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 ex-girlfriends sister and I are in love 
#15732592 - 01/29/12 09:14 AM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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My ex-girlfriend broke up with me about 3 months ago. After the breakup, I remained close friends with ex's sister. We talked about our problems and shit, and she became one of the very few people I closely trusted.
I had always had the feeling there was some tension between us, sexual or otherwise, but had always assumed it was nothing but a hopeful fabrication of my mind.
Yesterday, I went to a psy-trance party with her, and some of her and my friends. We ended up hugging, and feeling really fucking close. Never felt so much love in a hug. At one point, after dancing closely (you got to understand, this is my ex's sister, it was so fucking weird to have this tension going on between us, so weird yet so exciting) I gave her a little kiss in the neck. Then slowly, I turned towards her lips, and I can tell you; never have I felt so relieved to have a kiss reciprocated. I was overwhelmed by lovely sentiment. I then realized I had been waiting so goddamn long for this.
We stopped kissing on the middle of the dancefloor pretty quickly. None of our friends could know about this. We moved towards a quiet part of the warehouse the party was in, I pushed her with her back against a car (which was parked inside) and we kissed passionately for about 20 minutes. We talked alot, and she told me she loved me. I love her too.
I moved my hands all over her body, touched all the parts I'd longed to touch for so long, at last.
I told her I thought we should go back to my place, and she agreed. We made sweet love there.
If my ex was to find out, it would fuck things up between her and her sister profoundly. My ex is a spiteful, easily angered girl, and this would just set her off into berserker mode.
So, I'm at a loss about what to do, I've never felt like this about anyone, and I really really want to pursue this further. But it seems damn near impossible in this situation.
I'm posting this on here because I can't tell ANYONE in my direct environment about this yet, news spreads fast.
Thoughts?
edit: my ex and I had been together for almost 2 years.
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Edited by VisionaryFlicker (01/29/12 01:02 PM)
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Re: ex-girlfriends sister and I are overwhelmingly in love [Re: VisionaryFlicker] 2
#15732668 - 01/29/12 10:03 AM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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If you're overwhelmingly in love then you need to chill. That is a fairly immature response to the situation. First of all it is up to her to break the news to her sister and if she can't do it maturely then she needs to look at where her priorities are too. If it really is love either you buck up and live your lives/relationship proudly or you might realize that this is just exciting because it is so forbidden and you are both better off hooking up when the chance strikes and keeping it on the dlo or breaking up/not bothering with the relationship - alternatively if the situation with the sister is so bad that you can't be bothered to be honest about the relationship the end it now and still having fond feelings for each other.
Sisters reaction is on her own judgement, sadly the two of you cannot control her emotions either and you specifically would be best advised not to discuss the situation privately with your ex if you are trying to form a relationship with the sister, depending on how close you are with your ex. Remember you are not in a relationship with her anymore.
TLDR; dont stick your dick in crazy, especially not twice in the same family.
Edited by Anonymous (01/29/12 10:05 AM)
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Re: ex-girlfriends sister and I are overwhelmingly in love [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15733096 - 01/29/12 01:03 PM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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What I stuck my dick in yesterday was everything but crazy. It was beautiful and kind and loving. And with the most beautiful eyes I've ever seen: blue in the middle, then green, and a dark blue outer edge.
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Re: ex-girlfriends sister and I are overwhelmingly in love [Re: VisionaryFlicker]
#15737416 - 01/30/12 11:47 AM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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So, nobody's got any opinion on wether this could work?
Nobody has any direct experience with a similar situation?
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Re: ex-girlfriends sister and I are overwhelmingly in love [Re: VisionaryFlicker] 1
#15737447 - 01/30/12 11:58 AM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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If you are in love I say just go for it!!! have you and her move together and fuck what every one else thinks
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Re: ex-girlfriends sister and I are overwhelmingly in love [Re: VisionaryFlicker]
#15737865 - 01/30/12 02:26 PM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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Re: ex-girlfriends sister and I are overwhelmingly in love [Re: VisionaryFlicker]
#15737983 - 01/30/12 02:55 PM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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Well, you're not responsible for how your ex's happiness, so I guess you shouldn't let her sensitivity to this stop you. Then again, it's her sister...that's a bit awkward to begin with. How does your ex's sister think about this? Do you maintain contact with your ex at this moment? How does that go?
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Re: ex-girlfriends sister and I are overwhelmingly in love [Re: koraks]
#15738956 - 01/30/12 06:30 PM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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Also, why did you initially end up with your ex and not her sister?
This sounds almost exactly like a situation I had been in previously, except the sister wouldn't go for it(and they were fraternal twins.  ).. dam hindsight.. Shoulda went with the other one..
Though I do think it could work.. Will be much, much more unlikely to work.. but it could.
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Re: ex-girlfriends sister and I are overwhelmingly in love [Re: metalfaith]
#15741328 - 01/31/12 04:39 AM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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Quote:
koraks said:
Well, you're not responsible for how your ex's happiness, so I guess you shouldn't let her sensitivity to this stop you. Then again, it's her sister...that's a bit awkward to begin with. How does your ex's sister think about this? Do you maintain contact with your ex at this moment? How does that go?
My ex's sister feels extremely guilty about it, and fears she is betraying her sister. I maintained contact with my ex for a while, hooked up every now and again too, but I've slept with an acquaintance of my ex a few weeks ago, and she. Got super angry and she's been angry ever since.
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metalfaith said:
Also, why did you initially end up with your ex and not her sister?
I feel the relationship with my ex was based for an important part on looks. Over time I have increasingly learned to appreciate her sisters personality and demeanor. I wish I'd gone for the sis straight away.. 
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Re: ex-girlfriends sister and I are overwhelmingly in love [Re: VisionaryFlicker]
#15741517 - 01/31/12 06:57 AM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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My ex has the prettiest face and the cutest body. But I've since realized she continually plays power games (after I straight up accused her of this she actually admitted to it) and is basically an immature crazy piece of work.
The sister has a heart of pure gold, she's the kind of girl I could see myself spending the rest of my life with
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Re: ex-girlfriends sister and I are overwhelmingly in love [Re: VisionaryFlicker]
#15741951 - 01/31/12 11:43 AM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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I'm meeting the sister tomorrow to talk about what we're going to do.
I'm going to suggest pursuing this, and keeping it secret for a while. Tell a couple of our close friends. Maybe wait untill my ex has a new boyfriend until we break it to her, that would probably make her care less about it.
Never thought I'd be looking forward to my ex getting a new boyfriend!
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Edited by VisionaryFlicker (01/31/12 12:16 PM)
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Re: ex-girlfriends sister and I are overwhelmingly in love [Re: VisionaryFlicker]
#15742146 - 01/31/12 12:42 PM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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It may sound cheesy, but just thinking about our first kiss last saturday makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside and brings a stupid smile to my face 
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Re: ex-girlfriends sister and I are overwhelmingly in love [Re: VisionaryFlicker]
#15758841 - 02/04/12 04:28 AM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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So what happened? I love these forbidden love stories. Did you go for it?
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Re: ex-girlfriends sister and I are overwhelmingly in love [Re: Anonymous #3]
#15758931 - 02/04/12 05:19 AM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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dude, just hang up on her and do not care about other people, why would you care about other people than yourself, you gotta be happy and enjoy life bro!!
when it happens it just happens
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Re: ex-girlfriends sister and I are overwhelmingly in love [Re: luisfer420]
#15759625 - 02/04/12 12:20 PM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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Ok guys first off, just to get things straight: I don't give a shit about other people, there's just two things that worry me. First, that my ex's sister will not want to pursue anything, out of fear of her little sister finding out. Second, that we do but her little sister DOES find out, and their relationship is fucked up forever.
And now for an update,
we corresponded quite often after last saturday, the conversation was mainly about how much I liked her, and how confused she was.
Then, like I told you guys, wednesday we we're supposed to meet up to talk about shit, and afterwards we'd go to a friends house, and I'd take some ghb (sis wouldn't because she had stuff to do early the next day)
She ended up coming way too late to discuss anything, and we went straight to the friends house, were me and 2 other girls and 1 other guy took some GHB. (it was my first time!)
Long story short,I found out GHB makes me really damn horny. I really wished we didn't have to keep things as secret as we had, because I wanted to make out with her so bad.
Anyway, at about 3 am she left, but me, the two girls, and the guy stayed. Throughout the night to follow, I made out with both girls (simultaneously), rubbed both of their private parts, and almost convinced one of them (Who coincidentally is also my ex's best friend) to have sex with me.
The thing is, both girls are really good friends with Sis, and they both also have NO idea about what's going on with me and Sis. So basically, they ended up telling her everything in avid detail, not knowing that Sis didn't really enjoy hearing all that shit.
Anyway, she got really angry at first, but later we talked about it, and she said she didn't really want a mutually exclusive relationship anyway. (which I GUESS I'm cool with, I'm not sure )
Anyway, she came over again yesterday, and although at first it was a little awkward because of what happened, we ended up making out. At one point though, she said:
"Yeah I'm not sure about going any further, I'm feeling very guilty about my sister, and last time we had sex we we're both drunk and on speed"
She later told me that whenever she's with me, she can't stop thinking about her sister, and whenever she's away from me, she can't stop thinking about me.
Another thing that bugged me about that meeting, was that the whole thing was a little bit awkward.
I thought about it, and it could be any one of three things:
1. The sudden return of social boundaries caused by the GHB wearing off made me uncomfortable around people.
2. What happened between me and the 2 girls made things uncomfortable, and made it less obvious for her that
she could trust me, and that I was worth the risk of her sisters eternal wrath.
3. We had already fallen out of love.
I'm really hoping it's not number 3..
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Re: ex-girlfriends sister and I are overwhelmingly in love [Re: VisionaryFlicker]
#15759962 - 02/04/12 02:09 PM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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It's #3
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Re: ex-girlfriends sister and I are overwhelmingly in love [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15759986 - 02/04/12 02:15 PM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said:
It's #3
you trollin'? Cause if not, you're not exactly backing up your claim with a lot of argumentation.
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Re: ex-girlfriends sister and I are overwhelmingly in love [Re: VisionaryFlicker]
#15760031 - 02/04/12 02:29 PM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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How can it be #3? That would assume you were in love, but based on your actions with those other two girls I'd say your idea of being "in love" means enjoyable sex and nothing more. Damn I'm disappointed, I thought I was going to hear a love story with a happily ever after, with one woman.
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Re: ex-girlfriends sister and I are overwhelmingly in love [Re: Anonymous #3]
#15760112 - 02/04/12 02:50 PM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
How can it be #3? That would assume you were in love, but based on your actions with those other two girls I'd say your idea of being "in love" means enjoyable sex and nothing more. Damn I'm disappointed, I thought I was going to hear a love story with a happily ever after, with one woman.
Come on man, it's really not just about enjoyable sex
Just because I'm in love with her doesn't mean I can't be attracted to other girls... I know what you mean though, the fact that I did that took some of the romance away from all of it, I guess.
I wish I hadn't done it, mainly because she probably counts less on me to invest myself in her.
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Re: ex-girlfriends sister and I are overwhelmingly in love [Re: VisionaryFlicker]
#15760169 - 02/04/12 03:07 PM (1 year, 3 months ago) |
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When she last came over, she didn't even want to have sex because she felt bad for her sister, and I was totally cool with. That should say enough.
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Goddamnit, I'm so afraid she'll get bored of me, by the way. My lack of self esteem really is fucking with my head.
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Edited by VisionaryFlicker (02/04/12 03:08 PM)
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