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 Re: Having sex with a virgin?  [Re: Crystal G]
#16613610 - 07/29/12 11:53 PM (9 months, 13 days ago) |
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Interesting thread, posting.
I don't "seek" female virgins but I can dig a female's sexual self control. Then again I also get more from relationships with most women than sex so I just let things go really.
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There's nothing wrong with being with a girl who's a virgin, especially if you are young and have had less than a handful of sexual partner yourself, but I think there is something severely demented and wrong with a guy who has a virgin-only fetish. Like he's mainly getting off to the idea of corrupting her or something. That is specifically the kind of guy you DON'T want to lose your virginity to.
wtf corrupting? feminizing again, like holy fuck you turn everything negative against a dude. i dont think even close to 1/4 the guys go into a relationship thinking like that. your not a guy, do not try and be one. although there are a little bit of everything, im sure, most of them like the idea of them being a virgin for the fact that they aren't corrupted and that the female will Only Love the boyfriend who took there virginity, also they become more rare and they on the side are certainly made up to be something special growing up.
i did have a virgin fetish, not overly but its certainly never a bad thing, it makes you feel like you play and have a big role in the others life. especially when its the first for both. Sex always gets better with time, and proper communication. you can't instantly assume she will be bad and will always be bad, simply not true.
A real virgin FETISH typically implies plunder for sure. Guys are fucking dicks Anon#1, now stop being a big fat pussy and reveal who you are.
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Re: Having sex with a virgin? [Re: Seanfu]
#16613664 - 07/30/12 12:02 AM (9 months, 13 days ago) |
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Crystal G said:
There's nothing wrong with being with a girl who's a virgin, especially if you are young and have had less than a handful of sexual partner yourself, but I think there is something severely demented and wrong with a guy who has a virgin-only fetish. Like he's mainly getting off to the idea of corrupting her or something. That is specifically the kind of guy you DON'T want to lose your virginity to.
wtf corrupting? feminizing again, like holy fuck you turn everything negative against a dude. i dont think even close to 1/4 the guys go into a relationship thinking like that. your not a guy, do not try and be one. although there are a little bit of everything, im sure, most of them like the idea of them being a virgin for the fact that they aren't corrupted and that the female will Only Love the boyfriend who took there virginity, also they become more rare and they on the side are certainly made up to be something special growing up.
i did have a virgin fetish, not overly but its certainly never a bad thing, it makes you feel like you play and have a big role in the others life. especially when its the first for both. Sex always gets better with time, and proper communication. you can't instantly assume she will be bad and will always be bad, simply not true.
A real virgin FETISH typically implies plunder for sure. Guys are fucking dicks Anon#1, now stop being a big fat pussy and reveal who you are.
only if its the basis for the relationship, because the focus is the virginity factor which is one part of the females life that will be stationary in time and doesn't seem to be more approve and be open to adapting to each others future lifestyle wants and needs.
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A guys fetish for a virgin comes from an egotistical place of wanting to be important or significant to, or at the very least remembered by the girl.
There is only one guy that takes a girls virginity and typically they would be remembered. I think thats were the attraction to having sex with a virgin comes from, the fact that it only happens once in a girls life. Also some guys are attracted to the feeling of control they get from getting to teach someone, to take them into territory they have never been.
And yes there are a lot of ass holes that would get off at the idea of having sex with a virgin simply to be the one to 'cash in on her innocents' without having any good intentions for her, and that sucks but its true; I've met a few, They are douchebags.
If virginity is a 'standard' for you in a search for a future life partner than I think It is totally cool for you to seek one out. Bur NOT if your just on the hunt for some innocent pussy to break in.
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Re: Having sex with a virgin? [Re: Dungmaster]
#16613969 - 07/30/12 12:58 AM (9 months, 13 days ago) |
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A guys fetish for a virgin comes from an egotistical place of wanting to be important or significant to, or at the very least remembered by the girl.
There is only one guy that takes a girls virginity and typically they would be remembered. I think thats were the attraction to having sex with a virgin comes from, the fact that it only happens once in a girls life. Also some guys are attracted to the feeling of control they get from getting to teach someone, to take them into territory they have never been.
And yes there are a lot of ass holes that would get off at the idea of having sex with a virgin simply to be the one to 'cash in on her innocents' without having any good intentions for her, and that sucks but its true; I've met a few, They are douchebag.
If virginity is a 'standard' for you in a search for a future life partner than I think It is totally cool for you to seek one out. Bur NOT if your just on the hunt for some innocent pussy to break in.
no i think ultimately if your basing your memory and impression and building blocks of what you think of her off being her v-card taker then your in for trouble, as you wont grow and adapt to the person as they grow away from that once very innocent person. it could be troubling and hard to adapt to a sexually growing female espicially when the whole idea of being the v-card taker is having control of the females sexuality.
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Why does nobody fetishize virgin men? Or do gay guys? I actually don't know.
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girls certainly do, they want there 1st to have them as there first.
i know i did, so why wouldn't this work and happen the other way around especially if the female is generally Alot more emotional in the field of love/virginity
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girls certainly do, they want there 1st to have them as there first.
i know i did, so why wouldn't this work and happen the other way around especially if the female is generally Alot more emotional in the field of love/virginity
Eh I think that's an overgeneralization. I'd say as many men as women want their first to be with their first, and I did too. However, my first girlfriend just had sex with a random guy to get it over with. I don't think women are necessarily that much more sentimental about it than men.
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girls certainly do, they want there 1st to have them as there first.
i know i did, so why wouldn't this work and happen the other way around especially if the female is generally Alot more emotional in the field of love/virginity
Eh I think that's an overgeneralization. I'd say as many men as women want their first to be with their first, and I did too. However, my first girlfriend just had sex with a random guy to get it over with. I don't think women are necessarily that much more sentimental about it than men.
age for sure has something to do with this, being naive is going to fuel how sentimental it could be.
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Yea I agree with you on the age and naievity thing. When I was younger, I admired and wanted to date virgin guys. Now that I'm in my mid 20s, I feel that it is slightly creepy for me to pursue or desire virgins. Men who are above a certain age, likewise, really shouldn't be desiring virgins. I feel it is inappropriate after a certain age.
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Men who have a fear of women who exert control of their sexualities, know that they wouldn't be able to control or easily manipulate women who are aggressive, dominant, or defiant. Women who refuse to passively cooperate or adhere to stereotypical gender roles. So they use social stigma and social shame and call us "sluts" to try to implant fear and guilt in us, in an effort to control and coerce our behaviors. It is a completely selfish philosophy that stems from the belief that they OWN women.
Thus, me taking control of my sexuality is my big way of saying "FUCK YOU" to the institution, and another "FUCK YOU" to the patriarchy!  
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Re: Having sex with a virgin? [Re: Crystal G]
#16614214 - 07/30/12 01:36 AM (9 months, 13 days ago) |
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Yea I agree with you on the age and naievity thing. When I was younger, I admired and wanted to date virgin guys. Now that I'm in my mid 20s, I feel that it is slightly creepy for me to pursue or desire virgins. Men who are above a certain age, likewise, really shouldn't be desiring virgins. I feel it is inappropriate after a certain age.
Yeh I pretty much feel the same way as you... but I kind of don't know why. I totally get where you're coming from and I agree with itchmynipple. However when I think about it, is it INHERENTLY bad? I mean, what if there's a virgin out there who really wants to get with an older, more experienced person for their first time? That doesn't really seem wrong to me.
I mean, to be sure I think that's a really rare circumstance. But I don't know why I immediately assume bad things when I consider it happening.
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http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/02/15/courtney-stodden-doug-hutchinson-valentines-day-photos-spaghetti-bikini_n_1275929.html
i dont think its inappropriate like i said if its viewed as a bonus-rare extra charm, rather then a necessity. if its the base, and infrastructure of the relationship, THEN something is wrong.
but this is innapropriate, 50 year old with a 17 year old (formerly 16 when they started)
(he is the actor from 'lost' the main villians drunken old dad that worked on the island.)
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If you knew someone was a virgin, would that sway your decision on whether or not to have sex with them? What is your opinion on sex with virgins?
Have you ever slept with a virgin?
I wonder if the general attitude and opinion of this would change with gender or sexual orientation.
I have never slept with a virgin, and have never really cared to. I have always been attracted to guys several years older than me for various reasons, including experience in the bedroom.
It would probably be different if we were both virgins, but ever since I lost my virginity, my perspective on sex and relationships has changed immensely. I think the only part that would turn me on about having sex with a virgin male would be the "corrupting" them factor, but depending on how they were raised, it might end up actually being more of a headache.
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Wow, thread fail. This totally ended up being a 'hate on men who like virgins' thread and not actually address the main question
Edit: Except Sanchez. Good job keeping on topic and trying to steer this back on track, which is actually an interesting topic
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Re: Having sex with a virgin? [Re: Crystal G]
#16621297 - 07/31/12 11:42 AM (9 months, 12 days ago) |
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Why does nobody fetishize virgin men? Or do gay guys? I actually don't know.
This is something I wondered as well. Media and society both mock virgin men, especially as they get older. You don't really see that as much for women. It's like the reverse stigma of the slut/player stance and just as dumb.
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girls certainly do, they want there 1st to have them as there first.
I think a lot of people want to lose their virginity to another virgin but what about after already being sexually experienced? That's really what I was thinking of, I guess.
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Crystal G said:
Yea I agree with you on the age and naievity thing. When I was younger, I admired and wanted to date virgin guys. Now that I'm in my mid 20s, I feel that it is slightly creepy for me to pursue or desire virgins. Men who are above a certain age, likewise, really shouldn't be desiring virgins. I feel it is inappropriate after a certain age.
This is to say that there is an appropriate age to be a virgin or not to be. I know that it's more common for people to lose their virginity at an early age but that's not always the case. You're presenting virgins as if their obviously young and thusly creepy that older men would be vying for them. That may not be the case. You're generalizing and pigeonholing.
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I suppose its true. Just recently, maybe a year ago, I encountered a 25 year old British virgin who was gorgeous to boot, and I had fantasies about not only fucking him, but altogether running away with him and having a passionate romantic encounter with him. But, his virginity was not the main asset I prized about him, and I'm sure I would have had those fantasies had he slept with 100 people. The people who have virgin FETISHES on the other hand, seem to think they wouldn't be attracted to a woman at all had she had more than "3 breakups." (According to 1 poster)
Please note, I am criticizing men with virgin FETISHES, which is a clear distinction from a man who happens to be dating a virgin. I still consider it inappropriate for a fully grown adult to be desiring or pursuing virgins, especially since that desire seems to purely emanate from egotistical, superficial, and selfish reasons.
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Men who have a fear of women who exert control of their sexualities, know that they wouldn't be able to control or easily manipulate women who are aggressive, dominant, or defiant. Women who refuse to passively cooperate or adhere to stereotypical gender roles. So they use social stigma and social shame and call us "sluts" to try to implant fear and guilt in us, in an effort to control and coerce our behaviors. It is a completely selfish philosophy that stems from the belief that they OWN women.
Thus, me taking control of my sexuality is my big way of saying "FUCK YOU" to the institution, and another "FUCK YOU" to the patriarchy!
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apassionplay said:
If you knew someone was a virgin, would that sway your decision on whether or not to have sex with them? What is your opinion on sex with virgins?
Have you ever slept with a virgin?
I wonder if the general attitude and opinion of this would change with gender or sexual orientation.
Yeah, I have casually slept with a virgin. I will only do this again when I actually have feelings for a girl, for both of us. Although at the times she seemed a bit relieved after that, once it was over and was no longer a virgin.
If it happens, happens, but I suggest not going to lose it for just the sake of getting rid of it. Then again, I am a guy.
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Re: Having sex with a virgin? [Re: Simms]
#16625382 - 08/01/12 12:07 AM (9 months, 11 days ago) |
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Simms said:
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apassionplay said:
If you knew someone was a virgin, would that sway your decision on whether or not to have sex with them? What is your opinion on sex with virgins?
Have you ever slept with a virgin?
I wonder if the general attitude and opinion of this would change with gender or sexual orientation.
Yeah, I have casually slept with a virgin. I will only do this again when I actually have feelings for a girl, for both of us. Although at the times she seemed a bit relieved after that, once it was over and was no longer a virgin.
If it happens, happens, but I suggest not going to lose it for just the sake of getting rid of it. Then again, I am a guy.
she might of been more interested in getting it over with then actually having sex with you
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Simms said:
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apassionplay said:
If you knew someone was a virgin, would that sway your decision on whether or not to have sex with them? What is your opinion on sex with virgins?
Have you ever slept with a virgin?
I wonder if the general attitude and opinion of this would change with gender or sexual orientation.
Yeah, I have casually slept with a virgin. I will only do this again when I actually have feelings for a girl, for both of us. Although at the times she seemed a bit relieved after that, once it was over and was no longer a virgin.
If it happens, happens, but I suggest not going to lose it for just the sake of getting rid of it. Then again, I am a guy.
she might of been more interested in getting it over with then actually having sex with you
excellent point.
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Re: Having sex with a virgin? [Re: Seanfu]
#16625485 - 08/01/12 12:26 AM (9 months, 11 days ago) |
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Ive never had sex with a virgin 
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