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 stressssssss 
#16035811 - 04/02/12 10:46 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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I have a very stressful life right now. Last semester at a university, stress at home, with my kid, making decisions on where to move what to do with my degree, taking a huge test after graduation, and money is ??????
The thing is, I take it out on who ever is near me. Mainly my partner. I feel bad but can't control it.
I usually drink to feel better but that makes us fight more. I can't do anything that won't allow me to study so I don't know how to manage my stress. It makes me look like a bitch. Any ideas? Help me save my relationship please!
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Anonymous #2
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Heh, I wish I could give advice but I'm in a similar situation as well and it is such an overwhelming feeling to be stressed and have no outlet for it. I'm often told to just "suck it up" or "deal with it" but I don't understand how I'm supposed to do that. Where am I supposed to draw this power from to deal with it? I often wonder if I'm the only one that feels this way.
Do you have any parks or nature trails near you?
A few things that help me at least cope are going outside for a walk just to get away from it all and/or exercising at the gym. I've found that talking about my problems usually only makes me dwell on them more, which further stresses me.
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 koraks
Registered: 06/02/03
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Yes, exercise.
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shLong
 
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Re: stressssssss [Re: koraks]
#16037223 - 04/03/12 08:43 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Koraks nailed it.
While I'm a hypocrit and don't really exercise, I found in my darkest hours, exercise was the best help. Just go and drain your fuel tank. Your mind will be better and body will ultimatly be healthier.
I turned to some really awful substances to escape my misery, needless to say, it became MUCH MUCH worse.
And man, use your partner to your benefit. Treat them well and let him/her be there for ya. They can be a great assest, not a "punching bag".
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Re: stressssssss [Re: shLong]
#16037334 - 04/03/12 09:56 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
shLong said:
Koraks nailed it.
While I'm a hypocrit and don't really exercise, I found in my darkest hours, exercise was the best help. Just go and drain your fuel tank. Your mind will be better and body will ultimatly be healthier.
I turned to some really awful substances to escape my misery, needless to say, it became MUCH MUCH worse.
And man, use your partner to your benefit. Treat them well and let him/her be there for ya. They can be a great assest, not a "punching bag".
Exercise is really good advise. I even have a free gym at my school. It's just finding the time to fit it in around homework and making dinner for my kid. It's really rainy here so sometimes I can go out and sometimes I can't. I love being around nature, so that would be best. I was thinking about talking to a doctor about some anti anxiety pills to get me through this stressful time in my life. I don't know if they will make me not be able to study or if they will even work for what I'm thinking...
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shLong
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I would try anything natural (ie exercise, talking calmy, loving your partner) before anything pharmacutical (sp?)
Ask for a massage or make love with your partner before running to the easy fix (which can get ugly, believe me..benzos are double edged sword)...
Try talking with your partner and get them on your side, not the other way around and pushing them away.
If my girl gave me a random rub and sexing after an awful day...oh man, id forget about the other shit in a hurry.
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shLong
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Re: stressssssss [Re: shLong]
#16037392 - 04/03/12 10:29 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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I feel you tho, man.
I stress a lot too. Feelings of inadiquecy (sp?) which spill over in to my relationship, day to day issues, shit like that.
I don't deal with it too well either. I stick it all inside and then it turns my guts over n over n over.
I want to be the best bf/lover/friend/person I can be too.
Life is tough, stick in there
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Anonymous #1
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Re: stressssssss [Re: shLong]
#16047968 - 04/05/12 03:28 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Man! I wish I could post from my mobile. I'm a newbie so I need 50 posts b4 they let me. I read this two days ago but this is the first time I've been on a computer. 
I understand wanting to be the best person you can. When you're trying so hard to be that, I find it difficult to take criticism of any kind.
I wish I could love on my partner, but when I we argue they don't want to be near me let alone intimate. I hear ya on the pills though. I don't want to rely on any substance for happiness.
It's the rainy season of the year here so hopefully when its sunnier that will help.
Thanks for making me feel less alone on these issues. It helps to know I'm not the only one.
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shLong
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for sure bud! youre definitely not alone
I post from my mobile using its browser. ????
i had a wonderful talk with my lady the other day regarding all my issues. It worked wonders!
Start by admitting to them (AND YOURSELF) wtf is going on with you. Make sure they know its not their fault, as to limit them getting defensive, and then just spill the fucking beans.
My lady and I were butting heads for awhile and whenever I tried talking to her she kept getting defensive and feeling like she was being attacked.
I noticed that my approach was all wrong, and I admitted to myself that alot of the issues were MY issues, not hers. Once I conveyed to her exactly what I was feeling in a manner which she wasnt needing to defend herself shit went alot better.
I can say now that i am more optimistic now than I have been in quite a long time.
thats why I say use him/her...but 1st think about an approach that wont put them off.
make them your greastest asset and if theyre worth their salt, they should want to help you
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