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 Erectile dysfunction at 22? Help. 
#16706353 - 08/15/12 10:31 PM (8 months, 30 days ago) |
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OK, never had any problems with my junk. Only thing notable is that I've never had a wet dream in my life, but that's not a problem... I masturbated a healthy amount until my first girlfriend, had a healthy amount of normal sex and never a problem. After we broke up I masturbated a healthy amount...
Suddenly out of nowhere I can't get it up all the way anymore 
I give it a rest for a few days and give it another shot... same thing. Can still get off, but wouldn't be hard enough for sex. I give it a rest of a couple weeks and still no dice. I figured maybe my porn stash was growing old (my internet connection sucks so I don't get a lot of variety there). During those 2 weeks I meet a girl and we hook up... she's technically with another guy but he's not in the country and she's leaving him. We attempted sex while very drunk but I couldn't get it up. I figured somewhere between morals and being so drunk and doing it in a car in my parents' driveway it made sense I couldn't get it all the way up to do her even though she looks amazing. Another time we were just kissing and stuff but I was near rock hard, but later in the night when we're all naked and stuff, no dice... What gives? Another time I tried a non-viagra pill (similar effects claimed) and it didn't do shit.
I made another thread about that much so far already, but can't find it.
Anyway, her boyfriend is back for 5 days starting today... I told her it was her being with him that was doing it but in truth I have no idea if it's that or something weird stopping me from being attracted to her on that level or if my cock is malfunctioning or what. If I get legit viagra it will cost my entire pay check which sucks ass and I don't WANT to use viagra! There should be nothing wrong with my dick!
To be honest I don't think it's ethics that stopped me (could be subconsciously) and I DO think it's my cock malfunctioning, especially seeing as I had problems a little before all this even... Any tips for adding general vigour? I need to sort this shit out or when she breaks up with him and we go to have sex if I don't get hard... that's the end. She's given me plenty of chances already and from the convos I have I know there's just one chance left there pretty much. As I said I don't want to use viagra so I'm looking for tips to get this shit fixed in 5 days. If I can't fix it in time I'll try my best to get the viagra for the sake of this relationship.
I feel like I'm all outa passion.
HELP! please.
Edited by Anonymous (08/15/12 10:41 PM)
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 koraks
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 Re: Erectile dysfunction at 22? Help. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16707322 - 08/16/12 01:20 AM (8 months, 30 days ago) |
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The odds are that it's a psychological thing.
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Another time we were just kissing and stuff but I was near rock hard
This, together with your age, suggests that you're probably physically fine.
How frequently do you orgasm? Could you describe your diet? Do you use any drugs?
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Re: Erectile dysfunction at 22? Help. [Re: koraks]
#16708283 - 08/16/12 09:47 AM (8 months, 30 days ago) |
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prior to things going weird, I'd orgasm daily.
My diet... vegetarian, lots of carbs... probably could be healthier.
I smoke weed and drink daily (definitely smoking way too much weed, probably spending too long drunk each day. Most of the time I'm drunk stoned or both). I do psychedelics once in a while, DMT freebase every few weeks and acid or shrooms every few months. A couple of times a year I have stimulants.
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Re: Erectile dysfunction at 22? Help. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16708506 - 08/16/12 10:49 AM (8 months, 30 days ago) |
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use viagra if its ur last chance. best advice i can give u
def a psychological problem not physical. i also have a problem getting hard when im at my parens house and they are home
my last gf was hot as hell but she was so loud during sex so whenever we tried in my room id never be able to et hard cuz i knew my mom would hear us and that would be sooo weird. coulda just put a pillow on her face but idk i loved her at the time and sex was just soooooo much better with eye contact lol
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Re: Erectile dysfunction at 22? Help. [Re: Bassfreak]
#16709102 - 08/16/12 01:33 PM (8 months, 30 days ago) |
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This is still a problem huh?
Quit drinking every day, maybe you have chronic whiskey dick? Didn't you say you could get it up on your own?
But if it comes down to buying viagra, go see a doctor. I'm not a doctor; but it seems like if you need a pill to fix a physical problem, it could be a symptom of another issue.
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Re: Erectile dysfunction at 22? Help. [Re: Lynnch]
#16709637 - 08/16/12 03:31 PM (8 months, 30 days ago) |
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yeah but if he doesnt get viagra now hes gonna ruin all his chances
get viagra, fuck her and then figure out ur problems
u clearly dont have ed
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Re: Erectile dysfunction at 22? Help. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16712031 - 08/17/12 01:33 AM (8 months, 29 days ago) |
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Cut out the alcohol for a while. See if things improve. Chances are that they will.
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Re: Erectile dysfunction at 22? Help. [Re: koraks]
#16712090 - 08/17/12 01:45 AM (8 months, 29 days ago) |
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Step 1 stop looking at porn
step 2 stop jerking it
step 3 eat healthy food
step 4 stop using drugs
step 5 raging boner in 2 weeks
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Re: Erectile dysfunction at 22? Help. [Re: Black_Sunset]
#16714165 - 08/17/12 12:40 PM (8 months, 29 days ago) |
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I am 23, and I have always had periods where ED strikes. It is all in the mind friend - anxiety.
Give her a back massage, with just her panties on. Just focus completely on her, I guarantee hearing her moan with her ass in the air - you will get hard. Go from there.
I hate the staged feeling of sex sometimes, and if I can't get into it, (and i don't feel comfortable), the big man downstairs doesn't cooperate. Take it slow and let the passion build, then have some feral passionate sex.
I had ED for a while, I conquered it. You can do it man.
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Re: Erectile dysfunction at 22? Help. [Re: Lynnch]
#16715774 - 08/17/12 06:25 PM (8 months, 29 days ago) |
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OK I'll cut out alcohol. I already stopped masturbating.
I don't like doing it but it can't much be helped... I'ma get that viagra. It's going to cost me a ridiculous amount even just to cover the doctor's fees let alone the prescription. I guess I'ma have to be pretty tight-assed to make it through the week, but being with her is totally worth more than a couple hundred so I'm sure I'll live.
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Didn't you say you could get it up on your own?
Yeah, I can... but it's 80% it's regular size and 50% it's usual hardness 
Never knew screwing a beautiful woman could be such a difficult affair 
I think hanging around her and getting many partial erections during the day when we kiss passionately also isn't helping when the time comes to perform later on.
Edited by Anonymous (08/17/12 06:35 PM)
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Re: Erectile dysfunction at 22? Help. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16716261 - 08/17/12 07:35 PM (8 months, 28 days ago) |
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Fuck that OP you don't need viagra. Viagra is intended for guys who have physical ED problems not mental. Just give it some time, take it easy and it will come back to you. I would not resort to such drastic measures so early.
You're obviously just nervous and all it takes is a little playing around to get you over this tiny hill. What if you just go the easy way out, spend way too much money, and then feel like you NEED viagra to have sex? Come on man, we have all been there and you can overcome this, too.
Save the viagra for the wild sex nights
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Re: Erectile dysfunction at 22? Help. [Re: Black_Sunset]
#16716382 - 08/17/12 07:55 PM (8 months, 28 days ago) |
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I really appreciate the input.
I agree that I shouldn't need viagra...
"Viagra is intended for guys who have physical ED problems not mental"
Well it does seem to be pretty much certain this is a mental problem...
Blowing all my money on viagra is not an idea that makes me happy in the slightest. But what can I do? I feel like if I fail again then my chances with her are gonesville. I wish I knew someone with some viagra so I could buy a couple off them and save $100+ on a doctor's appointment and the cost of getting a script written.
The plan with the viagra is to take it the first time we get together after she's broken up with her boyfriend and he's gone back to Australia so I can say it definitely was just an ethics thing or something
Anyone else think I shouldn't get it? I have a bit over 24hrs to decide. The part where if I test watching some porn or something and try and get hard I only get most of the way there is incredibly disconcerting to me as well and is a part of the situation that is not to be forgotten.
This whole thing is stressing me the fuck out x1000
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Anonymous said:
I hate the staged feeling of sex sometimes, and if I can't get into it, (and i don't feel comfortable), the big man downstairs doesn't cooperate. Take it slow and let the passion build, then have some feral passionate sex.
Ugh, yes... this.
Thanks for that post man, I can really relate to that a whole bunch.
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Re: Erectile dysfunction at 22? Help. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16716516 - 08/17/12 08:17 PM (8 months, 28 days ago) |
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This whole idea that if you don't perform you'll lose her just might be contributing to the problem...
Chill the fuck ouuuut. Stop looking at viagra, stop looking at ways to fix this supposed problem. Of course you're not going to get fully hard looking at porn if you're staring at your dick seeing how stiff it is.
You've turned "oh damn I had whiskey dick that night" into a full blown issue.
Chicks aren't worth this much stress dude, I don't care how hot she is. Relax, go with the flow, and if you have to, eat her out for an hour so it doesn't matter if you fuck.
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Re: Erectile dysfunction at 22? Help. [Re: Lynnch]
#16718480 - 08/18/12 02:35 AM (8 months, 28 days ago) |
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I'm 26 and I've always had this issue. It's normal, depending on your general level of anxiety.
From my first time at 18, I've never been able to get it up the first time with some one because of how anxious I was and at 26 I'm going through it right now. I have an major semi as we speak but I was soft as a wet noodle four hours ago when my girlfriend was home and we wanted to have sex... We're both going through a lot of shit at the moment and while we may want to have sex sometimes we're generally too off in our own fucked up worlds of depression and anxiety to feel very sexy.
The worst thing about it is that the first time it happens creates a cycle of anxiety that makes it all the more likely that it's gonna happen next time, and it just gets worse and worse until you conquer it. But once you do conquer it you've got that under your belt and you can move on from there with more and more confidence each time.
You gotta think about how good it feels and how much you want her and how hot it's gonna be, not whether it's gonna happen again this time or not, because as soon as you start worrying about it your fight or flight reflex kicks in and adrenaline ruins your chances of getting hard. If you start worrying about it just lay on your back relax and let her get you going. Get some head. Get your balls licked. Or even lay on your sides together and get in between her legs. Feel her up. Stop thinking about that shit and think about what she's doing to you. Don't focus on whether it's getting you hard or not, focus on it being fucking hot.
The state of your dick should be the last thing on your mind. What's important is how it feels, not whether it's hard.
You have to know that you're the man. Think of how many times you've slammed the pussy and left a girl gasping for air, not the miniscule number of slip-ups you've had in between.
The best thing for this of course is a girl (or whatever you prefer) who loves you and you're comfortable with who can handle something like this and help calm your nerves instead of making you feel worse. Fly by night pussy isn't really the best way to deal with erection anxiety, but you should still be able to put the same ideas to practice. Spend some real time on foreplay. Get all riled up, don't just get naked and be like "ok we're going to have intercourse now, once I get this erection going", ya feel me?
Now if I can just take my own advice I'll be balls deep in the best pussy I've ever touched later on this morning *crosses fingers*
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Re: Erectile dysfunction at 22? Help. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16719002 - 08/18/12 06:36 AM (8 months, 28 days ago) |
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Do you have morning erections?
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Re: Erectile dysfunction at 22? Help. [Re: MushroomTrip]
#16719051 - 08/18/12 07:14 AM (8 months, 28 days ago) |
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Recently? Don't remember.
In general? Very very rarely.
I've also never had a wet dream in my life
Thank you so much krash 
I'm currently leaning toward no viagra, but part of me is still thinking that using it once maybe twice would alleviate the pressure to perform and allow me to relax and go without.
She is a great chick and doesn't seem to be too hung up on it at all except she has said once right after a failed attempt at sex that maybe we won't work together after all and that's been doing my head in, not really sure what to think. Best to just chill out and try to forget it though for now, I guess
I hope I can keep this advice well in mind when the need to use it arises.
Edited by Anonymous (08/18/12 07:21 AM)
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Re: Erectile dysfunction at 22? Help. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16719059 - 08/18/12 07:19 AM (8 months, 28 days ago) |
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usually if you don't get morning erections, it could be a sign that you have a medical problem. I'd talk to a doctor if I were you.
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Re: Erectile dysfunction at 22? Help. [Re: MushroomTrip] 1
#16719153 - 08/18/12 08:27 AM (8 months, 28 days ago) |
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Update: just spent about half an hour up in them guts. There's hope for us all 
Edit: yeah a girl saying "maybe it won't work out" after you fail to get hard will definitely make it less likely for you to get it up for her.
Also I've never had a wet dream before either.
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Edited by Krash Kharma (08/18/12 08:30 AM)
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Re: Erectile dysfunction at 22? Help. [Re: Krash Kharma]
#16719224 - 08/18/12 08:56 AM (8 months, 28 days ago) |
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I'm the girlfriend Krash speaks of 
Listen, it's harder (no pun intended, heh heh) for guys who are perhaps a little less alpha-gorilla male to get hard every single time. Certain, wonderful men need a connection. They need to feel wanted, loved, and connected to the person they're inside. That's normal and shows that you're an intelligent and deep person; the kind girls want to be loved by.
Right now I've been suffering from my own bout of anxiety, depression, and OCD battle. I've been almost suicidal at times. So obviously, sex isn't on the forefront of my mind. So when I make an attempt, because I know it's been awhile, and my man deserves to be loved, he is able to sense within a few minutes that my 'heart' isn't in it. And then he loses his hard on, thinking its his fault. But it's not. If I had an external organ that showed my levels of horniness, it'd be incredibly obvious I wasn't into it, mentally. But since I'm a girl I can hide that. Guys can't. You're unlucky that way.
Anyways, I came home from work, snuggled up and let go of some anxiety for a bit, and then we started rubbing each other. Before I knew it he was on top of me, making me cum and scream his name.
So what I'm saying is, it's not always your fault. And you might just be the kind of person who needs his heart, not just his cock, to be in it. And that, is a really good thing. Because the girl who does get your heart, will have some of the most passionate sex of her life with you.
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Re: Erectile dysfunction at 22? Help. [Re: KandiKitty]
#16719234 - 08/18/12 08:58 AM (8 months, 28 days ago) |
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And by the way, I don't care if there's a few times my man can't get it up when every single time we fuck, I have a serious orgasm. Make a woman cum (not just clitorally but by riding her deep inside) and trust me, she's ain't going nowhere.
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