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#16528903 - 07/14/12 04:56 AM (10 months, 2 days ago) |
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i just found out my dad has had a few kids with other women, don't you just hate when that happens? one of them came by with her/my dads daughter, shes about 8 years old, and told us everything. after 23 years and i barely hear about it today straight from the horses mouth. i felt bad for the kid because apparently she isn't treated very well. my mother knew about it and she told me about the kids mother. the kid was so nice and timid, she was very nervous when she came by because she already knew about my family for many years and now she finally got to meet us. anyway im just wondering, if you were in my shoes would you consider the girl as your little sister? i would love having a lil sis around and as mentioned before, her mom isn't a very good role model. she pretty much came by and told us just to get back at my dad, i guess she was expecting us to get angry at my dad, but we didn't. i could care less about that, im more concerned about the girl because i think she really wants to be a part of the family, i have a few sisters and a few brothers and im sure she probably thinks of us like her big bros and big sisters. i apologize if i sound like a little girl in the babysitters club, but i just want to hear your opinions.
i appreciate it.
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malaka the werewolf
 
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Hmm this would be an awesome bond actually.. make it more of a relation bhetween the brothers and sisters than the dad
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Anonymous #1
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yea thats what im hoping for, my dad provides for her in many ways and he is a good dad, but right now i think she needs a family who will be nothing but good to her.
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 LadyShroomer
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If she is really your Dad's child, I say accept her and try to make her a part of your family regardless of what your Dad does or doesn't do. For some people this is difficult to do, but if it comes easy for you, I say go for it!
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Wallflower
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Well let's look at this from her eyes.
She has a young and fragile mind, like any child, and has been a 'taboo outsider' her whole life without a normal sense of family and belonging. She may not fully understand the situation, but children are amazingly perceptive. For a while now she has been told about her 'family,' buuuut they may not want her. After all, she is 'illegitimate,' and 'outsider,' only 'half.' If this family doesn't accept her, then she is shit out of luck for having a family. Her first time meeting them, everything is on the table. They are going to assess her, judge her, see if they 'want' her. Of course she is nervous! Secretly terrified and desperately hopeful is more like it. One of her half siblings looks at her, assesses her, seems to be considering if he will accept her or not. She's not sure if he will, but she really fucking hopes so.
So what comes next? Ball's in your court, OP.
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I see your point, but it's really not like that. I'm not judging her or assessing her in any way. I would except her without conditions. The only problem now is her mother, she is using her to get her way. It's a complicated situation and it seems it's getting more complex. I just feel bad for the kid, her mom doesn't seem like she really loves her. 
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malaka the werewolf
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You chillin with your newly found sibs!
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Wallflower
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I see your point, but it's really not like that. I'm not judging her or assessing her in any way. I would except her without conditions. The only problem now is her mother, she is using her to get her way. It's a complicated situation and it seems it's getting more complex. I just feel bad for the kid, her mom doesn't seem like she really loves her.
I'm just imagining the situation through her eyes, what she probably thinks and feels. I'm not making accusations.
And I guess also I'm a little jealous. It's not every day one gets the opportunity to be somebody's hero. A lot of us go to the grave having lived relatively meaningless lives. So the way I see the situation is that you just stumbled upon something amazing.
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werDehT
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Wallflower said:
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Anonymous said:
I see your point, but it's really not like that. I'm not judging her or assessing her in any way. I would except her without conditions. The only problem now is her mother, she is using her to get her way. It's a complicated situation and it seems it's getting more complex. I just feel bad for the kid, her mom doesn't seem like she really loves her.
I'm just imagining the situation through her eyes, what she probably thinks and feels. I'm not making accusations.
And I guess also I'm a little jealous. It's not every day one gets the opportunity to be somebody's hero. A lot of us go to the grave having lived relatively meaningless lives. So the way I see the situation is that you just stumbled upon something amazing.
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ah, now i see. you are right, that's probably exactly how she sees it. Its fucked up though because i think her mom is trying to get rid of her. We are being very cautious about this situation because we really don't know the mom's intentions. if it were entirely up to me i would adopt the kid and tell her mom to kicks rocks, but like i said its more complicated than that.
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Wallflower said:
And I guess also I'm a little jealous. It's not every day one gets the opportunity to be somebody's hero. A lot of us go to the grave having lived relatively meaningless lives. So the way I see the situation is that you just stumbled upon something amazing.
i am hoping you are right..
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Wallflower
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Not saying it could never be rough. It certainly could and probably will be at times.
But there is really nothing quite like knowing that someone's life was made so much better because of you. It's not an arrogant thing. It's just like... Humanity Win.
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Anonymous #1
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i hear ya. thank you so much for your words, i can tell you have a good heart.
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Wallflower
Registered: 05/10/12
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Np. I can tell you do, too, tis why I responded. 
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Tokesmoke
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And I guess also I'm a little jealous. It's not every day one gets the opportunity to be somebody's hero. A lot of us go to the grave having lived relatively meaningless lives. So the way I see the situation is that you just stumbled upon something amazing.
Im Jealous too, i wish someone would drop a sibling off at my house outta the blue. Being an only child sooo lonely 
But yeah I hope it works out for you and this little girl. I cant believe someone could use a child as a method of gettin back at someone. Some people 
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