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 bianaryiris
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 boy if your reading this.. relationship advice 
#16237247 - 05/15/12 11:06 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Im not exactly sure where to begin with this post, its a rather long/complicated situation but ill try my best to explain.
So basically i lost the guy of my dreams and I'm not sure what to do anymore. It all started about 2 years ago. We got drunk together and things went way further then they should have that night.. that being said i don't regret it i just wish i would have tried harder to keep him in my life. We were together for roughly 2 months after that before he called things off; it was partially my fault things weren't working out, i was being stupid. Anyways, when he told me i played along to the 'lets just be friends' idea but really i was SO heartbroken i never led on though. It took me so long to finally quit crying it was terrifying and horrible losing him. I missed him more than I've ever missed anybody (and still do). He will always have a piece of my heart.
After all that we didn't talk for months, seeing him at school was the hardest. I worked on myself for a few months, figuring out my life and what not. We hungout maybe 2 or 3 times after that but i don't know if i was just meant to be a late night hookup or what either way i wasn't. Then summer rolled around.. we were both at the same party i was drinking, we both were he ended up following me back to where i was going to spend the night. From there you can assume what ended up happening.
The next morning i woke up alone, trying to recall if that really happened last night or whether it was just a wild dream. I waited for him to text me, i told myself i wouldn't try to contact him until he contacted me. Rejection hurts especially from someone who's already turned you away and i didn't want to deal with that feeling again. Three days later i get a text from him.. we talk for a little bit and he tells me he wants to work on our relationship, not get into a relationship or anything just start talking again stuff like that.
And what do i do? Well with all the hurt and resentment i tell him i want to forgive and forget him. That was the biggest mistake I've ever made in my entire life. Those were the last words we ever spoke to each other. I wish i knew his reaction or how he felt about it or if it even mattered at all to him. There isn't a day that goes by that he doesn't cross my mind and looking back i would do anything to take those words back and tell him how i really feel/felt. I think the whole reason i did it was to see how much i really meant to him, all he would have ever had to do was really try for me i just wanted him to want me thats all.
The story gets better i end up dating his friend. awkward. and now i just don't know that theres any hope left. Basically, I'm wound up so tight in all of this i have no idea what to do ):
I get this feeling that if i wouldn't have said what i did things could be completely different right now and thats the worst thought of all because i know its all my fault.
Im left looking for advice online since i can't really talk to anyone about this situation and I'm desperate for answers, please any insight helps.
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#16237256 - 05/15/12 11:07 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Re: boy if your reading this.. relationship advice [Re: Everlong]
#16237262 - 05/15/12 11:08 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Re: boy if your reading this.. relationship advice [Re: Curiousgeorge22]
#16237274 - 05/15/12 11:10 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Dshsb?
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ch1ck3n.s0up
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Re: boy if your reading this.. relationship advice [Re: Curiousgeorge22]
#16237276 - 05/15/12 11:11 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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His loss; move on. You seem like a very sweet, sincere person. You can do better.
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Re: boy if your reading this.. relationship advice [Re: Alabama Slim]
#16237300 - 05/15/12 11:15 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Dshsb? yes he did.
thanks chicken soup thats very nice of you
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Re: boy if your reading this.. relationship advice [Re: ch1ck3n.s0up]
#16237301 - 05/15/12 11:15 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Quote:
From there you can assume what ended up happening.
Hi, i'm sorry english isn't my first language. I can't assume. Uhm i can't give you advice till you explain yourself.
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Re: boy if your reading this.. relationship advice [Re: teamkiller]
#16237314 - 05/15/12 11:17 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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we fucked. i fell in love, he fell out of lust. the rest is history
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Re: boy if your reading this.. relationship advice [Re: bianaryiris] 1
#16237321 - 05/15/12 11:18 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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2 months?
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Re: boy if your reading this.. relationship advice [Re: trip forever]
#16237333 - 05/15/12 11:20 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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maybe 3 on and off for a while i wish i knew how he felt
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Re: boy if your reading this.. relationship advice [Re: ch1ck3n.s0up]
#16237341 - 05/15/12 11:20 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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here's some advice that is really hard to follow. Never give more than you get in return from somebody in a relationship. If he's not giving and trying then neither should you.
Sometimes these things just take time. You need to decide what you want to do. You told him to get lost and he did. If you want him back you are going to have to get him. He's thinking two things, her loss, and if she wants me back SHE needs to come get me...
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Re: boy if your reading this.. relationship advice [Re: Everlong]
#16237343 - 05/15/12 11:21 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Re: boy if your reading this.. relationship advice [Re: trip forever]
#16237351 - 05/15/12 11:22 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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bianaryiris
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Re: boy if your reading this.. relationship advice [Re: fbi365]
#16237373 - 05/15/12 11:25 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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very true! the thing is I'm so scared of being rejected again, I'm worried that because i pushed him away this time there are a few different options:
1. he feels the same way i felt and rejects me and the cycle continues forever
2.hes moved on and thinks I'm pathetic for trying to be with him now
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3. highly unlikley but he has feelings for me and things work out
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Re: boy if your reading this.. relationship advice [Re: bianaryiris]
#16237382 - 05/15/12 11:27 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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I can see number one being the most likely case...
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Re: boy if your reading this.. relationship advice [Re: Everlong]
#16237386 - 05/15/12 11:27 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Quote:
Everlong said:
never gets old..
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Re: boy if your reading this.. relationship advice [Re: bianaryiris]
#16237409 - 05/15/12 11:31 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Edited by Prisoner#1 (05/15/12 11:53 PM)
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Re: boy if your reading this.. relationship advice [Re: indica]
#16237414 - 05/15/12 11:32 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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indica said:
a few things
1. you were together for two months. You will look back on this and  yourself
2. you sound about 14. Get over it.
3. Get over it.
4. you are a stupid whore for putting yourself in that position and a sucker for letting yourself get used
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thats a little over the top man. as far as i know, love isn't one of those things that you consult a chart and make calculations, it just happens.
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Re: boy if your reading this.. relationship advice [Re: teamkiller]
#16237425 - 05/15/12 11:34 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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no but OP sounds 14, and all the detials of this story point to a high school rromance dramatised by a girl (or boy... OP is androgynous atm) who cries over spilt milk.
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bianaryiris
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Re: boy if your reading this.. relationship advice [Re: indica]
#16237443 - 05/15/12 11:37 PM (1 year, 6 days ago) |
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Quote:
indica said:
a few things
1. you were together for two months. You will look back on this and yourself
2. you sound about 14. Get over it.
3. Get over it.
4. you are a stupid whore for putting yourself in that position and a sucker for letting yourself get used
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1. Im asking for advice, you don't need to be rude if you have nothing to say move on and read a different thread rather than tear people down.
2. it was more than two months..
3. GET A LIFE
4. You don't even fucking know who i am so good one calling me a stupid whore.. obviously if i were a whore i wouldn't still be stuck on the same guy that I've liked for two years.
5. Im 19. how is it immature to post a thread about my problems seeking advice?
think before you speak next time
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