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 PowerTrip
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 Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? 
#12662591 - 05/31/10 08:51 PM (3 years, 20 days ago) |
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I just met this girl. She's really cool. Her personality is what I look for and somehow she seems almost completely sane.
The thing is, I know she would be in a relationship with me if I wanted it. She knows I don't want a girlfriend right now and she says she's content with just hanging out and having sex. I've never done this before but I know how emotions get involved and you slowly drift into being in a relationship with someone.
Is there a chance in hell that this will continue to be cool and copacetic, or is it only going to end badly?
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ROGER5676
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Re: Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? [Re: PowerTrip]
#12662679 - 05/31/10 09:06 PM (3 years, 20 days ago) |
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this one is easy. there is no way of this ending good. well, maybe one in a million.
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Re: Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? [Re: ROGER5676]
#12663304 - 05/31/10 10:54 PM (3 years, 20 days ago) |
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ROGER5676 said:
this one is easy. there is no way of this ending good. well, maybe one in a million.
He couldn't be more right with that one...I've tried myself a whole buncha times. Doesn't work, unless its a rare 1 in a million or it was very short lived.
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Re: Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? [Re: Mephistophelian]
#12663826 - 06/01/10 12:12 AM (3 years, 20 days ago) |
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damn I am in the same situation and was hoping for better responses. This chick has been after me for years and I always had a girlfriend every time we were hanging out and now I don't have one and we started hanging out, fooling around and having sex but now I think that I may have fucked up because I don't like this chicks personality.
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Society
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Re: Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? [Re: PowerTrip]
#12667105 - 06/01/10 04:55 PM (3 years, 19 days ago) |
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Yeah, this sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. I'd think that ideally the only way that it'd work is that if neither of you were legitimately interested in each other. For example, longtime sex-deprived opposite sex friends.
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crzyn8
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Re: Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? [Re: Society]
#12669304 - 06/01/10 11:44 PM (3 years, 19 days ago) |
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short of you both having a similar personality disorder the chances of it working out without complications is pretty damn slim, even in the swingers community there are routinely people getting attached and developing feelings and crap
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PowerTrip
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Re: Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? [Re: crzyn8]
#12672102 - 06/02/10 02:08 PM (3 years, 18 days ago) |
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Society said:
For example, longtime sex-deprived opposite sex friends.
I think this may be the case. Neither one of us really get out much lately.
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crzyn8 said:
short of you both having a similar personality disorder...
Our personalities are actually very similar in good and bad ways. We both did not really like our last relationship..
At the same time though we're already spending way too much time talking on the phone and she's pushing me to "hang out" with her during the day.
As far as personality goes she's probably the coolest girl I've ever met.
I was hoping at least one person would say they've pulled this off before.
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Re: Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? [Re: PowerTrip]
#12672659 - 06/02/10 04:26 PM (3 years, 18 days ago) |
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i've pulled it off dozens of times, but more often than not the woman i'm hooking up with gets attached then the trouble starts and most of the time when it did work the woman had some serious issues or trauma affecting her emotional makeup in the long term it's rare to have it work out especially if you care about the person on any level
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Re: Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? [Re: crzyn8]
#12673453 - 06/02/10 06:50 PM (3 years, 18 days ago) |
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Just get in a casual relationship with her...just because you're with someone doesn't mean you intend to spend your life with them.
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ROGER5676
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Re: Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? [Re: Synesthetic]
#12674515 - 06/02/10 09:58 PM (3 years, 18 days ago) |
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Synesthetic said:
Just get in a casual relationship with her...just because you're with someone doesn't mean you intend to spend your life with them.
 tell that to a girl. " listen sweetie, i dont want to date you even though i am single and you want to date me, lets just take it real slow and let me bang to crap out of you for a few months. no strings." if that works please pm me on how you did it
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Re: Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? [Re: ROGER5676]
#12706907 - 06/08/10 02:59 AM (3 years, 13 days ago) |
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so if a girl wants a casual, sexual relationship, friends with benefits kinda thing, seriously casual. does that make her a slut? cuz thats all ive been wanting for over two gddamn yrs now and i find the relationship-y guys. fuck relationships, when i want to get married then ill have a serious relationship. what ever happened to dating around?
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Re: Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#12713516 - 06/09/10 06:31 AM (3 years, 11 days ago) |
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At the same time though we're already spending way too much time talking on the phone and she's pushing me to "hang out" with her during the day.
You're screwed on this one, man.
It DOES happen, though. I have definitely been friends with someone and occasionally boned them over a couple years without feelings getting involved.
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Re: Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? [Re: Kid_Orgo]
#12717922 - 06/10/10 12:41 AM (3 years, 11 days ago) |
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I'm losing this battle, but I haven't given up...
We're now talking every day. We hang out for a couple hours at least four nights a week...
No parent's have been met.
This chick is cool as fuck. If she were even slightly hotter I would call her girlfriend material. I must be more shallow than I thought because if I were to describe a perfect girl personality wise she would be as close as it gets..
She does want to start working out though and is planning on getting implants so maybe there's potential..
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Re: Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? [Re: PowerTrip]
#12719093 - 06/10/10 07:26 AM (3 years, 10 days ago) |
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PowerTrip said:
I'm losing this battle, but I haven't given up...
We're now talking every day. We hang out for a couple hours at least four nights a week...
No parent's have been met.
This chick is cool as fuck. If she were even slightly hotter I would call her girlfriend material. I must be more shallow than I thought because if I were to describe a perfect girl personality wise she would be as close as it gets..
She does want to start working out though and is planning on getting implants so maybe there's potential..
Hope she never see's that comment
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Re: Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? [Re: PowerTrip]
#12719378 - 06/10/10 09:57 AM (3 years, 10 days ago) |
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PowerTrip said:
She does want to start working out though and is planning on getting implants so maybe there's potential..
Then she's going to leave you for someone better. 
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Re: Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? [Re: MushroomTrip]
#12725259 - 06/11/10 11:12 AM (3 years, 9 days ago) |
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Lennyk said:
Hope she never see's that comment
I was thinking the same as I posted it. I feel bad though because she always says shit like "I'll never be a barbie doll" etc etc..
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MushroomTrip said:
Then she's going to leave you for someone better.
I don't think implants and losing a couple lbs are that life altering. Well... maybe the implants..
In all seriousness though, due to how I'm approaching this thing with her I've already made it clear that I want her to pursue things with other people if she meets someone she likes.
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Re: Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? [Re: PowerTrip]
#12729295 - 06/12/10 01:52 AM (3 years, 9 days ago) |
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My friend and i of 3 years just started having sex after she broke up with her boyfriend. we really click, the sex is good, I personally wish it could stay like this forever, but i have a feeling that she will want a relationship eventually. But that seems like a long way away.
Might as well ride the high while you can, this is the best possible situation to be in til shit hits the fan, haha
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Re: Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? [Re: PowerTrip]
#12780411 - 06/21/10 09:01 PM (2 years, 11 months ago) |
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PowerTrip said:
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Lennyk said:
Hope she never see's that comment
I was thinking the same as I posted it. I feel bad though because she always says shit like "I'll never be a barbie doll" etc etc..
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MushroomTrip said:
Then she's going to leave you for someone better.
I don't think implants and losing a couple lbs are that life altering. Well... maybe the implants..
In all seriousness though, due to how I'm approaching this thing with her I've already made it clear that I want her to pursue things with other people if she meets someone she likes.
Sorry to say this, but if she's as into you as you think, and you're spending so much time together, how/when will she have a chance to meet someone else that she likes?
I've been in this situation before, and actually met someone else that I liked, then the guy I was casually seeing got uber jealous and psycho. He used to say almost exactly what you're saying. Im not saying that you would be like that, because I don't know you..Im just saying.
My advice would be to not see each other so much, and establish just how casual you want it to be. People only really get attached after spending heaps of time together. 
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Re: Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? [Re: bettybourgy]
#12780630 - 06/21/10 09:40 PM (2 years, 11 months ago) |
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You know, on one hand, so many people keep telling you it's not going to work. Honestly, they have good reason. I've never had it work either. It sucks to be on a different page from someone else... but sometimes, experiencing this for yourself is not that bad. Its necessary almost. You're going to keep banging her anyway, regardless of what people on this thread tell you. 99% chance, it wont work out, you and everyone knows this. Sometimes though, we all tend to have a little bit of masochism and do things we know have a very slim chance of working. Its thrilling in some ways.
Go for it, fall on your face (or hell, it MIGHT (big emphasis on might) work). Either way, you'll have a cool story to tell and an important life experience.
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Re: Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? [Re: supernovasky]
#12784099 - 06/22/10 01:39 PM (2 years, 11 months ago) |
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Well you guys were right...
She has somewhat turned into my "girlfriend." I don't really care anymore. She gives me plenty of space, doesn't complain when I go all day without calling her, etc etc..
She's really laid back and in many ways exactly what I need right now. We're both thinking it may end in the fall anyway.
So the lesson here.. If you really want things to be purely sexual, it has to be established from the first day. No talking during the week and only seeing each other very occasionally. Once you get into the pattern of talking regularly there's no way to step back and stop being close.
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Re: Is it really possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship with someone, without emotion? [Re: PowerTrip]
#12784702 - 06/22/10 03:30 PM (2 years, 11 months ago) |
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PowerTrip said:
I just met this girl. She's really cool. Her personality is what I look for and somehow she seems almost completely sane.
The thing is, I know she would be in a relationship with me if I wanted it. She knows I don't want a girlfriend right now and she says she's content with just hanging out and having sex. I've never done this before but I know how emotions get involved and you slowly drift into being in a relationship with someone.
Is there a chance in hell that this will continue to be cool and copacetic, or is it only going to end badly?
situations like this work out for me most of the time, i haven't had it turn out bad, for me, yet.
and i haven't been in a relationship in over a year. but i've talked to quite a few girls since then, im still cool with every single one of them.
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