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 Razzlesnaps
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 so a girl that just wants to be "friends" 
#15653410 - 01/12/12 03:25 AM (1 year, 4 months ago) |
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Did I make the right decision here?
this girl I met recently named maggie we hung out the 2nd day we knew each other and we were holding hands and she came and spent the night at my house we kissed,messed around, that night then cuddled to sleep (no sex) and in the morning we kissed and messed around some more. then I walked her home and gave her a kiss goodbye,
later that day she writes me saying she doesnt want to be in a relationship and i said ok. (confused after the night we had)
so we continue to be friends, we hung out a few nights ago at her house and i spent the night we didnt kiss we just cuddled in her bed. then we hung out the next day a little bit.
then last night she has me come over to her house again and we are cuddling in her bed and i go to kiss her, she turns away and says "i told you i just wanted to be friends"
so me being irritated i say, "i think im just going to leave" so i get out of the bed get dressed then i turn to her and i start to tell her how i feel before i left. she already knew i liked her because we got drunk a few nights ago together and i told her on the wakl home. but anyways i tell her again that i really like her and im not sure if i can be just friends with her because ill end up getting hurt seeing her with someone else and it will make me wonder whats wrong with me, and i asked why did she mess around with me the first night and lead me to beileve there was some connection then just push me away completely, she was really stoned and buzzed and she was mumbling but she knew what i was saying. i couldnt her here really well because my ears are plugged up with this medicine ear drops i need to use temporarily.
but anyways i left her house and havent talked or texted to her all day and she hasnt me either.
and im wondering if i made the right choice to end the friendship when i have strong feelings for her?
i mean ive been in a situation like that before with a girl where i had strong feelings for her and she knew it and i was just trying to be friends with her and it turns out i just kept getting hurt, and it doesnt help that im the jealous type if i see a girl i really like with someone else it makes me wonder.... what the fuck is wrong with me? then makes me feel like im ugly or just a piece of shit...
so did i do the right thing or should i have just stayed friends?
has anyone been in my shoes before here?
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 Re: so a girl that just wants to be "friends" (moved) [Re: Razzlesnaps]
#15653418 - 01/12/12 03:29 AM (1 year, 4 months ago) |
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 This thread was moved from The Pub.
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Please start making threads like this here. This is like the third thread in a month about this kind of thing from you.
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Razzlesnaps
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Re: so a girl that just wants to be "friends" (moved) [Re: Acidic_Sloth]
#15653422 - 01/12/12 03:31 AM (1 year, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Acidic_Sloth said:
<img src='http://www.shroomery.org/forums/images/moved.gif'> This thread was moved from The Pub.
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Please start making threads like this here. This is like the third thread in a month about this kind of thing from you.
Thanks douche i didnt know there was a sexuality and relationships forum.
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Re: so a girl that just wants to be "friends" [Re: Razzlesnaps]
#15653476 - 01/12/12 03:31 AM (1 year, 4 months ago) |
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 This thread has been closed.
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hey, guess what?
you probably shouldn't be calling people names in a derogatory fashion when not in OTD, especially not moderators.
EDIT: apology accepted. don't do it again.
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Re: so a girl that just wants to be "friends" *DELETED* [Re: Acidic_Sloth]
#15653563 - 01/12/12 04:36 AM (1 year, 4 months ago) |
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Re: so a girl that just wants to be "friends" [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15655258 - 01/12/12 03:23 PM (1 year, 4 months ago) |
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She seemed like a really sweet girl, she has a amazing personality, But I cant help but think having me over and cuddling with me in bed when she knows how i feel about her then denying kissing me after we already made out before the first night we hung out its almost as if she wanted to fuck with me/ hurt me and i dont know what reason for. she was telling me these stories the fist night we hung out on the walk home about, how she had to have a abortion and it was the worst experience of her life, and how three weeks ago she goes to her managers house she gets her drunk she throws up and passes out and next thing she knows shes being flipped over and fucked doggystyle by her manager
and really it just tore me up inside and i really wanted to be there for her and just keep her away from the shit shes dealt with. She really is a sweet girl. but i dont know im just going to not talk to her anymore i guess and maybe she will come around, i doubt it. once your in the friend zone you stay there right.
she also told me she broke up with her ex bf because he didnt want to be in a open relationship she wants to do both girls and guys but prefers girls more to guys, said she doesnt even really like sex with guys. and she was telling me all about these girls shes fucked. she also has a habit of doing cocaine whenever she can get it right before work or during work usually. i think she might of been comming down the last time i was at her house.
She seems like a emotional mess i just really wanted to take her away from all that, being the empathetic kinda person i am i guess i just thought wrong that she would want something different but then again shes is only 19 and i am 26 being 19 you just want to experience things and have a good time.
but maybe stopping talking to her will make it a challenge for her, in a sense maybe the things i said to her will get to her head eventually.
doubt it though, yesterday was a very shitty day for me i felt like blank the whole day no emotions once so ever. just wanted to lye in bed forever.
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Re: so a girl that just wants to be "friends" [Re: Razzlesnaps]
#15655383 - 01/12/12 03:45 PM (1 year, 4 months ago) |
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And I did try to fuck her that night we fooled around, i was unbuttoning her pants and shes like, no not now its the first time weve hung out/barely know each other, so i was like ok whatever and we just made out and did foreplay and i got a handjob...
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Re: so a girl that just wants to be "friends" [Re: Razzlesnaps]
#15655704 - 01/12/12 04:46 PM (1 year, 4 months ago) |
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i really wanted to be there for her and just keep her away from the shit shes dealt with
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She seems like a emotional mess i just really wanted to take her away from all that
A general piece of life advice especially when it comes to girls is stop wanting/trying to fix her/her life. It's almost always a pointless pursuit and ends in heartbreak; real change comes from within.
She sounds like damaged goods and with 7 years difference between you I assure you your priorities in life are very different.
Let this one go and cast your line again.
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Re: so a girl that just wants to be "friends" [Re: naum]
#15656433 - 01/12/12 07:02 PM (1 year, 4 months ago) |
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Honestly, from the picture you are painting she doesn't sound like a sweet girl. I may be way off but to me she sounds like a washed out attention seeking game playing whore. Truth hurts buddy, you need to take off the rose tinted glasses and see the girl for what she really is. If you still wan't to be with her then fine but she doesn't sound "sweet" to me.
You start talking to her and she is already talking about rape and being a lesbian? Serious baggage, not worth it and I reckon best case scenario you deal with all this shit, she will associate you with it and when she is ready find a nice normal guy to start a new life with.
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Re: so a girl that just wants to be "friends" [Re: Jwlst]
#15656605 - 01/12/12 07:53 PM (1 year, 4 months ago) |
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Exactly. 
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Re: so a girl that just wants to be "friends" [Re: naum]
#15659720 - 01/13/12 11:44 AM (1 year, 4 months ago) |
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Ok, this is a bit different, but basically telling someone "Can't we be friends" after some sexual-emotional time toghether, is like your mom telling you after your dog died "I am sorry, but you can still keep it!".
You did well to end that friendship. It would not have made you comfortable. You want more, she doesn't. It would not have made you feeling good. It would be just dragging.
Forget about her, move on, do things you like, be comfortable and don't let other people get you down!
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Re: so a girl that just wants to be "friends" [Re: Razzlesnaps]
#15899754 - 03/04/12 05:57 PM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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Dude ive been there before, yeah what you did was right. Cause she just gonna mess with your head. Some girl i knew did same stuff on and off for like 3 years like she played me and shit. Its best to end it cause you'll just end up getting hurt. Just don't text her or anything and maybe shell change her mind and text you. Just don't waste time on girls like that bro. There's way better girls out there.
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Re: so a girl that just wants to be "friends" [Re: Anonymous #1]
#15912328 - 03/07/12 03:41 AM (1 year, 2 months ago) |
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She sounds like the kind of slut that thinks kissing is for boyfriends whereas fucking is just casual. Therefore, she can fuck you and "feel guilt free' afterwards when she leaves you or gives you a STD or multiple STDs. Remember, 'you were just friends' so it is alrigh tto fuck whoever she wants whenever she wants. Don't become emotionally invested or you may become really hurt - She has already been down this road before and that is why she put the wall up. Because you have shown emotion towards her already, she knows that she would have to deal with your baggage after things went sour.
Next time, just fuck her straight up from the get go and be sure to use rubbers (this girl has been around). If you are a relationship kind of guy, this kind of girl is obviously not for you and just get away from her. Make the best of the situation and realize that it is a learning experience. Or if you want to get laid, let her know that she isn't shit to you and that way you will gain the dominant role (she knows that she has it right now and that is why she is disinterested). This will flip her psychology around and she will become curious and want to challenge you for the power role. Bitches want what they can't have or they want a challenge (you aren't giving her one). If you never give her dominance she will most likely keep coming back. Sluts think they can gain the dominant role by fucking you but if you know how to work them psychologically, they are putty in your hands. *There is a difference between good women and sluts and not all women who just want to fuck are sluts.
Just get out there and lean some psychology and how to read people.
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