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 MushroomTrip
Dr. Teasy Thighs
  
Registered: 12/02/05
Posts: 14,348
Loc: red panda village
Last seen: 16 days, 7 hours
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If you really are worried about your kid, then do something to be a part of her life so you can positively influence her development. It really sounds like you have already gave up on her and that you're expecting her to become a delinquent or a slut.
Don't start hating your daughter just because you and her mother have problems.
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All this time I've loved you
And never known your face
All this time I've missed you
And searched this human race
Here is true peace
Here my heart knows calm
Safe in your soul
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Anonymous #1
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Mushroom Trip:
You're wrong. Those are my worst fears.
I would never, and WILL never hate her. Why would you say that?
I gotta go, taking my kid to her ballet lesson...
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Anonymous #5
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Ok, be civil... be loving pertend you don't know.. Even fuck her with a condom if that is what you regularly do... It will be the last time... Women are kniving to a huge extent... The sex is lame anyway you just don't realize it... And has been for a while but you don't realize it. I'm guessing she isn't taking the kid right on her trip?
Make plans for you and the kid for the time she is gone plans like the zoo and such even a scheduled fishing playdate..
YOU CAN'T MAKE ANY PREPARATIONS IT WILL TIP HER OFF. - edit
Drop her off at the airport....
Then do what needs to be done...
PM ME... I've been through this similar situation.. A lawyer will not help. You can also PM me for a phone number. You can say I'm a business contact.
You will essentially clean out the house while she is on the plane. You can either clean it out and put the storage in someone elses name or sell it to them. Or make it look like a robbery. U-haul and public storage. Leave an e-mail for your present employer after leaving town. You have a lot to do including leaving town before she get's off the plane. And you can't make any preparations any preparation WILL TIP HER OFF. Put some distance between yourself. When she calls pull over turn off the engine and don't answer her calls just listen to the voice message. You will get an extra 6-12 hours this way. You can't do any preparation either and you have to keep your mouth shut. You can't second guess yourself for a second.
Don't tell anyone or talk to anyone about the sensitive details.
DO NOT WORRY ABOUT THE MONEY NOW you will get it all back women can and do use their kids as pawns and don't hesitate to beat, cook, or mutilate, or starve them to manipulate the fathers and DCFS isn't going to lift a finger.
DO NOT WORRY ABOUT CITIZENSHIP it takes a good long while to get a divorce.
DONT CLEAN OUT ACCOUNTS UNTIL SHE IS ON THE PLANE AND AFTER YOU HAVE BEEN THROUGH THE HOUSE. Clean them out before she lands.
DONT FORGET PAPERWORK TAX FORMS AND IDs
Don't do anything or give her even an inkling that something is wrong until she is on the plane, don't tell her anything until her weekend is over and she is waiting for you at the airport. I'll be there soon, I was sleeping ... etc or I didn't expect you to come...
Don't tell the neighbors anything... You can tell them you are moving and the big house is a surprise for her.
Hell I'll even rent you a safehouse for your child for 6 months. After that you can get your story together and move on.
Your cell can be tracked. I'd toss it when you leave town.
PM me , I'll PM you a number... Call the number when she is on the plane and not from any phone you are associated with. Based on your location I have 1 of three locations for you to drive to. You will not be able to pack your car full of crap and suitcases. You will only be able to pack your trunk up 1/2 way. I hope you have money cuz you will need it. Grab what you can but it is the most important thing not to tip her off.
6 months alone with the child will give you 1. Custody, 2. (Time to consolodate your emotions and get an STD test - reason as to why you took off) 3. Sympathy of the court since you are a single father who was cheated on. She will have to pay child support probably from the lawyer she is with's bank account. Or at the very least he will dump her ASAP. You just want custody on paper and to live in another state.. One that doesn't like philandering women.
I'm not an attorney and I won't burn you. I will rent you a place and help you get over some serious emotional stress. Battered women have shelters... And so should men. It isn't 1950. It is 2010... The world is one wierd fucked up place.
Once you have defacto custody for 6 months and she has essentially moved on you can send her a court order for child support. Just say you were grieving. Women are masters at garnering sympathy. You will just have to do the same.
If you follow through you will be the 1 guy in a million who isn't totally screwed.
Make sure she can't serve you.
Edited by Anonymous (09/02/10 10:31 PM)
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wowitch17
Growery is Better
Registered: 01/11/06
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lol @ hiding out with your child for 6 months in a safe house.
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kingboomer
smurfhouse archetect
Registered: 06/15/04
Posts: 590
Loc: Rocky Mountain High!!!! 
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Anonymous said: It's funny, she has accused me of cheating an lying when i've done neither.
This right here has been my issue in the past. IME, the one that's acusing you of cheating and lying is the one doing it.
-Kingboomer
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Anonymous #1
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Well, I got some legal advice.
First, the bad news:
I can't boot her out of the house.
Where we live, the mom almost always gets custody.
She could legally sell the house and car at any moment.
The good news:
A divorce we both agree on will cost $1,600.00 USD.
The lawyer have a 'trick' to put a lean on the house and car to make it impossible for her to sell them.
This will be used for bargaining later. Maybe put the house in a trust for my daughter and specify that she must live there.
There's a good chance the alimony will be little or nothing(I'll ALWAYS pay my kid's school, clothes, food).
The idea is to take away any advantage she has.
Hiring a PI could work to scare her with pics and stuff, but to prove adultery, it takes a video of the act itself, tough to do.
I have to be nice and not let on that i know for a couple weeks until the possessions are secured. We even have an apt with a marriage counselor.
I woke up this morning not wanting to move out of my house. I could stand being in a loveless relationship in order to be with my kid everyday. But even if me and the wifey started getting along again i'd never be able to trust her.
Running off with my kid is called KIDNAPPING. Not going there.
Time to look for an apartment....
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whitelight7
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Registered: 02/17/09
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Loc: Washington
Last seen: 7 months, 9 days
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I hope this works out for you man. I doubt the mother even ever thought of the consequences this would have on your daughter. I can't imagine what it's like to go thorough a divorce (I thought a 5yr relationship was bad), but i bet after a few yrs, you'll be glad all this happened and freed you of her and a loveless relationship.
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Anonymous #5
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I think you are a WUSS and capitulating to an adulterer. I don't blame you though. Laws are stacked against you and there is really nothing you can do.
Hope you enjoy losing your home, kid, becoming a child support slave, and continuing to be someone's whipping boy.
The lawyer is just telling you what you want to hear. They really can't do anything except take your money and represent you according to the court.
She is leaving to have sex with another person.
You should leave with the kid. You are the father. She isn't there, you can legally take the kid anywhere on the planet especially to grieve that you found out she is cheating on you.
Either you don't want to take care of the kid, which I don't blame you for either, why bother right?
Anyway if you change your mind after your head is clear it will be too late.
99% of guys are in your shoes and make the same decisions you are making.
I wish you the best and hope it works out for you.
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Anonymous #6
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As a female whose parents are divorced and whose step-father is an expert witness for father's custody battles, I support what #5 is saying.... My mother was a good enough person to let my father have shared custody, but then, she wasn't the one cheating. I don't trust your wife, she will very likely FUCK you over more than she already has, and take the two loves of your life away from you.
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MushroomTrip
Dr. Teasy Thighs
Registered: 12/02/05
Posts: 14,348
Loc: red panda village
Last seen: 16 days, 7 hours
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Anonymous said:
I think you are a WUSS and capitulating to an adulterer. I don't blame you though. Laws are stacked against you and there is really nothing you can do.
Hope you enjoy losing your home, kid, becoming a child support slave, and continuing to be someone's whipping boy.
The lawyer is just telling you what you want to hear. They really can't do anything except take your money and represent you according to the court.
She is leaving to have sex with another person.
You should leave with the kid. You are the father. She isn't there, you can legally take the kid anywhere on the planet especially to grieve that you found out she is cheating on you.
Either you don't want to take care of the kid, which I don't blame you for either, why bother right?
Anyway if you change your mind after your head is clear it will be too late.
99% of guys are in your shoes and make the same decisions you are making.
I wish you the best and hope it works out for you.
What horrible advice, it feels like a three year old posted this crap.
Let's assume that he doesn't get caught and they manage to move somewhere where they can't be found. Are you aware of the implications of such a life? How do you imagine he will be able to make a living and support his daughter, all without getting caught? Did you think about how traumatizing that can be for a kid - going by fake names, lying about who she is and where she's coming from, making up a sad story where her mother died, etc? Did you even think how HORRIBLE she might feel without her mother next to her? Just because OP's wife is a bad wife, it doesn't mean that she is also a bad mother. You're not considering the well-being of the kid or OP, you just want to see the wife being punished, probably because of your own unresolved emotional problems.
Luckily, OP is smarter than that and seems willing to accept reality, no matter how sucky it might be for him at this moment.
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All this time I've loved you
And never known your face
All this time I've missed you
And searched this human race
Here is true peace
Here my heart knows calm
Safe in your soul
Bathed in your sighs
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 migraineur
Geezer
Registered: 02/15/10
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What ended up happening in this situation?
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dummy
I am you and what I see is me
Registered: 09/29/08
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Yeah I'd also like to know... To have a life built up only to have some weak minded bitch's pussy ruin it all scares me to death. I don't think I'm going to ever be legally wedded.
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numonkei
Back! From thedigestive tractof dave theiguana!
Registered: 04/12/06
Posts: 2,473
Loc: A Tree
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Thinking about sending his FB a message saying "you can keep her."
When my last lady started fucking around. I did the same thing, "Dude, you can HAVE her, just keep the crazy over there please". It didn't work, the crazy stayed, and I left. Best move I've made in the past year, but that was without kids and after falling out of love with the lady.
I'd recommend waiting on this sort of thing until you have extra-significant proof and preferably a confession. You can't take these sorts of things back, and if your suspicions are all correct you likely would not want to, but keep in mind it may play in court at some point and maturity is very helpful in custody issues. You might have some details wrong.
This may come off wrong, but if she has any attractive friends or family, right before you confront her is the time to fuck them. I know how bad that sounds, and I only raise that point because the opportunity would likely fade and I've regretted not doing the same in my own history with cheating women.
EDIT: Oh, this is old. He's probably in jail for murdering the cheater, or smart enough to have gotten the fuck away with primary custody.
~Monk
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migraineur
Geezer
Registered: 02/15/10
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 Re: Cheating wife  [Re: numonkei]
#14090170 - 03/09/11 01:52 AM (2 years, 2 months ago) |
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Yeah, a friend of a friend was engaged to a girl and she cheated on the guy so he went and fucked her sister. Great revenge!
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