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 I guess I got my first friends with benefits 
#15946801 - 03/14/12 05:27 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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So I've been hanging out with this girl lately. It's been 3 times now in the course of about a week and a half. Met her on campus, got her number, and we went out to some party together.
That first night ended up in a heated love making session, as with the next two nights. Then right as we were about to commence last night, she stops, gives me these serious eyes and says: 'I gotta tell you, I like you a lot, but I'm not looking for anything serious'. I told her, yeah that's cool, I was thinking the same thing.
I was about to ask her if she was thinking she might want to be my girl down the line, or if she just wants to keep things nice and casual. I wouldn't have minded it either way. This leaves me confused as to how I feel about the whole situation, though. In one sense, I dig her quite a bit, and wouldn't mind making it exclusive. But then again, I have a couple other girls out there, so now I can see how those pan out, and to tell you the truth, she's not really my type, or at least what I think of as my type. I don't really feel much of that warmth around her...but I do really enjoy seeing her smile and making her laugh. Then the sex has been great. But, at this point we don't even really know each other all that well, so it's hard to tell. Half the time we talk and joke around, the other half we go at it.
Think I'll just ride it out, enjoy, and have as much fun along the way as possible. Try not to develop too many feelings for her.
Any advice for the fuck buddy thing? I've never been in a thing like this. Also, what does 'something serious' even mean now days? Is it just making it exclusive, or is it like a level of contact you have? I've never been in something serious, so I don't really know.
Thanks dudes
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Re: I guess I got my first friends with benefits [Re: Anonymous #1]  4
#15946936 - 03/14/12 06:05 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
I was about to ask her if she was thinking she might want to be my girl down the line, or if she just wants to keep things nice and casual.
yep, you go askin questions like that you can watch the no strings attached vagina disappear in a hurry. just be cool and treat it as what it is. enjoy it while its there and don't become attached.
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Re: I guess I got my first friends with benefits [Re: Anonymous #2]
#15946985 - 03/14/12 06:18 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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You should fuck one of your other friends then let it slip to her that you did so. Preferably from the mouth of one of your mutual friends. She will be so mad with jealousy that she will want to be your only girl.
Then you enjoy even more regular sex...
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Anonymous #1
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Re: I guess I got my first friends with benefits [Re: fbi365]
#15947519 - 03/14/12 08:26 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
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Anonymous said:
I was about to ask her if she was thinking she might want to be my girl down the line, or if she just wants to keep things nice and casual.
yep, you go askin questions like that you can watch the no strings attached vagina disappear in a hurry. just be cool and treat it as what it is. enjoy it while its there and don't become attached.
Yeah, thanks man. That's the plan. This is only the 3rd girl I've ever had sex with so I think that part is confusing me, making it seem like like a bigger deal than it is. She has provided some damn good practice. Bring the skills on to a relationship down the road.
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fbi365 said:
You should fuck one of your other friends then let it slip to her that you did so. Preferably from the mouth of one of your mutual friends. She will be so mad with jealousy that she will want to be your only girl.
Then you enjoy even more regular sex...
Not a bad idea. Unfortunately we don't have any mutual friends, and I don't really feel like telling her straight up, 'oh yeah, me and this other girl were having sex the night'. ha. Maybe I'll try to nonchalantly get her and another girl I will bang into the same room, then see if they claw over me. 
Edited by Anonymous (03/14/12 08:26 PM)
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Re: I guess I got my first friends with benefits [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15948189 - 03/14/12 10:12 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Someone is going to get emotionally involved 
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Re: I guess I got my first friends with benefits [Re: Almond Flour]
#15949682 - 03/15/12 05:47 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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If only ever had one girlfriend, all the other girl's I've had sex with have been friends with benefits. I always end up getting jealous when they fuck other dudes, but not terribly so. I find it's worth teh free sex in the end. 
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Re: I guess I got my first friends with benefits [Re: Almond Flour]
#15950318 - 03/15/12 12:18 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Real CA Milk said:
Someone is going to get emotionally involved
Yup
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Re: I guess I got my first friends with benefits [Re: pwnasaurus] 1
#15950353 - 03/15/12 12:32 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Get your emotions out of it. Be a human piston, that's what she wants.
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Re: I guess I got my first friends with benefits [Re: pwnasaurus]
#15950366 - 03/15/12 12:37 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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pwnasaurus said:
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Real CA Milk said:
Someone is going to get emotionally involved
Yup
I bet shes probably pretty hot too.
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Re: I guess I got my first friends with benefits [Re: Almond Flour]
#15950704 - 03/15/12 02:23 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Real CA Milk said:
Someone is going to get emotionally involved
Maybe...
But I do pretty well at hiding my emotions...If I do develop real feelings, Ill put on the front of a human piston, but carry the heart of a lover...until I can't stand it anymore.
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Re: I guess I got my first friends with benefits [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15951368 - 03/15/12 04:54 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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I think I got one last week also, it's kinda nice 
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fbi365 said:
You should fuck one of your other friends then let it slip to her that you did so. Preferably from the mouth of one of your mutual friends. She will be so mad with jealousy that she will want to be your only girl.
Then you enjoy even more regular sex...
Does that actually work?
I haven't told her about other girls within the time frame.
I don't feel bad, nor obligated really 
I don't know the rules for this shit
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Re: I guess I got my first friends with benefits [Re: Anonymous #3]
#15951393 - 03/15/12 05:01 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
I think I got one last week also, it's kinda nice
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fbi365 said:
You should fuck one of your other friends then let it slip to her that you did so. Preferably from the mouth of one of your mutual friends. She will be so mad with jealousy that she will want to be your only girl.
Then you enjoy even more regular sex...
Does that actually work?
I haven't told her about other girls within the time frame.
I don't feel bad, nor obligated really
I don't know the rules for this shit
She probably genuinely wont give a shit.
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Re: I guess I got my first friends with benefits [Re: GimpCollector]
#15953720 - 03/16/12 02:11 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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GimpCollector said:
Be a human piston, that's what she wants.
I Doubt it.
But I get your joke 
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Re: I guess I got my first friends with benefits [Re: Anonymous #4]
#15963464 - 03/18/12 03:49 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Update: So the other night her and I were drinking some wine and beer,talking and hanging out on a blanket in her backyard. After a little while we went back into her room.
Then something hit me as we were laying on her bed...I said, ' I gotta tell you something'... ' I don't think of you as just a fuck buddy or anything'.
She asked, 'What do you mean?'
I kinda fumbled with my words for a while but then by the end my thoughts became a bit clearer and I said, 'Well, I'm cool with things how they are right now--not serious and all--but I'm not just here to hangout and hookup...I really like being around you'.
It worked out pretty well, I think. She said, ' I really really like you.... and it scares me. I just got out of a relationship, and I dunno, it's complicated...' Then she kinda started fumbling with her words and said, 'yeah I dunno how to explain it'.
So I said said, 'cool, yeah we both don't really know how to explain it'. Then we had another heated love making session.
I don't know, what do you guys think? I realized I really dig this girl so I wanted to tell her I'm into her more than just hanging out every once in a while and hooking up. Kinda took a gamble but it seems to have worked out okay. But still, it may have been better to leave these things unsaid. We haven't talked or hung out since that night, so I guess I'll see how things are feeling when we do. Also, keep in mind we've only known each other about 2 weeks.
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Re: I guess I got my first friends with benefits [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#15963491 - 03/18/12 04:00 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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She just got out of a relationship, she probably doesn't want to dive back into another one. I can understand that. There's a decent chance you dun goofed.
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Re: I guess I got my first friends with benefits [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#15963496 - 03/18/12 04:02 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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I wouldn't rush things man.. keep having sex though
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Re: I guess I got my first friends with benefits [Re: Anonymous #5]
#15963510 - 03/18/12 04:07 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Yeah, I'm thinking I shouldn't have said shit. It's possible I may have given off the impression I want a relationship soon with her, or whatever. I wasn't going for that...I just wanted to let her know I don't just think of her as a girl I fuck every once in a while. She seems to be on the same page.
But yeah, I'm not gonna say any more things like this from now on. Just gonna let things flow and let her decide if she ever wants to progress it.
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Re: I guess I got my first friends with benefits [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15963568 - 03/18/12 04:25 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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Anonymous said:
Yeah, I'm thinking I shouldn't have said shit. It's possible I may have given off the impression I want a relationship soon with her, or whatever. I wasn't going for that...I just wanted to let her know I don't just think of her as a girl I fuck every once in a while. She seems to be on the same page.
But yeah, I'm not gonna say any more things like this from now on. Just gonna let things flow and let her decide if she ever wants to progress it.
The thing is, if she's just come out of a relationship; you'll probably NOT want to start anything too serious with her. These things take time to get over, and a rebound relationship rarely works out.
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Anonymous #1
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Yeah, that could be. Though it does seem like we dig each other quite a bit. I'm just gonna keep my mouth shut and have fun with her.
On a side note, I gotta remember to keep my mouth shut when I drink. For some reason, lately when I drink I end up doing stupid shit. It's like I get disconnected from the real world and the consequences once the drunk wears off don't mean a thing to me.
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Re: I guess I got my first friends with benefits [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#15963721 - 03/18/12 05:06 PM (1 year, 1 month ago) |
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What the fuck was that OP? You say you're fine with just fucking her and good at hiding you're emotions then some posts later you say you told the girl she is more than just a fuck.
You love her already bro?
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