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 Anyone here been mostly a single person throughout ur life? 
#16152600 - 04/28/12 09:18 PM (1 year, 25 days ago) |
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I def have. I have friends but as far as relationships while ive had a few things here and there ive mostly been a single person and still am, and 24 too. Truthfully i dig the idea of love without attachment, actually being single is ok but it is occasionally annoying when i wish i could just being having sex or something, but i guess once u jack off u don't even care anymore really.
Still i think if it works relationships can be solid, but im still a single person tho. Surely there are others too. 
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Re: Anyone here been mostly a single person throughout ur life? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16152759 - 04/28/12 09:57 PM (1 year, 25 days ago) |
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I would say single in terms of relationships but I've always had a large number of influential people in my life, although I sometimes forget that fact  Being single isn't even that bad unless you fixate on it. Relationships can be mind opening experiences possibly but they are also a source of stress and compromise that not everyone is ready/willing to make sacrifices for to get and/or realize the positive parts. I struggle with this personally.
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Re: Anyone here been mostly a single person throughout ur life? [Re: atayia]
#16152934 - 04/28/12 10:42 PM (1 year, 25 days ago) |
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I am
I really do enjoy love without attachment. That is why most of my "girls" have been fuckbuddies. That way, nobody restricts each other on things they want to do.
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Re: Anyone here been mostly a single person throughout ur life? [Re: LySergic D]
#16153308 - 04/29/12 12:25 AM (1 year, 25 days ago) |
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I've been single my entire life.
A few fuck buddies and things here and there but never a real girl friend.
I'd really like to get into a relationship, though. Not looking for one but if I happened to come across one, it'd be nice.
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Re: Anyone here been mostly a single person throughout ur life? [Re: tedthekid] 1
#16155086 - 04/29/12 01:48 PM (1 year, 24 days ago) |
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I've been single throughout most of my life.
Up until my last relationship, I only ever really had 'flings' or friends with benefits. There were a few "relationships" in there, but I don't truly count them as such. My real relationship lasted 3 years and I'm now on the solo train again.
Unsure about where I will hop off.. but being single does free a lot of time for myself which I'm enjoying. 
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Re: Anyone here been mostly a single person throughout ur life? [Re: Cynosure]
#16157337 - 04/29/12 10:52 PM (1 year, 24 days ago) |
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I have , never had a long relationship . Dont mind it either . 
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Re: Anyone here been mostly a single person throughout ur life? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16158002 - 04/30/12 01:27 AM (1 year, 24 days ago) |
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Never been in anything long term and Im 26.
It never phases me or makes me feel sad until either
A) someone points it out or really pushes the issue of asking about it
B) I see couples madly in love.
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Re: Anyone here been mostly a single person throughout ur life? [Re: Anonymous #1] 2
#16160548 - 04/30/12 04:06 PM (1 year, 23 days ago) |
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I have been. I enjoy being single and would only enter a relationship if it was better than being single which rarely is the case. Some girls are perturbed by it as I'm somehow unworthy if I don't have a substantial dating resume. Pretty irritating. In many ways, I feel that serial single people are much stronger people than serial daters.
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Re: Anyone here been mostly a single person throughout ur life? [Re: Cynosure]
#16161142 - 04/30/12 06:02 PM (1 year, 23 days ago) |
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Still, having been single most of my life, I'm having an extremely hard time adjusting to being single after those 3 years of bliss.
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Re: Anyone here been mostly a single person throughout ur life? [Re: Cynosure] 1
#16163509 - 05/01/12 01:42 AM (1 year, 23 days ago) |
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I've been single all of my life as well, haven't kissed a chick either. I'm trying not to fixate on it, mostly because feeling shitty about it is getting old and isn't exactly productive. It's hard to do mostly because I've been fixating on being relatively lonely for a large portion of my life, even though I do have a few good friends.
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Re: Anyone here been mostly a single person throughout ur life? [Re: tedthekid]
#16167526 - 05/01/12 09:27 PM (1 year, 22 days ago) |
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Quote:
tedthekid said:
I've been single my entire life.
A few fuck buddies and things here and there but never a real girl friend.
I'd really like to get into a relationship, though. Not looking for one but if I happened to come across one, it'd be nice.
Ditto. IDK why but I've been getting lucky with some flings here and there that never would had happened years ago. I just don't care anymore, idk, I do and don't, really depends on what day of the week it is
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Re: Anyone here been mostly a single person throughout ur life? [Re: Duraldo]
#16167575 - 05/01/12 09:37 PM (1 year, 22 days ago) |
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Re: Anyone here been mostly a single person throughout ur life? [Re: All We Perceive]
#16170372 - 05/02/12 12:19 PM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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Quote:
All We Perceive said:
I have been. I enjoy being single and would only enter a relationship if it was better than being single which rarely is the case. Some girls are perturbed by it as I'm somehow unworthy if I don't have a substantial dating resume. Pretty irritating. In many ways, I feel that serial single people are much stronger people than serial daters.
I've noticed the same, what's up with that? It's almost as if some girls judge based on the number of relationships you've had. If you haven't had some arbitrary number you get the stink eye. Beyond irritating.
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Re: Anyone here been mostly a single person throughout ur life? [Re: MorphinTime]
#16172873 - 05/02/12 08:57 PM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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Quote:
MorphinTime said:
I've noticed the same, what's up with that? It's almost as if some girls judge based on the number of relationships you've had. If you haven't had some arbitrary number you get the stink eye. Beyond irritating.
Sounds like a good way of weeding out the insecure/controlling ones. Consider it a red flag.
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Re: Anyone here been mostly a single person throughout ur life? [Re: WhiskeyClone]
#16172902 - 05/02/12 09:01 PM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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For us or for ms. judgy janet?
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Re: Anyone here been mostly a single person throughout ur life? [Re: ninja cat 09]
#16173216 - 05/02/12 09:42 PM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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Quote:
ninja cat 09 said:
I've been single all of my life as well, haven't kissed a chick either. I'm trying not to fixate on it, mostly because feeling shitty about it is getting old and isn't exactly productive. It's hard to do mostly because I've been fixating on being relatively lonely for a large portion of my life, even though I do have a few good friends.
come on man, get out there! your depressing me 
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Re: Anyone here been mostly a single person throughout ur life? [Re: All We Perceive]
#16173237 - 05/02/12 09:46 PM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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Single 24, been in one relationship about 6 months ago. Lasted a month. Ended badly. I have no idea about these things. Weird because I'm not that bad looking. Will probably change ... but I'm a bit of a loser life-wise.
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Re: Anyone here been mostly a single person throughout ur life? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16173254 - 05/02/12 09:50 PM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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I have been single most of the time. I'm 31 and before this year I'd only been in two relationships that lasted longer than three months.
The main reason is that with all the women I've gotten with, I discover pretty quickly that I don't see myself growing old with this person. I feel dishonest staying in a relationship when I don't believe she's "the one" and it seems like they're all looking at me as a potential husband/father, and I just haven't felt like I belonged in that role with anyone I've ever been with.
That's something I really never understood about most people's relationships -- does everyone enter every relationship hoping it's "the one?" -- and do they see it as having no value if they know it probably won't lead to a marriage and kids? In other words, do normal people get into every relationship hoping it is the last relationship they ever get into?
I want my relationships to be focused on enriching each other as people now and not so focused on what it's supposed to become in the future. Intimacy is so vital to me as a part of the grand human experience and I don't think that should depend on me entering each relationship as though I hope it lasts until death.
Right now, I'm dating an amazing woman that is unlike the others I've dated. I've grown so much as a person in the short time we've been seeing each other, and she seems to have more enlightened ideas about relationships. It's a mostly long distance situation and I don't think either of us know where it's going, but I love that we are focused on how we can connect in the present, rather than continually "making other plans" as John Lennon put it.
So this is my long-winded way of saying that traditional relationships don't suit everyone and I think a lot of people feel like they're weird or something if they don't play the game like everyone else. But they might just be more open-minded about what a relationship can be, and have a hard time finding people who feel the same.
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Re: Anyone here been mostly a single person throughout ur life? [Re: WhiskeyClone]
#16173281 - 05/02/12 09:54 PM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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it is much better to live in the moment and not think about the future.
the future is scary.
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Re: Anyone here been mostly a single person throughout ur life? [Re: All We Perceive]
#16173313 - 05/02/12 10:01 PM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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Welcome evermore to gods and men is the self-helping man. For him all doors are flung wide: him all tongues greet, all honors crown, all eyes follow with desire. Our love goes out to him and embraces him, because he did not need it.
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