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Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse.....
#8608190 - 07/08/08 01:19 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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I've had social anxiety for several years. I start freaking the hell out when I'm in a crowded place, at work during meetings, and similar situations. Even if I am around family sometimes. My hearts beats like an out of controll drum, I sweat, I turn red as fuck, and tremble. My thoughts race like they are out of controll.
I've decided to take this bitch head on. I got a script of Klonopams. I was planning on taking them and going to parties, crowded places, and such. Do you think this will work? I can't do it without the pills at this point. I've tried, but I can't bare the anxiety. On a scale of 1 - 10, it's a fucking 11. I took a pill the other day, and went to the super crowded airport to pick up my wife. I was shocked when I didn't freak out. It felt great.
I am planning on doing this for a while, and then slowly weening myself off of the pills. I'm not worried about addiction, I used to eat Xanax bars like candy and had no problem dropping them.
I know I have to break the thought loop that triggers this shit, but this seems like a good start. Right?
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: HoleSnype]
#8608200 - 07/08/08 01:21 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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I doubt that will work. Once you take away the benzo's you are going to be right back at square one. They aren't going to help you learn how to deal with your social anxiety because they are going to completely take it away and when you ween yourself off it's going to be right back up there again.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: HoleSnype]
#8608213 - 07/08/08 01:23 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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I like your avatar and title.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: SubGen1us]
#8608331 - 07/08/08 01:52 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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just don't get in the habit of not being able to do anything without taking the meds.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: SubGen1us]
#8608373 - 07/08/08 02:04 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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SubGen1us said: Med's are just a temp fix. The can get you started. The way I fixed my social anxiety is by practice. I used to never have it when I was younger but lack of being around people. I think WoW caused it for me. Anyways I stopped smoking pot. This helped tremendously because I started having clear thoughts and I wasn't always depressed. I also started college and decided to get a job that was more around people than just working at a factory. Well anyways I got a job as a waiter and it's helped too. Basically the more you are out in public the better you get at it. It works.
I think I developed social anxiety when I was in the Navy. My ship went on 4 6-month deployments in 5 years. I worked in the pit (engineroom) and rarely saw the sun, or any new faces other than a few tards on my watch team. Plus, I was a space supervisor in charge of a bunch of kids and responible for keeping the lights on, keeping the ship moving, and all kind of other shit. It was very stressful.
I don't smoke pot much anymore. Not by choice, I love pot. However, I did notice when I quit the anxiety isn't nearly as bad. It's like a curse, because I sure do miss coming home and smoking a joint after work.
Anyway, I'm going to start taking the meds before I got out. I figure after a long time, maybe the though loops that trigger it will just go away.
When I took them before going to the airport, I still had the thoughts, but the anxiety never got above a 1, on a 1-10. Normally, it is pegged out and overwhelming.
I would give my left nut to completely get rid of this shit. Maybe both of them, LOL.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: leftandright]
#8608393 - 07/08/08 02:08 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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Try not to take klonopin every day for any period of time. Unless you've been through heroin withdrawal and you thought it wasn't really all that, so you want to try something a little tougher to endure that lasts for weeks on end. If thats the case then withdrawing from klonopin will step right up to the challenge.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: BoneMan]
#8608427 - 07/08/08 02:21 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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ugh i have social anxiety too but usually a few drinks or a bowl will put that "fuck it" in my system to not freak out. mine isn't as bad as yours (only really get the anxiety when i am alone around randoms) but if i have a good friend around to talk with or at least keep me preoccupied helps a lot. don't get hooked on those meds though man, take them when only absolutely necessary. practice going out man, maybe on like a week night (if you have a regular job this may be hard, but there are less people out on a week night (M-Thurs) than on the weekends. maybe visit a bar with your wife, see a live band or even gamble if its allowed in your area but have something to preoccupy you while you get comfortable in the social situation. good luck and good vibes man, its sucks not being able to go out.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: BoneMan]
#8608436 - 07/08/08 02:23 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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BoneMan said: Try not to take klonopin every day for any period of time. Unless you've been through heroin withdrawal and you thought it wasn't really all that, so you want to try something a little tougher to endure that lasts for weeks on end. If thats the case then withdrawing from klonopin will step right up to the challenge.
Like I said, I'm not worried about withdrawals. I used to eat 2 or 3 Xanax bars every day for months.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: smokeybear]
#8608453 - 07/08/08 02:28 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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smokeybear said: ugh i have social anxiety too but usually a few drinks or a bowl will put that "fuck it" in my system to not freak out. mine isn't as bad as yours (only really get the anxiety when i am alone around randoms) but if i have a good friend around to talk with or at least keep me preoccupied helps a lot. don't get hooked on those meds though man, take them when only absolutely necessary. practice going out man, maybe on like a week night (if you have a regular job this may be hard, but there are less people out on a week night (M-Thurs) than on the weekends. maybe visit a bar with your wife, see a live band or even gamble if its allowed in your area but have something to preoccupy you while you get comfortable in the social situation. good luck and good vibes man, its sucks not being able to go out.
Smoking weed makes my anxiety worse. I know lots of people have it, but I can't imagine it getting to much worse than mine. My face turns red as fuck, gets all blotchy, I sweat like a pig, have rapid thoughts, breathe heavily, and all that good shit. Basically, it feels like I'm in a life or death situation, when I'm around lots of people. I fucking hate it, and want to end this shit now.
It's odd, because I used to be very social. Shit, when I was a teen I was never home. Always at a party or hanging out with friends. It was the same for most of the time I was in the Navy. We used to go to all the crazy overseas ports and go to every fucking club they had to offer.
I don't know exactly when this started, but it was either right before I got out, or right after. It started out pretty bad, but bareable. Now, it's unbareable.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: HoleSnype]
#8608466 - 07/08/08 02:30 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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Oh, another thing is, I live in the DFW area. Every restuarant, bar, club, store, and whatever else you can think is absolutely packed to the max. Hell, you can go to TGI Fridays on a Tuesday night, and there isn't an empty table in the place.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: HoleSnype]
#8608470 - 07/08/08 02:31 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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I had terrible social anxiety for years and benzos did actually help greatly. Doing just as you said and taking the pill to allow yourself into social situations that otherwise freak you out is the way to go. Do make sure that your only taking just as much as you need. If you take enough to not care at all you wont get better. Take enough so that you still are somewhat anxious, but it becomes bearable.
I did that for a while and now I hardly ever need the pills anymore. I used to have an anxiety attack every time I went to a party. Parties and meeting new people still makes me anxious, but I can handle it now and only take the benzos when I know I have a particularly anxiety provoking event coming up.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: Druggie04]
#8612105 - 07/09/08 08:31 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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I get social anxiety on a mild scale but sometimes it gets bad. I took a Kpin the other day when I was particularly stressed out and it really helped. But I hate feeling like a zombie the next day. I think that sucks you get so tweaked out by the attacks sometimes.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: HoleSnype]
#8612147 - 07/09/08 08:49 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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> Do you think this will work? I can't do it without the pills at this point. I've tried, but I can't bare the anxiety.
Sounds like a fast track to addiction to me. Be very careful.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: HoleSnype]
#8612160 - 07/09/08 08:54 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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i used to have severe social anxiety. benzos NEVER worked, and i ate them for a plethora of reasons from recreation to social anxiety. i don't mean to be a negative nancy, but nothing worked for me except getting sick and tired of my mind racing 24/7. therapy never did shit and benzos just got me fucked up and turned me into an asshole. low doses make you not give a fuck but its just the benzos talking, at least it always was in my case.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: zSDMF]
#8614907 - 07/09/08 08:52 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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zSDMF said: i used to have severe social anxiety. benzos NEVER worked, and i ate them for a plethora of reasons from recreation to social anxiety. i don't mean to be a negative nancy, but nothing worked for me except getting sick and tired of my mind racing 24/7. therapy never did shit and benzos just got me fucked up and turned me into an asshole. low doses make you not give a fuck but its just the benzos talking, at least it always was in my case.
So what did you do about it? Still have it?
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: HoleSnype]
#8615143 - 07/09/08 09:49 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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man i'm STILL a mess lol. what it came down to for me was just being ready to get over that lame shit. if you are really sick and tired of it you'll find your own way. maybe benzos will help you but like i said they never did much for me except when i was on them. if you're alright with that band-aid fix try it out for a while. maybe it'll help you who knows.
good luck man, as you can tell i don't even know how to give advice on this and i've lived with it my whole damn life.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: zSDMF]
#8615173 - 07/09/08 09:54 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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If I were you I would just try improving my confidence in all areas of life. Start small, you don't have to jump right into parties. But ever tiny chance you get to just ignore a social situation, don't ignore it, act on it. Before you know you'll start seeing progress.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: g00ru]
#8615274 - 07/09/08 10:15 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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You have to find the source of the anxiety. Meds are just a temporary fix. Counseling can help and if you think you can trip do it because it could create wonders. I found the source of my anxiety in the midst of and LSD trip. It's an amazing feeling not having to live with my anxiety anymore.
EDIT: Only Trip if you think your capable and have necessary trip sitters. I'm not advocating use. I'm just saying it WORKED FOR ME.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: Ashford420]
#8615291 - 07/09/08 10:19 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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Please don't advocate using LSD to find the source of anxiety.
That's extremely dangerous in my experience.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: WakeboardrB]
#8615690 - 07/10/08 12:00 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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It's seems like a lot of people on these forums have social anxiety. I do as well but it does not sound as severe as yours. That really sucks tho man, at least you got to live a good life before you got the anxiety, I've had it ever since I was 14. I gotta say tho I have managed to greatly reduce it except for certain occasions.
Basically I use to react like you did around girls when I was younger, eventually I got so obsessed with geeky shit like video games that I began to loose a lot of my guy friends from grade school. This made it hard for me to make friends because I would not know what to say in a social situation so I feared them. However, I did have two close friends which I reconnected with after I decided to cut back on the video games. One day they told me they were gonna go to this other guys house to smoke pot or drink. I was curious about using pot so I decided to go and that was my first experience. After this point my social anxiety greatly diminished. It wasn't the pot, thats for sure, because lately pot has been increasing my anxiety. Basically after that day my friends and I would go out all the time to different places and do w/e... however it mostly revolved around smoking pot. It was them pressuring me to go places with them that loosened me up. I started talking to people I never thought I would have talked to and it got me realizing that socializing can be fun. In no time I started going out every weekend, whether it would be just to blaze and watch a movie or to a party.
So whats my advice? Get reconnected with some of your friends and just start hanging out. Maybe find some drinking buddies at work. Once you start going out to the pubs and drinking with your buddies you'll be doing a whole bunch of crazy shit that will increase your confidence.
That's just some advice from my personal experience. I am now 18 and I am still battling this social anxiety but it is not as severe. I do fear going to public places sometimes even walking outside but I tend to push myself a lot harder to go out and do these things.
Social anxiety really sucks, hopefully all of us who suffer from it will get over it one day. I honestly think a life with social anxiety is the worst type of life anyone can live. Humans are after all social creatures. Good luck bro
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: WakeboardrB]
#8615719 - 07/10/08 12:14 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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Hm... I used to be the same way, kinda still am though to a much lesser degree. I once freaked out in a youth meeting in a really crowded chapel, had a panic attack and beat the shit out of these asshole DJ's who wouldn't stop playing the music so loud. Eh, I was a little screwy in the head during high school lol.
I'll be honest... smoking weed has solved most of my problems. I relate to people easier, it's a great way to break the ice with new people too, providing they smoke. The key is getting GOOD GANJA and making sure you aren't picking up shit regs. I get really paranoid and reclusive when I have regs, like, I can do a blind smoking test from a vape and tell you if it's regs, mids or something worth smoking just by if I get paranoid or not. Pay the extra ten bucks for an eighth of really good weed, share it as much as you can, and just relearn to relax.
Works for me in any case. Good luck!
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: HoleSnype]
#8615737 - 07/10/08 12:22 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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HoleSnype said:
Smoking weed makes my anxiety worse. I know lots of people have it, but I can't imagine it getting to much worse than mine. My face turns red as fuck, gets all blotchy, I sweat like a pig, have rapid thoughts, breathe heavily, and all that good shit. Basically, it feels like I'm in a life or death situation, when I'm around lots of people. I fucking hate it, and want to end this shit now.
It's odd, because I used to be very social. Shit, when I was a teen I was never home. Always at a party or hanging out with friends. It was the same for most of the time I was in the Navy. We used to go to all the crazy overseas ports and go to every fucking club they had to offer.
I don't know exactly when this started, but it was either right before I got out, or right after. It started out pretty bad, but bareable. Now, it's unbareable.
well snype you seem to be my long lost anxiety brother i have pretty much the same problem as you and the sweating drives me crazy, The on thing i wanted to mention is i recently had some blood work done and found out i have high blood pressure. I was then put on medication for it and alot of what your talking about has gotten better it hasent gone away but its a ton better.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: HoleSnype]
#8616174 - 07/10/08 04:55 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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you have to work out what is triggering this anxiety! (obviously) its all there within yourself youve just got to THINK about it,
whats scares you about crowded places?
im guessing self-consciousness, are you scared that so many other people are looking at you? thinking about you? worried about people having negative thoughts about you? you have to find out what it is, then you can fix it, or tell us and we'll help you
do you have friends/family to talk to?
i take it you indulge in psychoactive substance/s as your on these boards, when was the last time you dose the mush?
i dont want to recommend this as it could make it worse? but id say theres much less chance doing damage with shrooms than benzos, and if you truly cant work out the roots of these problems, they may help you look deeper
i think you should start playing a sport, get a few of your friends to start playing a sport with you if you havent got any friends that will play sport with you screw em, dont be a pussy, put yourself out there YOU CAN GET THREW THIS, theres sports for every age, find something you enjoy!
from past experience i believe sometimes people can forget how to socialize/communicate in the 'normal' way when they isolate themselves from common social situations for a long time, this could be from work, travel, self consciousness, technology etc
BUT YOU HAVE THE POWER WITHIN YOURSELF TO MAN UP face your demons whatever they are, you may just be rusty on your social skills or it could be something bigger, either way u can get past it
edit yeah im really stoned and i hope some of this made sense,
Edited by Psilobuds (07/10/08 05:05 AM)
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: HoleSnype]
#8616202 - 07/10/08 05:22 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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whatever. if it helps you kill the anxiety and theres no bad effects, use it. thats what some meds are for. klon is notorious for being one of those screen drugs, where when its not in your system anymore, the anxiety does come back. if you ever want to stop taking these pills, you should start working on behavioral methods to start relieving your anxiety while youre on them.
I think with anxiety, its best to have many tools to minimize its emotional effects, rather than just one, especially a drug
good luck!
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: HoleSnype]
#8616266 - 07/10/08 06:22 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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Benzos helped me a lot, but as someone else already mentioned once you get off them you're just going to go back to the way you were. Meds are a TEMP fix. The best bet is to actually go out and learn how to be comfortable with being around people.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: WakeboardrB]
#8616308 - 07/10/08 06:44 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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I've had social anxiety before, you just need to be like "fuck it!" and throw yourself in harms way constantly. Eventually you get more and more used to it and the more you talk to strangers the more you realize you're just spinning out and there's nothing actually there. I'd suggest you start now by walking out into the street and asking somebody what the time is. Once you're started the jobs half done
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: WakeboardrB]
#8616347 - 07/10/08 07:05 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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snype, i remember reading your posts when i was looking up threads on lexapro the other day.. do you not take those anymore? i just started on them a few days ago and got some .25mg xanax for the side-effects, which are pretty bad for me with any SSRI. problem is i have to take 2 or 3 of the xanax to shake them off.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: HoleSnype]
#8616397 - 07/10/08 07:31 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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Using drugs is NOT "taking this bitch head on," it's giving up. If you want to actually solve this problem, you have to get to the root of the thinking patterns behind your anxiety. It's only thoughts, dime-a-dozen garden-variety thoughts that cause this and other kinds of anxiety. Thoughts (especially those relating to personal security) are impulsive, alarmist, untrustworthy, unsolicited opinions about the situation you are in. The mind is like a little child that blows everything out of proportion. Don't act on thoughts without questioning them!
The good news is you can work on getting your thinking under control. You can learn to see your thoughts for the fleeting impulses they are and not take them as seriously. You can learn to be mindful most of the time and think much less.
I was able to reduce my social anxiety by 90% through a combination of examining my reactive thought patterns, and practicing social skills. Practice is so important. Always push yourself to say more than the minimum, in every interaction. Start small, but keep pushing. If you want to conquer anxiety, you'll have to work on yourself in both these ways. If you just want to run from it (or any other difficult part of life), drugs will probably do you fine.
I would start by reading. There are a lot of great books that can help. Try Handbook to Higher Consciousness by Ken Keyes, and How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. Do this the right way.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: WhiskeyClone]
#8633080 - 07/14/08 11:26 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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WhiskeyClone said: Using drugs is NOT "taking this bitch head on," it's giving up. If you want to actually solve this problem, you have to get to the root of the thinking patterns behind your anxiety. It's only thoughts, dime-a-dozen garden-variety thoughts that cause this and other kinds of anxiety. Thoughts (especially those relating to personal security) are impulsive, alarmist, untrustworthy, unsolicited opinions about the situation you are in. The mind is like a little child that blows everything out of proportion. Don't act on thoughts without questioning them!
The good news is you can work on getting your thinking under control. You can learn to see your thoughts for the fleeting impulses they are and not take them as seriously. You can learn to be mindful most of the time and think much less.
I was able to reduce my social anxiety by 90% through a combination of examining my reactive thought patterns, and practicing social skills. Practice is so important. Always push yourself to say more than the minimum, in every interaction. Start small, but keep pushing. If you want to conquer anxiety, you'll have to work on yourself in both these ways. If you just want to run from it (or any other difficult part of life), drugs will probably do you fine.
I would start by reading. There are a lot of great books that can help. Try Handbook to Higher Consciousness by Ken Keyes, and How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. Do this the right way.
great reply and i totally agree. have you tried meditation? maybe just being able to clear your mind in a social interaction will help. the noise and what not will be hard to get over, but its possible. are you self conscious about your weight, height, etc etc?? sometimes my being a bigger guy and having to touch people to move by them gives me anxiety or being stuck in a spot that i can't get out of without a lot of talking or touching to get past people, i usually try to avoid those kinds of situations.
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: Innominate]
#8633156 - 07/14/08 11:51 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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Innominate said: Benzos helped me a lot but once you get off them you're just going to go back to the way you were.
Not necessarily. If the benzos do reduce his anxiety and he does take action and start socializing, meeting people and making friends then he'll have that experience of success. Once he gets off the benzos he'll know what its like to be at ease and successful in social situations, he'll have had some practice with the arts of conversation and reading people. The anxiety will probably return in full force but with a little courage he'll be able to repeat the same behaviors he learned while under the artificial social courage of his klonopin. Then if he experiences success in talking to people without drugs he'll soon be able to conquer his anxiety.
But if he doesn't take any action on developing those skills while he's on the klonopin then the whole thing will be a waste and pain in the ass having to detox off them (if he decides to stop taking them).
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: HoleSnype]
#8633158 - 07/14/08 11:51 AM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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Check out this link, mybe some stuff in this will help you.
http://www.nnt.nhs.uk/mh/leaflets/shy%20A5.pdf
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Re: Kicking my social anxiety right in it's arse..... [Re: BoneMan]
#8633442 - 07/14/08 01:15 PM (15 years, 8 months ago) |
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BoneMan said:
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Innominate said: Benzos helped me a lot but once you get off them you're just going to go back to the way you were.
Not necessarily. If the benzos do reduce his anxiety and he does take action and start socializing, meeting people and making friends then he'll have that experience of success. Once he gets off the benzos he'll know what its like to be at ease and successful in social situations, he'll have had some practice with the arts of conversation and reading people. The anxiety will probably return in full force but with a little courage he'll be able to repeat the same behaviors he learned while under the artificial social courage of his klonopin. Then if he experiences success in talking to people without drugs he'll soon be able to conquer his anxiety.
But if he doesn't take any action on developing those skills while he's on the klonopin then the whole thing will be a waste and pain in the ass having to detox off them (if he decides to stop taking them).
^ that makes a lot of sense to me. The benzo's could help definitely, but it doesn't change the fact that you still have powerful emotions that at one point or another, you are going to have to conquer.
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