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XxJason LivesxX said:
If your still on the fence, then I think you already know what you have to do.

But if you still need a push

Get a mental picture of the best bj this girl has given you...

Now imagine that with some other guys cock instead of yours.

This is the mental picture you will deal with every time your together in bed.

I've lived this and would not wish it on anybody.

Good luck man I truly wish you the best and I apologize for the ugliness of that image

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^THIS!

She can't be taking your relationship seriously OP

I just got done with telling off a woman just like this about a month ago.

7 Billion people. Greater half women. Go get um

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And this is what I was originally criticizing, that there isn't actually something that much different about a marriage that makes it more likely that they can resolve the problem. Your point of view that within a marriage is the only place it has some potential is already proven incorrect by the many cases of people who weren't married or together for a really long time and, yet, they managed to resolve their problems.

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Fair enough. I realize I wasn't using "I" statements, so it probably seemed narrow minded. Correct my original posts to personal statements for me.

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XxJason LivesxX said:
Now imagine that with some other guys cock instead of yours.

This is the mental picture you will deal with every time your together in bed.

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XxJason LivesxX said:
You're assuming that should be accepted and worked through.

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No, there was no assumption about what should or should not be done.
You specifically said "This is the mental picture you will deal with every time you're together in bed.".
This is what I addressed, and my point doesn't rely on any assumption that something should be accepted or worked through.

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My point was that once the trust has been broken you can't magically move on and have it fixed.  It will always be in the back of his mind. The image analogy was a visual representation of that.

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But thanks for making broad assumptions about me and my past relationships.

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Oh, you took my comment personally about the idea you presented? I wasn't aware anyone mentioned you or your relationships, and the only thing you said that I commented on didn't contain a single word about you or them.

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Also with all the defensiveness in this thread by you I could assume that you are cheater and are just trying to justify your own actions.

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Even if I had cheated in the past, it wouldn't necessarily mean that my comments in this thread would be an attempt to justify my own actions. The interesting thing is that you've already assumed this of me, despite the fact that you only speculate that you "could" do it, which is clearly evidenced by the fact that you have concluded that my contributions can be considered to be "defensiveness".
I don't consider it rude, though, I just consider it to be the result of a lack from your part to realize that this is a discussion about ideas. The OP is in a delicate situation and he asked for perspectives on what that situation means, in an attempt to gain insight as to how it would be best for him to take action.
And, in this sense, when someone says "This image will be in your head constantly" regardless of his interest in resolving the matter, or someone says something like "If they were really sorry, they wouldn't have done it in the first place", letting their emotion distract them from the obvious fact that the whole concept of sorry means that it happens after something happens, I find an interest in criticizing what I consider to be errors in thinking.

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XxJason LivesxX said:
Whatever dude you win this interweb.

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XxJason LivesxX said:
Also with all the defensiveness in this thread by you I could assume that you are cheater and are just trying to justify your own actions.

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I never considered why fireworks was such an adamanet douche in these cheating threads, I think you nailed it!

I can only assume thats what you're referring too, as I've had him on nig for a few months now anyways. Shroomery has only gotten better since then