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Anonymous #1
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 Wanting an Open Relationship 
#16590797 - 07/26/12 07:40 AM (9 months, 17 days ago) |
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My guy and I have been together for just about 5 years. We are engaged and love eachother very much.
Last night I brought up to him the opportunity to have an open relationship. I told him he could sleep with any girls he wanted. But I said that I'd be sleeping with other men as well. He said ok to the part of fucking other chicks. But he wont allow me to fuck other guys.
So why is it that its ok for him to sleep around but I cant.He got angry about it(but I knwo he'd still do it given the chance). Im very angry that he would do that and leave me to think about who he's with and what he's doin. Atleast if I was with someone else when he was with another girl I'd have nothing to think about but getting pleasured.
Our sex life is OK. It seems to be dwindling fast though. I dont feel the passion between us anymore. Its like 2 mins and we are done and then he passes out. Sometimes I dont even get off. I need a little spice to my sex life and I feel the only way to do that is to have an open relationship. I feel this would open both of us up to be more passionate with eachother and get a lil wild.
Whats your input on this?
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Anonymous #2
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 Re: Wanting an Open Relationship [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16590810 - 07/26/12 07:45 AM (9 months, 17 days ago) |
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You may want to discuss an open relationship again but with a don't ask don't tell rule. Guys can feel inadequate when they know another dude is stuffing their lady. Or yet some 3way or group things to get his feet wet an go from there. I will say however double standards are fucked up an he shouldn't be giving you that bullshit.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: Wanting an Open Relationship [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16590814 - 07/26/12 07:46 AM (9 months, 17 days ago) |
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sounds like he's already getting some on the side
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Wanting an Open Relationship [Re: Anonymous #2]
#16590823 - 07/26/12 07:51 AM (9 months, 17 days ago) |
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We have tried to have a 3sum and its the same scenerio. He can fuck the chick but i would never be able to fuck anothr guy. You know how this makes me feel. I feel like nothing, like im just there. He says he loves me but he never actually shows it. Kisses only go so far. I feel that I am slowly emotionally detaching myself from him. I cant just go out and sleep with someone either. I would feel very guilty.
I think he's afraid im gonna enjoy someone else better than him. But im afraid of him doing that with another chick. But ive been able to think past that. Its not for us to see how many we can get or see whos better. Its for us to get our sexlife back up and exiting again. We are olny 26. Thats too young to have a bad sex life. IMO.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Wanting an Open Relationship [Re: Anonymous #3]
#16590828 - 07/26/12 07:53 AM (9 months, 17 days ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #3 said:
sounds like he's already getting some on the side
You really think so. Cuz ive wondered about it. He is always accusing me of cheating. But he says he's never been with anyone but me.(since we met)How can I get him to open up and reall talk about with out him getting angry and turning it back on me.
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Anonymous #3
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Re: Wanting an Open Relationship [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16590873 - 07/26/12 08:17 AM (9 months, 17 days ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #1 said:
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Anonymous #3 said:
sounds like he's already getting some on the side
You really think so. Cuz ive wondered about it. He is always accusing me of cheating. But he says he's never been with anyone but me.(since we met)How can I get him to open up and reall talk about with out him getting angry and turning it back on me.
All the signs are there!
Just a hunch but you probably smell different scents on him too when he gets home, that you or him do not own?
fuck i aint got no advice, ya either put up with it or move on I suppose?
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Wanting an Open Relationship [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16590878 - 07/26/12 08:19 AM (9 months, 17 days ago) |
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Generally speaking people that are paranoid their spouse is cheating is generally because they themselves are the cheating type an projecting it on you.
I say dump the dude sounds like relationship is in the shitter.
OTHERWISE
have a real open and honest talk and lay it out there.....
Tell him the sex sucks
The love is lacking
Your not going to put up with double standards
He needs to get over his insecurities and stop accusing you of cheating
An if shit dont change your leaving.
Yah you invested 5 years but he may not be the right fit long term and at least your still young most people that meet someone when they are 20-21 don't end up with that person forever its just a real statistic 
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Wanting an Open Relationship [Re: Anonymous #3]
#16590880 - 07/26/12 08:20 AM (9 months, 17 days ago) |
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He does smell different than he used to. But its never a girl smell. His car at one point smelled like cinnimon. I ?'d him about it and he said he didnt know why his car smelled like that.
If he's fucking someone else and if I find out, Im gonna go all wild and have some crazy sex with some hot guy.
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Wanting an Open Relationship [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16590885 - 07/26/12 08:21 AM (9 months, 17 days ago) |
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I think your definitely within your rights to do a little snooping just be prepared for what you might find.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Wanting an Open Relationship *DELETED* [Re: Anonymous #2]
#16590891 - 07/26/12 08:23 AM (9 months, 17 days ago) |
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Anonymous #3
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Re: Wanting an Open Relationship [Re: Anonymous #2]
#16590900 - 07/26/12 08:27 AM (9 months, 17 days ago) |
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his probably visiting a few cottages and back stools 
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Anonymous #4
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Re: Wanting an Open Relationship [Re: Anonymous #3]  2
#16591124 - 07/26/12 10:00 AM (9 months, 16 days ago) |
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Why don't you grow up and act like a adult? If you are so unhappy with your man, break it off and move on, it that so hard to think about.
Why start some warped idea of a open relationship, it never works, men get jealous if you didn't know, wake up already, you can't have a boyfriend and then fuck every man you see, it doesn't work that way.
How much respect do you think people would have for you if you did this anyway? None at all.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Wanting an Open Relationship [Re: Anonymous #4]
#16591366 - 07/26/12 11:21 AM (9 months, 16 days ago) |
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Its not that I wan to just go out and fuck a bunch of guys. Its a thing of both of us having a little fun and spicing up our sex life. Im not unhappy with him, im unhappy with our sex. It's dull and I need a little excitment. I still want to be with him.
Edited by Anonymous (07/27/12 04:02 PM)
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Anonymous #5
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Re: Wanting an Open Relationship [Re: Anonymous #4]
#16591410 - 07/26/12 11:29 AM (9 months, 16 days ago) |
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He sounds like a selfish controlling prick.
But seriously, an open relationship to fix a lacking sex life? Sounds like a roundabout way of saying 'lets see other people' to me.
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Anonymous #4
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Re: Wanting an Open Relationship [Re: Anonymous #5]
#16591481 - 07/26/12 11:46 AM (9 months, 16 days ago) |
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Let's be honest, if both of your are at least average looking, the female is able to get as much sex as she wants, it's not that hard.
For the male, it's a different story, he must get to know a girl, she if she likes him, and then put some work in, and maybe or maybe not get sex.
So who has the advantage in this "open" relationship, the female does. The female could have sex with 10 different men, before he even gets a few numbers.
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Anonymous #6
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Re: Wanting an Open Relationship [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16591517 - 07/26/12 11:53 AM (9 months, 16 days ago) |
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the relationship isn't going to work if you can't be satisfied with him sexually. So work with him if you want to make it last.
Otherwise MOVE ON.
Also hes fuckin someone else bro
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Wanting an Open Relationship [Re: Anonymous #4]
#16591521 - 07/26/12 11:54 AM (9 months, 16 days ago) |
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Well I we wouldnt just go out and fuk when ever we wanted. We would let eachother know that we are goin out to look for a hook-up and go from there. So it would make this a fair advantage. I wouldnt just fuck a bunch of guys if I knew he was only getting 1-2 girls. Id keep it equal on both ends.
Edited by Anonymous (07/27/12 02:51 PM)
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Anonymous #7
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Re: Wanting an Open Relationship [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16591804 - 07/26/12 12:59 PM (9 months, 16 days ago) |
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Anonymous #8
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Re: Wanting an Open Relationship [Re: Anonymous #7]
#16592420 - 07/26/12 02:42 PM (9 months, 16 days ago) |
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Anonymous #9
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Re: Wanting an Open Relationship [Re: Anonymous #4]
#16593148 - 07/26/12 04:45 PM (9 months, 16 days ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous #4 said:
Why don't you grow up and act like a adult? If you are so unhappy with your man, break it off and move on, it that so hard to think about.
Why start some warped idea of a open relationship, it never works, men get jealous if you didn't know, wake up already, you can't have a boyfriend and then fuck every man you see, it doesn't work that way.
How much respect do you think people would have for you if you did this anyway? None at all.
This is spot on.
Your relationship sounds like it is headed down the drain unfortunately. An open relationship is a terrible idea in a situation like this. I'm all for open relationships between consenting adults, but only when it is a mutual interest and brought up on good terms. If you're bored sexually that's not good terms.
I think in the long run open relationships usually lead to disaster. I am of the opinion that if you want to mess around with other people and keep your relationship strong, your partner needs to be present and a part of all contact. You and your partner clearly have problems that you need to resolve.
If you really want to look at what he's doing them install a hardware based key-logger on a computer he uses and snag his facebook and email passwords. Also if you share a phone plan then you can request a detailed log of the text messages. Even if you don't you can probably use your feminine influence to convince a male phone store employee to check if your fiance is cheating on you. You could also throw a GPS device on his car. If you do find out he's cheating by one of these methods, don't let him know how because these methods are illegal. Just break up with him quietly and peacefully.
People will have a lot more respect for you if you keep your mouth shut and take some time to yourself before you start sleeping with someone new too.
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