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 Always To Blame! *DELETED* 
#15876703 - 02/28/12 05:47 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Anonymous #2
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He sounds like a prick, find a new guy
All guys are paranoid and jealous, some just hide it better (Maybe not all of us, but certainly most, myself included)
Taking your stash and rationing it to you is just a giant dick of a move.
Edited by Anonymous (02/28/12 06:00 PM)
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Anonymous #3
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That doesn't sound healthy.
Find a way to make him look at himself from your perspective somehow...
No one should be stingy with drugs!
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Anonymous #4
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i make a bet the admins
get a kick out of seeing who
is posting anonymous. lol in my head
anyways, if you really love him
and you guys are meant to be
together you will be. if you are not
you will not be. if you do not love him
do yourself a favor and him and move on.
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Anonymous #5
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Anonymous #4 said:
i make a bet the admins
get a kick out of seeing who
is posting anonymous. lol in my head
Why do you say that? They probably don't give a flying fuck, I mean; a chick with a controlling boyfriend is nothing new or unique in the world.
OP. Jealousy/controlling behavior is something that creeps in overtime and it doesn't just go away instantly. As a couple, if you are going to beat this behavior than it will have to be something that is built on trust. Unfortunately it doesn't sound like trust is something that the two of you have for one another. It is very unlikely that your position will change until you take measures to change it; leave your boyfriend. You will prove too yourself that you are still in control of your own destiny and happiness, and ultimately maybe your bf will eventually see the error in his ways and make his next relationship work better. Either way, this won’t concern you because you will have done the right thing, move the fuck on, don’t let anyone try to trap you in a box and make you unhappy, ever..
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Anonymous #6
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Just come fuck me and then he'll have something to be jealous about
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Anonymous #7
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Saw this post earlier, then discovered this song later on.
Thought id share it.
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Anonymous #8
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I bet this is the same chick from the other thread 'girlfriend snooped my shroomery'... I so bet it is.
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Anonymous #9
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do you really want to spend the rest of your life with this guy?
think about it.
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Anonymous #1
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Anonymous #10
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OP, my first instinct is to tell you to leave him.
Just because he isn't hitting you doesn't mean you aren't in, or at least on your way towards, an abusive relationship. Things will only get worse with time and by the sounds of it, he's already started limiting your freedoms. Once you get married, he will have you for good and he won't let you go out and see your friends or maybe even your family because all he knows and all that matter to him are his own paranoid delusions about what other guys you're fucking, or how you're telling your family horrible things about him when he's not there. His hold on you will get so tight that you won't be allowed any freedoms. No girls night out anymore, in fact, no girl friends anymore. Definitely no guy friends EVER. Eventually he may try to keep you from your family and will actually get angry with you for the simple act of you going to work. In his mind, you're betraying him just by talking to your co workers.
The worst part is, he knows he's being - or will be in the future - horrible to you due to his jealousy, which is what plants it in his head that you're out with better guys than him. So basically he just completes a never ending, but downward spiraling loop, where the more jealous he gets, the more freedoms he takes away from you to, in his mind, stop you from leaving him, so on and so forth.. It's not a pretty cycle.
I'm sorry, I'm really not trying to be so harsh, but this is the reality of most relationships when one of the spouses has the behavior pattern that your fiance does.
If you REALLY want to see if you can work it out, then I suggest giving yourself a deadline(before your wedding obviously) and if things haven't GENUINELY changed by the date you've set, you need to let him go. At this point you just need to come up with a game plan and find some way to actually get through to him. Let him know how seriously detrimental his behaviors are to your relationship and in order for things to work out he needs to start trusting you. Let him know how much you love him and that you have never given him a reason to mistrust you - that is the case, right? Don't lie about anything on your end because YOU ALSO have to be truly sincere. It's a two way street.
I wish you the best but I honestly hope that if things don't change, you will have the courage to leave for your own good. I know it's hard. It's so, so hard, but you can't live your life being controlled and having your husband only ever be happy when you're obeying his every order. No, you seem super intelligent and a great catch(I have a hunch I know who you are on the boards, lol.)
There is a man out there who is perfect for you, so don't settle for less. As far as I can tell, we only get one chance at life. Don't live to regret yours.
Edited by Anonymous (02/29/12 10:04 AM)
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Anonymous #11
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I used to date a guy like that. Your fiance is abusive and controlling. Look at yourself and ask why you're still with him. He's not your end all, be all -- no one is unless you allow them to be and this guy is undeserving. It's black and white to me: leave him. He won't change, not for more than a couple weeks. Do you really want to live with that?
Stand up for yourself, get your shit back and never look back.
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Anonymous #10
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But in the end who did i change for.....Him.
Any changes you make must be for YOU! Don't ever let anybody try to change who you are. If they don't like it, that's their problem!
The bottom line is that you should never feel forced to change who you are for him and he's not going to change who he is for you.
By the way, congrats on all that weight lost! That's an accomplishment to be proud of! Anyway, I'm sure you know this but I feel obligated to point this out for others who may not, I'm generally talking about more character changes than physical.
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Anonymous #1
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You seem super intelligent and a great catch(I have a hunch I know who you are on the boards, lol.)
If you think you know send me an IM.
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Anonymous #12
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Op was a fatty who after loosing weight has now decided to move on, as she believes her boyfriend must be a desperate chubby chaser to go out with her in the initial state she was in.
This post is simply her way to rationalise the fact she is about to leave him for no other reason than now she can do better, even though he loved her for her personality while the next guy banging her will dump her when she eventually has a rebound on her diet and turns back into porky pig.
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Anonymous #2
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Are you that chubby chaser #12?
Takin this kinda personal
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Anonymous #12
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Yes, I am OP's boyfriend dickhead. I guess that makes me the chubby chaser.
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Anonymous #1
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Yeah you wish! 
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Anonymous #10
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You seem super intelligent and a great catch(I have a hunch I know who you are on the boards, lol.)
If you think you know send me an IM.
What if it's not you? I've never formally talked to them/possibly you before. You just have a similar writing style to the person I'm thinking of and there aren't that many girls to choose from on the Shroomery lol.
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Nevermind - I just stalked that person a little bit and she doesn't even like the idea of marriage. My words still hold true though.
I have seen many relationships similar to the one you are currently in. My own sister just got out of a relationship just like yours that had progressed a lot more/faster a couple years ago. She's now just finishing up her last semester at college and has a job helping abused women.
Edited by Anonymous (03/01/12 10:54 AM)
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Anonymous #6
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You seem super intelligent and a great catch(I have a hunch I know who you are on the boards, lol.)
If you think you know send me an IM.
What if it's not you? I've never formally talked to them/possibly you before. You just have a similar writing style to the person I'm thinking of and there aren't that many girls to choose from on the Shroomery lol.
Edit:
Nevermind - I just stalked that person a little bit and she doesn't even like the idea of marriage. My words still hold true though.
I have seen many relationships similar to the one you are currently in. My own sister just got out of a relationship just like yours that had progressed a lot more/faster a couple years ago. She's now just finishing up her last semester at college and has a job helping abused women.
You're pretty weird man... Just offer advice, don't try to figure out who it is. 
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