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 mick
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 Re: My Girl left me...  [Re: Kid_Orgo]
#13288890 - 10/04/10 03:03 PM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
Thanks for the ad hominem in return for my taking my time to look into your situation honestly.
I'd curse you to a life without insight, but it looks like you're halfway there anyway. I'll call it even.
Using the cliche and Dick sentence 'she fucking someone else bro' is not you taking your time to look into a situation honestly. It would be wise for you to stop being a complete fucking asshole and apologize for saying something like that to a person who is already going through enough.
OP... you dont need to apologize to that douchebag/flamer/troll. Also, what youre going through is normal.
Sucks to be in this situation right now.. but like all others, it will pass. The sooner you understand that and let her go, the sooner you can move on. Its hard because were used to having a person next to us to cuddle/talk/be a friend/lover, then it all stops, and we have to adjust to that element now being gone. The best thing you can do is
accept the loss
let her go do her thing in life and be happy for her
use resources you have (hobbies,friends,finances, etc) to reward yourself with for being a good, strong person through all of this
embrace the love you have for yourself
enjoy life...
I wish you the best of luck, look on the bright side, youre alive, probably young, and full of energy... go enjoy that.
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Edited by mick (10/04/10 04:45 PM)
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 yogabunny
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Re: My Girl left me... [Re: mick]
#13288945 - 10/04/10 04:32 PM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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brilliant input on all accounts.
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Re: My Girl left me... [Re: mick] 1
#13289204 - 10/04/10 05:44 PM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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mick said:
Using the cliche and Dick sentence 'she fucking someone else bro' is not you taking your time to look into a situation honestly.
Except for the fact that it is exactly that.
Regardless of how I put it, every single word I said was exactly what I think the truth is. I stated my reasoning. It seems like the consensus in the thread is that I was 100% on point.
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Re: My Girl left me... [Re: Kid_Orgo]
#13289244 - 10/04/10 05:51 PM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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It seems like the consensus in the thread is that I was 100% on point.
Really?
Then why are there so many people in thread, who don't agree with you? 
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Re: My Girl left me... [Re: Kid_Orgo] 1
#13289269 - 10/04/10 05:55 PM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
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mick said:
Using the cliche and Dick sentence 'she fucking someone else bro' is not you taking your time to look into a situation honestly.
Except for the fact that it is exactly that.
Regardless of how I put it, every single word I said was exactly what I think the truth is. I stated my reasoning. It seems like the consensus in the thread is that I was 100% on point.
i agree that she probably cheated on him, but in this forum "she's fucking someone else bro" and/or "dshsb" don't count as valuable input in this forum.
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Edited by yogabunny (10/04/10 09:58 PM)
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Re: My Girl left me... [Re: Kid_Orgo]
#13290333 - 10/04/10 09:37 PM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
she's fucking somebody else, bro.
(at least she has a conscience and ended it with you instead of continuing to cheat on you)
This.
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Re: My Girl left me... [Re: plustax]
#13290437 - 10/04/10 09:58 PM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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Kid_Orgo
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Re: My Girl left me... [Re: yogabunny] 1
#13290773 - 10/04/10 11:11 PM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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What I posted was in full compliance with this forum's rules (unlike several of the reply posts) and my right to express my ideas in my own particular idiom is not overruled by your desire to have everything be your idea of nice and copacetic, or conform to your notions of "value"
I stand by my assertion, I explained my rationale. You don't like my reasoning or manner, don't read it. This "argument" is over. Back to the OP and his shitty day.
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Enlightenedwon
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Re: My Girl left me... [Re: Kid_Orgo]
#13291467 - 10/05/10 01:32 AM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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Sounds like she felt restricted in some way, maybe unable to do what she wants to do, even if it's something they had no initial desire to do. When a person appears as stubborn it is because they know that they could do something, but they choose not to act on it. It's like saying you can never travel the world to someone who's been never left their hometown, all of a sudden the ego says I better gtfo of here, I want to have the option to go and travel around the world, so I must truly desire to be away from this place.
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Re: My Girl left me... [Re: yogabunny]
#13291560 - 10/05/10 01:54 AM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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usefulidiot13 This situatation sounds just like my situation with my exGF. She would blank out on me in bed, and always be like "I dont know" "Its just.... I dont know". I would try to kiss her and she just had nooo interest in me at all. She like didnt like me at all it felt. I had to get creative and start spicing up the relationship abit. Still didnt prevent her from cheating on me but i got the relationship to last 18 months. I think you have to start spicing up the relationship a bit. Its possible she lost attraction in you. I feel like the best way to gain attraction is to start enjoying your own life and not worring about her. Be happy with yourself, i think you worrying in itself is the attraction killer. Have fun with her as a friend.
One thing i dislike about posting help on internet boards, is everyone says that you should "leave the bitch" and not be friends with her, but if you can learn to be friends with her, and just enjoy your time with her that would be a good skill to have.
Edited by p4kSouL (10/05/10 01:55 AM)
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Kid_Orgo
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If this is someone so insecure, I would suspect that she's after some source of validation you can't provide. Someone else is mysterious, you're just some chump. You deserve better, not her. No one that loves anyone would keep their thoughts secret or hurt someone without explanation, or deny their attempts to figure out why. You keep your shit together and find a better woman.
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Re: My Girl left me... [Re: Kid_Orgo]
#13291853 - 10/05/10 03:43 AM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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If you look for better, you'll find better. Don't sweat too much over relationships. Sometimes it takes a few break-ups to get desensitized enough to look for the right chick objectively. Truth be told those "insecure" ones are bound to fail on you. They don't know what they want so they're still willing to experience everything just to see what it feels like. When you find a chick who knows what she wants and it matches up with what you want (without you having to tell her what she wants because she's too inexperienced/insecure to know herself) you'll have a winner. Keep looking and remember not to let yourself hurt too much. Build those defense mechanisms up :P.
Those of you using the internet for a place to act socially inept: get the fuck back in the pub.
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Re: My Girl left me... [Re: Kid_Orgo]
#13291856 - 10/05/10 03:46 AM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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Kid_Orgo said:
If this is someone so insecure, I would suspect that she's after some source of validation you can't provide. Someone else is mysterious, you're just some chump. You deserve better, not her. No one that loves anyone would keep their thoughts secret or hurt someone without explanation, or deny their attempts to figure out why. You keep your shit together and find a better woman.
You should have said this in the first place instead of just acting like a douchebag just because you're still butthurt that bitches act like bitches and you still haven't figured out how make it work for you. Grow up, you're legitimately almost there.
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Re: My Girl left me... [Re: abore] 1
#13291858 - 10/05/10 03:49 AM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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Not to sound like a dick, but the info I gathered from your post indicates she cheated on you, or has feelings for someone else, and plans to purse it, and or is ending it for that reason. My suggestion to you would be to move on, plenty of fish in the sea.
Edited by Othyem (10/05/10 03:50 AM)
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Re: My Girl left me... [Re: yogabunny]
#13291967 - 10/05/10 05:10 AM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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yogabunny said:
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usefulidiot13 said:
she rarely drinks but she did get drunk over the few days she was away from me...she went to a party friday night and said she had so much fun and realized that she needed to have fun growing up and not focus on being in a relationship.
i doubt it but i am not saying it is impossible..
she is very insecure...like THE most insecure and scared person i have ever met....she is scared to death to let anyone in bc she has had a few shitty boyfriends...but i have been epically nice....i have been so perfect...i think she is just scared to death bc nobody has ever cared about her so much...she isnt used to this so she just does what she thinks first...shuts me out...she wont even talk to her friends or her family about me...she just wants to ignore this whole thing.
i am just leaving her alone, but i def wont just give the fuck up and not talk to her for 6 months...i am SURE she will come to me soon enough to REALLY talk. i just have to wait it out and give her her space until she does.
im sorry but it sounds like she cheated on you and realized she doesn't want to be tied down to a relationship anymore.
sorry!
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Kid_Orgo said:
(at least she has a conscience and ended it with you instead of continuing to cheat on you)
My thoughts exactly...
sorry bro.
The best thing you can do is to have no contact with her what-so-ever. Focus on getting your mind right and don't worry about what she's doing or thinking. Forget she exists lest you wish to torment yourself any further.
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Re: My Girl left me... [Re: Othyem]
#13292000 - 10/05/10 05:38 AM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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Othyem said:
Not to sound like a dick, but the info I gathered from your post indicates she cheated on you, or has feelings for someone else, and plans to purse it, and or is ending it for that reason. My suggestion to you would be to move on, plenty of fish in the sea.
QFT
Sorry op.
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luvdemshrooms
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Based on what I've seen of your posts, I'm not surprised she left.
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we had A GREAT relationship
Seems she doesn't agree.
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yogabunny
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Re: My Girl left me... [Re: Kid_Orgo]
#13292368 - 10/05/10 10:10 AM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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Kid_Orgo said:
What I posted was in full compliance with this forum's rules (unlike several of the reply posts) and my right to express my ideas in my own particular idiom is not overruled by your desire to have everything be your idea of nice and copacetic, or conform to your notions of "value"
I stand by my assertion, I explained my rationale. You don't like my reasoning or manner, don't read it. This "argument" is over. Back to the OP and his shitty day.
im not arguing with you. just stating my own opinion, you don't have to like my reasoning or manner either and, incidentally i am not the only one who disagreed with yours.
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4. post with the intent of causeing inteligent discussion at all times in this forum.
"she's fucking someone else bro" as a response is not really sparking intelligent conversation. it's a silly pub meme and is the exact reason why a few of us rallied to have this forum created. i don't desire for everything to be my idea of nice and copacetic, but i just can't help but roll my eyes at this overused, stock reply.
ANYWAY, OP getting your heart broken sucks but the worst thing you can do is keep trying to contact her and see her. Sever all your ties and move on. Every time you want to call her, call a friend or family member instead. Every time you want to see her, make plans with someone else instead. Throw yourself into some physical activity, find a book to get absorbed in. Anything you can do with your time and head space other than think of her. You will be fine, I promise, and find someone who is flattered by and deserving of your love and affection.
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Spooge
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Edited by Spooge (04/04/12 08:20 AM)
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Re: My Girl left me... [Re: Spooge]
#13292742 - 10/05/10 12:12 PM (2 years, 7 months ago) |
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this is very good advice.
for whatever reason i have LOTS of friends who are going through bad break-ups/divorces right now, and this is exactly what i keep telling them, and it's the truth. it's hurts now, but it won't hurt as much in 6 months, or a year. it SUCKS now, but think about how much life can change in just a year or two.
this is tough pill to swallow OP but this relationship never would have worked out, because it was extremely codependent and you must go through this heart break in order to learn to love yourself and not seek fulfillment from your relationship.
ps - is there any reason her family would have to turn her against you?
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