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 Anyone out there manage a relationship after cheating? 
#16343924 - 06/07/12 12:49 AM (11 months, 4 days ago) |
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I've been dating this girl for a year now that i just found out recently had cheated on me. I still love her, and would like to forgive and forget things. But the only problem is that its really hard to get off of my mind. She is completely sorry, and wont stop beating herself up about it as well. How many out there have been cheated on, or cheated on someone and was able to work out the relationship afterwards?
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 Re: Anyone out there manage a relationship after cheating? [Re: Powdered_Toastman]
#16343944 - 06/07/12 12:56 AM (11 months, 4 days ago) |
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It's better to let her go now. If you don't it will eat you up forever, also if she has cheated on you then she isn't taking it seriously and WILL do it again. There are no excuses. I'm sure you could work it out if you wanted to however. Just don't do it to yourself man... There are 7 billion people on this earth, find the right person. It may take some trial and error, but life goes on and in the end everything always works out just how it should. Don't sit on your death bed and wonder why you wasted your time with this unfaithful woman. Just gotta keep your chin up and think with a straight head in the rough times man.
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Re: Anyone out there manage a relationship after cheating? [Re: Powdered_Toastman] 1
#16343966 - 06/07/12 01:03 AM (11 months, 4 days ago) |
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Threesome ?
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Re: Anyone out there manage a relationship after cheating? [Re: JonnyDeformed]
#16344059 - 06/07/12 01:31 AM (11 months, 4 days ago) |
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do yourself a favor and cut ties now. no one deserves to be cheated on. you can find someone who respects you enough to never do that to you
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Re: Anyone out there manage a relationship after cheating? [Re: plasma]
#16344080 - 06/07/12 01:36 AM (11 months, 4 days ago) |
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You need to find another ship to board, the one you are on now is sinking.
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Re: Anyone out there manage a relationship after cheating? [Re: Jwlst]
#16344388 - 06/07/12 03:22 AM (11 months, 4 days ago) |
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What everybody else said. You should break it off now. I cheated on my ex about a year and a half into our relationship & told her about a year after that. She stayed with me and I spent the next two years of the relationship trying to make up for it. She even said she was over it at one point but that was a lie that she felt the need to tell because she is codependent and always needs to be with someone and she isn't comfortable enough with herself to be alone. Don't be like my ex-girlfriend. Dump this girl now before you spend more of your life trying to fix a broken relationship.
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Re: Anyone out there manage a relationship after cheating? [Re: Powdered_Toastman]
#16345314 - 06/07/12 11:08 AM (11 months, 3 days ago) |
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Powdered_Toastman said:
I've been dating this girl for a year now that i just found out recently had cheated on me. I still love her, and would like to forgive and forget things. But the only problem is that its really hard to get off of my mind. She is completely sorry, and wont stop beating herself up about it as well. How many out there have been cheated on, or cheated on someone and was able to work out the relationship afterwards?
When and how? These are important things to know. 
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Re: Anyone out there manage a relationship after cheating? [Re: Powdered_Toastman]
#16345425 - 06/07/12 11:38 AM (11 months, 3 days ago) |
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Quote:
Powdered_Toastman said:
I've been dating this girl for a year now that i just found out recently had cheated on me. I still love her, and would like to forgive and forget things. But the only problem is that its really hard to get off of my mind. She is completely sorry, and wont stop beating herself up about it as well. How many out there have been cheated on, or cheated on someone and was able to work out the relationship afterwards?
You can only work it out if you are married. you aren't so move one. Why would you want to be with someone who's cheated on you?
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Re: Anyone out there manage a relationship after cheating? [Re: withoutawire]
#16345436 - 06/07/12 11:43 AM (11 months, 3 days ago) |
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withoutawire said:
You can only work it out if you are married.
Why? What changes with marriage?
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Why would you want to be with someone who's cheated on you?
From what I read in his post, he loves her.
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Re: Anyone out there manage a relationship after cheating? [Re: fireworks_god]
#16345445 - 06/07/12 11:46 AM (11 months, 3 days ago) |
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What changes with marriage is the legal shit storm you will have to go through to get divorced. It's even messier with kids. If you are married something as petty as sex might be able to work itself out over time.
If you are dating on the other hand...fuck that. Enjoy living with the anxiety that she could be cheating for the rest of your time. Enjoy becoming some jealous asshole who you've never been.
End it. It's done. She doesn't respect you enough and she showed that by cheating.
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Re: Anyone out there manage a relationship after cheating? [Re: withoutawire]
#16345456 - 06/07/12 11:50 AM (11 months, 3 days ago) |
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withoutawire said:
If you are dating on the other hand...fuck that. Enjoy living with the anxiety that she could be cheating for the rest of your time. Enjoy becoming some jealous asshole who you've never been.
This, 100%. Even if you move on and stay in the relationship -- jealousy and resentment would be hard to shake. I understand it's hard to walk away sometimes -- but I would definitely walk away. Love will come again, it always does.
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Re: Anyone out there manage a relationship after cheating? [Re: withoutawire] 1
#16345487 - 06/07/12 12:04 PM (11 months, 3 days ago) |
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withoutawire said:
What changes with marriage is the legal shit storm you will have to go through to get divorced. It's even messier with kids. If you are married something as petty as sex might be able to work itself out over time.
It's not like the presence of things like legal issues and kids means it's more likely to "work it out". Maybe it seems to make sense to you, but things like legal issues and kids certainly don't prevent people from getting divorced in general, considering the divorce rate in the United States, for example, so I don't see why they'd prove to be some obstacle in the case of cheating that would somehow force people to resolve their emotional issues and not leave the relationship. 
I don't think it really makes a difference in the ability to work it out at all, actually...
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If you are dating on the other hand...fuck that. Enjoy living with the anxiety that she could be cheating for the rest of your time. Enjoy becoming some jealous asshole who you've never been.
Are those his only options? 
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Re: Anyone out there manage a relationship after cheating? [Re: fireworks_god]
#16345499 - 06/07/12 12:08 PM (11 months, 3 days ago) |
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It's not like the presence of things like legal issues and kids means it's more likely to "work it out". Maybe it seems to make sense to you, but things like legal issues and kids certainly don't prevent people from getting divorced in general, considering the divorce rate in the United States, for example, so I don't see why they'd prove to be some obstacle in the case of cheating that would somehow force people to resolve their emotional issues and not leave the relationship.
I don't think it really makes a difference in the ability to work it out at all, actually...
I do. It may seem to you that this is irrelevant, but there is A LOT more motivation and cooperation within the relationship if you have all these other influencing factors. If you are dating it doesn't work that way for the legal reasons, and the simple fact that you haven't pledged to be together forever. This person just cheated on you, they shouldn't be the person you were going to make that pledge to
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Re: Anyone out there manage a relationship after cheating? [Re: withoutawire]
#16345517 - 06/07/12 12:14 PM (11 months, 3 days ago) |
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In theory, perhaps, but it's simply a matter of how most people regard those influences and how they weigh in their decision-making processes. Considering that something like cheating is one of the thorniest issues to arrive in a relationship and that people in general don't have a problem with divorce, I just don't see it being an issue.
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Re: Anyone out there manage a relationship after cheating? [Re: fireworks_god]
#16345525 - 06/07/12 12:15 PM (11 months, 3 days ago) |
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Yeah, well I am going to reiterate that I think trying to work out cheating when you aren't married is a huge indication that it's not going to work. If you have been together for 10 years and married it has some potential to be solved, but that doesn't mean it will. I am not saying it works out in marriage. I am just saying that's the only place it has some potential.
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Re: Anyone out there manage a relationship after cheating? [Re: withoutawire]
#16345552 - 06/07/12 12:23 PM (11 months, 3 days ago) |
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See if you can cheat on her and call it even . Or just break up . I never stressed women , I think ive been cheated on one or twice , but I never gave a real shit . I would just break up with them . Even if I really did like them . Its nothing to stress yourself over .
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Re: Anyone out there manage a relationship after cheating? [Re: candyflip420]
#16345560 - 06/07/12 12:25 PM (11 months, 3 days ago) |
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If she were really sorry, she would have been sorry before it happened, and not done it. It's called being an adult.
You're either dating a lier, a child, or both. Dump that tard
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Re: Anyone out there manage a relationship after cheating? [Re: Powdered_Toastman]
#16345628 - 06/07/12 12:41 PM (11 months, 3 days ago) |
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JFK and Bill Clinton. They were players. I've never cheated.
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Re: Anyone out there manage a relationship after cheating? [Re: withoutawire]
#16350028 - 06/08/12 04:15 AM (11 months, 3 days ago) |
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Azure Essence said:
If she were really sorry, she would have been sorry before it happened, and not done it. It's called being an adult.
Ironically enough, this line of thought of yours is incredibly immature. 
It also isn't rational.
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withoutawire said:
I am just saying that's the only place it has some potential.
And this is what I was originally criticizing, that there isn't actually something that much different about a marriage that makes it more likely that they can resolve the problem. Your point of view that within a marriage is the only place it has some potential is already proven incorrect by the many cases of people who weren't married or together for a really long time and, yet, they managed to resolve their problems.
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