insecurities...when in reality, giving her these rules wont change her as a person.
Yes, that's exactly my point. You're having group sex to enjoy it. So do whatever feels right and have fun, imo. If you feel jealous of something ur partner might do, then perhaps you shouldn't be traveling down that road.
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Re: The dos and donts of a relationship 3-some? [Re: pothead_bob]
#15053871 - 09/09/11 05:54 PM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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It's sounds kinda risky because you make it sound risky. From what I read it could either be awesome or just come back to haunt you. I think it's important you talked to her about all this before hand.
One way to look at it is that she's obviously considered 3-somes... therefore she wants to explore more. Might as well explore with her before she decides she wants a different life.
As long as you guys love each other you shouldn't worry about 'setting rules'. There are so many different types of relationships. As long as you guys are honest and don't hide things from each other you should be fine. Love is all you need.
Still, I don't know you guys so it all depends.
If you are the slightest worried about losing her why risk it?? But hey you only live once so as long as everything feels right fuck away...
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Re: The dos and donts of a relationship 3-some? [Re: Dr Cid]
#15053883 - 09/09/11 05:56 PM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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Also you might wanna consider picking up a stranger from a bar or something for a 3-some... That way you don't have to worry about seeing them again
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Re: The dos and donts of a relationship 3-some? [Re: Dr Cid]
#15055265 - 09/09/11 10:02 PM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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Are u talkin to me?
Also, I feel like chances are higher of getting a friend into bed than a stranger. That, and girls usually need to be comfortable with each other to do sexual things with one another, so a random stranger might not work out so good, imo.
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Re: The dos and donts of a relationship 3-some? [Re: pothead_bob]
#15055448 - 09/09/11 10:36 PM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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i honestly dont know whos talking to who, but it seems like theres no right or wrong answer on something like this. its either go for it or dont anything in between is probably going to end up as waste.
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Re: The dos and donts of a relationship 3-some? [Re: rockycrag]
#15055797 - 09/09/11 11:47 PM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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Dude idk I'm tripping balls
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Re: The dos and donts of a relationship 3-some? [Re: Dr Cid]
#15055893 - 09/10/11 12:06 AM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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u know what goes great with trippin' balls? A threesome with two sexy women.
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Re: The dos and donts of a relationship 3-some? [Re: pothead_bob]
#15056494 - 09/10/11 03:40 AM (1 year, 8 months ago) |
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Putting borders on an open relatoinship is like posting a speed limit in a car race. It just doesnt make sense to me.
"Yeah we're totally doing this!! Its gonna be awesome!!....but keep it under 50"
"But I wanna go faster!!"
"Too bad."
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rockycrag
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even better a good ol fashioned orgy
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deleted, sorry didn't look at date
Edited by Anonymous (11/29/12 04:15 PM)
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Re: The dos and donts of a relationship 3-some? [Re: Anonymous #6]
#17302805 - 11/29/12 02:15 PM (5 months, 16 days ago) |
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deleted, sorry didn't look at date
Edited by Anonymous (11/29/12 04:16 PM)
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Re: The dos and donts of a relationship 3-some? [Re: Anonymous #6]
#17303105 - 11/29/12 03:20 PM (5 months, 16 days ago) |
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Dude, this thread was made almost 2 years ago.
Why the hell did you bump it?
OP and the girl he was talking about are long since broken up.
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Re: The dos and donts of a relationship 3-some? [Re: amilibertine]
#17303262 - 11/29/12 03:44 PM (5 months, 16 days ago) |
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amilibertine said:
Dude, this thread was made almost 2 years ago.
Why the hell did you bump it?
OP and the girl he was talking about are long since broken up.
Sorry, I fucked it up, guess my status "sober" is not really true 
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Re: The dos and donts of a relationship 3-some? [Re: amilibertine]
#17303403 - 11/29/12 04:10 PM (5 months, 16 days ago) |
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amilibertine said:
Dude, this thread was made almost 2 years ago.
Why the hell did you bump it?
Cuse he wanted to brag about his threesome 
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Re: The dos and donts of a relationship 3-some? [Re: BothHands]
#17303454 - 11/29/12 04:18 PM (5 months, 16 days ago) |
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not at all, there's no need to impress people that don't even live on the same continent.
Just wanted to give my 2 cents about being ready for stuff like that.
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Re: The dos and donts of a relationship 3-some? [Re: Anonymous #6]
#17307500 - 11/30/12 08:59 AM (5 months, 16 days ago) |
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What coincidental timing. I read this thread and my gf brought the idea up an hour later. Not sure how I feel :/
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