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 LoveOverAll
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 Been cheated on by a girl whom i loved so much. 
#15845885 - 02/22/12 03:32 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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I don't feel anything in the heart which is good right now. It's all in the brain, i cant sleep, i feel like i want to puke. I read many stories about how time will fix it and getting out and doing things, but... it's so hard.
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Re: Been cheated on by a girl whom i loved so much. [Re: LoveOverAll]
#15845900 - 02/22/12 03:36 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Been there. Although it seems like an obstacle that you may not be able to overcome, you will, time will heals all wounds and youll be a stronger person because of it.
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Re: Been cheated on by a girl whom i loved so much. [Re: LoveOverAll] 1
#15846165 - 02/22/12 07:04 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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though it sucks like shit to be cheated on, try and think of the big pic OP, and not the happenings over and over in your mind, that shit will just make you crazy.
big pic is you got a dumb bitch out of your life. better now than later when youre married or with kids. also: now youre single and can find new, better, and more loyal tits and ass. or you can just focus on yourself instead of wasting your time on the other half.
though its nice to be in a good relationship, its also nice when you end one, because the world really opens up for you, if you let it. consequently, you have more confidence as a result of your independence and its not long before you have other options with women.
100 years from now, will it matter that you were cheated on? if you were to die right now, would that be the last thing you wanted to have had on your mind? personally I wouldnt, Id rather the last thing on my mind be 'FUCKIT, Im goin to Vegas!!!'
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Re: Been cheated on by a girl whom i loved so much. [Re: LoveOverAll]
#15848077 - 02/22/12 05:51 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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theblackhole said:
I don't feel anything in the heart which is good right now. It's all in the brain, i cant sleep, i feel like i want to puke. I read many stories about how time will fix it and getting out and doing things, but... it's so hard.
What is it that bothers you about her cheating on you?
-Don't you love her?
-meaning you want her to be happy?
-do you want her to be happy no matter what? even at your own expense?
-is she still happy?
Edited by sofa_king_happy (02/22/12 05:54 PM)
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Re: Been cheated on by a girl whom i loved so much. [Re: sofa_king_happy]
#15848171 - 02/22/12 06:10 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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sofa_king_happy said:
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theblackhole said:
I don't feel anything in the heart which is good right now. It's all in the brain, i cant sleep, i feel like i want to puke. I read many stories about how time will fix it and getting out and doing things, but... it's so hard.
What is it that bothers you about her cheating on you?
-Don't you love her?
-meaning you want her to be happy?
-do you want her to be happy no matter what? even at your own expense?
-is she still happy?
This is stupid.
What you need to realise, is that if she broke your trust like that, she didn't deserve your love in the first place. In time you will realize this. You will no longer love her, and she'll just be a random girl. Possibly one you'll get to fuck every now and then, but nothing more.
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Re: Been cheated on by a girl whom i loved so much. [Re: VisionaryFlicker]
#15848244 - 02/22/12 06:24 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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This is stupid.
It's the important concept of loving vs. possessing. Whether or not he should be mad at her for cheating, or himself for trying to own her....If the case of mad at himself, setting her free(by dumping her ass) would relieve himself of his own anguish. Right?
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Re: Been cheated on by a girl whom i loved so much. [Re: sofa_king_happy]
#15848401 - 02/22/12 06:52 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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sofa_king_happy said:
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VisionaryFlicker said:
This is stupid.
It's the important concept of loving vs. possessing. Whether or not he should be mad at her for cheating, or himself for trying to own her....If the case of mad at himself, setting her free(by dumping her ass) would relieve himself of his own anguish. Right?
You're approaching it wrong in my opinion. They were in a supposedly mutually exclusive relationship, and she breached his trust. She's not worth his sorrow.
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Re: Been cheated on by a girl whom i loved so much. [Re: LoveOverAll]
#15848657 - 02/22/12 07:34 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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theblackhole said:
I don't feel anything in the heart which is good right now. It's all in the brain, i cant sleep, i feel like i want to puke. I read many stories about how time will fix it and getting out and doing things, but... it's so hard.
 
Good luck brotha. Keep truckin.
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Re: Been cheated on by a girl whom i loved so much. [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15848688 - 02/22/12 07:41 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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fuck her sister or best friend , bitchs dont like it when you sink to thier level of psychological warfare!
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Re: Been cheated on by a girl whom i loved so much. [Re: atomicshaman]
#15848713 - 02/22/12 07:46 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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I'd DSHSB and then whisper in her ear after....By the way, I have aids.
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c1dh3d
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Re: Been cheated on by a girl whom i loved so much. [Re: Mr. Anderson]
#15849389 - 02/22/12 09:56 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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The girl I "loved" the most out of all my girlfriends dumped me on Christmas Eve, and then I found out she cheated on me with several different guys over the last 6 months of the relationship.
It completely destroyed me for a long time, but it eventually fades, just like anything. Almost every girl I've dated cheated on me, and the ones that didn't, probably actually did and just didn't tell me.
You will live to love another day young man 
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Re: Been cheated on by a girl whom i loved so much. [Re: c1dh3d]
#15849431 - 02/22/12 10:06 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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OP: you'll get over it. we've all been there.
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Re: Been cheated on by a girl whom i loved so much. [Re: atomicshaman]
#15850679 - 02/23/12 03:23 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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atomicshaman said:
fuck her sister or best friend , bitchs dont like it when you sink to thier level of psychological warfare!
I can highly recommend this.
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Re: Been cheated on by a girl whom i loved so much. [Re: VisionaryFlicker]
#15850741 - 02/23/12 03:45 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Damn OP I feel for ya man. Others are right, you will find another girl and things will get better. I went through something like this sometime ago and a I got all bent out of shape and tried to fix things with her, but then my buddy laid it out like this "Women are like apples; your sitting under the apple tree eating an apple when you notice it has a rotten spot. What do you do? You don't flip the apple over and look for a better spot, you throw that bitch and get yourself another apple"
Hold your chin up and don't let the shit keep you down for too long. Life is too short to be wasting time grieving over a triflin bitch.
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Re: Been cheated on by a girl whom i loved so much. [Re: sofa_king_happy] 1
#15851921 - 02/23/12 12:45 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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sofa_king_happy said:
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theblackhole said:
I don't feel anything in the heart which is good right now. It's all in the brain, i cant sleep, i feel like i want to puke. I read many stories about how time will fix it and getting out and doing things, but... it's so hard.
What is it that bothers you about her cheating on you?
-Don't you love her?
-meaning you want her to be happy?
-do you want her to be happy no matter what? even at your own expense?
-is she still happy?
Sofa king, I personally feel obligated to respond to this as well as the one you said after it, for this sounds and is exactly what she would say, if it isnt really her (my ex) then listen carefully because now there are 2 people on this planet that think like this.
Let me try...
What bothers me about her cheating on me? self explanatory.
Dont you love her? My love for her was more than a good relationship love she was a dream come true, ect, ect... (so i thought)
Meaning you want her to be happy? yes, i repeatedly stressed to her this is all i want, and that i felt as though i wasnt making her happy nor was i right for her. (she assured me time again she was happy and that i was the greatest guy she has ever met)
Now this is where its crazy, her happy even at my own expense? If she would have been honest and told me there was another guy she wants to be with and that we are done or something other, than i would of recognized the fact that love is not possessive and i would have let her go, it would of been painful, but the truth doesn't hurt as much as a lie. Because again i did love her and did want her to be happy. I hope that explains it, and i hope that by at my expense you don't mean let her use me, lie to me, hurt me, take advantage of me, as long as she's happy.
Is she still happy? i don't know and i don't care.
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Re: Been cheated on by a girl whom i loved so much. [Re: LoveOverAll]
#15852154 - 02/23/12 01:51 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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theblackhole said:
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sofa_king_happy said:
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theblackhole said:
I don't feel anything in the heart which is good right now. It's all in the brain, i cant sleep, i feel like i want to puke. I read many stories about how time will fix it and getting out and doing things, but... it's so hard.
What is it that bothers you about her cheating on you?
-Don't you love her?
-meaning you want her to be happy?
-do you want her to be happy no matter what? even at your own expense?
-is she still happy?
Sofa king, I personally feel obligated to respond to this as well as the one you said after it, for this sounds and is exactly what she would say, if it isnt really her (my ex) then listen carefully because now there are 2 people on this planet that think like this.
Let me try...
What bothers me about her cheating on me? self explanatory.
Dont you love her? My love for her was more than a good relationship love she was a dream come true, ect, ect... (so i thought)
Meaning you want her to be happy? yes, i repeatedly stressed to her this is all i want, and that i felt as though i wasnt making her happy nor was i right for her. (she assured me time again she was happy and that i was the greatest guy she has ever met)
Now this is where its crazy, her happy even at my own expense? If she would have been honest and told me there was another guy she wants to be with and that we are done or something other, than i would of recognized the fact that love is not possessive and i would have let her go, it would of been painful, but the truth doesn't hurt as much as a lie. Because again i did love her and did want her to be happy. I hope that explains it, and i hope that by at my expense you don't mean let her use me, lie to me, hurt me, take advantage of me, as long as she's happy.
Is she still happy? i don't know and i don't care.
Ya man fuck what that dude said, he obviously has never had a girlfriend. People don't deserve what happened to you. You are in no way in the wrong for feeling the way you do.
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Re: Been cheated on by a girl whom i loved so much. [Re: The Influence]
#15852572 - 02/23/12 03:41 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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The last girl I was with dumped me and left town. It hurt at first, but you gotta get over it eventually.
Watch this... and if you can, find the whole episode.
Good luck man
Edited by tedthekid (02/23/12 03:43 PM)
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Re: Been cheated on by a girl whom i loved so much. [Re: tedthekid]
#15852990 - 02/23/12 05:10 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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"What bothers me about her cheating on me? self explanatory."
Its not, there are several reasons one can be mad at their other for cheating. Which one are you the maddest about?(breaking truth? not respecting you? lost loyalty worried about getting an STD from him? ect?)
I hope that explains it, and i hope that by at my expense you don't mean let her use me, lie to me, hurt me, take advantage of me, as long as she's happy.
Well actually i was going to say "if you love something, you have to set it free" and by that i mean dump her ass. And since in your next relationship you'll be paranoid about your new lady cheating. This can be a useful positive way to put your mind at ease.
@The Influence: i have a girlfriend, i use this logic to put my mind at ease. I used to be worried "what if she is(/going to) cheating on me." Then i developed this logic and now it's the least of my worries....However, in the event she does cheat ill be sure to DSHSB and dump her 
EDIT: Don't forget todo some damage to the guy involved.....
Edited by sofa_king_happy (02/23/12 05:13 PM)
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LoveOverAll
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Re: Been cheated on by a girl whom i loved so much. [Re: sofa_king_happy]
#15853104 - 02/23/12 05:38 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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EDIT: Don't forget todo some damage to the guy involved.....
Okay why? isnt somewhere in your logic this is immature?
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The Influence
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Re: Been cheated on by a girl whom i loved so much. [Re: sofa_king_happy]
#15853219 - 02/23/12 06:00 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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sofa_king_happy said:
@The Influence: i have a girlfriend, i use this logic to put my mind at ease. I used to be worried "what if she is(/going to) cheating on me." Then i developed this logic and now it's the least of my worries....However, in the event she does cheat ill be sure to DSHSB and dump her
EDIT: Don't forget todo some damage to the guy involved.....
That kind of logic can only really go so far, and the guy is already hurting. I don't see anything overly possesive about his feelings but you make it sound like it's his fault he hurts 
And you got it all wrong man; if your girl cheats on you, you beat the fuck out of her and then find the dude that she did it with and DSHSB......in no paticular order 
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