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 BadAssPterodactyl
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 Re: Girlfriend taking MDMA without me.  [Re: Anonymous #1]
#13596659 - 12/07/10 05:43 PM (2 years, 5 months ago) |
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This is the most retarded thing ever. The fact that she's going to do E has no effect on anything. The fact that she's going to a party and doesn't want you there is the real issue. It sounds like the 2 of you have some big trust and communication issues. I think you need to worry less about if she goes to the party, and more about how you're going to maturely break up with her, since you don't trust her.
please don't just post without reading the whole thread 
I did read the whole thread. You said you "more or less" broke up with her, but over texts is no way to break up with someone. You're definitely going to talk to her again, and when you do I hope you can do it without a huge outburst.
Also, I'm kind of wondering what kind of 16 year old girl goes out to parties and does drugs. I was no saint, but I didn't get into harder things until my mid 20's. Sounds like this girl might be trouble anyway
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This is the most retarded thing ever. The fact that she's going to do E has no effect on anything. The fact that she's going to a party and doesn't want you there is the real issue. It sounds like the 2 of you have some big trust and communication issues. I think you need to worry less about if she goes to the party, and more about how you're going to maturely break up with her, since you don't trust her.
please don't just post without reading the whole thread
I did read the whole thread. You said you "more or less" broke up with her, but over texts is no way to break up with someone. You're definitely going to talk to her again, and when you do I hope you can do it without a huge outburst.
Also, I'm kind of wondering what kind of 16 year old girl goes out to parties and does drugs. I was no saint, but I didn't get into harder things until my mid 20's. Sounds like this girl might be trouble anyway
Yeah, sadly that's the norm these days, at least in Amsterdam. I too wish she was more innocent, and wasn't constantly going to parties.
I already talked to her again, and she admitted faults in her personality, but claimed "I am a bit of a bitch sometimes () that's just who I am, can't change that"
I find it very frustrating to say the least.
So the issue is either her not respecting me, or me being a clingy son of a bitch. I really can't tell.
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Re: Girlfriend taking MDMA without me. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#13596696 - 12/07/10 05:51 PM (2 years, 5 months ago) |
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Girls don't necessarily like non-caring assholes.
Furthermore you are not being a non-caring asshole, you're just being an asshole.
Calling her tons of times trying to hurt her feelings, and simultaneously hoping for validation of your feelings doesn't work.
Trust me, I tried it.
Re-examine your relationships with women in general, not just this one.
In my best relationships I didn't feel like I had to be with my partner constantly, or run surveillance on them when they went out alone.
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Re: Girlfriend taking MDMA without me. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#13596703 - 12/07/10 05:53 PM (2 years, 5 months ago) |
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So the issue is either her not respecting me, or me being a clingy son of a bitch. I really can't tell.
Probably both. I would worry less about what she's doing and more about your deal. Why so dependent?
I ask again, how long have you two been together? You're still very young. I doubt you've been together long enough to really cause much of a hickup at all in hindsight.
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So the issue is either her not respecting me, or me being a clingy son of a bitch. I really can't tell.
Probably both. I would worry less about what she's doing and more about your deal. Why so dependent?
I ask again, how long have you two been together? You're still very young. I doubt you've been together long enough to really cause much of a hickup at all in hindsight.
I answer again  : in a week we'll be together 6 months. I'm leaving for London on our "anniversary".
You're probably right about me being dependant, I just don't understand how I could be anything different because I love her a LOT, and truthfully I WOULD be devestated if things wouldn't work out, and truthfully I DO want to see as much of her as I possibly can... 
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Re: Girlfriend taking MDMA without me. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#13596765 - 12/07/10 06:06 PM (2 years, 5 months ago) |
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I answer again : in a week we'll be together 6 months. I'm leaving for London on our "anniversary".
You're probably right about me being dependant, I just don't understand how I could be anything different because I love her a LOT, and truthfully I WOULD be devestated if things wouldn't work out, and truthfully I DO want to see as much of her as I possibly can...
I have a fair amount of experience in long term relationships, and trust me, this feeling of dread in the bottom of your stomach, knowing that she prob can't be trusted, isn't something that's part of a good relationship. As much as you love her, if you remain in a relationship with her, it will be like living in hell.
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I answer again : in a week we'll be together 6 months. I'm leaving for London on our "anniversary".
You're probably right about me being dependant, I just don't understand how I could be anything different because I love her a LOT, and truthfully I WOULD be devestated if things wouldn't work out, and truthfully I DO want to see as much of her as I possibly can...
I have a fair amount of experience in long term relationships, and trust me, this feeling of dread in the bottom of your stomach, knowing that she prob can't be trusted, isn't something that's part of a good relationship. As much as you love her, if you remain in a relationship with her, it will be like living in hell.
Damn, I know your probably right...
I guess I'm going to wait untill next month, when her BC starts working, bust inside her, and break up with her. And she's getting anal this weekend. 
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Re: Girlfriend taking MDMA without me. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#13596861 - 12/07/10 06:26 PM (2 years, 5 months ago) |
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You're gonna do whatever you're gonna do, but hopefully you'll know in the back of your mind that the sooner you end it, the sooner you can go back to not giving a shit what she's out there doing without you.
I was engaged to this guy a couple of years ago, and the story isn't at all the same, but the feelings were similar. After he proposed to me, he turned into a violent asshole and started hitting me. I lost all respect for him, and at that point there was no amount of working on our relationship that could have helped. I was just done with him. That's around the time that I started to go out partying with my brother. He had never done a single drug in his life, the last time he beat me was because I wanted to go do E with my brother at some warehouse party. Again, it's not the same story, but I wasn't going out to cheat on him, I was going out to get the hell away from him. So anyway, the moral of this story I guess is when you see big red flags like this, it's time to end the relationship
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Anyway, you guys have been really great. I'm sure that if I would have posted the only replies I would have gotten would have been "she's fucking someone else bro" "dshsb" snd "but in all seriousness, all signs point towards the fact that she's fucking someone else"
You really have been very helpful, and I hope me and her can work something out. Either way, I'll let you guys know what happened.
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You're gonna do whatever you're gonna do, but hopefully you'll know in the back of your mind that the sooner you end it, the sooner you can go back to not giving a shit what she's out there doing without you.
I was engaged to this guy a couple of years ago, and the story isn't at all the same, but the feelings were similar. After he proposed to me, he turned into a violent asshole and started hitting me. I lost all respect for him, and at that point there was no amount of working on our relationship that could have helped. I was just done with him. That's around the time that I started to go out partying with my brother. He had never done a single drug in his life, the last time he beat me was because I wanted to go do E with my brother at some warehouse party. Again, it's not the same story, but I wasn't going out to cheat on him, I was going out to get the hell away from him. So anyway, the moral of this story I guess is when you see big red flags like this, it's time to end the relationship
I fail to see any applicabilty to my case 
Anyway, my plan is to suggest to her to drop some E at my place, and just chill together and listen to music and TALK about this shit.
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Re: Girlfriend taking MDMA without me. [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#13596885 - 12/07/10 06:32 PM (2 years, 5 months ago) |
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I really can't tell.
We can tell. Grow up a bit. maybe you'll do better in your next relationship.
This one seems too smart for you.
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Re: Girlfriend taking MDMA without me. [Re: luvdemshrooms]
#13596891 - 12/07/10 06:33 PM (2 years, 5 months ago) |
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I really can't tell.
We can tell. Grow up a bit. maybe you'll do better in your next relationship.
This one seems too smart for you.
Thanks for the advice man. Been a great help throughout this thread. Why don't you post another facepalm, or speak in the plural first person some more?
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Re: Girlfriend taking MDMA without me. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#13596894 - 12/07/10 06:34 PM (2 years, 5 months ago) |
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You said she lost respect for you, and that's what's similar with my story. When you lose respect for someone, no amount of effort on their part will fix it.
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Re: Girlfriend taking MDMA without me. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#13596899 - 12/07/10 06:35 PM (2 years, 5 months ago) |
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I really can't tell.
We can tell. Grow up a bit. maybe you'll do better in your next relationship.
This one seems too smart for you.
Thanks for the advice man. Been a great help throughout this thread. Why don't you post another facepalm, or speak in the plural first person some more?
We are glad to help.
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Re: Girlfriend taking MDMA without me. [Re: luvdemshrooms]
#13597018 - 12/07/10 06:55 PM (2 years, 5 months ago) |
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The reason it is so funny is because you are 1) acting naive and 2) trying to act like it doesn't bother you when we know you're boiling over with jealousy. When you make a big deal out of things like this, its obvious that you are the one who cares more, which isn't a good thing. She sees through you.. and its obvious to everyone, even if we don't know her.
At this point, she knows that you "breaking up" with her is just some act for her to think you don't care anymore. She knows that she can get you back any time, she just has to ask. That's not very fun for girls
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Re: Girlfriend taking MDMA without me. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#13597026 - 12/07/10 06:56 PM (2 years, 5 months ago) |
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tell that bitch to get her mind right
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Re: Girlfriend taking MDMA without me. [Re: Flop Johnson]
#13597110 - 12/07/10 07:09 PM (2 years, 5 months ago) |
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and should fuck off and die.
So you think she should just fuck off and die?
Sounds like you have a pretty rough relationship there buddy
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Re: Girlfriend taking MDMA without me. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#13597501 - 12/07/10 08:32 PM (2 years, 5 months ago) |
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Anonymous#1 is Visionary Flicker. Why are you hiding behind the anonymous function?
Your relationship sounds fucked VF. Any relationship at that age is so don't take it too hard. She admits to being a bitch. Dump her for that reason alone.
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Re: Girlfriend taking MDMA without me. [Re: Bipolarbear]
#13599339 - 12/08/10 01:26 AM (2 years, 5 months ago) |
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What has made them conceive that man must want a rationally advantageous choice?
I've become desensitized to these types of occurrences thus far. Yet, there lies a sensation of bitter disappointment embedded within.
FINE YOU IMBECILE; SUFFER!! IT IS YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE HURTING. NOTHING IS DETERRING YOU FROM ATTAINING THAT OF WHICH YOU INHERENTLY CRAVE. YOU HAVE LET THEM TAKE OVER YOUR MIND, YOU ARE NO LONGER IN CONTROL, YOU NEVER WERE.
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Re: Girlfriend taking MDMA without me. [Re: Anonymous #5]
#13600631 - 12/08/10 11:54 AM (2 years, 5 months ago) |
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Friday I'll be seeing her, and I told her we needed to talk.
She agreed.
I'm going to ask her wether she want's to stay together, wether she wants to make the effort, or if we are going to have to decide this isn't going to work out.
Chances are the latter will be the case for both of us, although I am willing to give it another shot if she is motivated.
If we decide on breaking up I'm going to suggest remaining friends with priviliges. Any thoughts on this, is this a bad idea in any way? It is something she has mentioned in the past.
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