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 Re: Relationship after being cheated on  [Re: migraineur]
#15993401 - 03/25/12 12:26 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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migraineur said:
Man, being 22 and living with your parents isn't bad, especially if you've got easy going parents. It will also give you some time to save some money and you will have more time to do all of the things that you want to do. You can use that time to improve yourself and hit the gym or get back into a neglected hobby or catch up with friends you haven't seen for a while. Also, having the company of loved ones is what you need when you're in a bad mental state. You'll also be away from your cheating girlfriend and if she tries to rock up at your family's house to cause a drama then your parents will have that older person power over her. Nobody wants to look bad in front of their significant other's parents.
Of course it will hurt at first but it's already hurting you and you're losing more of your life being unhappy. Life is short and it goes by quickly. You can wonder how things could've been but what's happened has happened. It seems that you know you should leave her but you're delaying what might be the inevitable.
That is true. They are laid back, so that helps a lot. They are practically begging for me to go out and live with them. I don't have any social connections where they live, but then again. Where I am now I only have my girl and thats it. It will be good to be far away so I can heal mentally from the breakup.
I've never been in this situation, and that is probably why it is so hard for me to do. She is the first person I have ever felt a deep connection to, and I am afraid to let it go. I guess part of me thinks I will never find that again.
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Re: Relationship after being cheated on [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15993431 - 03/25/12 12:40 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Yeah, it's tough, man. Take care of number 1 (you) first because nobody else will.
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Relationship after being cheated on [Re: migraineur]
#15993839 - 03/25/12 02:37 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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dude this is sorta how you sound:
"my relationship is dead and every day I live frozen in time because I refuse to move on because change is scary and I'd rather live forever in cold static anger than temporarily in lonliness."
So she gets to cheat when she wants, say she is sorry when she wants, and keep you chained to her when she wants, and you get nothing? Jokes on you pal. 
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Re: Relationship after being cheated on [Re: Anonymous #2]
#15993942 - 03/25/12 03:06 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Its really confusing and extremely diffucult to be in OPs shoes.
That feeling that you're never gonna find another woman to fill her shoes. Its tough the whole way around, mentally and physically. Its lonely and heartwrenching.
You need to let her go, get active/hobbies and just move on one day at a time. You'll meet tons of new ladies and you'll look back and wonder wtf you were thinking creating that hell for yourself.
Hang with your buds, do new thangs, get on a softball/bowling/etc league, meet new people and just fucking enjoy your spring. Every day it'll be 1% better. Believe me!
Lose hope for that chick, otherwise you're just straining yourself needlessly.
Someday soon you'll hook up with some random, get that confidence back, and be ready to finish your healing.
It will take time (it really does heal all wounds, chiche, I know). Stay busy, fake it til you make it, cry if you need to, and focus on yourself.
Work out and gain some self confidence.
You'll be ok man, but if you still stressin this girl, it'll take so much longer.
All this coming from someone with personal knowledge of your exact situation.
Take our advice man, it'll hurt, but the reward really is worth the pain
Good luck
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Re: Relationship after being cheated on [Re: shLong]
#15993962 - 03/25/12 03:12 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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P.s...I spent years 17-22 completely wasted on some skeez who had 0 respect for me. The amount of guilt I have looking back on those wasted "wonder years" is a total 
Blinded by the light of low self esteem and thinking I needed this ho and I couldn't ever do any better.
Well, I have, my current gf and I are on year 7 and that never woulda happened if I stayed caught up on this fucking cunt of a person.
One day at a time..seriously.
You can certainly find someone who loves, respects, and genuinly cares for you...and you will once you just LET GO!
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Anonymous #2
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Re: Relationship after being cheated on [Re: shLong]
#15998025 - 03/26/12 11:52 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Don't leave us hanging OP
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Relationship after being cheated on [Re: shLong]
#15999092 - 03/26/12 04:26 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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shLong said:
Its really confusing and extremely diffucult to be in OPs shoes.
That feeling that you're never gonna find another woman to fill her shoes. Its tough the whole way around, mentally and physically. Its lonely and heartwrenching.
You need to let her go, get active/hobbies and just move on one day at a time. You'll meet tons of new ladies and you'll look back and wonder wtf you were thinking creating that hell for yourself.
Hang with your buds, do new thangs, get on a softball/bowling/etc league, meet new people and just fucking enjoy your spring. Every day it'll be 1% better. Believe me!
Lose hope for that chick, otherwise you're just straining yourself needlessly.
Someday soon you'll hook up with some random, get that confidence back, and be ready to finish your healing.
It will take time (it really does heal all wounds, chiche, I know). Stay busy, fake it til you make it, cry if you need to, and focus on yourself.
Work out and gain some self confidence.
You'll be ok man, but if you still stressin this girl, it'll take so much longer.
All this coming from someone with personal knowledge of your exact situation.
Take our advice man, it'll hurt, but the reward really is worth the pain
Good luck
Man. It is one of the hardest things I have done, but I am in the process of telling her I can't be with her anymore. I appreciate your words of kindness man.
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Re: Relationship after being cheated on [Re: WhiskeyClone]
#16001613 - 03/27/12 01:37 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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WhiskeyClone said:
Get rid of her and don't ever take back a cheater again.
^^ Listen to this man OP.
You are setting yourself up for more heartbreak. The best thing you can do for yourself is to tell this girl you've gotta move forward with your life and break it off. Find a girl you can trust.
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Re: Relationship after being cheated on [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16001637 - 03/27/12 01:45 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous said:
Man. It is one of the hardest things I have done, but I am in the process of telling her I can't be with her anymore. I appreciate your words of kindness man.
Congrats, OP
You've made us all proud and one day i'm sure you will be just as proud of this decision you have made, Now, get out there and live life
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I'm going through this same thing right now, and not sure what the hell I am doing. She wants a relationship again, Id like some occasional company and sex, and unfortunately I don't think either of us will budge.
She's got only guy friends, who all want to fuck her, and she loves to talk about them non-stop to maybe get some kind of jealous reaction from me.
I'd say back out now, it'll only get worse. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
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mick
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Re: Relationship after being cheated on [Re: c1dh3d]
#16001998 - 03/27/12 03:57 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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man cidhed, just stop calling her, talking to her, responding to texts. just stop. dont get back with that shitty relationship, sex, any of it. cut that bitch
id rather be alone without sex than hanging around that scandalous bullshit. but i really like being alone so  .
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ChrisWho said: "It's all about the journey, not the destination."
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Re: Relationship after being cheated on [Re: mick]
#16002044 - 03/27/12 04:27 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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I think getting back together with someone who's going to hurt you shows you don't care about yourself, Anonymous one.
The greatest love of all
Is easy to achieve
Learning to love yourself
It is the greatest love of all
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Anonymous #6
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Re: Relationship after being cheated on [Re: mick]
#16002046 - 03/27/12 04:30 AM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Ya dude. You're not alone. We can grieve together. I was really good friends with this girl for 5 years, and we finally started to take it up a notch a few months ago. Made plans etc, she told me she loved me. Then she texts me one night complaining about her ex bein at a party and then I dont hear from her for 12 hours. I asked her a few days later and she admitted it, got defensive because we're not officially together. I got pissed off called her some names etc but after 2 weeks i convinced myself I'd try again, just friends.... but nah fuck that. Every time you deal with them it'll be in the back of your head. Twisting the shit you do. Always wondering.
Kick her out and if you know you're gonna drink, delete her number. Just write it down somewhere if you must. It feels even worse when you drunk call her and say you're sorry for judging her and just want her etc etc. They were wrong end of story.
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Re: Relationship after being cheated on [Re: Anonymous #1]
#16003429 - 03/27/12 02:15 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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CO dependence is a bitch i know cuz i get that way. when i was in my youunger twentys i screwed around on my wife alot, well we both got in a lil trouble and we ended up in the FEDERAL B.O.P. well i did ten and she did two years, needless to say she wasent there for me when she got out. after i got out i hooked up with a chick that ended uup in a long term realationship. This girl really showed me how bad it felt to be cheated on, it sucked, i would get over it once and bang it would happen again. she also had a hard drug problem. it has been thirteen years and by some twist of fate iam back with my wife. i can tell you i did alot of growing up and would never do that again cuz i know the pain. i can also tell she still cant forget what i did back then, and all i can do is show her if she stays with me. i would never do it to her again so yes its possible to change, but if drugs are involved{hard shit] all bets off , ppl will do whatever for a fix i seen it over and over. But a good thing to do is make sure both of you has a life and can support youurself by youurselves, then if ya got to roll you can alot easier, i would keep it like that until your sure yous are meant to be. idk thats my 2 cents good luck. also some ppl do have sex problems i dont know her past but i seen ppl treat sex like its lightin uup a smoke, if this is the case see if she realizes it and would be willing to get help. hope all goes well. PEACE
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Re: Relationship after being cheated on [Re: JAZZ2525]
#16019497 - 03/30/12 04:27 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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ten to one he pussied out.
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