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 Imalilkitten
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 Weird problem need advice 
#16549843 - 07/18/12 04:25 PM (10 months, 25 days ago) |
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Hey guys, I have a friend who has been complaining to me that her boyfriend has a tiny dick. She loves him very much and wants to be with him, but their sex life isn't very satisfying.
She doesn't want to break up, she just wants to try some new things or figure out something that could make things better...if you know what I mean. Also, she doesn't know how to break it to him that she feels this way. She doesn't want to hurt his feelings.
So...I just want to know, what do you guys think about this? What would you do if you were in this situation...?
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 5is
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that's pretty messed up that she doesn't like his dick, i mean relationships shouldn't be all about their sex life. He could pleasure her in some other way.
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trampis
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Re: Weird problem need advice [Re: 5is]
#16549892 - 07/18/12 04:37 PM (10 months, 25 days ago) |
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Your friend should stop dragging out the relationship. If she isn't happy with the dick he has to offer it is only a matter of the right circumstances before she decides to bang someone else. If she genuinely cares about his feelings then she will drop him sooner rather than later 
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Re: Weird problem need advice [Re: 5is]
#16549893 - 07/18/12 04:37 PM (10 months, 25 days ago) |
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Quote:
5is said:
that's pretty messed up that she doesn't like his dick, i mean relationships shouldn't be all about their sex life.
Yeah, but if your sex life sucks the relationship is bound to fail.
Hell, I've seen guys on here say they wouldn't stay with a girl if she didn't shave so pfft for saying it's messed up that she doesn't like his tiny dick.
Don't know what to tell ya kitten. She needs to evaluate whether she will be happy sexually years down the road.
If it's super tiny then talking about it shouldn't be an issue as he would already be very aware of it but I'm sure will hurt his ego anyway.
I dated a guy once who's dick was literally the size of my pinky finger when hard - and I do not have big hands. The relationship ended for other reasons but I'm sure in time I would have found myself feeling very lacking sexually.
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5is
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how old is the guy if i may ask?
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Wallflower
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There might be a couple potential solutions. I former female friend of mine told me that if a woman is on her side with her legs tight together, it will make her vagina a tighter fit. Has she tried something like that? Like a positional thing. I don't even know if it's true but it makes sense I think.
Other than that though I think she really needs to talk to him. He would probably be mortified to know his girlfriend is going around complaining about his penis to other people and he doesn't even know about it.
Other than that though I am afraid I am leaning towards others' advice a bit on this one, too. If they don't enjoy the sex then they will become really close friends, but with the rules of a relationship. That could get frustrating eventually and kill the friendship along with the relationship. But surely there must be some things they could try?
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Imalilkitten
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Re: Weird problem need advice [Re: trampis]
#16550249 - 07/18/12 05:52 PM (10 months, 25 days ago) |
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Quote:
trampis said:
Your friend should stop dragging out the relationship. If she isn't happy with the dick he has to offer it is only a matter of the right circumstances before she decides to bang someone else. If she genuinely cares about his feelings then she will drop him sooner rather than later
She doesn't want to drop him tho. She really cares for him and has been faithful to him for 3 years now. She wants to spend her life with him and she wants them to be okay in the sex department. She's willing to try new things and try to come up with some type of solution but she's worried about how he would react. She doesn't want to hurt his confidence its something he has problems with already.
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Re: Weird problem need advice [Re: 5is]
#16550254 - 07/18/12 05:53 PM (10 months, 25 days ago) |
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5is said:
how old is the guy if i may ask?
He's 21.
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5is
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Hey who knows he might grow a few inches, men don't stop growing until 25
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trampis
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Re: Weird problem need advice [Re: 5is]
#16550527 - 07/18/12 06:41 PM (10 months, 25 days ago) |
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I doubt there will be significant grow between now and then.
If this guy is 21 then I would imagine the girl is around the same age. . . ?
She may say she wants to spend the rest of her life with this guy, but I guarantee her mind wonders about being with others.
She is young, and given the right situation she will explore her sexuality with another.
Ending the relationship is going to be difficult regardless, but the longer it drags out the worse it will be for everyone involved.
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Re: Weird problem need advice [Re: trampis]
#16551079 - 07/18/12 08:54 PM (10 months, 25 days ago) |
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If she has already been loyal for and is still in love with him after 3 years, I think her claims have earned some merit.
There must be tips somewhere online that they can try.
As far as explaining trying them.. Maybe something like, "I really like a lot of pressure during sex, wanna try (insert something here) to make it feel really tight?" She doesn't even have to mention his penis. He may pick up on it, but it can be a lighthearted thing, and if she makes sure she makes it obvious when its working, that should boost his confidence right up.
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1EyeCries
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Re: Weird problem need advice [Re: Wallflower]
#16551369 - 07/18/12 09:56 PM (10 months, 25 days ago) |
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Like I said before when you posted in the other forum, if she cant talk about problems in the relationship, the relationship is doomed
Relationships start with honesty, if there is no honesty, there is no relationship
Not coming out and talking about an issue, is almost the same as lying, if he finds out about the lie, it will become a bigger problem than his "tiny dick"
Having doubts and problems that don't get resolved, grow. The problem of not confronting the issue, not his dick.
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Re: Weird problem need advice [Re: 1EyeCries]
#16551388 - 07/18/12 10:00 PM (10 months, 25 days ago) |
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Quote:
AgentOrange4120 said:
Like I said before when you posted in the other forum, if she cant talk about problems in the relationship, the relationship is doomed
Relationships start with honesty, if there is no honesty, there is no relationship
Not coming out and talking about an issue, is almost the same as lying, if he finds out about the lie, it will become a bigger problem than his "tiny dick"
Having doubts and problems that don't get resolved, grow. The problem of not confronting the issue, not his dick.
This is also 100% true. Can't argue with it.
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Re: Weird problem need advice [Re: Wallflower]
#16551397 - 07/18/12 10:02 PM (10 months, 25 days ago) |
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Yeah it's extremely fucking true. If I found out after 3 years that my lover had secretly always been unsatisfied with me and had been faking it the whole time, that would be such a mindfuck. Would breed all sorts of terrible insecurity and I could never trust another compliment or act of being pleased from them ever again.
Ugh, optimism defeated.
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Re: Weird problem need advice [Re: Wallflower]
#16551441 - 07/18/12 10:09 PM (10 months, 25 days ago) |
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The number one source of human conflict is caused by a lack of communication.
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Wallflower
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Can't say I disagree, although I've never asserted that to myself before. Seems true, though. I think I've grown so used to trying to decode complicated, passive-aggressive people and such that occasionally I even delude myself into thinking I'm 'skilled' at it. But I suppose this approach can cause me to forget the square one problem in the first place sometimes. Always learning.
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Re: Weird problem need advice [Re: Wallflower]
#16552611 - 07/19/12 01:51 AM (10 months, 25 days ago) |
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Even with my below-average penis half soft from drugs my ex-girlfriend doing Kegels HURT me so bad I had to tell her to stop. If Kegels aren't enough then maybe he has a medical problem and could get it corrected with surgery. Are we talking micropenis (<= 2 inches) or just on the low end of normal?
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Maybe his dick is too small. Personally I cant stand being average, so I learned how to suck that clitty dry and hit every spot on my woman.
He should be learning every spot on her and all her timing. Gotta master the lovemaking, I mean shit, in a serious relationship it has to be awesome.
There are exercises to widen the dick that work and ways to hit the gspot etc. I dont know anything about length but you can pump the dick wider like a muscle over time.
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