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 when to end it? (rant, would appreciate your stories or advice) 
#16001882 - 03/27/12 03:07 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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how do you make the call that a relationship needs to be ended?
this is a really hard thing for me to do for some reason.
there's this guy who's sweet and smart and i like him. we're fuckbuddies atm. but he lies to me. he fucks people and doesn't tell me about it. which is wierd, i think, cuz i tell him about people i fuck. he lies to me about drugs he deals, for instance i know most of his shit, but other people don't. he told me he was gonna sell some people methylone and when i talked to them later they told me that he claimed it was ecstacy. also i have verified that he does more coke than he lets on. another example; he asked me what drugs i'd done recently and i told him, nothin but mushrooms in the last month. then i asked him, and he said nothin but DMT. I found out later that he'd had a threesome with some chicks he invited over to his place an they all snorted a shitton of foxy. i feel like he's trying to pretend to me that he's a better person than he is. wtf. that's twice as shitty as just being a shitty person. i'm no angel myself...
i talked to him about it and he said he never directly lied to me (which is a lie...) but he left out some parts of stories because he knew it would hurt me. thing is i talked to him about that two months ago and it hasn't changed. it did hurt, it's true, two months ago. now i'm just super pissed and confused. i talked to him again about it a week ago and still he lies to me. it's stressful being around him not knowing if what he tells me is true or a smokescreen. that being said, we once had something meaningful and i still like him.
should i cut him out of my life? should i try and have the "don't lie to me motherfucker" talk again? i'd be really sad to lose him...
anyone else had similar experiences? where do you draw the line? how do you know it's over?
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 JohnnyTruant
The Polycannon
Registered: 10/02/08
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 Re: when to end it? (rant, would appreciate your stories or advice) [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16001897 - 03/27/12 03:12 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
we once had something meaningful
That's how you know it's over.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: when to end it? (rant, would appreciate your stories or advice) [Re: JohnnyTruant]
#16001908 - 03/27/12 03:15 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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yeah... good point. but i want so much to be happy with him
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 Lynnch
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Re: when to end it? (rant, would appreciate your stories or advice) [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#16003535 - 03/27/12 02:43 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Well, If you're fuckbuddies, then in his eyes he doesn't owe you anything.
If you want someone who'll be honest with you, be honest with them about wanting an actual relationship.
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koraks
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Re: when to end it? (rant, would appreciate your stories or advice) [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16003553 - 03/27/12 02:48 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous said:
how do you know it's over?
When you are willing to commit and the other person isn't. Sounds like just about now, in your case.
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Larrythescaryrex
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Re: when to end it? (rant, would appreciate your stories or advice) [Re: koraks]
#16003869 - 03/27/12 04:07 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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yay koraks.
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Sunset_Mission said:
"larry the scary rex
verily scary when thoroughly vexed
invoke the shadows and dust, cast a hex
mercifully massacring memories masterfully
relocate from Ur to 8th density and become a cosmic bully
mulder and scully couldn't decipher his glyphs
invoke the shadows and dust, smoke infernal spliffs"
April 24th 2011
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Anonymous #1
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Re: when to end it? (rant, would appreciate your stories or advice) [Re: Lynnch]
#16006603 - 03/28/12 03:06 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Lynnch said:
Well, If you're fuckbuddies, then in his eyes he doesn't owe you anything.
If you want someone who'll be honest with you, be honest with them about wanting an actual relationship.
yes. i should do that. i might as well see if he wants to be something better with me before i leave. it really sucks, liking a person so much you dont realize at first their bad qualities...
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When you are willing to commit and the other person isn't. Sounds like just about now, in your case.
truth. i wish i'd realized earlier. i think i've been trying to fool myself. it isn't working, in fact there isnt much there to work with really...
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 Azure Essence
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Re: when to end it? (rant, would appreciate your stories or advice) [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16006716 - 03/28/12 04:01 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said:
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Lynnch said:
Well, If you're fuckbuddies, then in his eyes he doesn't owe you anything.
If you want someone who'll be honest with you, be honest with them about wanting an actual relationship.
yes. i should do that. i might as well see if he wants to be something better with me before i leave. it really sucks, liking a person so much you dont realize at first their bad qualities...
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When you are willing to commit and the other person isn't. Sounds like just about now, in your case.
truth. i wish i'd realized earlier. i think i've been trying to fool myself. it isn't working, in fact there isnt much there to work with really...
You already know hes a lying peice of shit, and you STILL want to try that out? Let it go, this guy doesnt respect you.
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Re: when to end it? (rant, would appreciate your stories or advice) [Re: JohnnyTruant] 1
#16006728 - 03/28/12 04:04 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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JohnnyTruant said:
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we once had something meaningful
That's how you know it's over.
Nice
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Anonymous #1
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Re: when to end it? (rant, would appreciate your stories or advice) [Re: Azure Essence]
#16006896 - 03/28/12 05:28 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Azure Essence said:
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Anonymous said:
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Lynnch said:
Well, If you're fuckbuddies, then in his eyes he doesn't owe you anything.
If you want someone who'll be honest with you, be honest with them about wanting an actual relationship.
yes. i should do that. i might as well see if he wants to be something better with me before i leave. it really sucks, liking a person so much you dont realize at first their bad qualities...
Quote:
When you are willing to commit and the other person isn't. Sounds like just about now, in your case.
truth. i wish i'd realized earlier. i think i've been trying to fool myself. it isn't working, in fact there isnt much there to work with really...
You already know hes a lying peice of shit, and you STILL want to try that out? Let it go, this guy doesnt respect you.
you ever know someone so well you might as well have been inside their mind? that's what we were like. he disrespects himself, that's where it comes from. skitzo druggie mom and disappearing dad. you can't be for other people what you can't be for yourself.
i hate to give up on any human like myself, we all bleed red blahblah but especially someone that sad...
just gotta tell myself. he's pushing me away, nuttin i can do.
except for smoke all this weed. 
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