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So, don't have sex with people who irritate you?
No where does it say you have to have NSA with jerks.
If you refrain from these encounters how do you know they're not worthwhile?
Also, sex doesn't make you a hedonistic beast.
All relationships last, just in varying amounts of time.
If you took the time I'm sure you could learn something, from the weekend fling to the year relationship.
Speaking for my situation. People who do not irritate me, usually dont show any sign of interest. And when they do, I fear becoming emotionally attached, that is what my thread is about. If the person isnt irritating, then why is it you dont want more from them? that you prefer no strings...what is the difference?
I wonder if it is hereditary.
Perhaps it is a security thing. Perhaps people who can do nsa like this have a stronger sense of self worth, and therefore it doesnt matter to them who they go with because it doesnt threaten their self esteem.
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I already outlined a number of reasons why I don't want a relationship right now. That is why. I would not have sex with someone I don't like, because that would not be fun. To me, the emotional connection in sex is just as important as the physical connection.
Because of my current future plans, I don't want a relationship, but I still want to have sex with people I like. Is that such a hard concept to understand?
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Perhaps people who can do nsa like this have a stronger sense of self worth, and therefore it doesnt matter to them who they go with because it doesnt threaten their self esteem.
Never heard that one before  I think conventional wisdom teaches the opposite and I tend to agree. Some people derive alot of self worth from the amount of sex they are having, just the fact that they are having sex with another is automatically a good thing, not the case for everyone.
Maybe I just take the term to literally, but sometimes I think people seem to be in denial about the fact that we are known to become attached to things we fuck often.
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Perhaps people who can do nsa like this have a stronger sense of self worth, and therefore it doesnt matter to them who they go with because it doesnt threaten their self esteem.
Never heard that one before I think conventional wisdom teaches the opposite and I tend to agree. Some people derive alot of self worth from the amount of sex they are having, just the fact that they are having sex with another is automatically a good thing, not the case for everyone.
Maybe I just take the term to literally, but sometimes I think people seem to be in denial about the fact that we are known to become attached to things we fuck often.
Or you know, instead of over-analyzing things, you could just accept that people enjoy having sex...
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 Re: Questions about NSA sex  [Re: pwnasaurus]
#15930102 - 03/10/12 06:43 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Thats kind of obvious...
Some people don't enjoy having sex unless there is an emotional connection first. Is that not also obvious?
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Re: Questions about NSA sex [Re: TTT]
#15930177 - 03/10/12 07:05 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Thats kind of obvious...
Some people don't enjoy having sex unless there is an emotional connection first. Is that not also obvious?
I'm not the one saying I don't understand the other viewpoint. I get both sides. I'm trying to explain the other one to him.
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Re: Questions about NSA sex [Re: TTT]
#15930183 - 03/10/12 07:07 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Sometimes it IS just a pipe though.
And once in awhile, bumping uglies just cause you can is ok too.
If you make every encounter about depth and onesness...no encounter will have depth and oneness.
In addition to the repressed impregnation fantasy, youre a perfectionist with an oral fixation.
hot.
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Re: Questions about NSA sex [Re: TTT]
#15930315 - 03/10/12 07:43 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Thats kind of obvious...
Some people don't enjoy having sex unless there is an emotional connection first. Is that not also obvious?
Don't enjoy sex, maybe they are doing it wrong? Emotional connection is overrated, it's all about being attracted to your sexual mate. If every sexual encounter needed a special emotional connection, we would have a very small human population.
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Re: Questions about NSA sex [Re: qman]
#15930427 - 03/10/12 08:19 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Well, my point in this thread is that for me, the sex increases my attraction, which strengthens my emotional attachment which prevents me from being able to have a fuck buddy or nsa sex.
Using your style of premise, if it was simply about physical attraction, then monogomy would be virtually unheard of....would it not?
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Re: Questions about NSA sex [Re: qman]
#15931151 - 03/10/12 11:22 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Don't enjoy sex, maybe they are doing it wrong? Emotional connection is overrated, it's all about being attracted to your sexual mate. If every sexual encounter needed a special emotional connection, we would have a very small human population.
Yeah, romance gets in the way of my orgasms, and the human population might stagnate if I stop jizzing in people.
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I would certainly appreciate a smaller population. I bet in 40 years we all will lol.
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Re: Questions about NSA sex [Re: greys]
#15931340 - 03/11/12 12:10 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Sometimes it IS just a pipe though.
And once in awhile, bumping uglies just cause you can is ok too.
If you make every encounter about depth and onesness...no encounter will have depth and oneness.
In addition to the repressed impregnation fantasy, youre a perfectionist with an oral fixation.
hot.
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Re: Questions about NSA sex [Re: qman]
#15932386 - 03/11/12 10:19 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Thats kind of obvious...
Some people don't enjoy having sex unless there is an emotional connection first. Is that not also obvious?
Don't enjoy sex, maybe they are doing it wrong? Emotional connection is overrated, it's all about being attracted to your sexual mate. If every sexual encounter needed a special emotional connection, we would have a very small human population.
Pretty sure it's subjective. Just because emotional connections are "overrated" to you, does not mean others feel the same way. I am pretty sure you just validated one of my points with that last bit. To summarize that point: Humans tend to be short sighted with the end result of their actions when it is for a instant gratification. Whether its profit or sex, we tend to not think of the ramifications of our actions until its too late. We are currently facing that with our population. Yes, I overanalyze things but more people need to. My tendency to withdraw myself out of the picture and look at things objectively is why I am attracted to the field of study I am. I want to understand... same goes with people. It's just fewer people are complex or interesting enough to hold my attention and make me want them sexually.
greysRDbestS: I never said it wasn't ok, I just said I am too much of an elitist snob to let most males have sex with me. Even ones I am friends with, who are moderately attractive and I feel a level of comfort with rarely are able to remain attractive enough for me to become aroused in the first place. I have to be SMASHED for anything to occur. So I stopped seeking it. If you want to bang girls, I'll be your wing man but I am not looking for the same pleasures. I'll nerd out by myself and help hook it up (for my friends) with the few sane women I encounter. 
I'm not sure where you get your little theories of my repressed sexual fantasies but I assure you my love for oral is not really a repressed thing....
The only encounters I expect to have depth and oneness are sexual ones. I've been in a long term relationship and I preferred having a partner to explore things sexually and in daily life. It's my preference. Its not the purpose of my existence, though. I don't desire a family or marriage. I just want to focus on what I love: botany, microorganisms, fungi and the mechanics of life. Personal relationships are far from being important to me. I seek to have a deep, personal understanding of around me..not just humans. Humans are the problem in most cases.
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Re: Questions about NSA sex [Re: TTT]
#15933151 - 03/11/12 02:49 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Not desiring a family or children is a classic signature of the repressed impregnation fantasy.
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Re: Questions about NSA sex [Re: TTT]
#15933265 - 03/11/12 03:17 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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The only encounters I expect to have depth and oneness are sexual ones. I've been in a long term relationship and I preferred having a partner to explore things sexually and in daily life. It's my preference. Its not the purpose of my existence, though. I don't desire a family or marriage. I just want to focus on what I love: botany, microorganisms, fungi and the mechanics of life. Personal relationships are far from being important to me. I seek to have a deep, personal understanding of around me..not just humans. Humans are the problem in most cases.
As an “objective” scientist im sure you see that it is human nature to desire children/family as time goes on and you will almost inevitably follow suit eventually. I’m in no place to psychoanalyze anyone but I would guess that you haven’t had very many sexual partners and probably haven’t done much sexual exploring.
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I need someone to be intellectual, motivated, and interesting. If someone isn't, I literally can't get wet. I can't allow myself to let such a person penetrate me.
I think you mean a *Pseudointellectual.. Like yourself. Someone with formal knowledge about the issues you have discussed here would likely offend you by punching holes in your extremely vague ideas about science and human nature.
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Most of the problems in this world are caused by people not thinking things through enough and acting on impulses that yield a short term gain but do nothing for the bigger picture. Humans often look at things through such a narrow lens. Me me me, pleasure, pleasure, materials, profit, social status, instant gratification, bullshit. Fuck that. The purpose of life is efficiency and being able to adapt.
Part of my way of maintaining efficiency is not wasting an ounce of my energy on human relationships that will never be lasting. I'd rather learn.
This is juicy.. Tell me TTT: What else do you do to maintain efficiency and transcend man’s desire for materials and energy? “Humans” are the problem, but somehow you are not, id very much like to learn how you have achieved a lifestyle that doesn’t propagate the Earth-destroying machine known as man..
What field of science did you study again? Credentialed by Wikipedia I presume?
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Someone with formal knowledge about the issues you have discussed here would likely offend you by punching holes in your extremely vague ideas about science and human nature.
No, they'd probably be boring as hell and go around trashing others because they can't come up with their own ideas.
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There is a difference between ideas that successfully satisfy a webpage full of young stoners and ideas that are actually applicable in the real world. *Real, innovative scientists impact your life more than you will ever understand; the tool you are using to interact with right now is brought to you by real scientists.
But whatever you have to tell yourself to validate your own “original” thinking is fine. Whatever pacifies you enough to be complacent in your little digital world, however hypocritical your views may be… Meanwhile, scientists are out in the world, actually trying to do something original.
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You are making alot of assumptions here, not very scientific.
This is a discussion about a metaphorical label people put on sex and what it means to us personally. I like science but I don't think it really has a place in this discussion.
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I like science but I don't think it really has a place in this discussion.
Hmmm lets look at your contribution to the thread:
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Yeah, romance gets in the way of my orgasms, and the human population might stagnate if I stop jizzing in people.
And yet you still probably don't feel like a hypocrite do you? Troll.
TTT was trying to validate her points by claiming to be analytical with a background in science, thus introducing the topic. I'm very curious about her background so I replied to her; you however, have nothing to do with anything.
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Troll.
An anon user calling someone else a troll? With the kind of replies you have just posted on this page? Come on, don't make me laugh.
Please keep the debate polite.
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blah not needed
Edited by TTT (03/11/12 11:04 PM)
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