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 Women are crazy creatures. my experiences, My rant. 
#16149086 - 04/27/12 11:41 PM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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Nice guys always lose. In all my 19 years of life i have never been able to find a women to share my time and memories with. Every time i start to get to know a girl shit always goes wrong.
This is long, read if you want, leave a comment if you want. Give me advice; whatever really.
Usually a few weeks usually go by and we start hangout out more and more and finally get to the the first kiss and so on. Every single girl i have tried to get into a relationship with always fails to tell be about her boyfriend she broke up a few weeks prior. Only one time did a prior boyfriend interfere.
He called me up one night while i was spending time with a girl and asked to talk to me about his current situation and his past with this girl.
I met up with him and he right off the bat decided he wanted to tell me he had a knife in his hand and wanted to stab me so bad. I asked him why and then we had a conversation about how i need to stop hanging out with her because he felt they're breakup was unjustified and they still had thinks to talk about and work out.
I agreed to stop seeing this girl and went back to her and told her what happened and what i was agreeing with. All three of us decided it would be better if me and her stopped seeing each other in a romantic way. But he did not hear about that part from her.
The next day i was skating at the skateboard park and he comes up to me talking shit about how i did not break up with her. I tell him we did last night when he asked me to. With his reply he tried to sneak in a punch to my face and i dodged it and caught the second one in the jaw muscle.
I dropped my skateboard and grabbed him by the waste, picked him up and threw him down sideways. Some how in the scuffle his legs became under him and his torso over me and me in between him.
I started yelling to him that i had a knife at his belly ready to stab him wide open if he did not get off me, then i restated that we did in fact all three agree but that she did not tell him. He got off me and then realized that i did not have a knife and threatened to come back with one because we had "unfinished business"
I was about 16 when this happened and i called the cops because i wanted this whole death threat thing to be over for good. On the phone i say i am not pressing charges but just want to explain the situation to an officer and talk with the other guy. Cop comes, i say what happened, he asks other people around the park what happened and then asked me if i am pressing charges, i say no. All in all the whole thing was defused, but i hated getting the law involved and had a prior friendship with the other guy.
First try fucked up.
Second relationship i tried to get into crushed my very soul.
This girl i knew for over seven years had led me on through about the time i graduated from high school.
I had thought i found the person i wanted to spend my life with or at least give it my all to make it work.
Only down side was she lived in another town about two hours away.
One night summer out of high school i dosed some molly with a friend, we had a blast and enjoyed all we could. We hangout with other people in town and socialized. After we depart i am still rolling very hard. I called up this girl and told her my feelings, to be clear they were not the feelings i was feeling just because of the molly but my feelings i had felt for 7 years. Her reply was perfect, she shared all the same feelings and felt exactly the same way. Even though i would not see her for about 2 months i was the best mood of my life. Everyday just knowing she felt the same way made me love life so much more.
We never got to a first kiss.
We planed a camping trip with our really good friends from the surrounding areas
Every thing was all good until she called our other friend, one of her best friends, saying she was bringing her boyfriend, or old one that i never really knew about. My heart dropped. The guy was very sweet to her and everyone else, a nice individual, well rounded.
We camped for three day together, swimming in a lake and hiking trails. Drinking at night, with me taking some mushrooms with out telling anyone but my friend and the next night he did the same thing. No one else knew. Having our fun we all departed after a final swim.
We never said a word about that one night we shared feelings for each other.
The whole camping trip i had to watch her and her boyfriend be together and it killed me, every minute. Somehow i survived the whole camping trip with out ever bringing up something about them or ever showing i cared. To my friend and myself i vowed to never talk to his girl again.
A personal vow of silence was placed on this woman, never talking to her again no matter what was my vow. My word is my life in my book, if i give it ill live it. We had such a history together, never quite hitting romance but the feeling was always there.
For seven years we knew and spent time together. In one move she ripped out my soul and burned it. Right before my eyes.
She might not know what she did but, i know what it did to me. I was crushed
We will see each other again, that i know, we share close friends and it's a small world. But i gave my word, and i have still yet to enforce it.
She ended my desire to enjoy life for awhile, it really hurt me.
Yesterday i messaged her saying what i told my friend and myself. Saying i thought it was fair to know what i did and how i gave my word.(only verbal speaking to be withheld) I wanted to do that because i knew i day would come when we would meet up again.
She said she has assumed i was trying to avoid contact with her and asked what she did to make me try and lose contact. I told her we lived the same seven years and she should know what happened and if she cant figure that one out. Then what happened...happened.
She says she wants to never stop being my friend and if i would allow her to do that.
I reply with "No worries. That's up to you. I gave my word it has been said and done"
She say she is scared that i have been trying to erase her and it's ridiculous for me to think that she does not love me so please don't.
Said goodnight and put in she will be talking to me soon
She is still with her boyfriend, living together i believe.
Just happened yesterday.
Third girl still has me going "What the fuck?"
This girl i graduated with one night texts me trying to find alcohol for a party she was going to and i did not know the number so i ignored it. A few days later i get curious and ask who was texting me. Fucking phones.
Ends up being this girl i graduated with and we start hanging out. Betting closer one night i tell her i really want to kiss her, she kisses me.
We start dating, hitting it off really well. We got along perfectly. At some point i figure out that she cheated on her old boyfriend one night when she was plastered. I reassure that life happens and we have to learn and move on though past events. Never thinking anything of it afterwords.
One night were watching a movie and she gets a text from another person we graduated with and he was asking her if she was coming over that night. Like they talked about something. She lets me text him and we have fun telling this kid off. But it was weird how his text sounded like they were planing something sexual related. We told him off, had sex that night, spend that next day together and i never thought anything of it again.
We had a prego scare that night because i came in her while using no condom. I did not ask her beforehand thinking if she was going to have sex with me without a rubber then she must be on birth control or something. She said she was not, but was not stressing the whole cumming inside her part. No worry at all. I asked her the next day and she said no...
She just said "Shit never happens to me"
Implying it's happened before and it's all good.
I press on and ask how can she be sure. She said shes not.
Again showing no sign of worry that she could be a mother at age 19 still living with parents and doing kid stuff.
I was thinking to myself that most girls would worry about that shit to no end.
She never said she did and never showed any signs of being worried at all.
I propose a morning after pill to be more sure, she agrees and asks me if Safeway would have it. I called and they did. Told her i would pay and her reply was that her friend who was still in high school sneaked into the high school and got plan b that was in her locker....during spring break.
I played cat and believe again, figuring that maybe they did actually sneak into a 3 part building to that was closed to find plan b that was so conveniently in a locker
Scare not so scary anymore i guess.
More dating were getting closer and becoming quite the duo. One day i notice a hickey on her neck. Not mine, i try not to do that. I ask her what that's about, she said she spent the night at her old boyfriends house. I ignore her for days wondering if i should dump her or see what happens.
Like a fucking cat i test it again. Testing my curiosity.
I ask her if she needed to work things out with him. She agreed and we spend some more time apart.
About a week after she said we should hang out and talk. We talked about how was just being really winy and being a huge turn off. I left it at that, not wanting to press on old feelings.
Now it gets good haha.
Another night were at my house, laying on the couch watching a movie all curled up, and her damn phone goes off again. It's from this older guy who works at a chain pizza joint.
Again with the are you coming over tonight thing, implying sexual relations. She say shes with me and no. That's what i saw her texting. Then she starts hiding it and continues texting, we just got done with the movie and i was about to walk her outside.
So im putting on shoes and she texting this guy.
Out side her car i asked her, what was up with that guy?
It was really weird and she did not say much about how she met him or when or where and why he was asking her to come over.
I say its weird that he was expecting that she come over, almost as if she had led him on about something. She then starts crying in my arms and we stood in the rain for about 45 min while i held her and she cryed. The only thing i got out of her was crying. I did not say much myself after that. She drove home i think.
She texted me saying she was home and that the Alex guy was a friend and one time she had told him she does not enjoy life because everyone thinks shes a slut. And he was only making sure she was fine because he went though the same thing or something like it.
Why she did not tell me that when we were outside i do not know. It seems like such a easy problem solver to just say what was bothering her and defuse the whole, why is he texting you about comeing over; thing.
Again i play the cat, going along with it.
The very next day she says her old boyfriend was texting her saying that he did want to get back together but not right away. He was the one who broke up with her after she cheated on him.
I said people do what they want. That i am the last person to tell someone else what to do. I told her i love spending time with her and being around her, but sounds like she needs make up her mind.
She could not. Or she did not want to tell me i don't know
I summed up how i felt by saying that i have been already hurt beyond what anyone else could do to me and that she should not feel bad for doing what she wants and do what ever makes her happy.
What a mind fucker there
For those of you who read the whole thing, thank you. Post what you like, i am interested as to what you shroomerites have to say about my lifes relationships. Ill clarify whatever and discuss what what ever, your advice or comments are greatly welcomed.
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 Re: Women are crazy creatures. my experiences, My rant. [Re: CappysTrails] 1
#16149093 - 04/27/12 11:43 PM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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Didn't read post.
Correction: Humans are crazy creatures.
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Re: Women are crazy creatures. my experiences, My rant. [Re: trip forever] 1
#16149099 - 04/27/12 11:44 PM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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Fully agree.
But this is about women.
Edited by CappysTrails (04/27/12 11:45 PM)
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Re: Women are crazy creatures. my experiences, My rant. [Re: trip forever] 1
#16149101 - 04/27/12 11:45 PM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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Just read experience one.
That was a male's fault. Not the woman's.
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Re: Women are crazy creatures. my experiences, My rant. [Re: trip forever]
#16149107 - 04/27/12 11:46 PM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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Yes it was a males fault. Letting me know her old boyfriend was crazy would have helped a bit.
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Re: Women are crazy creatures. my experiences, My rant. [Re: CappysTrails]
#16149110 - 04/27/12 11:48 PM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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True that, seems like communication wasn't there in the relationship, based off what I read. Communication is always pretty important.
Sorry for being harsh(if it seemed that way) and critical.
Reading the rest of your post now and I'll give you advice/feedback if I have any 
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Re: Women are crazy creatures. my experiences, My rant. [Re: trip forever]
#16149121 - 04/27/12 11:51 PM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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In a relationship between two 16 year old teenagers, over the course of 5 days does not offer, much besides getting to know each other. (assuming your talking about numero uno)
Advice can he hash and critical, bring it on
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Re: Women are crazy creatures. my experiences, My rant. [Re: trip forever]
#16149138 - 04/27/12 11:57 PM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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Dude, that really sucks for girl #2, did you talk to her after you said your feelings? I mean long distance usually always ends in disaster, I tried it once and god damn, not for me. Usually people want psychical human interaction and it's hard with long distances and love fades away after not seeing someone for a while. I'm sorry it ended that way.
Just read the second part of girl #2. Man, don't withdraw contact from her, that seems pretty harsh. You have to think of her needs/wants. Yes, being lead on does suck, but just bite the bullet. You never know you could always have another chance, but don't count on it, just think of it as a possibility while maintaining friendship.
Sorry if this advice sucks, I'm nodding pretty hard, bout to read #3.
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Re: Women are crazy creatures. my experiences, My rant. [Re: CappysTrails]
#16149162 - 04/28/12 12:02 AM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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Advice can be taken or left alone. Its all good man.
Guess i left out how number #2 and how we knew each other since about 12 years old and met at a summer camp near where we both lived and carryed on that friendship for years after.
Doing all kinds of shit together. We were quite the pair always on the same page.
I am a man of my word, through and through. Ill never speak to her again. Will she try and talk to me, realize that ill never speak to her and still want to be around me, i am curious. Most likely not is what i believe though.
Edited by CappysTrails (04/28/12 12:06 AM)
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Re: Women are crazy creatures. my experiences, My rant. [Re: trip forever]
#16149185 - 04/28/12 12:10 AM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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Now for #3, then I'm going to give you what I think about all the events and your personality. (this may be harsh) I'm just going to be commentating points as I read along.
"we talked about how was whiny and a turn off" (who said that to who?)
So far, at this point in the story, I'd avoid that girl at all costs. She seems like trouble.
"does not enjoy life because she's a slut" She is. Its obvious she's cheating on you. She was obviously flirting with the guy when she held her phone away/explaining how she was with you and couldn't leave.
Drop that girl instantly if you're still dating her.
Now here comes the criticism on you.
You seem to worry too much. Women don't like a man who seems constantly paranoid or easily offended. (ex: the no talking to other girl) You need to learn to let go and go with the flow. Just stop trying/caring so much. I mean, yes, have some ground in the relationship, but don't be constantly paranoid.
If she cheated on her ex, and the way she's acting now, she's definitely cheating on you and playing mind games.
my final advice: maintain contact with #2 as she seems like the best option. Hopefully there will be something out of it, if not, move on. But don't burn bridges, that's never a good idea.
Disclaimer: Take all my advice with a grain of salt as I'm not in the right mental mind state right now.
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Re: Women are crazy creatures. my experiences, My rant. [Re: trip forever]
#16149193 - 04/28/12 12:14 AM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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Also, don't be pryee (sp?) don't act like sherlocke holmes.
This may contradict what I said earlier sbout her holding her phone away (but personality wise from what I got from the story, it does seem that she was flirting with him)
Don't always try to look at/ask for her texts. If she's acting suspicious ask about it and tell her how you truly feel.
Communication and trust are two key components in a healthy relationship.
(I'm talkative, too, right now as you can tell)
Ps: Welcome to the Shroomery! This place is awesome!
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Re: Women are crazy creatures. my experiences, My rant. [Re: trip forever]
#16149212 - 04/28/12 12:20 AM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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She said her old boyfriend was being whiny.
I have already made the exact same decision with #3.
Your right about #2.
But what good is my word if i cant even keep it to myself? This is something i value greatly.
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Re: Women are crazy creatures. my experiences, My rant. [Re: CappysTrails]
#16149223 - 04/28/12 12:22 AM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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I was not trying to see her phone. She just opened it up and read it while in my arms. All chillax
I tryed to pushed communication with her, we was not an open book or a talker i had to press. I knew something was up not to far down that road.
This woman has been told off as well, its actually what made we want to share all this.
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Re: Women are crazy creatures. my experiences, My rant. [Re: CappysTrails]
#16149258 - 04/28/12 12:34 AM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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You told her off? In all honesty, the one you should cease communication with is the last one, not the second.
You could have a really good chance with girl #2 if you play it right. Would you rather keep your word or start possibly hitting that?  (if you do date her)
Anyways, I just reread second part of #2 and you didn't even tell her why you stopped talking to her. I feel you owe it to her.
what's the point of batting if you don't even swing? You may strike out, but you may hit a homer.
If you tell her only 3 things will happen.
1. Become friends again.
2. May fall in love after bf, while being friends.
3. She stops communication.
But if you don't tell her, only one that'll happen is #3 and well that's no fun...
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Re: Women are crazy creatures. my experiences, My rant. [Re: CappysTrails]
#16149262 - 04/28/12 12:34 AM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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Told off # 3
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Re: Women are crazy creatures. my experiences, My rant. [Re: CappysTrails]
#16149270 - 04/28/12 12:36 AM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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Not #2 i am waiting for her to restart communication like she said.
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Re: Women are crazy creatures. my experiences, My rant. [Re: trip forever]
#16149279 - 04/28/12 12:38 AM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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No problem man, I hope you enjoy your stay here 
Some of us are friendly, some of us are jerks, but more friendly people than jerks 
Just don't venture into OTD, if you don't like assholes.
You should try and find someone new. Go do something you like and just chat up random women. Don't far rejection, it's inevitable..
Well, I'm off for the night, feel like I may throw up....
Hope I was a help and note a bore with all my talking.
Goodluck
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Re: Women are crazy creatures. my experiences, My rant. [Re: CappysTrails]
#16149280 - 04/28/12 12:39 AM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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Quote:
CappysTrails said:
Not #2 i am waiting for her to restart communication like she said.
Why wait for her? Do it yourself. Most women I know seem to love having someone text/call them first.
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Re: Women are crazy creatures. my experiences, My rant. [Re: CappysTrails]
#16149290 - 04/28/12 12:41 AM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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You advice was sound brother. Ive been reading this site for years, just finally decided i want to go a bit deeper.
I did not and they do.(took your advice)
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Re: Women are crazy creatures. my experiences, My rant. [Re: CappysTrails]
#16149307 - 04/28/12 12:47 AM (1 year, 21 days ago) |
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Thanks man, you seem like a cool guy 
Well update your thread later and let us know how she goes!
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