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 SumerOfreedom
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 First BI expirence went all the way. 
#16347109 - 06/07/12 05:39 PM (11 months, 6 days ago) |
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So I dont like to label anything or anyone. I dont go the whole your gay, bi or straight thing. And I always thought that if the option came up and I messed around with a guy it would feel the same way. But a openly gay friend of a friend came over today and we used a little addy and drink a few drinks and one thing led to another and he ended up sucking my dick. Well he looked up and asked if I wanted to fuck em, I consciously sad yes. And you know the rest. He left a little while ago and Im trying to just look at it as a good time and nothing more. But Im having trouble doin that. Im not mad or ashamed of it, just a little wierded out. I geuss Im just looking for input for anyone else that has had the similar thing happen.
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Lynnch
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Re: First BI expirence went all the way. [Re: SumerOfreedom]
#16347142 - 06/07/12 05:47 PM (11 months, 6 days ago) |
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Dunno what to tell ya bud, would you do it again if given the chance? Or was it just not your thing? No big deal.
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SumerOfreedom
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Re: First BI expirence went all the way. [Re: Lynnch]
#16347179 - 06/07/12 05:56 PM (11 months, 6 days ago) |
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I dont know really. It wasnt a bad thing. I try to take everything as it comes. It just kinda caught me off gaurd. As Ive always known I wouldnt turn it down if it came my way. But now that it has that is the qeustion that is bothering me. What if it comes up again? It was fun, I wont lie. Anytime you can connect with some one on that level and laugh and smile through out the whole time it cant be all bad. But I dont know if I should leave it at that. I dont want to tarnish the one good memory I made with that expirence. I feel that if I do it again it might cheapen it. Because I do love females and even have a daughter. maybe Im just looking to far into it thus labeling it like the ones I disagree with.
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Re: First BI expirence went all the way. [Re: SumerOfreedom]
#16347184 - 06/07/12 05:57 PM (11 months, 6 days ago) |
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Im feeling like it might just be one of those things I need to check off my list of things I wanted to do before I die. But then I feel guilty for looking at it that way.
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Lynnch
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Re: First BI expirence went all the way. [Re: SumerOfreedom]
#16347303 - 06/07/12 06:26 PM (11 months, 6 days ago) |
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Thats fine either way. I don't think you have to make some absolute choice regarding a future possibility.
It happened, it was good, cool. You can leave it at that, and if it comes around again, make a choice then.
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Re: First BI expirence went all the way. [Re: Lynnch]
#16347333 - 06/07/12 06:31 PM (11 months, 6 days ago) |
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Thanks Lynnch, it think I already new that but I just needed some reassurance for some reason. It does make me feel better about it. thanks.
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Re: First BI expirence went all the way. [Re: SumerOfreedom]
#16347384 - 06/07/12 06:41 PM (11 months, 6 days ago) |
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No prob dude, best of luck with the life thing.
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Re: First BI expirence went all the way. [Re: Lynnch]
#16347497 - 06/07/12 06:57 PM (11 months, 6 days ago) |
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Eh, you probably have (like most of us) some vague deep-seeded and unconscious negativity in you about these kinds of experiences - that's what's bothering you now. IMO you just need to work through your thoughts and be honest yourself, be honest about how the concerns of others could be affecting you. The difference between life and death is experience and any experience that doesn't harm should be guilt free.
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I feel that if I do it again it might cheapen it.
Come on now - if you wouldn't say this about hereto sex, it probably doesn't apply here. All sex generally does well on a cycle of rinse & repeat 
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Re: First BI expirence went all the way. [Re: Yippie] 1
#16348013 - 06/07/12 08:56 PM (11 months, 6 days ago) |
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i'm bi, and it's taken me a couple of decades to really come to grips with it. it's a complicated set of feelings to sort out due to the stigma that has been attached to homosexual acts since western civilization could be called such. my advice is to not overanalyze what happened and just treat it like you would any other encounter; an enjoyable experience that allowed you to connect with another human being in the most honest way we know how. if you think you've had your fill then consider the deed done and check it off your list. if not, then go out there and get some more.
as for me, i am much more inclined toward women than men, but i guess my options are always open.  if i met someone who really did it for me who happened to be a guy then i wouldn't let that hold me back.
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Re: First BI expirence went all the way. [Re: millzy]
#16350243 - 06/08/12 05:55 AM (11 months, 6 days ago) |
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Its hot dude, no biggie. embrace it.
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Re: First BI expirence went all the way. [Re: Crystal G]
#16350773 - 06/08/12 09:51 AM (11 months, 5 days ago) |
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Thanks for the input everyone. And appreciate Crystal, that helps alot and makes me feel more at ease about it.
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Re: First BI expirence went all the way. [Re: Crystal G] 1
#16351187 - 06/08/12 11:54 AM (11 months, 5 days ago) |
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Its hot dude, no biggie. embrace it.
QFT
ain't no thang. i like to think of my sexuality as fluid, and im attracted to people and their energies, not gender.
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Re: First BI expirence went all the way. [Re: yogabunny] 3
#16351900 - 06/08/12 02:37 PM (11 months, 5 days ago) |
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The woman have figured this out a long time ago.
For men it's a rather new idea to embrace sexuality with the above attitude.
It's always been who I am, second person I hooked up with was a guy so from an early age I was able to realize sexuality is nothing to be ashamed of. It took A LOT of time and many years to accept that because society is so fucked.
You will figure it out all out one day too. Love who you are. you only have one life as far as we know.
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Re: First BI expirence went all the way. [Re: withoutawire]
#16352038 - 06/08/12 03:12 PM (11 months, 5 days ago) |
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It might also be worth noting you played a very 'male' role in this encounter-he went down on you and you fucked him. Perhaps this is easier to adjust to than if the roles had reversed.? What would your feelings have been if you'd ended up being the receiving partner,so to speak.
Not that it matters,of course,sexuality really is a spectrum of preferences,but I think it's be easier for a chap to do what you did than the other way round..
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If you enjoyed it why the hell would not want to do it again? That's like saying that steak was so fucking awesome I'm turning vegan.
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Re: First BI expirence went all the way. [Re: fireworks_god]
#16355308 - 06/09/12 10:16 AM (11 months, 4 days ago) |
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hello freedom.
its very common to feel a little weirded out after your first gay sex experience. it you ask around you will find that most guys get weired out after their first time. you will spend the next month or so reliving the moment over and over and wondering how things might have been different, or could be different next time. also a nice long hot rape shower is very common. you want to wash any part he touched on you. this is all common and just means your doing just fine. you may feel like you want to distances yourself from anything gay and have lots of girl sex but you will calm down and be ready soon enough to go at it again.
im bi and my first boy sex freaked me way out, but i did not feel any different about myself the next day. i still felt like normal me. but it was all i could think about while i was alone jacking off for the next few weeks.
PM me if you want
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Re: First BI expirence went all the way. [Re: trentallica] 2
#16355759 - 06/09/12 01:15 PM (11 months, 4 days ago) |
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great responses all around. i agree, the awkward feelings youre experiencing are likely due to all the social conditioning we grow up with that pushes a stigma towards male-male sexual encounters, and definitely, in my opinion, the need to label people as a result of their encounters.
I have strong convictions about the dangers of labeling ones sexuality, or religion for that matter. I think it traps us in certain roles, when we dont need to be. Life is fluid, and humans are complex enough to understand that; I think we can be fluid too, and much happier as a result of that choice once we can drop the expectations of our societies.
Congrats on your new experience, keep movin' on with life man 
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Re: First BI expirence went all the way. [Re: mick]
#16357884 - 06/09/12 10:04 PM (11 months, 4 days ago) |
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hey man, just don't think about it to much, i would try to seperate mind and body and go for another sex encounter with this friend. this way you will enjoy it more instead of worrying about if its making your dicky horny and hard.
and remember, don't fuck around with std's, i hope you asked before-hand atleast, or wore a condom.
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Re: First BI expirence went all the way. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16358180 - 06/09/12 10:57 PM (11 months, 4 days ago) |
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don't let society get to you man. if you liked it you liked it end of story and there's nothing wrong with that. no reason to hold back in the future or force yourself to seek it out. just do it like you did this time and take life as it comes. the past means nothing and the futue too if you don't want it to
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