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Anonymous #1
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Attraction to shemales and questioning one's sexuality...
#9164482 - 10/31/08 01:07 PM (15 years, 4 months ago) |
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What does it mean if I'm attracted to shemales? There's just something about that fine combination of a female face, luscious lips, curvaceous breasts, smooth legs, and a throbbing hard member that turns me on.
Now, I'm curious as to the brain chemistry behind this. An article I read somewhere stated that the majority of people who were attracted to shemales identified themselves as heterosexual men--why is this? I don't like gay porn; there's just something innately wrong about two male bodies being that close to each other. But somehow, when the male is in a female form I find it acceptable, even hotter than traditional male-female pornography.
I identify myself as being attracted to both males and females, but I can only see myself being submissive to a man: actually being dominant to a man revolts me, as that's what females seem far better designed for (and their curves are just natural to be dominated). I can only see myself in an emotional relationship with girls, and I'm definitely sexually attracted to them, but I find myself more sexually attracted to men even though I could never be in a relationship with one (perhaps knowing that most men seek to use their partners solely for sex turns me off, as I know I myself as a man often only approach girls with the intent of banging them and no emotional connection.)
I also find myself going through phases where for a few weeks I'm pretty much solely interested in girls, whereas for another few weeks I'm solely compelled to fantasize about men.
So how screwed up am I, exactly?
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PeterGriffin467
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Re: Attraction to shemales and questioning one's sexuality... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#9164505 - 10/31/08 01:13 PM (15 years, 4 months ago) |
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Edited by WhiskeyClone (10/31/08 02:08 PM)
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Talking Head
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Re: Attraction to shemales and questioning one's sexuality... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#9165132 - 10/31/08 03:39 PM (15 years, 4 months ago) |
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thats pretty strange.
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Edited by Talking Head (10/31/08 03:40 PM)
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Attraction to shemales and questioning one's sexuality... [Re: Talking Head]
#9165239 - 10/31/08 04:09 PM (15 years, 4 months ago) |
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Tell me about it.
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Mufungo
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#9165545 - 10/31/08 05:36 PM (15 years, 4 months ago) |
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CrypticMike
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Re: Attraction to shemales and questioning one's sexuality... [Re: Mufungo]
#9165643 - 10/31/08 06:13 PM (15 years, 4 months ago) |
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Well, you look like a bisexual or at least bi-curious. Nothing so screwed up at all.
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Mephistophelian
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Re: Attraction to shemales and questioning one's sexuality... [Re: CrypticMike]
#9166013 - 10/31/08 08:04 PM (15 years, 4 months ago) |
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Its far from screwed up. Its pretty normal sounding actually, especially for someone who is Bisexual. Or at CrypticMike said...at the very least bi-curious.
Just go with the flow...go explore it. See where it takes you...what you do in your own time is your business, regardless of what your conscious or society might say. Fetish's and the 'un-tolds' of sexuality are by far the best part of sexuality imo.
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Re: Attraction to shemales and questioning one's sexuality... [Re: Mephistophelian]
#9166123 - 10/31/08 08:53 PM (15 years, 4 months ago) |
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You're not screwed up, this isnt unheard of. Plenty of people like yourself are attracted to transexuals. Explore your sexuality!
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Attraction to shemales and questioning one's sexuality... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#9166600 - 11/01/08 12:17 AM (15 years, 4 months ago) |
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I have kind of wondered the same.
I could never have sex with a normal guy, totally put off by it...but shemales...I don't know, I am kind of open to trying it.
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Icelander
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Re: Attraction to shemales and questioning one's sexuality... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#9167799 - 11/01/08 11:29 AM (15 years, 4 months ago) |
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What does it mean if I'm attracted to shemales?
IMO it means you're a human being with specific sexual tastes that relate to your early childhood development. I say enjoy it.
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Re: Attraction to shemales and questioning one's sexuality... [Re: Icelander]
#9169263 - 11/01/08 05:49 PM (15 years, 4 months ago) |
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Thanks for the advice, people. I'm fine with satisfying my sexual desires for the moment (thank god for psychedelics and their ability to clear up sexual hang-ups), but my main concern is for the future, relationships, and having a family.
It just seems that anyone who's not straight is at a complete disadvantage when it comes being discriminated against, being able to raise a family, having kids who aren't laughed at for having differently-sexual parents, or even being able to enjoy the normal things that normal people go through: weddings, having children, etc.
Even if I do settle down with a woman (which I'm fully capable of doing), I feel I would always have this other desire for men that would frustrate me for having to be loyal to my wife and frustrate my wife for not being able to fully provide for me sexually.
Any advice?
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Mephistophelian
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Re: Attraction to shemales and questioning one's sexuality... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#9169372 - 11/01/08 06:16 PM (15 years, 4 months ago) |
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well, its not to say that you don't find a women who wouldn't accept that sort of sexuality in a guy. I know plenty of women that have been with guys that have a very interesting sexual desire ranging from all spectrum's...including transvestites, swingers, bi-sexual, and so on...
So long as you find a women who would accept that sort of 'wild side' and allow for extra fun once in a while (who knows, maybe she'd want two guys at once and you could get your fun in at the same time)...aim for something like that. I've been with one or two girls (one currently) that is into absolutely everything and I mean everything. I can come up with anything to do in the sack and shes all game for it (or to bring anything or anyone into the sack). Long as you can keep the sexual side in the bedroom and the regular life in the public world, the public world doesn't need to know what you do. Plenty of 'straight' looking folk secretly get whipped wearing horse gear or go home to a amateur porno shoot involving a second couple, hot wax and a ritualistic S&M fit. I mean, the imagination can crawl forever in what people do in their private life...just like in a forum here, each world has its own domains and rules and its own life.
Just keep them separated and you'll be able to fulfill your desires but keep the public life alive and well.
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Re: Attraction to shemales and questioning one's sexuality... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#9171090 - 11/02/08 02:13 AM (15 years, 4 months ago) |
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just wondering, your sexual attraction for shemales, after you get done masturbating to said materials where does your attraction end up.
ive had some periods fantasizing about males before but after I came it immediately went away, leaving me questioning my previous actions, ahah.
I can identify with you to a point, however all our sexual tastes differ in different areas. I would agree that you should explore your sexual side if you feel comfortable doing it with other people. As Meph said, dont worry about its impact on future relationships, this is your life; if you end up with a woman, hopefully she will be one you can be yourself around and who accepts you, any other is not worth having.
just watch out for STDs bro
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Re: Attraction to shemales and questioning one's sexuality... [Re: ManianFH]
#9174354 - 11/02/08 08:13 PM (15 years, 4 months ago) |
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this all sounds perfectly normal. Shemales can be attractive to ppl in teh sense that they are different to male or female. very intruiging. Feminine body, but having a cock makes them a player. Men play with their cocks all the time, its understandable for a man to want to play with another person's cock.
As for your actual life problems.. well you seem to be afraid that you will not be able to play out your life like a script, doing all the normal things ppl do. i say get over that, just live your life however you want. You dont have to have a nuclear family to have a good life. in fact, you are probably better off exploring the world and finding out what you trully enjoy and want. gay people can find women and raise children with them. Who wants to have a child that is just a normal kid? I dunno, i never considered myself normal as a kid, and I would not want to have a kid who was just another person growing up in a normal life
the best thing you can do is live honestly to yourself and try as many things as you can so that your child has a strong person to look up to, regardless of whether their peers tease them when they find out their father fucks other men
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Re: Attraction to shemales and questioning one's sexuality... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#9235114 - 11/13/08 12:24 AM (15 years, 4 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: Thanks for the advice, people. I'm fine with satisfying my sexual desires for the moment (thank god for psychedelics and their ability to clear up sexual hang-ups), but my main concern is for the future, relationships, and having a family.
It just seems that anyone who's not straight is at a complete disadvantage when it comes being discriminated against, being able to raise a family, having kids who aren't laughed at for having differently-sexual parents, or even being able to enjoy the normal things that normal people go through: weddings, having children, etc.
Even if I do settle down with a woman (which I'm fully capable of doing), I feel I would always have this other desire for men that would frustrate me for having to be loyal to my wife and frustrate my wife for not being able to fully provide for me sexually.
Any advice?
marry a shemale.
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Re: Attraction to shemales and questioning one's sexuality... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#9235261 - 11/13/08 01:04 AM (15 years, 4 months ago) |
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Adderall abuse definitely sparked my initial interest in shemales as well. It would have to be literally a woman with a dick though. If it's too mannish it just wouldn't work. Gay porn absolutely disgusts me, so does the idea of me getting fucked in the ass, but shemale sex is rather enticing for some reason.
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MushmanTheManic
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Re: Attraction to shemales and questioning one's sexuality... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#9235303 - 11/13/08 01:19 AM (15 years, 4 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: their curves are just natural to be dominated
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Attraction to shemales and questioning one's sexuality... [Re: MushmanTheManic]
#9238349 - 11/13/08 04:16 PM (15 years, 4 months ago) |
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MushmanTheManic said:
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Anonymous said: their curves are just natural to be dominated
What's confusing? Girls seem naturally designed to be fuckable, and guys seem naturally designed to fuck.
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