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 Little fight with the girlfriend...am I the dick? 
#16243717 - 05/17/12 05:00 AM (1 year, 7 days ago) |
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I went to a friends party last night and got drunk. Im tired and fucking hungover. On top of that, I have to get up early tomorrow to get some shit done. Girlfriends been at the bar all night with her lady friend and gets a ride home. So she calls me to come over (Im moving in with her at the end of the month...I pretty much already live there).
I get there and shes hammered drunk, straddling her friend and making out with her. I previously told her I dont care if she makes out with her friends...but cmon. So then she proceeds to bug the shit outa me all drunk and sloppy and annoying. Eventually Im like "I cant sleep here tonight...things to do". Im not just gonna sit around all bored on the couch while she runs around breaking shit and swappin spit with her fat friend. I told her I was taking off and she breaks down in tears. Surprise...emotional drunk girlfriend strikes again. I dont have the patience for this....so I told her I loved her and left. She was calling me an asshole and this and that. Really? Im the asshole?
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 Re: Little fight with the girlfriend...am I the dick? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16243726 - 05/17/12 05:04 AM (1 year, 7 days ago) |
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She's the asshole.
And she was drunk, her argument's not valid.
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Re: Little fight with the girlfriend...am I the dick? [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#16243774 - 05/17/12 05:26 AM (1 year, 7 days ago) |
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if she were making out with a hot bitch , would it still have been a problem
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Re: Little fight with the girlfriend...am I the dick? [Re: atomicshaman]
#16243824 - 05/17/12 05:54 AM (1 year, 7 days ago) |
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atomicshaman said:
if she were making out with a hot bitch , would it still have been a problem
 haha probably not
anyway man, back on topic. No. you're not the asshole. I nearly broke up with my lady the other day because i got home and she was all drunk and shit and started screaming at me for being upset that she was so drunk (she could barely talk).
Just give it till the morning for her to sober up and maybe tell her that you're getting tired of that shit (if it happens often of course)
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Re: Little fight with the girlfriend...am I the dick? [Re: McNel] 1
#16244504 - 05/17/12 12:10 PM (1 year, 7 days ago) |
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this chick sounds shitty, and a shitty drunk
who kisses fat chicks?????
ur gf is acting like a fucking 2 year old
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Re: Little fight with the girlfriend...am I the dick? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16244742 - 05/17/12 01:20 PM (1 year, 7 days ago) |
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I don't know why people who act like fools when they're drunk still drink enough to get to that point.
Sounds like you have a hell of a girlfriend there. My advice is to reevaluate the situation entirely. It's one thing if this was an isolated incident but by the sounds of it this happens often. She sounds like a sloppy mess.
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Re: Little fight with the girlfriend...am I the dick? [Re: keyohnah]
#16244774 - 05/17/12 01:29 PM (1 year, 7 days ago) |
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you are going to move in with this bitch, I would think twice about that one, she sounds like a very disrespectful immature girl.
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Re: Little fight with the girlfriend...am I the dick? [Re: qman]
#16245557 - 05/17/12 04:41 PM (1 year, 7 days ago) |
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qman said:
she sounds like a very disrespectful immature girl.
This is how I feel right now. Im not 16 years old. Im doing my best to be an adult, get my shit together, and settle down. I dont have the time, or patience for these shenanigans. I dont want to jump the gun and blow this way out of proportion though. Still...her recklessness is taking me down with her. Shes unhealthy, she drives when she drinks, she gets black-out drunk and does stupid shit.
Its all wearing on me, and its counterproductive to where I want to be.
So Im at a crossroads. If I leave, Im not giving her a second chance so that she can help herself. I know she wants to be with me and she tells me daily to be patient with her. On the other hand, if I stay, I feel like Im trying to change her. Im being the "controlling" dick boyfriend. Im molding her into what I want...for myself.
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Re: Little fight with the girlfriend...am I the dick? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16246053 - 05/17/12 06:18 PM (1 year, 7 days ago) |
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Re: Little fight with the girlfriend...am I the dick? [Re: andrewss]
#16246625 - 05/17/12 08:27 PM (1 year, 7 days ago) |
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My guess is she invited you over there, hoping you would proposition her. When you sat there looking bored, disgusted and then left promptly she felt like you dealt her a massive rejection. She is not angry because you left, she is angry because she probably feels that you have made her feel like an ugly classless reject. Some people will react to a damaged ego by getting someone else to boost it again, some people will act deliberately difficult to see if the partner really does care enough to make it up to them. That being said, it's still a petty mind game and she is in the wrong. But your attitude about the way she is when you type a post on here is also very wrong. You should also note that a little compliment about her looks before leaving could have made all the difference.
I think though it is obvious you are resentful and don't really like her personality. You can move on and let the both of you find someone who will make you happy, or you can spend the next couple of years putting her down for being herself and dealing with drama that will inevitably come from this practice. Choice really is yours, not ours. I think you know what I mean by this.
Honestly though, it sounds like she is an immature drama queen, but you are a condescending uptight bore. Both of you probably have some growing up to do.
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Re: Little fight with the girlfriend...am I the dick? [Re: Jwlst]
#16248103 - 05/18/12 01:46 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Anonymous said:
On the other hand, if I stay, I feel like Im trying to change her. Im being the "controlling" dick boyfriend. Im molding her into what I want...for myself.
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Jwlst said:
Honestly though, it sounds like she is an immature drama queen, but you are a condescending uptight bore. Both of you probably have some growing up to do.
Yeah, you should probably let her go. She'll be sad, but she's clearly not over crazy partying, and you sound like you are, so it's probably the best for both of you. You don't deserve to be burdened by her poor decisions, and she doesn't deserve to be looked down on.
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Re: Little fight with the girlfriend...am I the dick? [Re: CureCat]
#16248174 - 05/18/12 02:09 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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my gf drinks and gets stupid like this too OP. last weekend we were at a work event (she works at BMW) that was raising money for the boys and girls club. it was free drinks at the event and she got wasted as she tends to do. towards the end of the night she was stumbling and getting way to sentimental talking about how i deserve better than her etc.. and she tried kissing some other party girl who was there.
the only thing that has ever worked for me, since she does this often, is to get far drunker than she gets. By making a rukus and vomiting everywhere she no longer gets to play the 'look at me' card, cause shes too busy cleaning up after my mess hehe
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Re: Little fight with the girlfriend...am I the dick? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#16248339 - 05/18/12 03:01 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Anonymous said:
the only thing that has ever worked for me, since she does this often, is to get far drunker than she gets. By making a rukus and vomiting everywhere she no longer gets to play the 'look at me' card, cause shes too busy cleaning up after my mess hehe
See. That's how it is with coke. The only way to tolerate people on coke is to do coke.
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Re: Little fight with the girlfriend...am I the dick? [Re: CureCat]
#16248648 - 05/18/12 05:36 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Jwlst said:
but you are a condescending uptight bore. Both of you probably have some growing up to do.
Today's text from her was regarding a black eye she got while at the bar. The same bar she works at. Honestly yes, my panties are in a twist about the growing up I need to do. Lets put this all into context:
She gets off work, drinks for 6 hours, gets in a fight for some unknown reason, gets thrown out of the bar she works at, goes home with her friend, begs me to come over, borderline lesbian with her equally drunk friend while stumbling around/breaking shit...and I need to grow up because Im hungover/tired/upset I have to wake up early. I need to grow up because she was pissed I wanted to leave? What would a grown-up have done in this situation?
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CureCat said:
she's clearly not over crazy partying, and you sound like you are, so it's probably the best for both of you.
This is how I feel. I didnt make a big deal out of it at all. I was like "well I love you babe...sorry, but its time for bed. Give me a kiss blah blah". She was like "NOOO AARRRGGLBHALBHA YOU FUCKING ASSHOLE WHY WOULD YOU LEAVE ME AAAARERRHGH"
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Re: Little fight with the girlfriend...am I the dick? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16248669 - 05/18/12 05:50 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Anonymous said:
I was like "well I love you babe...sorry, but its time for bed. Give me a kiss blah blah". She was like "NOOO AARRRGGLBHALBHA YOU FUCKING ASSHOLE WHY WOULD YOU LEAVE ME AAAARERRHGH"
Fuuuun.
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Re: Little fight with the girlfriend...am I the dick? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16248674 - 05/18/12 05:55 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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I was gonna post some stuff but Jwlst nailed it. What a wise motha fucka. To be concise, this doesn't seem to be working out.
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Re: Little fight with the girlfriend...am I the dick? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16248732 - 05/18/12 06:40 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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She gets off work, drinks for 6 hours, gets in a fight for some unknown reason, gets thrown out of the bar she works at, goes home with her friend, begs me to come over, borderline lesbian with her equally drunk friend while stumbling around/breaking shit...and I need to grow up because Im hungover/tired/upset I have to wake up early. I need to grow up because she was pissed I wanted to leave? What would a grown-up have done in this situation?
To be honest, a grown-up wouldn't have went over in the first place. You knew she was drunk and you felt like shit...why go over? You walked into this shit-storm on your own accord. Sounds to me like it's the dynamic you two have and you are playing the victim. You can't be a victim when you willingly play along.
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Re: Little fight with the girlfriend...am I the dick? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#16248784 - 05/18/12 07:09 AM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Man people and alcohol... Really adds a whole 'nother crazy to life.
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Re: Little fight with the girlfriend...am I the dick? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#16252466 - 05/19/12 01:50 AM (1 year, 5 days ago) |
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Anonymous said:
my gf drinks and gets stupid like this too OP. last weekend we were at a work event (she works at BMW) that was raising money for the boys and girls club. it was free drinks at the event and she got wasted as she tends to do. towards the end of the night she was stumbling and getting way to sentimental talking about how i deserve better than her etc.. and she tried kissing some other party girl who was there.
the only thing that has ever worked for me, since she does this often, is to get far drunker than she gets. By making a rukus and vomiting everywhere she no longer gets to play the 'look at me' card, cause shes too busy cleaning up after my mess hehe
   
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Re: Little fight with the girlfriend...am I the dick? [Re: withoutawire]
#16252767 - 05/19/12 03:37 AM (1 year, 5 days ago) |
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So is the problem that you got called out to deal with your drunk girlfriend, or that you ALWAYS get called out to deal with your drunk girlfriend?
I don't mind dealing with drunk people, as long as it's not a constant thing.
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